My name is CC well that my nickname. I am in my mid 20's and i have been though so much in my short life marriage, divorce, taking care of a child, moving, dropping out of school, doing drugs, living with family that use bad drugs, jail, boyfriend hitting you, and the list keeps going but the one thing that is different from me and most people is they don't no how to get past it or get to the point were it dose not bother them, and that's why i am here to help you because the things i have been though i have come out strong and there are a lot of you that are going though them now and want help and you no as well as anyone else you can't take advice from someone who has never been there because they don't no what it feels like
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I'm 15/f
So this guy barely turned 18. He's a senior, I'm a sophomore. I'll turn 16 in a couple months. But is that a big age difference. About 2 1/2 years?
And dating isn't against the law even if he's 18? Not doing anything sexual. Thanks! (link)
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age is nothing but a number really all that really matters if you care about the person and if they make you happy and if the answer to both of tho's is yes then don't worry about the age. the only time i have thought it wrong to be with someone a different age as you is if you have kids that are the same age or older then that person but you guys don't lol, o and let me give you a little bite more advice before i go females mature fast then males its a fact so if you want to be with someone that on the same level as you it always better to date someone that's a little older. i hope that helped and hope everything works out cc
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SO i emt this guy like last february 2009? and i kinda ended up falling in love with him to an extent? he moved this year and he is visiting on may 1st and wants to hang with me and my best friend. i want to kiss him super bad and for him to like me (he has before) how can i do this please help i kinda need this? (link)
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well if you really wanna kiss him just do it as far as how to go about giving him a kiss there are a bunch of different ways you could go to give him a hug and when your letting go just slowly move around and kiss him or you could just kiss him but i would try the hug because it always works. wish you the best of luck and hope that helps cc
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Alright, i'm 15 years old and I stated my period when I was 12. I knew it would be irregular for a while, but this isn't normal..
The first time I got it, was a December. I didn't get it again until August, the next year. I got it again in November, then from November up to July, it was enitrely normal. Every single month, I would get it the same time every month. For almost 9 straight months it was completely regular. It's now April, and I haven't had it since last July.. That's almost a year. I have no clue what to do, or think. I've talked to my family doctor about this, but she brushed it off as me being stressed. I really need help here.
Can anyone relate to my situiation?
Is getting on the pill a good idea at my age?
Will it cause me to get a regular period again?
How can I tell my mom I want to get on the pill, or talk about my period without it being awkward?
Please help,
Thanks (link)
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OK well first it could very well be stress that is making your period jump around like that because mine dose the same think it will be regular for a couple months then all get stressed out and it will jump all over the place and it has always done that ever scene i was 15 and started having stress. now am not sure if the pill will help make your period regular i have heard that it will but don't no for sure that would be something to talk to plan parenthood about. and for your mom it really not that hard am sure she as been right were you are with missing periods and wanting to no whats going on so just go up to her one day if she is with someone say mom can i talk to you in privet for a min and when you get her alone tell her "look i no you no that i have been missing my periods and i have not had one for almost a year and am really worried about it. i heard that if you take birth control it will help make your period regular so i was wounding if you could go with me to plan parenthood so we can talk to someone about the pro's and con's of birth control" i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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Hey guys. So not too long ago, I was hired by a well known company to work as a cashier. After the training, I decided I couldn't handle the job, so I decided to quit. I spoke to someone and told them, but they never told me about a paycheck. And since it was my first job, I wasn't aware of anything. Am I supposed to receive a check for the 2 days of training? If so, what should I do? It's been like a month since I told them I didn't want the job. I live in NY. Thanks in advance! (link)
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well if you were getting paid for the training it dose not matter how long you work there you should still get that money the only thing i can tell you on why it is taking so long is because a lot of company do a every 2 weeks you get paid witch when when you start there it can be 3 to 4 weeks before you see anything depending on when the pay day is so they just might not have got it send yet i would wait another week and if you don't see anything give them a call and say " hi this is ------ and am calling because i worked there for to day and never got my pay check i was told that i was getting paid for my training and that was the to day i work and have not received anything can you tell me whats going on" and they well let you no how long it will be and stuff but like i said if it was paid training you will get a paycheck they cant keep it you might have to go in and pick it up but that's it. good luck and hope everything works out cc
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16/f
So I am dating a new guy, we'll call him Seth. Due to my current relationship, I don't want to rush into things like my last relationship. I'm cool with everything but sex, I want my relationship to last and I don't want that so soon. So we've already been to third base you know, fingering oral and such. So I want to make things a little surprising and exciting, I want him to be surprised when I pull something out of my sleeve. What's something I can do to really make him go crazy or really like. Something he won't expect? (link)
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well a lot of guys go crazy when girl dress up in a little outfit like a nurse or something like that and depending on what you dress up as you could just roll play with him like say you dress up like a nurse you could have a blow of water next to the bed and tell him its time for is sponge bath and take off his shirt and wash him down and start kissing his neck and stuff at the same time. hope that helps and good luck cc
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So I was laying on my boyfriend and we were making out, then he was touching my but then put his hands in my pants played with my thong and then he touched my vagina lips but when he did that I started gtting so horny and moving around alot and breahting heavy, is that normal? He wasnt rubbing or anything. (link)
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if this is the 1st time anything like that has happened to you then yes it is most likely normal because the just the feeling of someone touching you in that area can feel so good
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im 15years old and my boyfriend of 6months wants to finger me,
What do i do when he does it? move around, moan..?
will i bleed? does it feel good or hurt?
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if he knows what he is doing then it will feel good and almost all the time when your getting fingered it's not just like you lay there and they play with you you will most likely be kissing and then his hand will slowly move that way and he will keep kissing you as he is doing it and as far as what you do don't worry about that honey your body will do it for you everyone is different in the way there body acts to pleasure some people moan and some don't some people move around and others just stay still. i hope this answered your question and good luck cc
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heres the story.im a very happy girl i love to dance but my boyfriend hates when i dance with guys he says he feels disrespected even when im dancing a foot apart..he always accuses me of cheating and tells me im gonna leave him one day. he tells me how id rather hangout with my friends than him and i should just admit it.did i mention he has two tattoos of my name and is planning to do a third i can see he gets a bit jealous when i hug my guy friends and he always tells me im his(but i guess thats normal right?)he always asks who im going with and where..and when i dont answer he gets extremely upset..i already stopped talking to two of my guy friends because of him:(.i know im a very bossy girl . i always feel the need to have at least 85% controll of the relationship and i would hate if he danced with another girl as well(so is that good or bad) do u guys think hes controlive??...PLEASE HELP! (link)
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i think you need to sit down and talk to him tell him that dancing is a big part of your life and you don't wanna give that up. and i have had guy say the something to me about the your gonna leave me or cheat on me and i normally just tell them look am with you because i wanna be not because i have to be and you telling me all the time how am don't want to be with you is making me mad and making me think twice about being with you so stop it and normally they get it through there head that you wanna be with them and stop saying it now about everything else am not sure that he is controlling he sounds more like he is head over heels for you i don't no mine guys that get 3 tattoos with a girls name but the answer is simple none the less you need to think about everything he is doing that bother's you wright down and then talk to him relationships are about give and take so when you are talking to him about the problems try to come to something you both can live with. example you love to dance but he dose not like it when you dance with other guys then ask him to dance with you more or see if he is OK with you dancing with other guy if he is there. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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When me and my boyfriend are laying by eachother he gets a boner, when were making out he gets a boner.
why? (link)
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because he is turned on by you
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I have been friends with this guy Chris since third grade. Now we're in eighth grade. I've realized he's been acting down and upset all the time, but I never really thought of it. Until, I saw the cuts on his arms! During class I couldn't hold in my tears, Chris thought I was just overreacting, and that everyone does it now, and it hasn't hurt anyone he knows. I told him it doesn't matter and that he shouldn't do it, because one day if you cut too deep and lose too much blood, you could die. He just shook his head and said, "I don't need your sympathy." and walked away. Doesn't he realize that now that I know he cuts himself, I'm actually considering cutting MYSELF!? I care about him that much, I just want some advice on everything that's going on. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!! (link)
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OK i understand that you really care about him but don't cut your self because that is not the answer and everything your feeling and going though you are just going to put someone else though. now for him what i would say is try talking to him one more time and see what is making him do this if he is depressed because of something going on at home school or whatever and see if he well let you help him with the problem if his answer stays the same and he just walks away then you need to tell someone his family a teacher someone because he need help now i want to let you know if it comes down to you telling someone he is most likely going to be really up set with you and you guys might stop talking for awhile but once he realizes that all you want to do is help him out and make sure he is OK thing should go back to normal and he might even thank you. cutting is not something to play around with but you sound like you no that. i hope everything works out for you and wish you the best of luck cc
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how can you tell if you are fat or normal for your age? i always have had a huge self confidnece problem and i think i am fat. i just want to know if i am.. (link)
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for this question i did some looking around on the internet to get you the answer you wanted if you go to this web site there is a chart that says what you should weigh for your height ( http://www.disabled-world.com/artman/publish/height_weight.shtml ) but me personally i don't think anyone is fat, skinny or whatever we were all made different for a reason and i think we should just learn to be happy with are self's but i understand for a lot of people its not that easy to do and that fine i always say do what makes you happy so if it will make you more happy to lose a couple pound then go for it but remember the person you are inside means so much more then the way you look outside. i hope that helped and wish you the best of luck cc
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Im going to the beach this month, and I have no confidence when it comes to wearing a bikini. I'm pretty skinny everywhere else except my waistline. (I have really huge love handles that are unproportional to the rest of me.) I've been trying to lose it before this summer, but not seen any progress. Im also uncomfortable wearing bikini bottoms for some reason, I know im weird. So i bought some girl swim shorts that go to my knees (like surf shorts.) Do you think that would look stupid for me to wear those and a small tee or tank top when im swimming? (link)
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i think you should always were what is most comfortable for you who care what anyone else think the only person you really need to please is your self what i would do is try on the outfit look at your self and see what you think if you don't think it looks good then try something else i have big love handles to and don't really like my tummy either so what i do is were a one piece or a shit and take it off before i get in the water they also have the shorts for bottom but like i said go with what you think looks best you will be more comfortable and happier. wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out cc
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Hey! I have this really weird problem. Okay well there's this guy that sits at my lunch table with me and my friends and nobody really likes him but were nice to him because we really don't want to hurt his feelings. Well he knows the subdivision that I live in so he found my house last night and came over. Since then he's been ringing the doorbell non-stop and wont leave me alone. I already came out once to talk to him but I've been having my sister answer the door for the past 5 times he's comes over. I feel like he's stalking me because he's been giving me his phone number, address, and wont stop coming over when I'm 'gone'. I just want him to leave me alone, but I don't have the heart to tell him 'to go away'. I'm a nice person and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I'm really scared! If I tell my dad what he's doing then somehow my dad will blame it all on ME! Do you know a way to make him stop coming over without being mean? Please help! (link)
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there reason he is most likely doing this is because he is lonely if he has no other friends and you are being nice to him it most likely his way of reaching out and trying to be your friend and he dose not see that he is coming on to strong the next time he comes over go outside and and talk to him and say "hey i no you wanna be my friend and that's fine we can be friends but you have got to stop coming over all the time because you are making your self look like a crazy person and am sorry to sound so harsh but you are" and see what he says sometime all it take is for someone to tell you how your acting for you to see it a lot of the time people are just blinded to that kinda stuff. now if you don't want to be friends with him then you need to tell him that as well, but you hiding from him is not gonna do anything he will keep coming around because in his eyes he is not doing anything wrong. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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So im a 16/f
ive been with the same guy for 4 years. he moved to florida which is across the country. he is however moving back. I dont know what to do. He is bi-polar, and one second he tells me we're soul mates then next he says we shouldnt be together. Im so lost. (link)
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here is what you should do sit down with him when he gets back and talk to tell him that you no he is bi-polar and you think that has something to do with the fact that one min he wants to be with you and the next he dose not tell him that you are getting really confused on what he really wants and then look him in the eyes and ask him do you want to be with me or not because am not gonna sit here and hold on if you really don't wanna be with me but if you do i need to no that way when you say something like "we shouldn't be together" i will no its just your bi-polar talking not you. it always best to talk to the person you are with about any thing that going on because they are the only one that will give you the answer you need. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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My ex boyfriend still wants to talk to me? I dont know what to do! Im still in love with him so i think it will hurt me being friends with him :( when he asked me i said i wasnt sure, and he seemed pretty p!ssed about that because he said "we've been through a lot together" should i decline the offer of friends and move on with my life? (link)
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if you still love him and want him to be in your life then try and be friends with him and see how it works out if your finding that its to hard to be around him because you still love him a lot then let him no this is just to hard for me right now and then maybe after a period of time away from him thinks will work out and you guys can be friends. but like i said if he really means a lot and you want him to be in your life then at least try and keep him in your life
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I'm in love with someone I dated in high school, and have been for years now. I think I married the wrong woman and I don't know how to tell my wife or whether to tell her at all. Telling a spouse you don't love them romantically anymore is one of the harshest and most damaging things you can do on an emotional level but I'm starting to wonder whether I'll ever be happy again. I'm struggling over whether it's better to live in pain forever or cause that same pain in someone else.
I'm 25 and male, we have no kids. (link)
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i have been were you are and am gonna let you no right now it is going to be hard because no matter what you do someone will feel the pain you or you wife but you do need to sit down and talk to her tell her the truth on what your thinking and how you feel (honesty is always the best) and you never no you might not really have the feel's for the other women like you think it could just be your mind wounding WHAT IF witch is something all of us do man and women. but if you really think there might be something there then go for it. it's never to late but you have to tell your wife and work something out with her because am sure you don't want to lose her and then find out that other girl was not the right one, and trust me if she really loves you she will want what is best for you. i just let my husband and best friend go because he felt that there were thing he should have done before the marriage and it hurt but were still close and are hoping that we will be together again sometime in the future. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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I am getting closed to 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Now, it seems kind of weird, but I have no problem with it. I've had plenty of shots, but I'm not rushing anything and dont plan to waste time with the wrong guy. {I'm very picky.) My family, on the other hand, makes it seem like a big deal, when it's not. They are always asking me why I haven't brought any guys home, etc. My younger sister, who happens to be a huge slut, made this ridiculous remark that I am a lesbian. Now her and my parents joke about it. And sometimes I think they really think that. (Which I'm not. I'm totally against that stuff and they know it.) Whenever my sister and I get in fights she's always like "Atleast I've had a boyfriend." I know I'm not experienced and stuff..but there's no one I'd want to go out with at the moment. I've already explained this to my family, but they still get on my case about it. I used to be able to ignore it easily, but now it's hard. I already have a low self esteem, and they arent making it any easier for me. Any suggestions? (link)
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i think what you should do is the next time they bring it up tell them "am almost 18 years old witch will make me in adult so am going to live my life the way i want i don't need a man to make me happy" and hopefully they will back off if not remember that you better then that your a strong women who is putting her self first because trust me honey a man will change everything and you wont even see it coming. as for your sister the next time she says something about her having a boyfriend say's "am sorry you need a man to make you happy thankfully am better then that" then walk away trust me when i say its better to be single i have been with all kinds of guys and at the end of the day there all the same, your perfect guy will be there some day and you will no it. wish you the best of luck and hope that helps cc
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is there something wrong with me? i think i am straight ( i mean i never been with a girl so i dont know) but i am starting to get bored with sex...i mean the kissing and foreplay is fine but when it is time for the actual penetration i am just totally turned off by it. i use to love having sex. i couldnt get enough of it but now its just blah.and i tried everything-new positions, toys, everything. so whats going on? (link)
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you could just be burned out if you have sex a lot in that case i would say take a break from sex and try again. now if you want to try something with a girl to see if that makes you feel better then try it out you will never no in less you try and if you don't like it then you no it not that and were back to the being burned out or maybe it just the guy there can be a million reason why you are feeling that way. your just gonna have to try some different things to see whats going on. but like i said if you have sex a lot you are most likely burned out because i have done that before me and my boyfriend would have sex almost all day everyday and it got to that point were i was pretty much just laying there so we tack a break from sex and after a while try again and things were back to the way they should be. wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you cc
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i am a lesbian and i am in love with my best friend. she told me she liked me a year ago and i told her i liked her too but when i asked her out a week later she told me she was straight and rejected me. We are still friends now. she has gotten over me but i still haven't gotten over her. Right now she says that i am the only person she trusts and that i am the last person she has to talk to. So even if what i should do is take some time away from her, i dont wanna hurt her and make her lose all she has left, so now i dont know what to do! Help me! (link)
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my ex-husband would be a perfect person for this question we were best friends for 4years and he fall in love with me the very 1st day he meet me or so he says but i always told him i was not into him like that and we were just going to be friends well he never gave up hope and always keep me in is heart and after what he call for 4 years of hell we got together and it was not planed no one asked the other out it just happen and i believe that was because he never gave up on me. if you truly love this girl never give up because done of us no what the future has in store for us maybe it wont work now but you never no what going to happen. i do want to tell that it wont be a easy path if you decide to stay he friend and love her from a crossed the room because when she dates other people it will hurt really bad but if you think that there is some hope for you guys in the future then follow your heart (anything wreath having is wreath a fight)
now on the other hand if you don't think she will ever come around then try and then your feelings go but not your friends a good friend is hard to find and it sound like she is one and you mean a lot to her. wish you the best and hope that helps cc
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I know this is probably gross, but I have a serious question. My period is usually extremely heavy, soo bad that I use a SUPER PLUS tampon AND a long, overnight pad. And within an hour - hour and a half, it's everywhere (even going off the pad.) It's usually like that for 4-5 days. I hate going to school because I am constantly paranoid and worried that I'm leaking. Well I finally went to the gynecologist, and they got me on the pill. (I can't start it till the Sunday AFTER my period starts..which is already 2 months late.) Well I am scared I'll start at school. Everytime that happens, I get so nervous and I end up having a panic attack all day because its just sooo much blood. So my question is, is there anything else I can do to make sure that I won't leak everywhere? (Like I said, i already use the highest absorbancy tampon *and* pad together.) (link)
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this is a hard question to answer because you are already doing everything that is possible my advice to you would be go to the bathroom as much as you can while your on your period and even if the tampon and pad are not full change them this should take some stress off. and while you are waiting for your period to start i would wear a pad and take so pants to school and put them in your locker i know it will feel wired wear a pad when your not on your period but this way if you start in the middle of class you some what covered and if you still bled through your pad you wont feel to bad because you can change your pants. i hope that help you some and everything works out for you cc
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