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Ughhhhhhhhh .
So I think my boyfriend is making me depressed becuase we never really hangout much anymore, and he's all "unsatisfied" and He's making me really depressed, and sometimes its scary because I feel like my throat is closing or something its liek ar eally weird feeling. I don't know what to do, I kind of want to break up, I hate feeling this way. Help!
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Damn! I know that feeling of the throat and it hurts internally too.
First, I want to talk about depression OK: So, bear with me as it is going to be long. In the beginning stages of depression, I have learned that we control the depth of how far or long it goes, so let's gain control of that thing right now! You have identified WHY you are dpressed, you said it's because you and your boyfriend don't hang out anymore. I know that hurts and causes you to blame yourself for it, so I am going to ask that you not to that or stop doing that if you already are.
Now, if he is unsatisfied, that's his problem not your problem so don't internalize this or allow him to have power over your feelings based on his feelings of negativity. Don't digest it. We have to look in the mirror and go toe to toe & face to face with who we are as individuals first before blaming your boyfriend. Alright? Now, He is the one who isn't spending with you by HIS choice,not your choice, right? So, break this down, he doesn't want to hang out with you - so this is one reason to cut it off so that your time is appreciated and worthy with whoever you hang out with, family, other friends, or yourself!
Next, he's unsatisfied: I don't really know what you mean by this, do you mean sexually- if so, cut it off - this comes from not being interested in you anymore which is why he doesn't want to hang out with you anymore. Or if you mean unsatisfied in himself -he could be going through some issues that you don't know about, if this concerns you, TALK to him and find out what the hell his problem is. Tell him how you are feeling and how his distance is affecting you, (if you don't want to break up)If you have already done this and still want to break up, tell him that you are breaking up with him because of his distance and the affect (directly and indirectly) that he is having upon your life. Do not give him or anyone else power over your happiness, this is your call for your life!
The little power that you have given which is causing this feeling in your throat must be taken back! STAND UP, HOLD YOUR HEAD UP AND TELL HIM EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL AND WHAT YOU WANT, period. If you want to be in it, tell him your needs to stay in it, find out his needs to also make him happy and to find out if he wants this, as his actions show differently. If you don't want it tell him to hit the road and keep it moving! Go do something that you like doing and don't think of the situation, or withdrawal once you have addressed it.
You can't keep these feelings locked up on the inside of you, and it is important that you let him know where you stand and what is up with you. Before you handle what's up with you first, you will not be able to close what's up with the both of you which means you will have no closure, or happiness. You have to love yourself and not expect it from him, as you are the one who owes it to yourself. Once you love yourself, you can love others and receive love from others. Okay?
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First of all I think that your throat is closing up because you're either really stressed or you're panicing too much. I don't think that it's really something to worry about though. And about your boyfriend..well I think that you should let him know that not hanging out and he's "unsatisfied" behavior is making you feel this way. Don't worry about what he's going to say or feel..Think about yourself, put yourself first before anyone else. If I were you I would tell him that we never hang out anymore and I don't like it. And if he gives you an unpleasent response let him know that it's now or never. Because you shouldn't let a guy make you feel this way..never. So maybe the best thing to do is break up. Either wait it out a few days and see if he changes or just end it. I hope this helps. Good luck ;]
yours,
Michellemonster <3
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