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its a new year it's a new me?
14/f
k well all the years before i was completely shy at school around guys and now that's it's freshman year i want to be more out goin but i don't know how. i mean i'm not sure how to make friends unless i'm introduced. i also want guys to start noticeing me more. can you help me please on what to do.
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To make new friends, don`t wait for them to introduce themsleves to you, if you want friends it might be better to take the first step and just tell them your name. So many people are shy around people they barely know, but if you want to be more outgoing, then just forget about what people will think about you. Just try thinking about having fun, if you want to get to know someone just ask them any random questions. Last year I was seated next to this guy I barely new but by the end of the year we were talking everyday, because I would just ask him random questions, He thought it was pretty funny. Just ask somehting liek "What do you want to be when you`re older?" Or "Do you have a job?" Anything that comes to your mind, they might laugh because it`s so random, but trust me it could get you alot of friends! So most importantly DONT get caught up with what people think about you!
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I suggest just talking to people, introducing yourself. If you're shy it may take you some getting used to though. But seriously, it works. My freshman year I felt the same way, I wanted to meet new people, so in my activity I randomly introduced myself to the guy next to me and now I'm dating him and have been for almost 2 years. Sure, you might be afraid of getting blown off or whatever but honestly, the people who blow people off that come up and introduce themselves, are just intimidated by them because their openess. Try it out. :] Hope I helped.
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Guys and Girls love it when they see someone who is really confident. Now, since school is starting... a lot of people are shy because they don't know anyone, maybe it's a new school for them, etc. But you are not going to be like that. On the first day of school, be confident. If the teachers asks someone to help with something, you be the first one to do it. Another thing people like about people, is that they are nice. If you see someone getting pushed around by someone, go and seperate them. Just be nice to people. I know it's hard... but first start off with girls. If you see someone that you would like to be friends with, go up to them and just start talking to them. it might be kind of intimidating, but a lot of the times.. the words come out naturally. Or you can just be like " Hi, my name is ___ what's yours?" Then look at what they are carrying/wearing/looking at etc. and talk to them about their intrests. for ex. If you see her looking at a poster about gymnastics, then you ask her... you like gymnastics?? and that's all it takes, then the converstation will just flow.
Sometimes, you need to let the chips fall where they are supposed to be placed. You know what I mean? Go with the flow...
as for guys, be confident, be nice, be flirty, be funny. Not a lot of guys like girls who are overly serious and always focus on school. Its the beginning of school, just have fun and don't stress out a lot. To be flirty, if you see a guy you like, go and sit by him/stand by him. If you are distant away from him... he won't see you. Most likely on the first week of school, you are communicating and getting to know your classmates, so this is a perfect opportunity.
I wish you the best of luck, oh and another thing-
apparal says it all! If you dress in a baggy sweatshirt with sweatpants, people will see you as a bum and lazy. but if you dress in a good appparal, like jeans, and cool top with some cute accesories like earrings and necklaces... then people will see you as creative and a good person.
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