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Is he worth all this??
I am 13 and female. I am sick of this crap but I couldn't be more crazy about this boy... Is that possible?? This boy (I'll call him Ryan) has pretty much taken over my brain. I feel like I'm thinking about him 24/7 but our relationship is so complicated, I will try my best to explain it. I have liked him for about a year but I only REALLY got to know him over the summer, we would talk constantly online or because we hung out with the same ppl, see eachother regularly. He started off by just being a friend I could just talk to... I dont know but I really opened up to him and I learned so much about him, his favorite animal, color, food and his biggest fear. When school started it felt like the only reason to go was to see him ( and my friends of course but I've never felt that way about a boy ). I sometimes sat with him at lunch and we still talked online as much as usual, which was A LOT.
I guess school starting made things complicated. People started teasing ( mainly Ryan's friends ) saying things like "the couple that isn't dating". And Ryan started ignoring me which hurt... Badly... Was I not worth the teasing? I confronted him about it, I asked why he kept ignoring me, and his answer kind of confusing. He said that he was only trying to get his friends off his back but he claimed he didn't care anymore. Then he told me that he liked me alot but he really just didn't want a girlfriend at the moment. Anyway after that, for a very long time, things were fine but now its just wierd and I have no idea why or if anythings changed at all... I could just be being paranoid... He signs on online but when I say something to him he won't respond... He isn't blocking me but he's just not responding... But of course this on a computer so its impossible to know if he's just sitting there deliberately ignoring me ( for whatever reason, I would have no idea ) or if he's not sitting near the computer at all... I just don't know!! And at school whenever I'm around him things seem awkward... I really can't explain it, what I can explain is that its really hurting me. It just hurts when we don't talk, and even though he isn't my boyfriend I still feel like he has a commitment to me as a friend. I haven't had a decent conversation with him in about a week, I really miss talking to him but I don't know what to do... When I have the time to be online, he isn't, andat school we can't talk for more than a moment because there are interuptions from other people or we have to go to class, it feels like the universe really wants to make sure we don't talk at school, haha, I don't know. it hurts so much. Sometimes I feel like it isn't worth this pain, but its painful when we DONT talk (is that healthy?) so I dont want to know what it will feel like if I have to move on... My friends tell me I'm too good for him and that I should like someone who isn't so darn confusing, who will never ignore me, and who will always try to talk to me. And other times they tell me they think we are the most adorable pair ever and that he difinitely goes out of his way to be sweet and give me attention. But I can't control who I like!! And I really like him. He really understands me, he makes me feel special, and sometimes I can't see how I could go through a day without him... Then there are times when the pain just makes me want to give up on him... I dont know if I can or if I should or what. I am so sorry this is so long but I really need an outsiders view. Please help! Boys opinions would be great too!
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Well, if you've never felt this way about a guy before he could very well be someone that youre compatible with. you should message him on myspace, that way you can see if he read it or not, and just tell him how you feel. tell him that you understand that he doesnt want a girlfriend, but if he feels the way that you think he does then he should at least tell you. guys will do anythin to get their boys to not tease them. there are a few good ones who will stick up their friends for a girl, but not many. try to talk to him at school more also. face-to-face time is a lot more valuable then online conversatin. maybe you can hang out with him just you to, so there isnt any distraction from his or your friends.
if he doesnt want to do any of that, then you truly deserve someone who will treat your heart better. i know a guy that means the world to you is hard to let go, but you have to think about your health and your emotions before you let a dumb guy take over them.
if you ever need anymore advice feel free to ask me! :)
x sweeethoney
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