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I think I married the wrong woman.
I'm in love with someone I dated in high school, and have been for years now. I think I married the wrong woman and I don't know how to tell my wife or whether to tell her at all. Telling a spouse you don't love them romantically anymore is one of the harshest and most damaging things you can do on an emotional level but I'm starting to wonder whether I'll ever be happy again. I'm struggling over whether it's better to live in pain forever or cause that same pain in someone else.
I'm 25 and male, we have no kids.
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i have been were you are and am gonna let you no right now it is going to be hard because no matter what you do someone will feel the pain you or you wife but you do need to sit down and talk to her tell her the truth on what your thinking and how you feel (honesty is always the best) and you never no you might not really have the feel's for the other women like you think it could just be your mind wounding WHAT IF witch is something all of us do man and women. but if you really think there might be something there then go for it. it's never to late but you have to tell your wife and work something out with her because am sure you don't want to lose her and then find out that other girl was not the right one, and trust me if she really loves you she will want what is best for you. i just let my husband and best friend go because he felt that there were thing he should have done before the marriage and it hurt but were still close and are hoping that we will be together again sometime in the future. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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well it will hurt her more for you to stay with her. however you may be confused about this woman. you are 25...you might not really know what love is. but i would definately tell your wife. its better to be open and honest with her. she deserves that much. :) hope i helped
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Get the fuck out now, before the pain this will cause runs even deeper.
If you had children or decades of marriage together, I would advise therapy, exploration, that love sometimes takes work, and that fantasies of past loves are natural, but irrational and unattainable.
However. You have no kids. You are hardly old enough to be married in the first place. And most importantly: You have already made your mind up. You have already decided you don't love her, and wont again. You've already decided that you are going to be miserable. Once you have come to those conclusions, there is no going back. You have already decided there is nothing left to save. All you are doing now is waiting for the strength to end it. You are trying to talk yourself into ending it, and now you'd like our help.
Fine. Here's mine: End it now. Every day you live a lie is one more day of misery for both of you. The day you admit your decisions and desires, is the first day that puts you both back on paths to possible happiness.
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