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We have arranged groups and unfortunately, I was paired up with one of my friends. I know you might be thinking, "UNFORTUNATELY?!" but out of all my friends and including myself, there's only 3 of us that actually try in school.
My friend even told me herself that she doesn't' care as long as she passes but I want to work in the medical field, which means I need super high marks if i want to fulfill my dream of healing people.
I want her to work and I can already tell that I'm going to get mad at her eventually and snap at her, ruining our friendship. How do I convince her to stop fooling around and just TRY without ruining our friendship?
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How do I stop cutting myself. People say to hold ice but that doesn't work. I see a srink but nothing seems to be working. I just want to stop feeling so worthless. I want to feel good in my on skin... with out hurting myself. But it seems like that is the only way. What now???
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I need to know how to ask this guy out that I really like. The only problem is that he is moving in a couple months. HELP!!!
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15/f okay so i was going out w/ matt for 4 months and during those 4 months we never hung out. only twice... we only hooked up once.. sad i know but he was never allowed out because of his grades. so around like new years my bffs \"bf\" like would have all these parties and so matt was never there because he wasnt allowed to go. so i started to get close to this kid tyler.. like really close.. like we never did anything but we would always be all over eachother and i know its so wrong but i guess i was just like doing that because i could never have that feeling w/ matt. i dont know then i started questioning my relationship w/ matt but then i came to the conclusion thatllike it was just a stupid mistake and that i wasnt thinking clearly about the whole tyler thing. so idk like a week or two later i was starting to get like fed up w/ matt so i broke up w/ him because it was starting to become such a dissappointment to be w/ him because he could never hang out and we basically only saw eachother in school and every weekend hed be like oh yeah i can deff hang out and then he wouldnt be able to so i told him that nd i broke up w/ him. now ever since new years tylers been telling me he loves me and stuff and hes never felt this way about anyone before. and i talked things out w/ matt and i told him i might give him another chance if we could actually have like a steady relationship like a couple should and then he stole this note from my friend and it said all this shit about how matt could be really immature sometimes and that tyler would probably be the better guy. and idk i told matt everything that happened w/ tyler. but at the end of the note i said that i think tyler would be the better guy and stuff like more comfortable to be around? i guess? i dont know but i feel like i didnt give matt the chance because we never hung out. now the weekends coming and im suppsoed to be hanging out w/ both of thme and this is basically going to decide which one id rather be w/ ... if any of them that is. and i have no idea what im going to do. i tried talking to my friends about it but they just keep telling me the same things and i just need someone elses opinion.. thanks.
sry this is so long.
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Ok so...I have read a lot of other women's stories about crazy exs and such, and I have to admit that mine is not nearly as intense. Nonetheless, I need advice as to what to do. Here is the story: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. We are both twenty. He is wonderful and very kind. After we had been dating for about a month some girl tried to friend me on myspace. I friended her seeing that she was his friend and I was trying to meet most of them. She sent me a message saying that he and his ex were "doing things" about a week after I had been down to visit him (we're in a long distance relationship). I didn't confront him about it as i have never had a reason to distrust him. A few weeks after that another 'friend' of his said something. He found out about it and told me there was noting to worry about. needless to say, many different girls (or maybe the same one under different accounts) have told me that he has cheated on me with his ex and other girls (his ex even contacted me and told me this). I don't ask much about his previous relationships but i know that the ex that seems to be the center of this was his girlfriend for about a year in highschool and they broke up 'mutually'. I have never been givin a reason to distrust my boyfriend. He is always telling me where he is going and is always available when I call. I know I should just trust him, but I don't want to be the girl who is so in love she is blind. I know this was long, but I would appriciate any help. Thank you so much.
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Alright. Soo, I don't shave "down there" or anything.
If a guy was to finger me, would he be be turned off? Like, would he think it's gross, or freak out, or be totally repulsed or something?
I'm not saying a guy is going to do that to me. I am only curious.
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15/f
well, for starters i'm in 10th grade and this kid 'cody' is in 12th. right at the beginning of my freshman year i began talkin to him and we ended up becoming really good friends. we're so alike, we have the same favorite color, same music taste, even our names are 2 letters apart. we get along really well and everything like that.
theres only one problem, hes had the same girlfriend for about 2 years, 'brooke'. brooke i guess felt threatened last school year because she used to send me stupid messages on myspace like 'stupid ugly freshman, stay away from my boyfriend.' and threatened to kick my ass (which she got to scared to do in the end :D) but this was waaay before we even knew we liked eachother.
well, at the end of freshman year he stopped talking to me and i had NO idea why. i passed his house and i couldnt take it anymore. i texted him and said 'look cody, i dont know why you dont talk to me anymore and it really hurts. ive liked you all this time and its killin me.' and we ended up tellin eachother about our love for eachother.
he broke up with brooke, and around the same time i got in trouble with drugs and was grounded for the summer so i couldnt hang out with him. i told him to wait for me until i was off groundin and that i wanted to be his girlfriend. he said he'd wait. but then, of course, he starts going out with brooke again and i was purely crushed.
now, he sits with me at lunch sometimes and he ended up telling me he still had strong feelings for me. now my hearts hurting again because i want him so much but brooke will always have his heart and i cant trust him because of it.
its been two years now that we've liked eachother and we're still in this shitty situation
i dont know what to do :(
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boy i like is a man whore. [this might be long]
thing is i've dealt with man whores before so "i know" how they work if you will.. haha. anyways he messaged me on myspace and now we text eachother everyday. he asked to hang out a couple of times but i told him i dont hang out with man whores. my friends have hooked up with him before as well. i didnt like him at first but the more we talked the more i liked him.. i just dont want to hang out with him because then i would just be another girl he hooked up with. i mean i could try and restrain myself but come on now, if you like a boy usually some kiss happens. usually we have really good conversations about like how the worlds corrupt and stuff.. but today we were texting and i suppose i ended the conversation with nothing him to reply back to.. but dont you think if he actually liked me he would text back trying to bring up a new conversation? any thoughts would be welcomed, thanks & sorry this was so long.
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Okay so heres the deal, im 17, female, and my boyfriend of 5 months is 18. I'm a virgin and he's not. I get so happy when we're togeher, and I mean happy, like I have mini orgasms and I get very wet. He makes my stomach lurch so much, like butterflies. He said that he would wait for me until I was 18 but he doesn't know if he can wait much longer then that. We don't see eachother much, it's a long distance relationship, and I actually haven't seen him since November. We talk about sex all the time, mostly teasing eachother. I wanna do it so bad, but I'm so self-concious, he doesn't know that though. Like I said, we don't see eachother much and when we do, its like heaven. Last time I saw him, we made out for 7 hours straight and I let him finger me and he always feels me up and he love to suck on my boobs. I've felt him up(down & inside) and he's so big! My bestfriend keeps telling me I should do it and I want to do it.
I guess the question is, after all that, why should I be embarassed about my body and should I just do it?
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I've had a lot of boyfriends and I hate it because first of all, I always end up going out with a guy only a little while after I met him, so our entire relationship is based off of a couple jokes we both happened to experience in the same room :/ and I'm not a very good conversation person, so I'm not very good at thinking of how to talk about certain things. And now that I've been thinking about it, anytime I get a boyfriend, I always find some lame excuse to avoid him. Like, he'll ask me to hang out over the weekend and I'll "have to go to my sister's piano recital". I mean, I usually like hanging out with people, but only when I'm actually hanging out with them. Before we hang out, I'm always freaking out about being in an awkward social situation. So, all of this means I can't keep a guy. All these guys ask me out too quick and I can't bring myself to say no to them... I'm not good at rejecting people. I've thought about it, and I don't think I've ever meant it when I told them "I love you too". I just say it because they say it first and I don't want to hurt them, expecially if we're going out already. I mean, there's this one boy who I dated last year (longest relationship was him-6 months)and I just ended it by randomly breaking up with him and it crushed him, but I moved on really quickly. But now I find myself constantly thinking about him because he was the only guy I didn't have to pretend to be anything around and he really loved me. So I don't know if I love him or not? Also, I've broken up with many guys but anytime they breakup with me, I just move on. It's like I don't really care :( I hate this, I WANT a real relationship but I just keep screwing everything up :( what's wrong with me?
Also, sorry this is so scatter-brained... I can't put my thoughts straight... Thanks!
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I am 13 and female. I am sick of this crap but I couldn't be more crazy about this boy... Is that possible?? This boy (I'll call him Ryan) has pretty much taken over my brain. I feel like I'm thinking about him 24/7 but our relationship is so complicated, I will try my best to explain it. I have liked him for about a year but I only REALLY got to know him over the summer, we would talk constantly online or because we hung out with the same ppl, see eachother regularly. He started off by just being a friend I could just talk to... I dont know but I really opened up to him and I learned so much about him, his favorite animal, color, food and his biggest fear. When school started it felt like the only reason to go was to see him ( and my friends of course but I've never felt that way about a boy ). I sometimes sat with him at lunch and we still talked online as much as usual, which was A LOT.
I guess school starting made things complicated. People started teasing ( mainly Ryan's friends ) saying things like "the couple that isn't dating". And Ryan started ignoring me which hurt... Badly... Was I not worth the teasing? I confronted him about it, I asked why he kept ignoring me, and his answer kind of confusing. He said that he was only trying to get his friends off his back but he claimed he didn't care anymore. Then he told me that he liked me alot but he really just didn't want a girlfriend at the moment. Anyway after that, for a very long time, things were fine but now its just wierd and I have no idea why or if anythings changed at all... I could just be being paranoid... He signs on online but when I say something to him he won't respond... He isn't blocking me but he's just not responding... But of course this on a computer so its impossible to know if he's just sitting there deliberately ignoring me ( for whatever reason, I would have no idea ) or if he's not sitting near the computer at all... I just don't know!! And at school whenever I'm around him things seem awkward... I really can't explain it, what I can explain is that its really hurting me. It just hurts when we don't talk, and even though he isn't my boyfriend I still feel like he has a commitment to me as a friend. I haven't had a decent conversation with him in about a week, I really miss talking to him but I don't know what to do... When I have the time to be online, he isn't, andat school we can't talk for more than a moment because there are interuptions from other people or we have to go to class, it feels like the universe really wants to make sure we don't talk at school, haha, I don't know. it hurts so much. Sometimes I feel like it isn't worth this pain, but its painful when we DONT talk (is that healthy?) so I dont want to know what it will feel like if I have to move on... My friends tell me I'm too good for him and that I should like someone who isn't so darn confusing, who will never ignore me, and who will always try to talk to me. And other times they tell me they think we are the most adorable pair ever and that he difinitely goes out of his way to be sweet and give me attention. But I can't control who I like!! And I really like him. He really understands me, he makes me feel special, and sometimes I can't see how I could go through a day without him... Then there are times when the pain just makes me want to give up on him... I dont know if I can or if I should or what. I am so sorry this is so long but I really need an outsiders view. Please help! Boys opinions would be great too!
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me and my boyfriend recently had rather mind blowing sex. After having sex for about a year now (we have been together for two) we are always very sensible. I was on the pill for a short time until it did crazy things with my periods, and then I went off it.
However, I have never achieved orgasm with him. Maybe this is because he is my first and we dont have time to practice - or a free house!
So its two questions. One leads on to the other.
a) Last night it felt the best ever - I had so much tension in me, but I don't know if I orgasmed. It felt like I was on the brink and then it didnt, and then it did, and cor, that suggests to me that I didnt - Ive never had one before so I don't know what it feels like! So, how do you know? What does it feel like?
b) After we did the deed and he pulled out, there was something that was very wet and sticky EVERYWHERE. the top of the condom was full and although the condom had pulled up a bit at the bottom and i know it could leak out, they fit well normally and i was under the impression it was unlikely.
Problem is, I've never been so wet it got on the bed and on all over him.
So do you think I should get the morning after pill? Should I consider that I may have 'come'? Or should I think that I was rather more extraordinarily wet than normal?
Yours, confused and worried. :)
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So I think my boyfriend is making me depressed becuase we never really hangout much anymore, and he's all "unsatisfied" and He's making me really depressed, and sometimes its scary because I feel like my throat is closing or something its liek ar eally weird feeling. I don't know what to do, I kind of want to break up, I hate feeling this way. Help!
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okay i'm on the pill and i normally take my pill within the same hour everyday since i'm supposed to take it around the same time everyday. my friend told me that i have to take it at the same time within like 2 minutes everday. if i take it within the same hour is that bad?
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Alright, I'm female and turning fourteen, and I'd like to get a job.
Of course, I'll try to get in at Publix, but, Publix is extremely hard job to get.
The bowling alleys won't hire me. I don't live near any amusment parks...
And, yes, I do baby sit, and other 'jobs' but, I'm looking for a real job.
Also, I've heard a few people say: You can work at a fast food place.
But, every time I go to the website (Not just a website in my state, the website for ALL the reasturants) it says 'no one under the age of 16'
I live in Florida, so keep that in mind, and thank you very much. :)
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This is going to be a very odd question, hard to answer, and it technically has nothing to with "Spirituality" other than that I would appreciate some answers from a christian point of view. What excatly am I being taught here? All advice is welcome, though.
Well, I've always been low in confidence, but it's the past week that it's gotten extreme, I've literatly spent hours crying for beauty, praying for it, and envying those who have it. All my diary entries have been about it - and how life is without it. Today I woke up, and while looking at my reflection said "Please, make me feel beautyful today".
I went out on the town and was introduced to a french guy (a friend of a friend) who paused in the middle of a conversation at dinner, looked me in the eyes and randomly said "It's a blessing" it was weird, and I didnt know what he was talking about,, until he said "..you're eyes, you look like a princess" I said "thank you!that's so sweet" and that was it.
On my way home from the dinner.. Literally 30 seconds after I said bye to them, and stepped out of the restaurant.. an old-ish man comes up to me and said "please, miss, wait".. I thought he would ask for directions or something so I stopped. And he said "you have amazing eyes, so sweet, so pretty, where are you from?" (I've been dying for attention, to feel beautiful again.. to get stopped in the street like I did a few years ago.. so I was happy, and not creeped out at all) I said "aww thanks!" and gave a friendly smile. He asked me if I wanted to go get a drink somewhere, and that's when I got scared - "no thank you, I'm just 17 years old.." he pressured me a bit, so I started walking and he said "No, dont be scared, I promise I'm a good man, do you have pierced ears?" then he brought out earrings and almost forced me to accept them as a gift (they're still in my jacket) we talked for about 5 more minutes until I got really creeped out and made an excuse and ran. 2 minutes later I recieve a voicemail (I did not give this man my phone number!) BUT yet, it was from him. It had to had been. It was the conversation we had just had RECORDED somehow and sent to my phone, I ran as I cried, and now I got home just 20 minutes ago.
It was scary, might not sound like it, but I'm really really scared. I can not tell my parents, jut this morning they told me not to go out, and I said "you're so freaking scared of everything, how can you live life like that??" I will never be allowed out again. I already have to be home at 6 pm, and cant go out unless they've talked to the firned, know her parents and are assured there wont be any guys, if I tell them.. my very vague definiteion of a social life will be over.
So what is this? Someone's trying to tell me that its good that I'm not beautiful cause when I am creepy men come up to me? That I should appreciate not being pretty cause it might lead to rape someday? That I should never go out ever (this is the first time I've been out in forever, it was in broad day-light for gosh sakes!) why me? howcome others can be pretty and go out, and the once I do it.. this happens?
I DONT UNDERSTAND ANYTHING, can you please help me understand what's going on here? Is it all just coincedences??
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i know this guy adam and hes absolutly gorgeous! but hes a jock, and im just one of those people that is like bff's with everyone you know? but hes the kind of jock that will only like girls who are blond, and i have pitch black hair! and he likes cheerleaders and he talkes to me sometimes, but thats only if i go and talk to someone who is near him you know? and he just talks to me about random stuff like " whats on your phone" i know he dosent like me cause hes always flirting with this other girl. but today, i saw him looking at my a couple times, but he may have just been looking at something behind me or something else close to me.
i dont even know what im asking lol. im so sorry. i just dont know what to do about this, cause i really like him. but i need to know how to get him to notice me more, and how to get him to like me a little bit.
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im thinking about getting my boyfriend an ipod for christmas...what do you think?
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what age do females stop developing at??and if you r a late bloomer what age do girls stop developing at?
thanks:)
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I was at a bar with my bf the other day. Suddenly in walks in this Britney Spears look-a-like wearing a really low cut top with her tattoo showing on her boobs. She sits on our table with her friends (we were on one of those really, really long tables with a bunch joined together) As soon as she sat down, my bf started staring at her. I ignored it at first, I mean, she was striking and you would notice her. But then 10-15 minutes later he was still staring at her, and when I looked at the girl she gave me an uncomfortable look and then said something to her friends who looked our way and looked angrily at us. Then some guy said "Quit it, mate." I've never been so embarassed in my entire life. I asked him why he was staring at her and he said she looks like one of the Suicide Girls (it's a goth/punk erotica site) and he recognised her by her tattoo. I got up and walked out of the bar, because I felt really uncomfortable (as did the girl, I could tell)
We've fought since then. He said he is sorry and feels like a pervert for objectifying a woman like that AND for staring at another girl when with me. I'm not unreasonable in that I get mad when he looks at other girls, but he went WAY too far. Right now we're kinda on the verge of breaking up. I can't believe he would do this. Should I take him back and give him another chance? I'm so hurt and angry and feel like I'm not good enough for him. Some people say I'm being too harsh, am I? I can't believe he'd do this to me.
thanks - 19/f
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