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What the heck is wrong with my relationships?
I've had a lot of boyfriends and I hate it because first of all, I always end up going out with a guy only a little while after I met him, so our entire relationship is based off of a couple jokes we both happened to experience in the same room :/ and I'm not a very good conversation person, so I'm not very good at thinking of how to talk about certain things. And now that I've been thinking about it, anytime I get a boyfriend, I always find some lame excuse to avoid him. Like, he'll ask me to hang out over the weekend and I'll "have to go to my sister's piano recital". I mean, I usually like hanging out with people, but only when I'm actually hanging out with them. Before we hang out, I'm always freaking out about being in an awkward social situation. So, all of this means I can't keep a guy. All these guys ask me out too quick and I can't bring myself to say no to them... I'm not good at rejecting people. I've thought about it, and I don't think I've ever meant it when I told them "I love you too". I just say it because they say it first and I don't want to hurt them, expecially if we're going out already. I mean, there's this one boy who I dated last year (longest relationship was him-6 months)and I just ended it by randomly breaking up with him and it crushed him, but I moved on really quickly. But now I find myself constantly thinking about him because he was the only guy I didn't have to pretend to be anything around and he really loved me. So I don't know if I love him or not? Also, I've broken up with many guys but anytime they breakup with me, I just move on. It's like I don't really care :( I hate this, I WANT a real relationship but I just keep screwing everything up :( what's wrong with me?
Also, sorry this is so scatter-brained... I can't put my thoughts straight... Thanks!
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you're exactly like me, whenever i finally get with a guy i like i just have to find some excuse to mess it up. what do you do? dont get into relationships. dont get a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend, wait for someone who you reallllly like that you have to chase and someone you know pretty well.
you have to learn to let people down BEFORE you go out with them or youre just gonna get stuck with a ton of guys that you dont like, ande thats not gonna make you happy.
good luck
x sweeethoney
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Ok so..I know how hard it is to reject people. But I think your problem is that you're rushing into a relationship. You are obviously not confortable with these guys and hence you make excuses to not spend time with them. My suggestion: try being friends with the guy first. I know that seems tacky. But you're not going to be confortable with someone you just meet off the street. Easy way to do this: If someone asks you out just say "sure, but can we keep it casual for now". They might seem a little hurt, but if they were really interested in you in the fist place, they will be excited you accepted. It works, trust me
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