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I am getting closed to 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Now, it seems kind of weird, but I have no problem with it. I've had plenty of shots, but I'm not rushing anything and dont plan to waste time with the wrong guy. {I'm very picky.) My family, on the other hand, makes it seem like a big deal, when it's not. They are always asking me why I haven't brought any guys home, etc. My younger sister, who happens to be a huge slut, made this ridiculous remark that I am a lesbian. Now her and my parents joke about it. And sometimes I think they really think that. (Which I'm not. I'm totally against that stuff and they know it.) Whenever my sister and I get in fights she's always like "Atleast I've had a boyfriend." I know I'm not experienced and stuff..but there's no one I'd want to go out with at the moment. I've already explained this to my family, but they still get on my case about it. I used to be able to ignore it easily, but now it's hard. I already have a low self esteem, and they arent making it any easier for me. Any suggestions?
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You sound like an intelligent young woman to me. The smartest thing a young woman can do is focus on her own well-being and success. A woman who is independent and knows what she wants can be attractive. You go for what you want and never settle.
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i think what you should do is the next time they bring it up tell them "am almost 18 years old witch will make me in adult so am going to live my life the way i want i don't need a man to make me happy" and hopefully they will back off if not remember that you better then that your a strong women who is putting her self first because trust me honey a man will change everything and you wont even see it coming. as for your sister the next time she says something about her having a boyfriend say's "am sorry you need a man to make you happy thankfully am better then that" then walk away trust me when i say its better to be single i have been with all kinds of guys and at the end of the day there all the same, your perfect guy will be there some day and you will no it. wish you the best of luck and hope that helps cc
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you know it just sounds bad to some people oh your almost 18 and havnt had a boyfriend. well to be honost with them i say that good for you becuase who needs to be attached to one guy for a period of time if you look at it its more work sometimes people get so into their relationship you forget about friends and then your worrying about how to give a blow job and getting prego at a young age so what you didnt have sex at 15 is that really bad i think they should be proud that your enjoying your single YOUNG life. where was it written that you need a boyfriend bfore your 18 or have to have your first kiss at 13 and sex at 16 no one your going your own pace girl and thats good if they say something again you tell them that they should be proud that they dont have to worry about you getting your heart broken over scum bags who just are going to cheat on you and find another girl in five minutes and fighting is soooo annoying and you will when your in a relationship i say that your waiting to first find your bestfriend and if he is more than that one day good for you thats how i got my guy we are always friends first i think its great that way b.c our relationship makes it that easier. just flirt its so much fun for single gals. too bad your sister is growing up to fast and shell get god knows what an std or a baby and oh her reputation but good for her right? dont let your parents or sister or friends bother you about it you DONT need a guy ever and you know that and i promice that you will get a guy soon there is always someone for somebody.
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Thats terrible that your family is treating you this way but just think of it this way atleast when you meet a guy it will be extra special because he will be your first and the relationship will be the most special and besides from my experience a lot of girls who have there bf at an older age are going to be in a longer relationship because the guy will be more mature unlike young guys who only want sex and are more likely to be teen dads so i say your lucky i wish i hadn't dated until now btw im 18 now too i would have saved myself from all those idiot harmonal guys who just wanted me to have sex with them trust me your lucky you saved yourself a lot of heart ache.
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That is rude when your famly calls you a lesbian even if there joking or not and atleast your not a slut like you say your sister is.Try your best to ignore those rude commets your sister and family say.To me your the kind of girl who is looking for the perfect guy so you wont have to get your heart broken like some girls do.And its good to be picky about a kind of guy you want.And you need to tell your family how you fill about those comments.Its your life so why should they realy care if you have a boyfriend.Dont worry about your sister saying atleast she has had a boyfrien cause all you need to say to her is "atleast your i am not a huge slut".Talk to your famly and ask them to stop calling you that cause they might take it as a joke but you dont.
*Good luck*
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Get to know some of the guys you have considered not good enough.Maybe after you get to know them you realize you do want a boyfriend. About the wasting your time with the wrong guy you have to date a lot of boys to find prince charming. He isn't going to be your first boyfriend.I think you have been wasting your time not having a boyfriend! Once you at least have one boyfriend your sister can't tease you anymore. Tell your family it really hurts your feelings joking about you being a lesbian. Your sister sounds like a major league byotch. Don't worry about what she says.
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Why should you care about what your parents think of you having a boyfriend? If you don't want one, that is your choice. After all, who said you have to have boyfriends to fit in? It seems kind of ridiculous that you are called a lesbian - when you have brought home no girlfriends, (as in - more than just friends kind of girls) so just remind them of that. Tell them that perhaps you are more focused with your education at the minute, (presuming you're still in school), or you don't think you are ready for a relationship. There should be no reason for you to have to rely on having a guy around to get on with your life, and you want to make the most of it without the responsibility and of course the committment just yet. You want to go out and do things and having a boyfriend does limit that, or maybe you just have not met the right person yet, as you said. As for the "At least I've had a boyfriend" comment, why should it make you any less of a person because you haven't?
If you think this is affecting you, tell your family that. Tell them you do not appreciate their remarks and perhaps if you feel strongly enough about it - tell them it is none of their business what you choose to do with your life. Everyone has a goal or an aim, and for some, it's getting a relationship underway, others, it could be a career in the future, or settling down. There is still plenty of time, and most who have boyfriends under this age find it hard anyway. That's just life.
Go out, meet new people, who cares if they are potential boyfriend material or not? You'll get opportunity to make lots of good friends, and even if to shut them up, take him home. It could be a matter of getting to know someone you like, or meeting someone who has that instant click. Chances are if you bring someone home, you'll get the "Oh, how is your boyfriend?" comment, so it's probably best to keep your love life personal and only introduce people when you feel you're ready. You could always try a polite, "How do you know that I haven't had/got a boyfriend?" remark. This usually ends conversation, and if not, just give "I don't want to talk about this with you," and then leave.
Sorry it is long advice but I hope it helps! :)
Emily.
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Sit down with them and talk to them. Tell them exactly how they are making you feel. Tell your sister that just because you havent had a boyfriend doesnt mean your a lesbian. It doesnt matter if you've had a boyfriend or not,just wether or not your happy with it. Your family should tell you this too.
hope ive helped
-ash
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why are you against homosexuals?
i think you should talk to a counselur about this problem with your family
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i suggest keeping your head high because you know what? you have morals and i like that...unlike your slutty sister. so your telling me that you were serious and told them to seriously stop and they havent? thats really messed up..but your almost 18 so ride it out until you go away to college. dont just go out and get a bf to shut your family up..dont stoop to that level.
stay strong
-melissa-
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