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Your Opinion
I would like to hear some opinions on 14, 15 and 16 year olds having sex. I personally find it heartbreaking when I read these questions from these young people asking about sex and if they are doing it right. They don't even know about the other consquences BESIDES pregnancy and HPV, STDs such as STIs and emoional consequences.
I am only 20, so it wasn't long ago I was this age, and I find this to be ridiculous! What happened to true love? Or waiting until marrige? It seems to me these girls just want to be popular with the boys and the guys want to be popular among boys. Is it just me? Am I crazy?
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I am 14 and I have had sex.
Im probably gonna sound really slutty but I dont regret it yet.
I lost my virginity to a guy that was 18 and that I didnt know for a very long time...
(Probably a some months or so..)
Well I wasnt going out with him and when I had sex I still wasnt dating him. Ive had sex with him multiple times and I never wanted to believe that he was using me. I do now know that he was... I dont regret it because it changed my life ethier for better or worse I dont know. I did not have sex to be popular though. I feel that I had sex because I wanted it.
Teenagers are well informed about sex.
And before I was gonna have sex I did alot of research on it. There are people in my grade that have also had sex and I believe they know about STDs and Pregnancy also.
Yes, some people are not as responsible and have sex when they are drunk (I have also done that) and they will regret it... Just dont judge all the younger teenagers about them having sex. It is their decision.
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Well. I'm 16 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 14. Most people our age know a lot more about the consequences of sexual behavior than people older than us because a lot of us have to take classes on it. Personally, I had to take "Project Know," that taught me a lot about the consequences, and I also learned a lot about the consequences in my health class that I took my freshman year of high school. I agree with you though, some younger people are ignorant about it and it is sad to see some of the questions on here such as asking if they're doing it right. I don't think age has anything to do with if you're ready to have sex or not, like I said, I lost my virginity when I was 14. When I tell people that, they're shocked, and I can understand why, but I've always been ahead of others on a maturity level. I don't have any regrets at all about losing my virginity when I did, and after 2 years, I'm still with the same guy and I've only had sex with him. I can honestly say that I made sure that I loved him and wanted him to be my first, and we talked about it a few times, and it happened. I'm not the type of girl to go have sex with a guy just to make me popular because that's just horrible. And no, it's not just you, and you're not crazy, a lot of people think it's rediculous, and I agree to an extent, but I can respect people who think it through and are mature enough to have sex, even if they are 14, 15, or 16 years old.
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Sometimes the kids that have sex are drunk or high. They dont really know what there doing but once there first time is over then its easier for them to have sex. They aren't as nervous so they have sex more.
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Hi,
I absolutely agree sex at such a young age is not such a good idea, you should wait until you are in a stable relationship and ready, and possibly married. And i absolutely agree on your idea of pregnancy at such a young age when you have your whole life ahead of you, and plenty of time, and the STI's.
Mandy
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Yeah, from reading the questions here, you get the impression that every 14 year old is having sex. But I know tons of girls and guys this age, and hardly any of them are having sex. I think what we're seeing here is the minority... and they come here to ask for advice because they have no where else to turn. In all likelihood, their parents aren't very involved or available. If they were, they probably wouldn't be having sex!
Now, I'm not stupid... I know that even teenagers with the strictest, most involved parents will find a way to have sex if they really want to. But when parents aren't around, and there's little supervision, it's a lot easier to get in a situation where sex is a possibilty.
Of the girls who ARE having sex, I think you're right about the reasons, at least paritally. It's not necessarily to be popular, but to be "loved" by the guy they like. A lot of these girls probably don't have much self esteem... they don't believe a guy will like them for who they are, so they think the only way to get or keep a boyfriend is to have sex with him.
But I have to disagree with the person who said that young teenagers are just imitating adults and don't understand sex. The truth is, most girls are sexually mature by age 14. And it wasn't that long ago that girls were getting married at 16, 15 and even 14! Of course, that was a different world... life was tougher and people grew up a lot faster, and those girls were perfectly capable of handling the responsibilities of being a wife and mother.
These days, childhood lasts a lot longer. We aren't treated like adults, or expected to act like adults, until we're in our 20s or out of college. So we mature much later than our ancestors did. But that doesn't change the fact that our bodies are ready for sex in middle school.
So it's not surprising that, given the opportunity and the motivation, some kids are having sex at 14... especially if they don't have much guidance or supervision to prevent it.
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I think that its terrible.
Honest answer.
16... the jury is still out, but generally people that age are developed enough as people to begin to understand the emotions behind sex and begin to be old enough to understand the impacts it can have on your life.
15, 14, 13, 12, some of the ages we see on here...
Children do not understand sex. They dont have enough life experience to get its purpose with couples.
They are imitating adult behavior because they know that adults enjoy it and it makes them think they are more grown up. Kids take risks that they cant really comprehend...
A 13 year old doesnt understand the concept of "screwing up the next 18 years of my life". They havent even been alive 18 years.
Its just a terrible idea. Kids are screwing up their perceptions of sex at points in their lives when they are too young to understand the damage theyre doing. A 13 year old girl who has a boyfriend and a threesome with another girl is going to have skewed views on sex for the rest of her life.
If you start doing things before you are capable of understanding them it stunts your growth.
Same thing with kids and drugs. I have pretty liberal views of drugs, but 15 year old kids developing habits... you have to learn to function as a normal person without an addiction before you can function with something that takes that risk. Alcohol and cigarettes fall into that category. My last girlfriend had been smoking for 11 years compared to my 4. She was 21.
Smoking at 10? What the fuck. Now she cannot do without a cigarette. She never learned to control that. Shes going to battle that the rest of her life.
And yeah, kids are trading sex for popularity.
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I personally don't like it (seeing those kinds of questions so young). Does Advicenators have any kind of blocks to stop children reading others' explicit questions and answers?
I have to disagree a little with the previous answer from the 16 year old. I think that sex education goes WAY too far at an early age, at least from my experience in *cough* primary school (about 10 or 11 years old). Sex-Ed seems just blatantly WRONG before most of the kids in that school would have ever even wondered what sex was. So even if there is education, I don't think that it really makes sense until later.
In response to your talking about true love, and marriage;
There are a few things going on here. The concept of love has changed, been distorted, popularised, or corrupted if you will. Lots of advertising, and general commercialisation of "sexy" culture will get to anyone, and those best at learning are children.
Child sexualisation is becoming more socially acceptable, because (well, I don't really know why. Because it makes rich people richer, and they're the ones with influence maybe). The best anyone can do is try to look out for their own children. That is, supposing they are not the parents who think child sexualisation is good.
Apart from that, the other thing is views on Marriage. In Australia at least, christianity seems to be losing its edge. Personal views are what affect marriage, and lately it seems people have been becoming much more secular. There are a million different ways I could go on to discuss this, but I'll just ask the rhetorical question; What makes sex after marriage different from before? Is it not wrong, or a sin, because of the technicality of marriage? (blah blah blah about religion and God, and human rituals and sinning, etc.)
I guess the bottom line is that underage sex happens because of what young people are exposed to, and what they feel. One can't do much about it except try to combat the culture shift and commerciality which continues to wind back the age of innocence.
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I'm 16 and I started having sex when I had just turned 15 I understand where you are coming from but kids are actually really educated about all the things if you're ready to have sex then you're ready to deal with the consequences. I have never been emotionally hurt about it I mean the first guy I had sex with I had been with for a long time and I'm happy I did it. It doesn't bother me at all and I'm not a slut or anything like that. Being popular has nothing to do with it guys who here that girls are sleeping around with a bunch of guys don't want anything to do with a dirty girl. I don't think you should judge us or anyone for what they do, everyone has their opinions and they have a right to do whatever they want to. If something happens then that's their fault, no one else's
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