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best friend /boyfriend
My "best friend" seems to get in the middle of all of my relationships,crushes,men,etc.I guess its shame on me for staying friends with someone like this,but we've been friends for 6 years so it's hard to just drop someone and she hangs out with the same people as me.But ,one time while i was sleeping she hooked up with the guy i liked (we werent dating) and ofcourse i was younger and immature,and it made me feel like crap but i got over it.Then this year,there was this kid i liked.He wasn't very good looking but i still liked him and he liked me..i talked to him almost everynight and we started to hangout and stuff. I would bring my best friend (val) and he then started flirting with her! She took no interest in him,but she gave him her number and he'd text her all the time.Instead of just not responding,she would respond ALL the time and hangout with him..and he got the wrong idea and thought she liked him ,but she continued to talk to him anyway and he stopped liking me..for her.i was mad,but again ...got over it because i got over the boy. My current ex (went out for 3 months and broke up 2 weeks ago) is the new issue.While me and my boyfriend were dating,i had a little party at my house (ofcourse everyone was drunk..) i fell asleep upstairs and the next day,my boyfriend confessed to me that him and my best friend were flirting and she sat on his lap etc.etc.they didn't kiss or anything but SHE never confessed any of this to me.He cried to me and begged me to forgive him and that he wouldn't want to lose me over her.i accepted it,because he told me the truth and even had the guts to cry.He broke up with me ,2 weeks ago..because he needed some space and was just with me way to much.We are still VERY good friends though ( obviously i still like him and i dont know how he feels about me ) we still hangout and chill and stuff.but my best friend seems to be getting closer with him.I have a class with him and so does she. She told me today that they were talking the whole class period and he asked her to hangout and that he "kinda doesnt want to get into anything " with me anymore (besides just friends..)She flirts with him all the time and he says he thinks shes annoying and a hoe and whatnot but in front of my face,he flirts with her sometimes too(idk if he does that to make me jealous or what).So it's two faced on both sides!I'm still crazy about my ex boyfriend and i feel as though ive lost his attention because he's already "been there,done that" kind of thing.We are all in the same circle of friends because i brought him into our group and we will all hangout probably this weekend.I basically want him back ,but i need tips on how to get his attention.I was gonna try ignoring him and then letting my friend just annoy him so he realizes that he lost me.I don't know what to do because it's hard to avoid hanging out with him ! help! we are on good terms too so idk what to do!
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Oh gosh :/
Your friend is a bitch, sorry x
It's all about insecurity though.
I had a friend like her once, but as soon as she hurt me in the way you have been hurt, I ditched her.
People who bring you down in life are not worth it, people who are so insecure about themself that they feel the need to hurt others??
just wrong.
Your on a completely different level to her, seriously. Your better than that!
Don't put up with her any longer, shes had 2-3 chances and she isn't changing.
Also, when she told you he said he "kinda doesnt want to get into anything " with you , how can you be so sure she isn't lying.?
She could be saying it so you try to forget him and she can have him for herself :(
If he says she is annoying and a hoe, but flirts with her in front of you..... to me that sounds like he's trying to make you jealous!
from past experience I have learned to just get on with it and keep the true friends close, if it is meant to be it will happen.
Have a chat with him maybe ?
anyway I hope this helps
A xoxoxox
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Hey hun,
Okay firstly - I know that you dont wanna hear this but your friend is not trustworthy at all!
She has went with two guys you like and your recently ex - wat was she playing at? You know that you agree, because no true friend would have done that. The first thing I always say to people I am giving advice 2 is take yourself out of the equation. Now read the question as though for the first time and you are gonna advise this girl what would you tell her?
You would tell her never ever- leave her in the same room as any guy u like! and when your out don't let her get to him because if he sees that shes interested he may end up getting with her. But if you get there first and say hi smiling your sweetest smile then maybe go and flirt with another guy checking (discreetly) if hes watching. If he is then he's still interested, if shes flirting with him then (time to b harsh) its time to never trust her as a friend with secrets and sorry to say but you need 2 set him free hun. Its a true saying you've got to let what you love free 2 see if it comes back 2 u! and you never know maybe in time when your happy with someone else he will come crawling back and you will be able to make the choice!
I hope I helped hun!
Its a crap situation for anyone - sorry your living it!
Dxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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