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Does anyone think a 14 yr old having sex would be slutty? If she has been with this guy for a year, or even less than 12 months, but more than 4? and them knowing each other for 2 years?
This is not about me, I'm just wondering, and no offense to any 14 yr olds, it's just that some people call sluts now-a-days for wearing skirts, or too much eyeliner.
Anywho...you think it'd be better if she was 15? And she knew the consequences, and had was taking birth control, had condoms, etc.
Give me your opinions, thanks!
Honestly, I believe that age is just a number. Someone has to be mature enough physically, mentally, and spiritually to have sex, and I know many people who are way over the age of 14 that I wouldn't consider being mature enough for it. I lost my virginity when I was 14 years old, To some that may sound slutty, but quite franky, I don't care what other people think about it. Even though I'm no longer with the guy I lost it to, I'm still happy about it, and I wouldn't take it back. Girls just need to make sure that they really think about it before they have sex with anyone, no matter how old they are. :]
I would like to hear some opinions on 14, 15 and 16 year olds having sex. I personally find it heartbreaking when I read these questions from these young people asking about sex and if they are doing it right. They don't even know about the other consquences BESIDES pregnancy and HPV, STDs such as STIs and emoional consequences.
I am only 20, so it wasn't long ago I was this age, and I find this to be ridiculous! What happened to true love? Or waiting until marrige? It seems to me these girls just want to be popular with the boys and the guys want to be popular among boys. Is it just me? Am I crazy?
Well. I'm 16 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 14. Most people our age know a lot more about the consequences of sexual behavior than people older than us because a lot of us have to take classes on it. Personally, I had to take "Project Know," that taught me a lot about the consequences, and I also learned a lot about the consequences in my health class that I took my freshman year of high school. I agree with you though, some younger people are ignorant about it and it is sad to see some of the questions on here such as asking if they're doing it right. I don't think age has anything to do with if you're ready to have sex or not, like I said, I lost my virginity when I was 14. When I tell people that, they're shocked, and I can understand why, but I've always been ahead of others on a maturity level. I don't have any regrets at all about losing my virginity when I did, and after 2 years, I'm still with the same guy and I've only had sex with him. I can honestly say that I made sure that I loved him and wanted him to be my first, and we talked about it a few times, and it happened. I'm not the type of girl to go have sex with a guy just to make me popular because that's just horrible. And no, it's not just you, and you're not crazy, a lot of people think it's rediculous, and I agree to an extent, but I can respect people who think it through and are mature enough to have sex, even if they are 14, 15, or 16 years old.
i'm gonna start off by saying i'm NOT a whore
me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 9 months and he's fingered me once and we makeout alot thats about it ;; i kinda would like some more "exitement" and i give him handjobs all the time and was even thinking of giving him head (even tho i have NOO IDEA WHAT TO DO!) and maybe even sex.. i've given him alot of time and i dont wanna like push him but do you think i should say something to him.. if so what?
btw he's one year younger then me
do you think that has much of an affect on it?
Of course you should talk to him, start by simply asking his feelings about sex. Him being one year younger than you shouldn't matter, it all has to do with maturity. Anyways, like I was saying, start by asking his feelings about it and go from there. For example, a next question would be "How old do you see yourself losing your virginity?" So on and so forth. Don't be shy about it, and if you ARE shy about it, it probably means that YOU are not ready.
Oh, and F.Y.I.
Here's some advice on getting head, so you feel more comfortable:
When you give head, focus on the tip at first and the ring right under the head, slowly work your way down the shaft and bop your head up and down on it, it's not hard at all. DON'T TAKE IN THE WHOLE THING IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE IT. If it is too large, use your hand too, grip the bottom part of the shaft and let your hand follow in the up and down motion of your mouth. :] Make sure when you're bobbing up and down you use your tounge! Guys love that!
I hope I helped and let me know if you need to know anything else. :]
a girl fomr school gave me head and my friend head and we didnt use a condom but can i get an std or what cause i cant get this crap out of my head???
answer back asap
Wow. Don't listen to the person who last answered this question. They have it a little backwards, no, there is no way to get pregnant through giving head. The semen can't possibly find a way to get from the mouth to the reproduction organs. But yes, you could get an std. So have yourself checked out. Hope I helped. :]
some girl in my neighbor hood gave me head and we didnt use a condom but im worried she gave something can a guy get a disease from a girl since nothing goes in my penis but out of it. lol but i cant get this out of my head.
answer asap please
Yes. It is possible for you to have an STD. If you want to be completley safe from disease, you have to use a condom. Did you ever wonder why they make flavored condoms? They make those because it is recommended to use a condom even during oral sex. I suggest you get checked out and please, next time, be as safe as possible. Hope I helped. :]
I found out my wife is cheating on me and she is pregnant with this other guys baby whats the most worst way to get back at her? And trust me she deserves it.
Don't get back at her. This same thing happened to my dad, except he was engaged. You have to understand, your wife is going through a lot now, and she does deserve what she's getting now. Think about how you would feel if you were in her situation, she's probably so scared. I know you're hurt and you just want to "get back at her" so the best thing you can do, is act like you don't care, and divorce her. She needs to realize what she had with you, and if you act like you don't care, she'll spend the rest of her life wondering why you didn't act like you cared. Trust me, take it from a girl's prospective, the one thing people want more is the one thing they cannot have. And if you act like you don't care, and don't want her back, she'll want you more than ever. Hope I helped.
my new bf is perfect, but my ex is too. and i love him and think i could one day love my new bf. but my ex is my first love, and still wants me. and i want him still. i don't want to break my new bfs heart cuz he says he loves me, so i'm worried. i want to give me bf a letter i wrote, but it may be harsh. it says that i don't want to be serious until i know what exactly i want. and i think that i will want to be with my ex, but no one else wants that and i dont' want to get hurt. but his hold and love is all that can keep me real and happy. i havent felt right since i broke up with my ex. even though i have a good time with my new bf. What the hell should i do?
If you are still thinking of your ex like that and are thinking that you still want to be with him, chances are you don't love your current boyfriend. I was in a similar situation a while ago. I think you should take some time off of both guys, and think about what you want, even though it may hurt your current boyfriend, wouldn't you feel more comfortable knowing exactly what you want? You have to keep in mind though why you and your ex boyfriend broke up in the first place. If you havn't felt right since you've broken up with your ex, and if you keep thinking of him and what could have been, your relationship with your current boyfriend isn't going to work out very well, because you'll always feel a little uneasy about it. So, take some time and think about exactly what you want. Hope I helped and if you need anything else, just ask. :]
14/f
k well all the years before i was completely shy at school around guys and now that's it's freshman year i want to be more out goin but i don't know how. i mean i'm not sure how to make friends unless i'm introduced. i also want guys to start noticeing me more. can you help me please on what to do.
thanks =]
I suggest just talking to people, introducing yourself. If you're shy it may take you some getting used to though. But seriously, it works. My freshman year I felt the same way, I wanted to meet new people, so in my activity I randomly introduced myself to the guy next to me and now I'm dating him and have been for almost 2 years. Sure, you might be afraid of getting blown off or whatever but honestly, the people who blow people off that come up and introduce themselves, are just intimidated by them because their openess. Try it out. :] Hope I helped.
I don't know if I should have sex with my b/f. He's 17 and I'm 15. Usually guys older pressure you to have sex. I dont think he's trying to harm me in any kind of way. I just feel like that's about all he wants is some sex. I'm not ready for sex. I dont want to lose him. I know if he really cares then i wont lose him. But he's tired of waiting . Help???
Wow. No offence but if he's actually told you he's "tierd of waiting" he is just looking for a piece of ass and you shouldn't just give it to him because you're afraid of loosing him. That's how guys like that work, they don't necessarily say "FUCK ME OR I'LL LEAVE YOU" they do shit like that to make you feel that way but not really saying it like that. And no, older guys usually DON'T pressure you for sex. Older guys are just the same as younger guys. The age doesn't matter. If you feel that all he wants is sex, you shouldn't be with him, especially if you're not ready for that. Find a guy who wants you for you and is willing to wait until YOU are ready. It may hurt to hear, but I don't think he cares as much as you think he does. I wouldn't want anybody to feel like they have to have sex with their boyfriend so they don't break up with them. Like I said, find someone who likes you for you, you'll be much happier and less confused. :] Hope I helped.
13/f
Have any of you been in a relationship that lasted all through high school? I am really in love with the guy I'm dating now, and no one thinks we'll ever make it.
Well. I can tell you one thing. When I was your age I dated a guy who I thought I loved and was going to be with for the rest of my life. Deffinetly NOT true. But about 4 months after him and I broke up, I started dating another guy. That was at the beginning of 9th grade for me. And I'm still with that person today, and I'm going into 11th. So yes, it is possible. Don't believe what those people are telling you. Yeah, you are young, but if you care about eachother. You can make it work but it deffinetly takes a lot of effort. That's why people think that people your age can't hold a relationship, because they get too lazy and give up. Just work at it. :]
14/f
i really want a snake. i love love love animals.
what kind of snake is best for me and if you have tips that would be great.
im going to wait like a month or two to make sure i really want it so i won't buy one and like not want it a month later. but what kind should i get.
i want one that ....
-doesn't get very big. preferably under two feet. and will stay that way.
-has a good temperament (doesn't bite & friendly)
-semi-easy to take care of.
-i won't have to feed mice. something i can feed worms/guppies/small fish/or bugs.
please only answer if you have had snake experiences (IE. you have/had one/friend has one/work at a pet store, etc.)
thank you =)
I have a corn snake. We actually got the corn snake because it has a very good temper and corn snakes are less likley to bite. It hasn't bitten anyone. It probably will grow over 2 feet but then again, most snakes will. It's very easy to take care of but you have to make sure that you're holding it a lot. If you don't hold a snake, that's when they get mean. We tried feeding my snake small fish and it just wouldn't eat them, it only eats mice. But, all snakes are different. I would highly recommend a corn snake though. Oh and an albino corn snake is one of the cutest snakes I've ever seen. It's actually a pink color! Hope I helped and let me know what you decide. :]
okay, so i go to a private school and most the guys havent done anything more than just kissing. but ive done more and my friend likes to tell them stories about me. but i dont really mind cause honestly i like the attention. but does it make the guys not like me? is it better to keep it a secret? or do guys like to know that stuff?
It all depends on the guy. If the guys there havn't really done much, obviously that's not what they're looking for. I have a male friend who actually didn't want to date a girl because of all the things she does. So to some guys, it can be a big turn off. Either way, the attention they're giving you isn't very healthy. Don't you feel kind of sluttish knowing that the only reason these guys are paying attention to you is because of what you're friend has been telling them? My suggestion is to get to know these guys and let them get to know you, on a more appropriate level before sharing things like that with everyone.
can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]
I lost my virginity when I was 14 after being with my boyfriend for only 2 months (I know some girls wait a year or so). I'm very happy that I did, I'm still with the person that I lost it to and it's been a year and a half. It's a good way to make your relationship closer but only if you're ready. Personally, I only regret telling my friends that I had sex with him. My friends have loud mouths and one of them actually told my mom. If you're thinking about it, make sure that you have a comfortable relationship. I'm glad I lost my virginity but every girl is different. :]
THere is a trend out there I guess its spelled emo. Anyways my son has been talking about it for two years but never really acted on it. Two days ago he started dressing im all black and yesterday he puts on eyeliner. I love my son very much, he has always MARCHED TO HIS OWN DRUM AND IVE ALWAYS SUPPORTED HIM. HE IS MOSTLY ANTISOCIAL AND LOVES MUSIC AND THE COMPUTER...HIS NEW FOUND LOVE IS THE CURE. I JUST WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT BEING EMO. NOT TO DOWN HIM BUT TO SUPPORT HIM.....PLEASE HELP
Alright, in my opinion emo is just another stupid stereotype. Emo is short for emotional, usually people labled emo are depressed and have a negative outlook on life. Most people say that being emo means you get depressed and cut yourself, but in reality, people who are emo, are afraid of pain. Make sure your son isn't self mutalating. Based on his age, I think it's just a phase and it will soon pass.
ok so this guy that ive known for years just asked me out. were best friends, and i know i kinda like him, and he likes me. i just dont want a relationship to ruin our friendship. what can i do?
I've been through this same exact thing. A couple years ago my best friend asked me out, and I said yes. I dated him, and we had a pretty bad break up and didn't talk for about 8 months. We ended up talking, and becomming really good friends again and we even almost got back together. Anyway, in my experience, even though we broke up, I'm glad that I dated him, we have a really strong relationship now. So if you think that you could handle maybe not being that great of friends for a little while, I would say go for it. The best relationships you can have are with your best friend, and that's when most relationships work. But I wouldn't date him if you only "kinda" like him. Evaluate your friendship and think about what you might have in a relationship with him and make a decision based on that.
Hope I helped and let me know what you decided. :]
I was wondering how birth controls works.. is it important to take the pill before you have sex or the next day? And also how long does it take to become affective once you begin taking birth control?
It is important to take the pill EVERY SINGLE DAY in order for it to be fully affective, not just around the day you had sex. When and if you get put on birth control, you will get information with it and it will tell you a lot about what to do if you miss pills, and side effects. The birth control that I'm on said that it would only take a week before it is fully affective. And when used correctly, it's 99% effective (more effective than any other form on non-surgical contraception). Birth control prevents the release of the egg (ovulation) and change the womb and cervical mucus, making it more difficult for fertilization, or for the fertilized egg to attach to the walls of the womb (implantation). So, if you're sexually active and you don't want to get pregnant, I highly recommend you getting put on birth control. :]
I'm Christian and when i masturbate i feel like I'm sinning from what I've seen on here (people on here say it is) Christians aren't allowed to. is that true. also I'm presbyterian not catholic so i don't have confessionals to confess if it is.. so if it is how can i un-sin lol.
lmao. Alright well, my mom gave me a book when I turned 13 called "What I Wish Someone Told Me About Sex When I was 13" I wanted to smack her for giving it to me because I felt so retarded. But, I ended up reading it when I got bored enough. It was all about what the bible said about sex and such and there was a section about masterbation and it basically said that masterbation isn't mentioned in the bible and that there isn't really anything wrong with it.
So, no, you are not sinning. :]
15/f
okay first of all i want to go on birth control because my period is rediculous. i know im only 15 but it can last for up to 9 days and i get really heavy clots so i want birth control to lighten it up. i dont know how to ask my mom for it because she thinks im sexually active even though im a virgin. she doesn't believe me when i tell her im a virgin.
okay so i dont know how to ask her and i've never been to a gynocologist and i really dont look forward to going.
is there any sort of pelvic exam needed to get birth control?
also i heard a rumor that it can make your boobs bigger, is that true? because if it was that would be a nice added bonus
I had this same exact problem. I'm 15, and I also have horrible periods, and my mom thinks I'm sexually active, but the difference is, I am. lol. Anyways, my mom finally suggested birth control after a while because I was missing school. So maybe talk to her about it, and tell her that your periods are horrible, don't just come out and ask for birth control. Also, maybe talk to your nurse about it. She's the one that actually subscribed me birth control. Sometimes schools have a school based health center, if your school does, talk to your nurse about getting into it and later on asking about birth control. They can give it to you in such a way your parents won't find out about it. Also, you can visit a clinic of somesort. There is an exam you have to get, annoying. But it's not that bad. Also, one of the side effects is that it may increase your boob size, but it doesn't always.
Hope I helped and goodluck :]
hi im to embarrassed to moan during sex and i feel like im bad at it?
what do i do to overcome this fear?
19/f
Honestly, I don't think there is a way to be "bad" at moaning. It doesn't really matter what you sound like, everyone sounds different. The point of it is, is to let who ever your having sex with know that it feels really good. Men love when a girl moans because it makes him feel like he accomplished something, and proud of himself. So, don't sweat it. :]
Last night I gave my boyfriend head,
and today I have a really bad sore throat.
I swallowed, and it was my first time as
well as his. Is my sore throat a result of that?
Or is it just something else?
I had this same exact thing happen to me.
But it turned out that I had strep throat.
I doubt it has anything to do with it, it's just a coincidence. So, don't worry about it. :]