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I don't know if I should have sex with my b/f. He's 17 and I'm 15. Usually guys older pressure you to have sex. I dont think he's trying to harm me in any kind of way. I just feel like that's about all he wants is some sex. I'm not ready for sex. I dont want to lose him. I know if he really cares then i wont lose him. But he's tired of waiting . Help???
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Every guy is tired of waiting. Every guy wants sex. That isnt going to change. Hes going to be horny, so let him be horny and dont worry so much about it.
Its not your responsibility to provide him your virginity because hes tired of playing pocket pool. If you do not feel that you are ready do not compromise on it. I promise you he is not worth the bad memories.
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If he is tired of waiting tell him to go find some other girl to have sex with. It's a good thing you haven't caved. You need to wake up and take notice that this guy only cares about sex and not you.
As hard as it may be to do because of emotional attachment tell him to hit the bricks if he cannot respect your decision. He's not worthy of you let alone sex with you.
As far as not wanting to lose him goes you need to understand that he's one of many guys to come in/out of your life. He's bad news for you and you would be a fool to lose your virginity to him because he would up and leave once he got it.
A mature male will not pressure someone constantly to do what they aren't ready for. Release this whiny immature idiot (and he is one if this is his behavior) and find yourself someone decent, caring, kind who actually gives a damn about you as this guy clearly doesn't.
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First off, I want to commend you for not giving into him. You know you aren't ready, and if you're not ready -- you should never do it. Especially, when it comes to sex. If he can't wait for you, then he isn't worth it. If he doesn't care enough about you and doesn't respect you enough, he definitely isn't worth it. Please, don't give into him and if he gets mad or upset, tell him to hit the road -- you deserve better.
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Wow. No offence but if he's actually told you he's "tierd of waiting" he is just looking for a piece of ass and you shouldn't just give it to him because you're afraid of loosing him. That's how guys like that work, they don't necessarily say "FUCK ME OR I'LL LEAVE YOU" they do shit like that to make you feel that way but not really saying it like that. And no, older guys usually DON'T pressure you for sex. Older guys are just the same as younger guys. The age doesn't matter. If you feel that all he wants is sex, you shouldn't be with him, especially if you're not ready for that. Find a guy who wants you for you and is willing to wait until YOU are ready. It may hurt to hear, but I don't think he cares as much as you think he does. I wouldn't want anybody to feel like they have to have sex with their boyfriend so they don't break up with them. Like I said, find someone who likes you for you, you'll be much happier and less confused. :] Hope I helped.
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Oh wow! when I was reading this question, it was like I wrote it! Im pretty much in the same situation. My boyfriend is 17 and im 15 and he's never asked me to have actual sex with him, but we've done everything else. im personaly not ready for sex and I think he understands. Since he's older, I think it would be a good idea to atleast do other things, like not sex though. but other things to pleasure each other you know? Just dont have sex if you arnt ready!
But I always think to myself : if all he wanted was ass, then he would have went for someone his age or older... get it? lol.
anyways. hope I helpedddd.
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well, if you deffinitley aren't ready, then don't do it. if your boyfriend really loves you then, he'll wait for you, and he wouldn't just leave you because you don't have sex. he has to understand. talk to him, if he feels that he can't wait, then sweetie he isn't worth it. no guy should pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. good luck =].
i hope i helpedd<3
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never have sex unless you feel completely comfortable with the idea. if you feel nervous about it or scared or pressured then you arent ready. a lot of 17 year old guys do only want sex from younger girls so dont give it up to him unless you are ABSOLUTLY ready. anyway if he doesnt want to wait for you then hes not worth your time.
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