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Friendship or schoolwork?
We have arranged groups and unfortunately, I was paired up with one of my friends. I know you might be thinking, "UNFORTUNATELY?!" but out of all my friends and including myself, there's only 3 of us that actually try in school.
My friend even told me herself that she doesn't' care as long as she passes but I want to work in the medical field, which means I need super high marks if i want to fulfill my dream of healing people.
I want her to work and I can already tell that I'm going to get mad at her eventually and snap at her, ruining our friendship. How do I convince her to stop fooling around and just TRY without ruining our friendship?
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Sometimes you just need to accept people for the way they are. Yes it sucks at times and this might be one of those times for you.
You won't be able to convince her, but you can let her know that this project is important to you and you hope that she takes it serious.
You might have to accept that if you want a good mark then you have to do the blunt of the work because she doesn't care what kind of mark she gets ... thats the joy of working in groups ...
Why not look at the positive end of it ... you will pretty much be organizing the project - you can give her a few assignments to do .. this is your chance to use your "leadership" skills..
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look this is what youre gonna tell her but nicely
"it isnt gonna be fair if i do all the work all by myself and you just dont care and wont do anything,if youre not gonna take this seriously and youre not intending to,then tell me so i can ask the teacher to get me a different partner.I want to work in the medical feild and getting high marks means alot to me,and as a freind im asking you to please take it seriously"
its not being mean,its being direct and getting to the point.Your future is a very important thing and you should let no obstacles hold you back from acheiving your dreams.
good luck^_^
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first of all does the assignment have anything to do with medicine?? If so you can tell her all the wonderful things you like about it and maybe motivate her to get into it herself. If not, then still let her know how serious you are about getting a good grade and maybe come up with something to help make it seem fun. The thing with group projects is people are still going to have their own opinion and with 2 people that don't have the same goals it can be tough. If you are sure that being her partner will definitely not be a good match for this particular assignment, talk to your teacher and see if either you can go solo or get matched with someone else. In any case good luck!
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