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Girls Under 15 who aren't virgins...

Question Posted Wednesday June 13 2007, 9:41 pm

can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]

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BO0BA163RD answered Thursday June 28 2007, 2:12 pm:
i lost my virginity this year on memorial day.[im 15 years old] and it was with my ex- boyfriend older brother [he is 19]. and i pretty much don't regret it but there are days that i have second-thoughts because he has his girl-friend and i am just a side thing. or basically his fuck buddy. but since that day we had fucked seven times and it has been real enjoyable. and we have sex at least once a week. it gets me mad sometimes cause its also a down low thingy. so basically thats all my story! hope u enjoy it and if u have any questions feel free to ask me

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Roxy07 answered Wednesday June 20 2007, 8:24 pm:
Hi there,

I had sex for the first time at 17, I was almost 18. That night was the best night of my life. I had been with my boyfriend for nearly 12 months.

Sex wasn't really an issue until one night he sat me down and told me that he loved me, amoung other stuff that was said but he never once bought up the subject or put pressure on me. I just fell head over heels for him, I knew then that he was thr right person for me.

Then about 3 months later I stayed at his house and I said to him that I was ready to take a relationship to the next step.

He asked me if I was sure and never pressured me into anything. I told him that I loved him and that I was completely ready to give myself to him.

It hurt a little but he was so gentle and so loving and caring. The cuddles after were amazing.. just how he held me tight until the morning it was so perfect.

We are still together nearly 2 and a half years later and plan to move in together within the next 12 months. Alot of people judge me because i've only been with the one guy but whats the point in looking else where if you love each other.

Overall my night was perfect, our relationship was and still is strong and we trust each other. Not to mention I was his first too. He was 19 at the time.

Look if you feel that you are ready then no one can stop you. Just prepare yourself emotionally and be safe. You don't want to become pregnant.

Talk to your guy perhaps. Just don't let things turn bad. But no one can decide for you. It's your choice. Good luck.

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twistedsister17 answered Wednesday June 20 2007, 3:00 pm:
That is way too young! Everyone I know that lost their virginity that young, 100% regretted it. I've talked to my friends and they've told me that they now hate the guy they lost it to and that it was a really bad decision. Also, many of my friends have been close to becoming pregnant, because they A.) didn't have access to a condom and didn't use one. or B.) didn't know how to use a condom the correct way. There are many consequences of having sex that young, but there are no consequences in waiting. Personally, I think 18 is the best age to start having sex, but that's only if you are in a stable relationship and 100% want to.

When you're 13/14/15, chances are, the relationship is not stable. It may only last for a few weeks or a few months. Many guys at that age can be immature too, and they may dump you after they've had sex with you a few times, so they can get someone else to do it with them. The best thing to do, is wait until at least 17 and be in a stable relationship for at least 4-5 months. That's how it happened for me.


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x0xfabulous0x answered Wednesday June 20 2007, 10:29 am:
hey i know you didn't want the opinion of a virgin but.. having sex at fifteen is rediculous in my opinion. I know a fourteen year old who got pregnant and people don't think much of her anymore. If your planning on having sex be careful k? Not to sound like a mom but you know, you don't wanna ruin your life before it starts. Good luck with whatever your going to do. Follow your heart ♥ fabulous

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melmac7819 answered Wednesday June 20 2007, 9:27 am:
I am just going to say that at 12, 13, 14.....17,18,19 years old, you do not know what real love is. I know that there are some people(very few) who find love when they are that young. So, the point is, if you are going to have sex with somebody because you think that you love them...then don't! Sex will be amazing when you are with the right person and you are emotionally prepared for it. And I can garentee that at 15 you are NOT ready for it. Wait until marriage? Maybe not but wait until you are much older!!

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Ashley9391 answered Tuesday June 19 2007, 11:46 pm:
Well I lost mine one week before mine 14th birthday and that was about 2 years ago. I can tell you that I only did it because I thought I was ready and I was in no way pressured into it. I still don't regret doing it, because I believed I learned alot about myself and trusting others from it. So if you're ready, go for it. If not, then it's best to wait.

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LiveOnTheEdge3 answered Tuesday June 19 2007, 11:41 am:
my friend lost hers at 13.
she regrets is like crazy. if she could take it back she would. she 'loved' the guy. but that kind of love was nothing just love htat you wish was as strong. they guy just used her to get in her pants. you serosuly should wait as long as possible. her feelings now are embarresed, used and really upset. she goes to tehrepy for it. she was too too too young!!! so please if you have the chance to say no or wait longer then do it!! but if you really dont then make sure you love him.
please tell me what evolves.

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netsirk07 answered Monday June 18 2007, 8:23 pm:
I'm not under 15 but i lost it at 13 almost 14 and i most definatly regret it!! but as long as you love him, go for it

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loveanddrama20 answered Monday June 18 2007, 4:37 pm:
Ummm...i lost my virginity unwillingly. it really sucked and im still dealing with the fact that I was a rape victim. it really does hurt. but here is my willing story to give up my real virginity.

It was last year. i was 14 and i had dated this guy since i was 10. kinda Boy meets world but cute in some sense. he took me to the movies...he's sixteen. we then went to dinner. when we got back to my house we randomly started making out and it led the more than just that. i don't regret it one bit for waiting on the right person. we are still together and i'm 15 now. i love him a lot. i really would have rather waited until i was married to him but it was going to happen eventually so why not then. i really do love him and he is my best friend and nothing has changed since then. our sex life isn't like we have sex everyday it's more like sex once a month maybe twice. i love him but i don't think that sex is the only way you need to do it to get your point across. hope i helped.

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sml111992 answered Monday June 18 2007, 4:47 am:
14/f ya dont do it im scared half to death rite now it hurt and im dying ova here i feel like going to my mom but i cant cuz i dont want to disapoint my parents and even though it was a five secong thing im afraid i cant sleep im so sacared i have to throw up. its not worth the felling loosing your life over. personally iwouldnt care to have a baby but at my age and wat my dad has said to me for over 12 years its pretty pathetic i just hope im lucky thats all i really have rite now and god that i need to pray for. i fell like i cant talk to ne one ive talked to my brother and hes worried too. your provig you love someone yes but after words it worries you using protection or not you dont have exactly 100% protection so dont wait until your about 18 that way its not so bad if you are having a baby ok now look at all these answers to your question equal amounts either regret it or dont i dont regret it at all i love him and he loves me i feel that i mite actually stay together for a long while i mean we were not ready but whos to say rite. it is your disson wether or not you are ready if you think your in love and are ready then go for it you will know weather or not after words. Ik if i am pregante that i wont get an abortion i dont care if my family will be dissapointed in me reading all these stories made me realize that cuz id rather have a baby with him then i would with some guy that wont love me after a nother month or so. ik he will be there with me and i ABSOUTLY DONT REGRET IT! even though im scared rite now. people from all over the world will tell you wait until your married or old enough to handle it. but your not going to listen i sure didnt. so whats the point of me saying that dont do it. even though ive been going out with this guy for 6 months ive been his best friend for over 2years. thats a long time. if this is like your situation then go for it. or dont.. really its up to your heart... body ... and mind.

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WWBB answered Sunday June 17 2007, 11:05 pm:
well, im 15 and i lost my virginity at 15. actually i lost my virginity last april.
i dont regret it, for the most part.
i was in love with this one guy zach,
and then he got locked up.
their was another guy named jordan.
i really liked him too, but my parents would never aprove becuase hes black.
well jordan and i have been going out since january. We have known eachother for a few years and hes amazing. I know he loves me, a lot. and i love him too. he would never hurt me or pressure me into doing anything.
the best part is when we had sex he said he wanted me to have it at my house in my bed because it would be more special. and he was right. when we had sex, he made sure he wasnt hurting me. and it was awesome.
hes been such a good boyfriend.
hes so sweet.
i dont regret anything except for the fact that i always thought i would loose it to that guy zach. ever since i met zach, i thought it was going to be him. and i regret the fact that my parents dont like my boyfriend.
but no matter what, i love him, and he loves me. and we do everything together. it brought us closer together, but i was really scared to have sex. i was shaking like a dog when they get scared. he kept re-assuring me that he loved me and made sure i wasnt hurting too bad. i dont regret having sex with him though.
my advice,
not that you want it but,
just make sure you really like the guy.
dont let your first time be a one night stand.
thats it, i wont give any more advice.
if you have any more questions, you can comment my page.

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Depressed_Poet answered Sunday June 17 2007, 10:50 pm:
Two of my cousins have lost their virginity. I haven't lost it, and I'll be honest with you - I'm only thirteen! Anyways, I'll tell you both of their stories.
Cousin #1
She had a boyfriend, she was dating him for probably about a year in a half to two years, and I believe she was head over heels for him and really believed in him. She didn't get pregnant, but if she did then chances are - he would've left her at the time. They didn't continue to have sex, although I'm guessing they wanted to. But he just broke up with her today, he said there was another girl. OUCH! That's terrible. She's 15 - almost 16 and had been with him since age 13. He was her first boyfriend, but his family disliked her and he threw a knife at his mother, he was a pretty violent kid. I don't feel she regrets it, although I haven't talked with her yet about it, because if she loved him -- it was going to happen anyway. What is supposed to happen will happen. That's just God's way.
Cousin #2
She was certainly of age, almost 30 now I believe. She doesn't regret it at all because she did it with someone she loved and he never left her, in fact now they're engaged and getting married soon. I know, these stories sound so coincidental but it's true. She got pregnant and they had a baby. So it just goes to show you there are so many possibilities and so many stories to take part in -- to tell others. But whatever they felt (neither regret it as far as I know) doesn't necessarily mean you'll feel the same way. So do it with someone you care about, when you're ready, and when you're married. Maybe you don't have the same beliefs as I do, but if you're supposed to have sex with him, you will. Doesn't matter when. Just think about it.
Much Luck.

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MODERNDURATION answered Sunday June 17 2007, 7:51 pm:
ill take this from the top, i was 15 years old when i met this guy named rob he was 18. We frist started talking online after my friend introduced him to me over the phone. I was at the time dating another guy who was 15 but i was getting bored with him because we never even kissed, so i broke it off. The guy i began talking to online apparently was interested in me and i met him about a day after me and the other guy broke up. Instantly we hit it off, we were dating about a week later. Our relationship moved at a fast pace, my parents had no idea i was seeing him because they didnt like him due to the fact they found out he was involved in drugs. But we continued to see each other i would sneak out to see him and such. My dad found out, eventually after a lot of hard work they let me see him. We were always together everday of the weekend i would talk to him on the phone from 9 at night all the way till i had to get up for school. I fell in love with him in no time, and before i even realized it i was putting my guard down for him, it was as if i didnt care when i was with him because i felt so secure(no condom used). About a few days later we were suppose to hang out he never called to say he couldnt so i was kinda upset because apparently he talked to my one friend earlier and he wouldnt even pick up his cell phone for me. This eventually lead to us breaking up, afterwards he said some hurtful things to me, like how i was a slut, and he wanted a challenge. I was surprised how fast i got over him though, i honestly think he was just mad because i wrote him this long letter telling him about how i had moved on with my life. Due to what happened i had this mentatlity where i wanted to take all guys virginities to get even, but it just turned out with me hooking up with a buncha guys(not sex) I believe losing my virgintiy made me more mature, and i began to get more in tune with my emotions. Therefore, i do not regret it, it is a lesson learned that makes you stronger as an individual. As for that guy who cares, i am on to bigger and better things.

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AMYGWENDOLiNExO answered Sunday June 17 2007, 11:57 am:
Hey there.

Well, I lost my virginity at 15. & it was to a 24 year old, so of course, I have my regrets about that relationship. It was illegal and we knew it, and that's probably the only thing that I regret, is actually having sex with a 24 year old, not the actual guy himself, because he was amazing.

I'm not in a relationship with him anymore, because he said he wasn't ready for a relationship & that he didn't love me anymore. & that completely tore me in two. I couldn't believe that like, this guy I lost my virginity to, totally wanted to break up with me. We lasted a long time, but we just had such an age gap & it really affected us, long-term.

I don't really have any feelings about it anymore. I haven't had sex since him, so, that's the positive side of things. :] Haha.

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HighonlifE answered Sunday June 17 2007, 1:23 am:
I'm a junior in college and I just lost my virginity. I was always told that sex before marriage was wrong, but I just could not wait any longer. I was in love, and still am with my girlfriend, and we both wanted it. We have had sex lots of times since then, and it seems like it is helping our relationship. It doesn't feel wrong when we have sex, but I still have little twinges of guilt afterwards.

My advice is:
1. SEX MAKES IT HARD TO TURN AWAY FROM A RELATIONSHIP! So make sure he/she is worth it.
2. Use 2 kinds of protection for peace of mind. It's the worst thing in the world when you think you might have an unwanted pregnancy.
3. Don't make sex the center of any relationship. It should only be something extra.

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karlyndarlin05 answered Saturday June 16 2007, 10:25 pm:
hey this is the way I see it...
I lost it when i was 16, and well i totally regret it. I mean...its like once you do it one time you never have anything to look forward to, and there isnt anything to share with your future husband/wife. I mean yeah...seems like no one is waiting until they get married these days, but to me its just a let down. Yeah it can be fun, but afterwards its not all that special.

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MizzDiva3203 answered Saturday June 16 2007, 6:16 pm:
I waited until I was 20 before I lost it. And I did it then because I was with someone for a long time and we both found things to love about each other that were real first. You have to see what else is there. I know that the urges are strong and that your friends can influence you and that you want to fit in or have someone to like you. But guys at those ages are only looking to have sex. They don't want to be tied down in a relationship. TRUST ME!!! I've been there. I was almost at the point of giving it up plenty of times but I didn't want to feel empty and I didn't want to go around guessing whether the guy was gonna talk to me again or not or what he thought of me. And at the age, when you start, you will not stop. I am now 21 years old and I'm glad that I held out as longa s I could. It's hard work but you have to find other things about yourself to present to people and to let people see, then what's under your clothes. You need to find out who you are and go through life a little more before you make that decision. As females, we attach so much more than guys do. And after sleeping with them a couple of days, we wanna say they're our boyfriends or that we love them and they will never feel that way. They may tell you that but they don't. That's just how it works. That age is too young to be talking about anything besides school and friends. But I've been there and I know that it does get talked about and the feelings are there. But you gotta surround yourself with good positive friends that are thinking the same way and that want to wait so you can motivate each other. Get into some hobbies or sports or something. If you decide to do it, then okay. But it only takes a second for a condom to break. Or for the guy to never speak to you again. Or for everybody to find out and you get more offers than you know how to deal with. And then you're pregnant and not knowing who the father is. If you think trying to decide whether you want to lose your virginity, the essence of who you are inside as a young lady... then you are going to catch some serious pain and drama when you're 16 with a baby, parents hate you, boy nowhere to be found and maybe you caught a STD or something worse. That happens so much and I see it so many times. Find out the beauty within yourself so you can distract any guy from thinking about having sexy with you and getting him to see you as the beautiful girl you are. Just because they say they love you and they will be there for you. To them, all they have to do is lay there. But you are the one who will suffer later on. Sex can be a beautiful thing when you're older, between two people who have gotten to know just about everything about one another and have found something in each other that is worth holding on to. Good luck with that and let me know how it goes! :)

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Veranex answered Saturday June 16 2007, 2:52 pm:
I'm 14...and my friend who is my age lost hers when she was 13, and I talked to her about it...I know that she does regret it.

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mattoldham0 answered Friday June 15 2007, 11:32 pm:
hey i just lost mine yesterday
was a spur of the moments thing
and yes i completly regret it, i mean it was good and all but we didnt use protection
so right now im so fucking freaked out if shes pregnant or not
she used the morning after pill but who knows
im still with her and my mom found out
no idea how.....???
but if you can wait till marriage

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mwalnutss answered Friday June 15 2007, 11:25 pm:
hey. im 14 right now. and i lost mine not to long ago. and it was just me and my bf at my house just like sitting around after school cause he had snuck over. and next thing we know yeah lol. it happened. it was really sweet. and innocent. i dont regret it. but when i look back i wish i could have changed a couple things. like the fact that my room was messy. but i had fun and thats what counts. but it was really just like care free. and we were both new at all this. and we werent pressured in. i wouldnt change it for the world.

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Ashley_Baby answered Friday June 15 2007, 6:46 pm:
it was 15 and i lost it to a 16 year old he was damn sexy and i loved him I DO NOT regret it it is still awsome i love not being a virgin i fucked so many times now im not in a relationship with him i just broke up with him last week it wasnt a one night stand we were together for 2 years and girls and ladies its not that scary its pretty fucken sexy and it feels AWSOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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xAskkMechaBeccax answered Friday June 15 2007, 11:28 am:
I lost my virginity the summer before I turned 15. His name was Ian, he was 18, and we had been dating for about 2 weeks at the time. I do not regret a thing. We were in love. It hurt alot, but he cared for me and went soft and easy.
That was July 13,2006.

The next month, my family found out that I had a boyfriend and flipped out. Threatened to kick me out of my house, and they DEFINATELY did not know that I was no longer a virgin. They just didnt like me having a boyfriend. But through this struggle, we kept seeing eachother in secret and continued dating. In November, my mom finally allowed me to see him not in secret.

We both agree that sex was a factor that kept us together. It bonded us, and that if that had never happened, we most likely would have not been still together.

We are still going out now and will be celebrating our 1 year together on June 28,2007. We are still very much in love and plan to be with eachother for a very, very long time. I'm getting emancipated at 16, in November, and we plan on getting married.

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bLue_in_tHe_faCe answered Friday June 15 2007, 9:56 am:
My cousin was 13, going on 14. She tells me that she'd been inlove with the guy for over a year and would have done anything for him. They went out before and he broke up with her. She was devistated about him for over a year and couldn't forget him. No matter what she'd always go back to him when he told her they'd be friends with benifits and stuff. They'd hook up then he'd never speak to her untill the next time he wanted action. They did it once and then he had to stop durning it becuase he loved someone else and she was so broken up about it. But then by the time she was almost over him he started talking to her again and she could never say no to him. They did it again. Then the same thing happened. It happened again too. And she tells me she doesn't know if she regrets it no matter how many times they did it. I mean, it was with someone she liked which was good.. but he never liked her back. They don't talk anymore really. Right now she is single and not sure how she feels for him. I think she's okay though.. and it must take a lot of heart power for her to get threw all that.

Sex is fine with me with any age. Really, it pisses me off when people say that kids are too young. It's there discion and if they make a mistake then it's there problem, so don't lecture them about what someone thinks is right or wrong because most teenages know more than most people give them credit for. But my cousin is fine with it, and she wouldn't take it back because who knows what would happen if she never did that. Hope this answered your question =]

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orphans answered Friday June 15 2007, 6:22 am: doesn t matter how old are you just as long as you are fully grown.
If you are ready for it mentally.
If you got a healthy relatioship. Dont fuck someone you only know for 3 days.
And just as long as its not just a one time thing only. Like...if you have a steady boyfriend.
For some girls its good when they are having sex when they are 15 years old, for some its bad.

Personally, I regret doing it, but only because it was like the worst sex were both so unexperienced and...just do bad at it. We didn t do it so offten, we were young and didn t have the chance (parents, our own space etc.) and we only did it like...4 times on 2 months... I never came.

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lookitslorin answered Thursday June 14 2007, 10:23 pm:
I'm 14 & I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for a good 4 months. (& yes we're still dating.) As of right now, I have absolutely no regrets. It made us closer as a relationship because that made us more comfortable with eachother. Howver; I would say to not do it to find out if you love the person, but to do it because you love the person. If you do that, then I see no problem with it. Although; other people might think differently.

Hope I helped & always remember to follow your heart. :)

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carlicarnage answered Thursday June 14 2007, 8:26 pm:
I know, I was younger than all the other people on here, but I lost mine when I was 12. I know, it's horrible, isn't it?

I was 12, he was 14. I know, it sounds so bad, but i was a very mature 12 year old, and i looked way older than 12. Well, it was his birthday, and I wanted to give him something special, and i snuck out to his place, and his parents weren't home, and all i did was kiss him, and tell him happy birthday. and he asked if all he got was a kiss. so...well, i gave him more. It was my first time, but it wasn't his. ANd he was very gentle, and soft about it, and didn't like...brutally screw he was a sweet guy. Well, we broke up like...almost half a year later...i was 13 then, but we stayed friends, and we still are, and we still talk all the time, and stuff. And i don't really feel as though he used me or anything.

Do i regret it? no, not really.

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sweetascandy7364 answered Thursday June 14 2007, 7:36 pm:
im am 15 now and female, i think that its not a good idea to have sex has a 15 year old. At 15 your still young and its a big decision to make, their no going back after that. I also belive you should be in love when you have sex, then its alot more special and you can only have 1 first time and that is something you will always remember, so hopefully you can make that a good memory.

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staceygirl answered Thursday June 14 2007, 7:29 pm:
This is a really great topic, for anyone who hasn't lost it, oh my goodness keep it untill a guy puts a ring on your finger! and i mean a real ring, not somethink he picked up at K-mart for twenty dollars. I lost mine when i was 14 years old. His name was Alex and i made him wait a year, funny thing--- our relationship after that decision, was that decision, and we split 3 months later. We were in love for a year and then fell apart by sex. After that i did have sex with other people. And i dont know if it was just me but it just made me feel worse about my self image, and these guys, by just using me this way, ran me to the ground. Well atleast, thats how i felt, thats how i still feel looking back. However there is a light at the end of the tunnel in my story. I took a year to be salivant and just have friends, and casualy hang out with guys. But things changed, these guys were gentlemen (not about getting in my pants, just wanted a friend who was a girl to talk to.) And the friends i made in that year, are still there for me every second i start to doubt myself. My suggestion to everyone who hasn't lost it--- wait untill you meet a guy who is worth your virginity (you only get one!) And for any of you girls out there reading this who have regretfuly lost it--- I did to and i've never been more happy to be where i am now. Theres so much more than sex. Sex is big, but so is memories that will last forever. I will admit that i currently have a boyfriend, a real gentlemen that im happy to be engaged to.
take it easy... love stacie

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coOokiie answered Thursday June 14 2007, 6:03 pm:
i havent had sex but heres something for you

-Wait for sex.
Although it's one more thing to wait for...
It's one less thing to worry about.
It's one less kid you have.
It's one less teen mom.
It's one less teen dad.
It's one less complication in your relationship.
It's one less hospital bill you will have to pay.
It's one less uncomfortable conversation you will have with your parents.
It's one less mistake.
It's one less statistic.
Wait for sex.
It's one more reason why you can be proud of yourself.
It's one more good label you can have [virgin].
It's one more person able to have a white wedding dress.
It's one more planned pregnancy.
It's one more love story.
It's one more good choice.
Wait for sex. There are pros and cons, weigh them.
You have the choice, but you can also have the consequences.

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Bucket answered Thursday June 14 2007, 5:44 pm:
At age 15, I was raped by my boyfriend. So I guess my story's a little different than everyone else's.

I mean, of course I regret it. But at the same time, it's taught me a lot -- for instance, now I am a lot less trusting when it comes to guys. That doesn't mean I don't trust them at all, just that I am more wary of what people are capable of. I've taken self defense classes and I know that if something like this happens again, I'll know how to protect myself.

Still, I don't consider the rape losing my virginity, because I believe your "virginity" is something that you share with someone you care about, and it can't be stolen from you unwillingly.

As far as "giving away" my virginity... that wasn't until I was 18. Not because I was a prude, I just hadn't had a lot of luck with guys after my rape and failed relationship. I don't regret losing my virginity to him -- partially because we're still together a year and a half later. Even if we weren't though, I wouldn't regret it because I love him, and I loved him when I chose to have sex with him. Plus, I've always learned to never regret something that once made you smile. =]

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bethloveswife answered Thursday June 14 2007, 5:08 pm:
i was fifteen, and justin and i had been friends for 3 1/2 years before i blurted out one day that i liked him. that was feburary 11th, 2006. on valentine's day he showed up with a half dozen red roses, and a red teddy bear - which is still sitting on my bed. three months into our relationship he invited me to his junior prom. i was extremly excited and we had been talking about moving on further in our relationship, so we decided that would be the perfect night. He hadn't had sex either, so this was something we were sharing something special. 4 3/4 into our relationship and 3 times after prom night, his parents said we were too close and justin gave in and told his dad that we had had sex. i forgot to mention that the last time that we had sex he gave me a promise ring and promised to alway be around. well after his parents found out, he wasnt allowed to talk to me anymore. we still talked as much as possible, but it wasnt working. i just recently deleted saved conversations that we had. after my 16th birthday, my mom took me to new york. while i was there he was acting kinda funny everytime we talked on the phone. then june eleventh at 12:06am. he told me we were better off friends and that we'd stay in touch. he asked me to keep wearing the ring and i told him i couldn't because it would hurt too much. but i still did, but i do regret losing my virginity. justin doesnt talk to me at all. i tried to stay in touch, but he would be an asshole everytime we did. come to find out he got a new girlfriend five days later. so much for loving me and wanting to be with me forever. that was a year ago and he's still with that girl.

but now i'm with a wonderful man named cody, i'm 17, he's 18, we're moving intogether next june and we are extremely happy with eachother and we have great sex :]

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mandyy answered Thursday June 14 2007, 4:05 pm:
I lost my virginity when I was 14 after being with my boyfriend for only 2 months (I know some girls wait a year or so). I'm very happy that I did, I'm still with the person that I lost it to and it's been a year and a half. It's a good way to make your relationship closer but only if you're ready. Personally, I only regret telling my friends that I had sex with him. My friends have loud mouths and one of them actually told my mom. If you're thinking about it, make sure that you have a comfortable relationship. I'm glad I lost my virginity but every girl is different. :]

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Juliekins answered Thursday June 14 2007, 4:05 pm:
I am thirteen and im a proud VIRGIN! Some of these stories are sickening. Losing to so young. I cant lose it this young, my boyfriend got upset when i told him i wasnt ready and he was like 'i thought you loved me!' i told him i loved him but i wanted to wait, then we got in a big argument and broke up.

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orphans answered Thursday June 14 2007, 3:23 pm:
I lost mine when I was 13 turning 14. It was to a guy was close with for about a year. He was moving so I had sex with him. It turned out he didn't move for about another 1/2 year so it happened more than once. We were never really in a relationship he kind of used me. I don't like him anymore he's a player but we don't hate each other at all.

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soendearing answered Thursday June 14 2007, 2:01 pm:
I lost mine when I was 14. I'm now 15, turning 16 in November. I have no regrets at all. I wish I waited a little longer, due to my mom not trusting my boyfriend and I as much. And yes, I'm still in the same relationship. My advice is that, if you're not ready for the consequences of sex, don't do it. I lost my mom's trust for a long time, and she still doesn't fully trust us, but she's getting there.

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MW8305 answered Thursday June 14 2007, 1:18 pm:
I was a "late bloomer" compared to most of my friends. I didn't lose my virginity until the age of nineteen.

At the time, I believed that I loved him. I was wrong. We were together for about three years before we finally called it quits for good. (During those three years we broke up with each other a total of six times.) Our relationship was very tumultous and I often suspected that he didn't respect me because we rushed into a physical relationship.

I don't necessarily regret my decision. I learned a lot (mostly what NOT to do in a relationship) and learning those lessons has given me the ability to form and maintain a healthy, long-term relationship. However, if faced with the same choice all over again... I'd pass. Because I sometimes wonder what it would have been like to lose my virginity to someone that I KNEW I loved. Not just believed...

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Michele answered Thursday June 14 2007, 12:35 pm:
Ok, this will be strange because I am much older than most of the people on this web page, but after reading the other posts, it struck me that not so many things have changed. I lost my virginity when I was 16, and yes I thought I was in love. We were together for a year. It wasn't what I had been lead to beleive that it would be like, and at the time I did feel terrible and was afraid that someone would find out. A couple of girls in high school had gotten pregnant. They had to get married. This is what we did in those days. It was a BIG problem. The girls had to leave school. There was no question about going to class pregnant. They hated sitting home and doing nothing.
While I didn't have sex again soon, I was very concerned about getting pregnant. Through the grape vine I heard of a doctor near my home town, that would give prescritions for birth control pills to young girls. Many of us made appointments. We got our exams, and got our subscriptions. I stayed on the pill for about 12 years. I did not want to have an out of wedlock baby. My sister had done that, her life didn't look so good. As it was I didn't have children until I was married and I was 32 at the birth of my first son.
today you guys have planned parenthood. they will give you advice about contraceptives and help you out with questions about pregnancy, preventnig pregnancy and STD's. You are lucky.
Bad thing is the cost. I remember birth control pills used to cost $2.25 a month. I almost fell over when I found out that today they cost about $40.00 a month. What young girl can afford that!

The one thing I also worry about today with young girls is date rape, and the rape drugs. It is so scary out there. Once you start going out and going to bars to party, you run the risk of some jerk putting a date drug into your drink. You pass out, more or less. People just think you had too much to drink. The guy says, hey, I'll take her home....and you wake up hours later, naked, in pain and alone. And now you have NO memory of what happend and with who, and you can't even press charges. Girls need to protect themselves. Look out for each other. And never leave your drink alone when you are at a party or bar. Never take a drink offered by a stranger at a party or bar. And if you see a girl being taken advantage of. Save Her!!!!!

Basically, I can see that guys haven't changed. We all have romantic thoughts when we are young, and they still only think about sex. That does change though. When they get older, the better ones become young men and start to think about settling down, and start to be more kind to women and respectful. That is nice. and something to look forward to. If you have decided to wait until you are older to have sex, that is good. You don't have to wait until you are married, but at least you won't have to worry about some young boy going around telling everyone that you two had sex. The only way to avoid that is to wait until MEN are older, and more mature. But wait, do not go out with OLDER men, that is not the answer. They are known to use young girls too.
Well, words of wisdom, from someone who did have a lot of regrets, but who has time to think about them now!


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Melody answered Thursday June 14 2007, 11:24 am:
I lost my virginity when I was 14. I had been dating my boyfriend officially for only 5 months, but we had been together for almost a year at that time. Very confusing I know, but that's basically how it went. I'm 16 now, and we are still together. It will be two years this August. I don't know how I knew I wanted to, but when the time finally came, I was like, "I love this boy now. And I want to have sex with him now. If this is what i'm wanting at this moment, I can't regret it later." It's like that quote that goes "Regret nothing because everything you did was exactly what you wanted at the time". I live by that quote. And luckily, I have no reason to regret my decision. We're still together, and if in the future we end up breaking up, I'm still not going to regret it. I love him, and though things may change in the future, the fact he was my boyfriend and a person I truely care about will never change. I'm happy that I got to share something so wonderful with someone I love so much.

Anyways, my first time wasn't this fantastic fantasy-like encounter. Far from it. Matter of fact, it hurt like hell. But it was our first time and that made is special. Even though mentally I knew I was ready, my body on the other hand, wasn't so sure. I couldn't get into it because even though I knew I wanted to do it, I couldn't help but me nervous which made it harder to accomplish. We tried for about 3 months before it even happened. I kept chickening out. But once it did happen, our relationship changed. Not neccessarily for the better or for the worse. But it matured a lot. We were closer on a different level. I don't know if that makes since or not.

To put things simply, i'm glad I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and I know i'll never regret it. But on the otherhand, I know I was young and since we are still together, I wish I would have waited a little longer. I was only 14, and though more and more girls are losing their virginity at that age, it's still very early. I do not look forward to telling my teenager one day that I lost my virginity when I was fourteen, and that makes them think it's ok. But it was my decision that I made and though I don't have any regrets, I know it's something i'm going to have to be ok with it.

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holahayley56 answered Thursday June 14 2007, 11:14 am:
i was in 7th grade, and it was in the summer. and there was this kid who was 15 and he wanted to. and i was mad at my ex, and then so i did. and it was a huge mistake. nobody knows. not any of my friends, or anyone. big mistakee. dont make the mistake i did. if you dont love the person, it isnt anything special. i broke it off with him. he got mad, and almost told everyone. he then, told people at my school. i denied it. but i switched schools. just so i could start over.

theres alot more detail to it, that was just the outline, but i dont really like thinking about it much.

if your under 15, i highly suggest you dont do it.

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rainbowcherrie answered Thursday June 14 2007, 11:11 am:
I'm 15 and I'm a virgin but I've done other sexual things (the first time when I was about 13). Some I regret, some I don't. The occasions I've regretted have been the ones that meant nothing with people that meant less. The friends I know who aren't virgins don't regret it but it isn't about them. Do what feels right and is safest for you, never rush yourself or try it before you're ready because that will almost definitely end in regret. As cliche as it sounds, whatever happens, ALWAYS use protection.

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hollister_lover09 answered Thursday June 14 2007, 10:53 am:
I'm 16, and i lost mine when i was 14. i dated this guy for about a couple months, and we did it.. we stayed together for about a month after. He was a man whore, and i dont really regret it, but i wish it wasnt with him.

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xxtmxx answered Thursday June 14 2007, 5:35 am:
well i was going into my 7th grade year and i was with the most amazing guy. we had been together for over a year and i knew he was the guy i wanted to lose my virginity to. we talked about it alot before hand and we both decided together we were ready. him and i stayed together for over 2 1/2 years. i don`t really "regret" what i did. maybe just because i was so young. but i do know that if things do not work out between you and your partner it makes it alot harder to move on. we have been apart for over one year but i still love him even if we never talk anymore (bad breakup). its kind of an attachment thing thought. just because he was my first i think. just think things through so you know you won`t have any regrets if you do decide to do something like this at a young age, or any age really.

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cutter4life answered Thursday June 14 2007, 4:58 am:
hun im 15 & i had sex when i was 11 & i dont regret nothing cuz im still with the guy but i told my parents after i had sex & my mom cried & my dad grounded me for two weeks but they were glad i told them & sum people called me a slut & a whore & stuff like that but im not so ya thats my story

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madem answered Thursday June 14 2007, 3:25 am:
I am 16, and a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 20 months, and we both love each other a lot. We are both virgins.
Over the course of our relationship, we have taken things very slowly, and we have only just started doing sexual things (exploring...with hands, if you get my drift!).
I know I am not ready for sex, and me and my boyfriend have talked about this, and he is prepared to wait until I'm ready, whether it takes weeks, months or years!
I think that he is the one, and I want him to be the one I lose my virginity with, but as I said, I'm not ready yet.

I think that if you are thinking of losing your virginity, then make sure you are 110% ready, protected and with someone who will wait if you want to wait.

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cHaSsi3x answered Thursday June 14 2007, 3:23 am:
i lost mine when i was 14 at a friends party with. it was to my ex boyfriend, i've had around 5 boyfriends since him and had sex with each and every one of them. i'm currently single. but i don't regret things in life. things happen because they're supposed to happen. and i did love that guy and still do. i have had sex with him since we've broken up, and he's a really good friend of mine. i don't regret it at all.

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leLovely answered Thursday June 14 2007, 12:59 am:
I'm 15, and I'm still a virgin. I have a boyfriend, but I know that I'm not ready yet. Even though I like him, I don't love him. I know I don't, and I don't like him enough to have sex with him. I want my first to be somebody I'm head over heals over, and I want it to be special. I think I'm ready, but I'm waiting for the right time & the right person. My friend lost her virginity when she was 15. She doesn't regret it. She's been going out with her boyfriend for a year and a half, and they first had sex after about 10 months. Even though she's young, I think that they truley love eachother. She doesn't regret it, because she loves him and she knows that he was the one.

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jeanine278972 answered Thursday June 14 2007, 12:57 am:
Well .. I had just turned 14 about a month before I has sex for the first time. He was 18 and we had been together for like .. a month. I had always said I wanted to wait until I was old enough to take responsibility for my actions, but I gave in to his pressure. Before that night, I had NEVER done anything sexual with a guy outside of making out. I really regret having sex at such a young age. I would sneak out of my house just to be with him. We were together a few months after that and then he moved out of state and his best friend said he had been cheating on me the whole time. We continued being friends and talking on the phone and such. Then he moved back about 6 months later, and I had slept with his best friend. I was stupid enough to get back with this guy, though we had a HORRIBLE relationship (we wont get into details please)
I got the reputation of being a slut after people started finding out. Even though I had been with 2 guys at that time, I was still called a slut. I really wish that I would have waited just a few more years. Now I'm in a great relationship with an older guy (i always date older guys) And I really wish I would have waited until I was ready to have sex. I was the first girl my current boyfriend had ever slept with and I really wish he was my first too, since he is my first true love.

Wait until your sure your ready to have sex, its worth the wait. :)

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orphans answered Thursday June 14 2007, 12:38 am:
My story is a bit crazy. Me and my best friend [who was a guy] started hanging out a lot after he broke up with his girlfriend. We had both liked each other for a long time but neither of us knew. We started kissing and making out and other things. We couldn't be around our friends because we wanted to hold hands. I started giving him blowjobs and whatnot, at night I'd cry because I did it because I liked him. And one day we had sex. [I'm 15 btw] I liked him A LOT. I don't regret it at all. He cares about me a lot, so he was very gentle. Even if it hurt a little he wanted to stop. He asked me out finally about 2 weeks later. & we've been together since. He's a very sweet boy & I love him to death. He treats me very good and always helps me when I have a problem just like he did before we dated. Unfortunately a good friend of his told someone he told her not to tell and a few ppl think I'm a slut. But almost everyone else who I explain the story too doesn't. It did happen in a slutty way I guesss.

I suggest you have sex with someone you care very much about& someone who cares very much about you.

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jessica94248 answered Wednesday June 13 2007, 11:40 pm:
I am 14 and I am a virgin. Yeah, you have to wait forever for someone and you will never know when, but when you do have it with someone you know that you will be with forever the feeling is probably more amazing. I came close to having it once, but I quickly realized that if I do this, I know I will be known as a slut.
If you are thinking about it, don't give it five minutes. Think about it long and hard. What are the consequences? What are the rewards? Will you ever see him again after this moment? You need to know the answers to those questions before you even come near a penis.
Hope I Helped!!

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Neuronautas answered Wednesday June 13 2007, 10:47 pm:
I lost mine at 15. We were in a relationship for about a year before we actually did it. I don't regret it at all. We were together for about 4 years in total. He's an amazing guy. We're not together anymore, but he has remained one of my best friends and I love him with all my heart, till this day.

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tootsierollsweet999 answered Wednesday June 13 2007, 10:47 pm:
Okay..well my friend lost it before the age 15. then was known as a slut afterwards becuase the boy went around and bragged! and then just last year this one guy found out she was a slut and easy to get in the pants and when she said no.. he raped her And i know that this sounds completely made up but shes just going to court in July and im ganna be there Because **the guy that did it needs to be punished! it sucks cause shes known to be a slut so who's ganna believe she was raped? i do its something someone doesnt like about and trust me its the biggest mistake in her life, and she regrets it horribly! if you have any thought on having ex with somone DONT not just you anyone its something that when u look back upoin is sometyhing your not ashamed of.

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fabulous11 answered Wednesday June 13 2007, 10:40 pm:
Well i cant talk for myself, but my best friend lost hers at 15. She deffinatly regrets it. A lot of crap happened after she did it and she even lost some friend over it. She tells me all the time that she regrets it and she wishes she could take it back.


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christina answered Wednesday June 13 2007, 10:14 pm:
I lost mine at 15. There really is no story behind it, but yes, I regret it very much. Me & that guy are no longer together, and I was young and didn't really love him -- I just thought I did.

However, I've learned my lesson & will never have sex with someone I don't love that much & I will never be that stupid ever again.

Basically, wait forever to have sex. If you have it young with someone you "love" you'll probably regret it & that relationship probably will not last long. Wait until you're ready [make sure you're positive you're ready] & wait until it's with the right person.

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x0advice4y3w answered Wednesday June 13 2007, 10:10 pm:
my first time was when i was fourteen. i don't actually regret it, because i love the kid, it's just i wish i was older. my thoughts/feelings are alright, cause we have sex often. yeah, i'm still in a relationship. (: thank god.

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joellamamama400 answered Wednesday June 13 2007, 10:00 pm:
well i lost my virginity at 12 but it didn't mean anything but when i had sex for the let's just say next time it meant something i was about 14

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