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15/f okay so i was going out w/ matt for 4 months and during those 4 months we never hung out. only twice... we only hooked up once.. sad i know but he was never allowed out because of his grades. so around like new years my bffs \"bf\" like would have all these parties and so matt was never there because he wasnt allowed to go. so i started to get close to this kid tyler.. like really close.. like we never did anything but we would always be all over eachother and i know its so wrong but i guess i was just like doing that because i could never have that feeling w/ matt. i dont know then i started questioning my relationship w/ matt but then i came to the conclusion thatllike it was just a stupid mistake and that i wasnt thinking clearly about the whole tyler thing. so idk like a week or two later i was starting to get like fed up w/ matt so i broke up w/ him because it was starting to become such a dissappointment to be w/ him because he could never hang out and we basically only saw eachother in school and every weekend hed be like oh yeah i can deff hang out and then he wouldnt be able to so i told him that nd i broke up w/ him. now ever since new years tylers been telling me he loves me and stuff and hes never felt this way about anyone before. and i talked things out w/ matt and i told him i might give him another chance if we could actually have like a steady relationship like a couple should and then he stole this note from my friend and it said all this shit about how matt could be really immature sometimes and that tyler would probably be the better guy. and idk i told matt everything that happened w/ tyler. but at the end of the note i said that i think tyler would be the better guy and stuff like more comfortable to be around? i guess? i dont know but i feel like i didnt give matt the chance because we never hung out. now the weekends coming and im suppsoed to be hanging out w/ both of thme and this is basically going to decide which one id rather be w/ ... if any of them that is. and i have no idea what im going to do. i tried talking to my friends about it but they just keep telling me the same things and i just need someone elses opinion.. thanks.
sry this is so long.
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id say go for tyler.
picture it: you're alone at your house one night, and the power goes out. you're feeling alone and scared, so you pick up your cell phone to see if matt could come over. oh, but his parents took away his phone. dammit. oh well. the power will come back on in a few hours, right???
but with tyler, he'd always be there when you need him. you guys can really talk, and you like the feeling of being loved. matt cant give you that nice, secure feeling that tyler can give you.
as humans, we all need love. but like i said, matt wont always be there. either tell him he needs to pick up his grades, or go to tyler. id say right now, give matt ONE MORE CHANCE. date him for 3 days. tell tyler you need to figure a few things out, so you guys should stay friends. if nothing gets better with matt, then go to tyler and tell him your ready for a relationship. :)
i hope you get it all figured out.
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Alright, this is something you need to come to a conclusion to yourself. You need to sit down by yourself and answer this question.
"Which one do I like and Which one do I love?" and really spend the time to think about this.
For instance:
Is Matt really grounded evrey weekend so he claims, are his grades really that bad. And if so why isn't he taking the time to fix them so he can be with you?
and
Is Tyler what I'm really looking for, or is it my instinct of a teenage girl? Is Tyler really intrested in me, or is he intrested in the color of my underwear?
this is going to be a battle between the two, but do not let yourself not make a desicion, indesisiveness is one of the greatest sins in the world I think. You can not have both.
On the otherhand, you are VERY young, and they are really young, so why don't you just let fate take over and go where your heart tells you. Maybe drop those two and find someone else.
The most important thing when it comes to high school is to have fun and don't let drama consume you. Its just high school.
I hope you go down a glorious path and I wish you luck!
~<3 Jelly Belly
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