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Hi i'm Ash. I'm not going to waste my time on your questions if you type like an idiot, so please, be smart about it.

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Hi! It's time for senior pictures and I don't know how to get my hair. I have medium length hair, brown. My hair is going to be straighten but I'm still not sure how to get it. Please help

My suggestion to you, is to wear your hair nice, but make sure it still looks like you do daily. Of course you want to look great for your pictures, but when you look back you'll want to remember what you looked like in high school. I hope your pictures turn out well and hope I helped. =]

i hate my stepmom. i kno hate is a strong word and well, my feelings are strong. she is sooo mean to me!! she doesnt like abuse me but the things she says really hurt. she always calls me fat (im 14 5'2 and 97 lbs.) and maybe thats fat but i dont think she needs to remind me of it every single day. i cant have friends over because she is sooo rude to everyone. i cant talk to my dad about it because he doesnt want to deal with it and i cant talk to her because she doesnt care. how can i ignore it? and pleaseeee dont say to talk to my dad. i really dont know what to do anymore.

thanks

Like someone else said, agree with her. It was completely throw her off. Or say something completely random, and she'll probably be so confuesed that she won't want to make fun of you anymore. People who so ignorant to the point that they think 97 lbs is fat, are probably pretty easy to throw off.

does anyone know how to remove a henna tattoo? like is there anything you can use at home to remove it? i got one today and it smudged i just want to clean it up a bit.. any suggestions? thanks

Baby oil usually works.

okay so i want to give my bf hand and im like nervous. last time i was with him he even undid his belt and put my hand by there but i just couldnt do it. i want to... but ah idk. im afraid itll be gross. is it gross?? what should i expect?

Well first of all, if you're doing stuff with a guy and he takes your hand and puts it in his crotch, that's when you walk away...

ok soo summer is here and i thought i would be hanging out with my friends everyday..but none of my friends have called me..ive been hanging out with all new ppl because my old friends ahve not included n invited me to anything..i dont get it? i havent done nothing..what should i do? need your opinion

Call them. Don't sit around and wait for someone else. If you want something done, just do it yourself.

IM TAKE THE NY STATE BIO REGENTS TMORROW!!! i am soo scarrdd!!!!!!!! any advice? tips?
ANYTHING!!!

I had to take it 2 years ago, and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Just get alot of rest and you'll be fine. I have to take the chemistry regents tommorow also, so I feel your pain.

I have a bf that I'm in love with and he means absolutely everything to me. I've been with him for 7 months. He's amazing to me and we get along perfectly but sometimes I just get sick of him. He gets so annoying and I never want to talk to him. I met this other guy and he's a real sweetheart and we've known each other for about a month. He's also amazing and sweet. We got to know each other more and he really likes me and I really like him. He wants to date me and everything but I have a bf that I still really love. I like both of them. I feel so horrible..I can't even believe myself. I don't know what to do. I'm so stuck. Please help me.

Whatever you do, don't kiss the other guy before you break up with your boyfriend, (if you do). It's a bad idea.

sorry, this is kinda long.

Okay, im in 8th grade.. but im graduating tomorrow.. so im pretty much a freshman.

This senior.. who is moving to college next year wants to hook up with me.

Hes like 17.

and july 22 is my half birthday so ill be 14.5

look at this convo on aim we had.

a= boy
l = me

A: dhcre;ugf re
l: shey
A: shey
A: ?
l: heyyy**
A: how you is
l: i is good, ytu?
A: pretty good
A: kinda bored tho nd really tired
l: same heeree.
l: i have graduation tomorrow :] are you going
A: y do like want me to go?
l: dont you have a brother in my grade?
A: no
l: oh.
l: nvm then
l: oh wait hes in 6thhh nvm.
A: yea
l: anywhoooo..
A: im
A: hot
l: c0ol
l: me too.
A: really
A: how
l: why dont you tell me
A: hmm idn ide have to see you
A: alone
l: oh reallyy.
A: mhm
A: wat do you say to that
l: when?
A: idn u tell me
l: well i cant tomorrow, thurs, fri sat or sun.
A: k
l: so idk afte rthat
A: mhm
l: waittt.
A: ughh
A: blow me psh
l: how old are you?
l: 17?
A: ya y
l: oh just wonderingg.
l: ew im only 14/5
l: 14.5*
A: soo
l: isnt that kinda wierd?
A: why
A: for what
l: that your like hitting on me?
A: who said im hitting on you
l: haha your likee.
l: i have to see for myself and that stuff then your like alone.
A: ok?

Do you think he wants something serious.. or just to get in my pants.

I don't think he was hitting on you.

i just got braces and they look really ugly..is there anything i can do to make them look less ugly or less noticeable and what band color should i get? just colors that i like or is there certain colors that look bad/good on diffent ppls teeth?

Don't get white because they look dirty after a while. Green and yellow typically look like you have food stuck in your teeth too, so stay away from those. Other than that, have fun.

can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]

Well I lost mine one week before mine 14th birthday and that was about 2 years ago. I can tell you that I only did it because I thought I was ready and I was in no way pressured into it. I still don't regret doing it, because I believed I learned alot about myself and trusting others from it. So if you're ready, go for it. If not, then it's best to wait.

i saw the butterfly effect this summer on in demand and at the end he went back to when he was in his moms stomach and killed himself. well then i watched it on tv a couple weeks ago and at the end he goes back to when he was 7 and made sure he wasn't friends with kaley. and my neighbor said he saw one with another ending.
what's up with that? why don't they just have one ending, and which ending is the original one?

thanks
xo

The one where he made it so his mom had a still birth and so he was never born was the alternate ending from the DVD. I did the same thing the 2nd time I watched it.

what time of the day is it best to go running?!

I like going in the morning because it's not too warm outside, it gives me more energy during the day, and personally when I wake up earlier and go to bed later I feel more refreshed... I know that's weird, but I dont know, it might work for you. :)

hope I helped!

-ash

I am getting an MRI scan soon for my head (jaw). Would I have to take out a belly button barbel? It's some type of surgical metal I don't quite remember what type. Is there anyway I can keep it in? I have had the piercing for a couple of months but I still have a month to go before I can take it out or change it and I really don't want to mess with it.

Thanks!!

I'm not a doctor or anything but i've had alot of catscans which are similar and you'll most likely have to remove it. I'm sure if you've had it down for a few months and then only take it out for an hour or so it won't hurt anything. But definately let your doctor know that you have it in there before you get it done.

15 / female / Pennsylvania (if that helps with the things-to-put-in-the-box thing)

Hi, I have a penpal from France. We have been sending letters back and forth, and now I want to send a shoebox of American things.

But what kind of things should I put in it?

So far I have:
American Dollar/quarter/etc.
A magazine
Photos

Yeah, that's it. Pretty sad, I know, but I'm clueless. If you could help me think of ideas, that would be great. And I would like it if the objects would have purpose (not like a pack of stickers or stuffed animals).

Thanks a lot!!

Things with the English language on them
Such as:
-Food Labels/Packaged foods
-Popular games from the US (Life, Monopoly, etc.)
-Post cards
-Books
-Movies
-Cds

anything that gives him or her an idea of what kind of things you like to do, watch, listen to, read...

hope i helped!

ok
how do you make those holes with the little horizontal strings patching across in jeans?

i've heard sandpaper. and a cheese grater.
any other ideas and stuff?

also, what about making edges in actual cut hole sint he jeans all fuzzy and frayed?

thanks

Well, actually I used an 'X-acto" knife thing thats used for cutting out pictures from magazines and stuff. You can get them at Wal Mart for resonably cheap.

I just used the blade and pushed it under each individual threadlike thing and it worked pretty good.

Hope I helped!

What are some good songs that kind of describe 8th grade graduation? Recent if possible, like the last 10 years or sooner. NOT GRADUATION BY VITAMIN C - too common. Any thing that would have to do with it. Like, describing change, moving on, friends forever, graduation, "i will remmeber you", good times, etc.

Easy Five if you give me good ones.

"These Are The Times To Remember" by Billy Joel
"Goodbye Yellow Brick Road" by Elton John

hope i helped!

My friend has been taking pills that some, or many of you, are familiar with. The street name are "triple c's" or "skittles". I think theyre called 'Coridicin Cold and Cough' or something, and what gives people their 'high' is the dextrophine or something close called that. Well, She steals them out of walgreen every day and swallows about 16 of them every day or every other day. I, myself, have only taken 6 in my life and I learned it was a very stupid decision and that I will never take them again! But my friend on the other hand, I think, is becoming very dependent on them. Shes been doing this for about a month or two, every day taking more. She keeps telling me and herself that she'll stop but she just won't. She is my best friend and im really concerned about her health and what permanent effects these pills can have on her. So what i need is some info and/or sites that give me the dangers, etc. of taking these pills. Thank you guys so much i want to help her.

If I were you, I would tell someone who can help her. I know, easier said than done, but you really need to. If you care about her and she's your best friend then you would. Even if she gets mad or hates you or whatever, you need to tell someone. It's better to have someone you love hate you for doing what will help them, then to have them die. PLEASE, please, please, take my advice. It's the right thing to do.

-ash

okay. my birthday is on march 21. which doesn't give me a lot of time to figure out what to do for my birthday. i'll be turning 14 and i'm not totally sure if i even want to have a party. my parents are going to be out of town for my birthday which totally sucks. i just wanted to spend my birthday all alone because so far it is really going to suck. my friends and my boyfriend refuse to let that happen. does anyone have any ideas for a way for me to celebrate my birthday?

whoa if i was you i would think its awesome that my parents are going out of town on my birthday. have some friends over for a party or something. do something fun, cuz this way you wont have to be home early or anything... since your parents are going to be out of town and all. :)
have fun and happy birthday!

-ash

ok i just wanted to know... im 13/f and im flat and i dont have me period so i wanted to know when is the age you get boobs? i mean me sister had her period when she was 14 and my mom had it when she was 13.... im worried that i wont get boobs until i get my period.and if this is so how long does it take for boobs to grow in when you get your period? thanks !! i rate high.

ps-is there any way to speed up the boob growth?

hey everyones different, dont worry about it. i got it when i was 10 and trust me.. your not missing out on much. my aunt was 16 when she got it so dont worry... you'll get it soon enough.

Im from Louisiana the rebel state but im also a little spanish. I was trying to get a more country style but i dont no if it fits my spanish thing though.

What country style should i go for?
Also should that fit me?

I'm spanish too, like my grandpas from spain... but anywys, do whatever you want, who cares if everyone else doesn't think it goes with your spanish style... if you like it, wear it.

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