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I am getting closed to 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Now, it seems kind of weird, but I have no problem with it. I've had plenty of shots, but I'm not rushing anything and dont plan to waste time with the wrong guy. {I'm very picky.) My family, on the other hand, makes it seem like a big deal, when it's not. They are always asking me why I haven't brought any guys home, etc. My younger sister, who happens to be a huge slut, made this ridiculous remark that I am a lesbian. Now her and my parents joke about it. And sometimes I think they really think that. (Which I'm not. I'm totally against that stuff and they know it.) Whenever my sister and I get in fights she's always like "Atleast I've had a boyfriend." I know I'm not experienced and stuff..but there's no one I'd want to go out with at the moment. I've already explained this to my family, but they still get on my case about it. I used to be able to ignore it easily, but now it's hard. I already have a low self esteem, and they arent making it any easier for me. Any suggestions? (link)
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Why should you care about what your parents think of you having a boyfriend? If you don't want one, that is your choice. After all, who said you have to have boyfriends to fit in? It seems kind of ridiculous that you are called a lesbian - when you have brought home no girlfriends, (as in - more than just friends kind of girls) so just remind them of that. Tell them that perhaps you are more focused with your education at the minute, (presuming you're still in school), or you don't think you are ready for a relationship. There should be no reason for you to have to rely on having a guy around to get on with your life, and you want to make the most of it without the responsibility and of course the committment just yet. You want to go out and do things and having a boyfriend does limit that, or maybe you just have not met the right person yet, as you said. As for the "At least I've had a boyfriend" comment, why should it make you any less of a person because you haven't?
If you think this is affecting you, tell your family that. Tell them you do not appreciate their remarks and perhaps if you feel strongly enough about it - tell them it is none of their business what you choose to do with your life. Everyone has a goal or an aim, and for some, it's getting a relationship underway, others, it could be a career in the future, or settling down. There is still plenty of time, and most who have boyfriends under this age find it hard anyway. That's just life.
Go out, meet new people, who cares if they are potential boyfriend material or not? You'll get opportunity to make lots of good friends, and even if to shut them up, take him home. It could be a matter of getting to know someone you like, or meeting someone who has that instant click. Chances are if you bring someone home, you'll get the "Oh, how is your boyfriend?" comment, so it's probably best to keep your love life personal and only introduce people when you feel you're ready. You could always try a polite, "How do you know that I haven't had/got a boyfriend?" remark. This usually ends conversation, and if not, just give "I don't want to talk about this with you," and then leave.
Sorry it is long advice but I hope it helps! :)
Emily.
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I know this is gross and stuff...but its true....i was raped by my teacher and he swore that if i tell anyones hes going to kill me and I see him all the time...like he is following me or something to make sure I am not telling...and so I dont know how to tell anyone beczuse he said he would kill me...anyone have any ideas...because i am scared to tell someone
plz help!
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The same kind of thing happened at my school. My form tutor was found to be having sex with an underage minor who also attended the school. He is now on the sex offenders list and was jailed for one year. Of course, this was sex with a minor who consented, rape will give a higher charge as will stalking and threatening. He is now not allowed in our area once he was released from prison.
So I guess the best advice that I can give you is to tell someone immediately. It is absolutely 100% normal to be scared under these circumstances so you have to tell someone so they can get the situation dealt with. Of course, you have to take into consideration that this will mean going to a court trial but it is all worth it in the end to get out of there. Even if you're not pulled out of school - he will be with police because they won't allow him to continue teaching in a position of authority. Although this has not happened to me, I guess that's as much as I can help.
Emily.
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Me and my bf have gone out for 3 years and I really love him and all but theres a problem...He keeps trying to have sex with me and I don't blame him cause hes probably horny. But hes penis is too big. I tried to give him a blowjob but I couldn't fit the whole thing in my mouth. And he didn't seem to enjoy it. We had sex once and I was hurting really bad cause it was my first time and he kept putting the whole thing in and it hurt.
Does anyone have any tips of how I can pleasure him without hurting myself or having him not like it at all?
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His penis probably is not too big, in this case, the vagina will stretch to allow for your boyfriend's penis to be inserted. You have to be completely relaxed and this will "relax the vagina". This will make it easier, especially if you use lubrication.
As for regards to the blowjob situation, try what has already been mentioned. Begin with the hands, fingers just moving up and down, tickling if you please, and then perhaps replace this with the tongue. You can then begin working the top of it, just "kissing it" and eventually get deeper on the tongue. You don't have to go all the way in, you should make your way around it by moving your tongue while it is not in your mouth.
Sex generally hurts the first time. This it the breaking of your hymen and will hurt, possibly bleed. This may be because he rammed you, you have to communicate and tell him he can't go all the way. Try and make up for the pleasure in other areas, oral sex, foreplay, tickling, or food. There's lots of ideas but you should both be comfortable.
I hope I helped!
Emily.
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Ok so you know that little arrow u click next to your browser that shows you all the sites you been to recently? ok so i clicked that today, looking for a site a typed in (im lazy), and then i find this site called nextboys.com. i have never heard, nor typed, nor visited that website so i was curious why it was on our computer. i clicked it, and you wouldnt believe what it was. it was a site for gay massaging!! UGH!! im really mad, because the only people who live in my house is my 7 year old sister, and my mom and dad!! my question is: is it most likley my parents did this, or is there another way to get a site in that list. and if my parents did it, what should i say to them???? (link)
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Put the situation into perspective. Rather than focusing on the bad possibilities that your parents or sister were searching this intentionally, think, well what if they were? What about it? Would it directly affect you? Isn't it their choice? You may seem offended by it but at the end of the day, whether it was there or not, ninety nine point nine percent suggests you were not intended to find it.
And just like others have stated, it's most likely an accident. This should be confronted in my opinion because you don't want to confuse yourself any longer which will only lead to confusion and frustration. You need to take a calm approach and ask your parents if they know why it is on there. I wouldn't jump to your defence straight away with saying it wasn't you who put it on there because it will make them suspicious if they know nothing about it. Just try a private conversation, explain that it is on there and you don't know why.
I hope I helped.
Emily.
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