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best friends and relationships
ok so this guy that ive known for years just asked me out. were best friends, and i know i kinda like him, and he likes me. i just dont want a relationship to ruin our friendship. what can i do?
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If you choose to date him, enjoy it. Work on the relationship. Communicate to each other.
If you choose not to date him, never, ever, ever let him know that you are in any way attracted to him. Cut him off cleanly and firmly.
Liking a girl and her just wanting to be friends is torture. If you let him know you kind of like him too hes either going to try so hard to get you that he drives you away, or simply leave because it hurts himself.
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I've been through this same exact thing. A couple years ago my best friend asked me out, and I said yes. I dated him, and we had a pretty bad break up and didn't talk for about 8 months. We ended up talking, and becomming really good friends again and we even almost got back together. Anyway, in my experience, even though we broke up, I'm glad that I dated him, we have a really strong relationship now. So if you think that you could handle maybe not being that great of friends for a little while, I would say go for it. The best relationships you can have are with your best friend, and that's when most relationships work. But I wouldn't date him if you only "kinda" like him. Evaluate your friendship and think about what you might have in a relationship with him and make a decision based on that.
Hope I helped and let me know what you decided. :]
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Just straight up tell him that you don't want to be anymore than friends because you have such a strong friendship.
Or you can try it out and be in a relationship.Maybe it will make both of you realize your better off as friends. If it goes further than that just take the risk. you only live once.
Jess<3
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The first step is to tell him exactly what you just told us. Then the next step is the two of you discussing the pros and cons of starting up a relationship. If the pros outweigh the cons, proceed with caution. If the cons outweigh the pros, don't risk it. If you can successfully start a relationship without compromising your friendship, it could lead to something very special.
Just make sure you think it through before you pursue it. A relationship that might not work out may not be worth the risk of losing your friendship with him. If you decide not to pursue things, don't worry about your feelings for him. Many people are attracted to their friends. It's perfectly normal for friends of the opposite sex to be attracted to each other, flirt, etc.
Don't think that just because there's an attraction there that you have to act on it.
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sounds like you had the same problem i did if i were you i would say i wanna date and stuff but if things dont turn out right i dont want it to ruin our friendship and see what he thinks and if he assures you that it wont ruin your frienship than by all means get together and see how it works hope this helped,y-vet
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Tell him that. If you're not sure of how things will work out, then tell him.
I'm sure he'll understand your decision, but you should try it out anyways because you never know what he's like as a boyfriend until you date him.
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this happened to me before. i dated my best guy friend and then he broke up with me. i was devastated but i eventually got over it. him and i are still bestfriends til this day. but before you go out with him make sure you let him know that no matter what happens you two can always be friends. hope i helped :)
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