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Me and my bf have gone out for 3 years and I really love him and all but theres a problem...He keeps trying to have sex with me and I don't blame him cause hes probably horny. But hes penis is too big. I tried to give him a blowjob but I couldn't fit the whole thing in my mouth. And he didn't seem to enjoy it. We had sex once and I was hurting really bad cause it was my first time and he kept putting the whole thing in and it hurt.
Does anyone have any tips of how I can pleasure him without hurting myself or having him not like it at all?
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Do whatever you feel comfortable doing, same with him. Handjobs, have you tried that? Why don't you ask him what he likes and what he wants and then tell him what you think about that. Hope it works out =)
--Josie
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I heard sex usually hurts the first time anyways..?
Maddie
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omg! lol thats GROSS! NO !
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His penis probably is not too big, in this case, the vagina will stretch to allow for your boyfriend's penis to be inserted. You have to be completely relaxed and this will "relax the vagina". This will make it easier, especially if you use lubrication.
As for regards to the blowjob situation, try what has already been mentioned. Begin with the hands, fingers just moving up and down, tickling if you please, and then perhaps replace this with the tongue. You can then begin working the top of it, just "kissing it" and eventually get deeper on the tongue. You don't have to go all the way in, you should make your way around it by moving your tongue while it is not in your mouth.
Sex generally hurts the first time. This it the breaking of your hymen and will hurt, possibly bleed. This may be because he rammed you, you have to communicate and tell him he can't go all the way. Try and make up for the pleasure in other areas, oral sex, foreplay, tickling, or food. There's lots of ideas but you should both be comfortable.
I hope I helped!
Emily.
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Ok first of all if you're not ready, your body will not let him in, whether he's big or small. Take the time to completely relax before you try having sex. Making sure you're turned on also helps. Ask your bf if he's heard of foreplay. Try the woman-on-top (cowgirl) position. It gives you control of how deep he can go so that way you can take as much or as little as you want. Make sure you warn him that if he tries to help by moving, you'll stop.
The first time usually does hurt, especially if you have someone who does not give you time to adjust. Sit down with your boyfriend and tell him that you need him to take it slower.
You can give a blow jow without taking the whole thing in your mouth. Use your hands with your mouth.
And last but not least, don't forget protection. If you can't talk to your parents, go to your local health department or planned parenthood office.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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i know the expert who can help....
go to www.talksexwithsue.com
she has topics there on all sorts of things..go look at oral sex for a guy and sex topics..she talks about how you can suck the tip of the penis while holding and rubbing the base of the penis this way you dont gag to death..the articles are very helpful
-melissa-
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I would've waited untill marrige, because if you break up all the pain was for nothing, so I would suggest not doing it with him again. Tell him to masturbate or somthing. If he can't acsept that, break up.
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