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Let me just say ive been through EVERYTHING.
NO joke!
To prove it, let me tell you a little bit about myself.

My best friend turned into the love of my life, got locked up in jail for a year, finally got out, betrayed me and after i took him back, then tried to kill me.

Im an only child whos lived with a 'crazy' mother my whole life. My father was also always out of town on work while I was growing up.

Drama/High School/Popularity:
I ran my high school... and yes, I know drama.

Yes, I know about sex. I wouldnt say everything but im willing to share everything I know.


lastly, friendss. I have a lot. But I also have
plenty of people who HATE me.

Like I said im here, i've been through a lot, and im a wealth of knowledge.

Willing to answer anything && everything or at least try. Inbox Me.
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16/f so i get panic attacks once and awhile and thats fine cause i can deal with those, but lately ive been having this weird thing happen, i have no idea what it is...
so it started off just being at night right before i went to bed but now i get it just at random times. its like a huge panic attack but not.
so to describe it as best i can...its like i start feeling like im not real like i dont really have the same skin and stuff and everything gets different textures and sizes and they keep changing and stuff and than ill start hearing nioses sometimes and ill see things like sometimes i hear yelling and its soo loud and i cant stop it and one time i saw all these people and they kept saying my name and one time a couple was arguing and other times its just different colors flashing or different shades of gray....
and when all this happens i try so hard to get out of it but i cant my body wont let me it just controls me and i know when its going to come i can feel it and i always start crying because i hate it so much its really scary..
so yeah i dont know what it is or what to do so please help! (link)
well what your describing sounds exactly like what used to happen to me at night when i was younger. Always, when i was laying in bed trying to fall asleep because my mind was racing. 10 years and 3 psycs later i found out i have a terrible case of anxiety that was affecting more then my sleeping habits.
What i used to do was tell myself that i am me, this is real life, and I AM in complete control. One of the problems could be that your unsure of yourself (ie: insecure- not to be rude, that was just kinda the case for me) That is why i used to talk myself into a calm state of mind. I was usually really scared though because when i got out of that 'daze' i was always in my dark bedroom and scared of what i couldnt see, which could have triggered the 'panic like daze'. Although with age my daze decreased.

My advice in a nut-shell:
1. call up a coupple therapists/psychs and when the secretary answeres tell it like it is... your 16/f and your not sure if you need to see a dr or not. describe to her what you described online (colors flashing, noises, yelling ect.) and how often it happens/when it occurs. She will tell you if she believes you may need to see someone, and if she says she thinks so i truely believe the best thing to do is book an apt. Sometimes therapists are 'scary, wierd' to people who dont know but i think of them as friends who legally cant blab! (the best kinda friend if you ask me) :D It usually costs around $80+/hour (depending if you have insurance) and you can tell them your only looking for a coupple sessions to end this problem your having. who knows, you might find out theres a simple solution!
2. try what i said about talking yourself into reality. as soon as you feel like that remember where you are, are you on the bed in your bedroom? Is that your mother/father talking downstairs? whatever works for you.

If you need anymore help im just a coupple clicks away!

i HATE alcohol but i love being drunk

is there any way to hide the taste?

chasers like soda and orange juice dont help

besides jello shots is there ANY way to get drunk without the taste of alchol? (link)
I am the ExacT same wayy!
heres my secret... SHOTS! :)
not just any though... the higher the proof (percent) of alcohol the faster you get drunk.
noww... peep this:
I like tequila because i like the drunk it gives me, but ive heard Jack Daniels is supposibly 80 percent (do some research). Anyways when you've picked your drink of choice take a coupple shot (id start off with 2-4 just to be safe) and after, have your favorite non-alcoholic drink on the side that you can chug after every shot along with your favorite gum or something small and tasty like candy that might shock your taste buds back to reality.

to literally "hide" the taste, try frozen drinks!

When waz ur first kiss? (link)
i was sooo young.
Kindergarden: A little boy trapped me in a treehouse at our kindercare and put me up agenst the wall and kissed me :/ i thought it was sicck! and i used to run from him ever since that day!

and thennn
Id say i was around 12-14 years old. I was playing hide and seek with my 3 friends at my house, i was hiding in my garage with my neigbor (guy...same age) when he pulled out a pair of gold rings his dads dad had given him and tat his dad had finally passed down to him. It had his
initals (J.K. the same as his whooolee family!)
on them in dimond flakes. (whoa right... i didnt think twice though, i was young lol) and he told me he really liked me and i said the same. He leaned in and kissed me. I didnt know what to do... other then that one time i told you about above, i had never kissed a boy! i leaned in, shut my eyes and puckered up! it was wet and wierd... but after i knew what to expect it stared not creeping me out!

hey so im 16 , straight, and i still wear whitie tighties. i get made fun of for them alot (depantsing, wedgies). im not very tall and im a little overweight. theyre tommy hilfigure and ive worn that kind since i was little. ive tried wearing boxers but they arent comfortable for me. should i wear boxers even tho they arent comfortable or should i stay with my briefs which are comfortable? i only have one pair. what age should guys start wearing boxers. most of the people in my school started in middle school i think. thanks (link)
tottally agree with trueadvice3! Its all about what you like! Honestly, heres a little fact... we all put our kids in briefs while theyre young, and when men mature and are working at an office (around 30 years old) they usually cant wear boxers under dress pants because they will show.

You saying you only have one pair kinda got me too. i think its time to invest in a coupple pairs. Have your mom buy a 3-pack of briefs and one pair of boxers (walmart?). If you dont like the way boxers feel wear them over your briefs so no one can see when you change in gym because as far as they know your wearing boxers like the others.

Hope i helped.

okay im 15.f.and i have a bestfriend. hes my life. i love him with all my heart. but he is moving soon. and i want a song he can remember me by. nd song from me to him. he makes me happy. never sad. we hang out 24/7 we talk and laugh and normal things so any song ideas? (link)
here without you by 3 doors down

its my best friends ringtone after i moved out of state. :)

I just started being vegan almost two months ago. My boyfriend isn't full vegan yet though but we are considering having sex soon. I am sort-of concerned about condoms not being vegan but feel strongly that we should use condoms. I haven't really taken the time to look for this information but figured some Advicenators might already know:

Are condoms vegan?

If not, where can I buy vegan condoms?

If there is no such place then how can I tell if a condom is cruelty-free? (link)
Well i'd like to start off saying as far as i know of, the definition of a vegan is "a strict vegetarian; someone who eats no animal or dairy products at all."
Now with that definition, i'd also like to say you don't eat condoms. (lol) And they're are plenty of brands that are NOT tested on animals.

My favorite && trusted brand of condoms are trojans. They have been around for a long time and spend a lot of time on their research.

Here is the FAQ for trojan condoms, hope this helps!

do guys like it when girls are lightweights, or dont have to drink much to get drunk? or would they prefer them to be able to drink well (link)
good men dont (can i repeat... DONT) care if you drink or not, they arent looking to get you drunk so you 'consent' to doing something you wouldnt normally do.
But to answer your question, i've found men like it when women can hold down the drinks they're putting in. No one likes the girl whos puking in the sink....and on the floor by the computer, and outside the house, and right next to the toilet.

If your thinking about drinking a lot && with a group of people(sounds like you might), be sure you can find your path to the bathroom. :) lol


The background on your column is messed up. Makes your advice hard to read.

Just letting you know. (link)
thank youu!

Hi. im sara. im 7 weeks pregnant. and im 15
my parents dont know. =/
once in a while my mom's telling me im getting fattt.
and that im eating alot. idk how to tell them.
they would kick me out.
i have a little bump from it.
im happy about it. but im not sure about the parents
helpp mee. (link)
im chrissy.
im not sure if im pregnant yet, and im 16.
im worring too and i have no clue how to go through this.
would love to hear what your doing with it all.

i just started private tumbling classes and my coach thinks i will definitely have my back tuck before my back handspring, strangely. she thinks ill get my back tuck in about a month, which is when i need to have both of them by (as good as i can get them). anyways, i JUST started my back tuck, and ive been working on my bhs for awhile, but i guess back tuck comes easier, and my legs are strong enough or something. what are your opinions on this..did any of you have your tuck first? how long did it take you? do you think i will get mine in a month, even before a bhs? everyone is i know, but what do you think? im very determined to get it :] any tips you all have are very appreciated! (link)
i have my back tuck right now. but if you asked me to throw my back handspring i would probably laugh in your face. honestly its just 2 different things. a tuck is jumping UP and a spring is jumping BACK. some people want to just jump up more then back so tucks therefore come easier.

it just depends on the person.

when you tuck NEVER EVER GIVE UP 1/2 WAY THROUGH!!!
i cant stress it enough. dont freak out, you have to finish it. because recenatly i just freaked out and fell straight on my back and neack and head. man did that hurtt.

so be cautious, but have fun.

you will be okay. i promise.

private tumbling will be great help, DEF. not a waste of money!

(question for females)

does it really hurt the first time you have sex or do people jsut over exaggerate???? (link)
i agree with everyone,
its totally different for everyone.

for me, it hurt, but i was not calm, i was kinda scared, like i thought i was calm, but in the back of my head i was freaking out.

but i also didnt have my boyfriend finger me at the time, ever.

hope this helped

do guys like sex better if the girl is 'tighter' down there? i mean i know they wont care as long as theyre getting some lol... but if they had to choose... would they prefer it? (link)
my boyfriend says he likes it tighter.
he says its better.
its more enjoyable.
he says guys perfer a tight girl to a loose girl

wat are the girls supposed to do during sex? besides just lying there like what else?? (link)
honistly, everything will come to you when you have sex.
but, if you ask my boyfriend and basicailly any guy, they like it when you mix it up a bit.

heres some websites to mix it up with.

if you take the morning after pill corectly is there still a chance that you will becom prgnant (link)
i agree with the person under me.
i had to take the pill and when i got the information, i read it 24/7.
but i took plan b and i dont know what you took. recomended by my boyfriend cousin who knows a lot about that stuff.

ususally its easier when you can read stuff for real not just listen to other people.
but to answer your question, yes, their is a chance you can get pregnant still. but its a very slim chance AS LONG as you use the pill right.

heres the website for the plan b i was talking about... its very resourceful if you just take a look around the website...

can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =] (link)
well, im 15 and i lost my virginity at 15. actually i lost my virginity last april.
i dont regret it, for the most part.
i was in love with this one guy zach,
and then he got locked up.
their was another guy named jordan.
i really liked him too, but my parents would never aprove becuase hes black.
well jordan and i have been going out since january. We have known eachother for a few years and hes amazing. I know he loves me, a lot. and i love him too. he would never hurt me or pressure me into doing anything.
the best part is when we had sex he said he wanted me to have it at my house in my bed because it would be more special. and he was right. when we had sex, he made sure he wasnt hurting me. and it was awesome.
hes been such a good boyfriend.
hes so sweet.
i dont regret anything except for the fact that i always thought i would loose it to that guy zach. ever since i met zach, i thought it was going to be him. and i regret the fact that my parents dont like my boyfriend.
but no matter what, i love him, and he loves me. and we do everything together. it brought us closer together, but i was really scared to have sex. i was shaking like a dog when they get scared. he kept re-assuring me that he loved me and made sure i wasnt hurting too bad. i dont regret having sex with him though.
my advice,
not that you want it but,
just make sure you really like the guy.
dont let your first time be a one night stand.
thats it, i wont give any more advice.
if you have any more questions, you can comment my page.

hey read my first question but ignore the bottom.

anyway what should i do about the girl im friends with. i like her but i dont want to destroy our relationship by telling her how i feel.
it feels like every day i dont tell her it further tears my soul. (link)
my best guy friend turned out to be the guy i wanted to marry.
the funny thing was that i felt the same way. i was just too scared to tell him.
and he finally told me he liked me and i told him and we got together.
it was amazing.

so basically my little compressed story is telling you to just go ahead. tell her.
if she likes you back great. if not then oh well you bolth will forget about it. dont act like their is something bugging you though if she dosent like you. wierd vibes are easy to feel.

hope it works out.
message me if you have any questions

i have some ??s about guy-girl relationships and stuff

ok what are some good ways to flirt??
also, what is grinding and how do you do it?
what kind of stuff do guys like girls to do.
how do guys like girls to act at parties?

yea as you can see I'm clueless. Please answer these. guys, too.
and any other helpful tips. THANKS
well, let me just say that everything that comes to love and those kinds of things usually comes naturally.

but some tips on how to flirt are to really be you. and dont do that blink a billion times. thats silly. just have fun when your talking to a person. smiling helps too!

grinding- that may not come so naturally... if you are good at dancing, your usually good at grinding. grinding is a type of dancing that girls and boys do. usually its it some crunk music and the girl will get on the guy and they get close and their bodys basically hump in the air. its like having dry sex. if you get into the music your going to have a good time no matter what.

lapdances are not my specialties. ive never given a lapdances. so im sorry but that i can not help you with.

guys defentally want to have fun just like any girl so dont go crazy. have fun. treat the guys like their girls, you dont want any wierd things between you and the guys. they may not want to hang out with you at partys anymore.

guys-im not really sure what like want girls to do. yet again, im not a guy but i think they just want what you want.

my boyfriend wants to finger me, but im nervous because i don't completely shave down there, i think its uncomfortable. do guys really find it that repulsive if a girl isnt shaved? guy responses appreciated! (link)
well im not a guy,
but my boyfriend says that he would rather me shave. but he also says that he dosent care and it was up to me. i shave.

i think that its like touching your leg when its hairy or touching your leg when its super smooth right after you shave.

your most likley going to say when you have just shaved. and your boy would probally too.

you know, my first time i was a little uncomfortable because i didnt shave but after i shaved i was okay.
thats just me but...
i hope this helps.
if you have any questions feel free to message my page.

to get to the point i wanna have sex with this dude, itll be my first time im ready and all. i've thought it through but the only thing thats holding me back is i got these ugly stretch marks on my stomach and i guess im embarrassed by them i dont want him to see them. what can i do to get over this? (link)
while all of these answers are great! i have input too.

i will tell you,
i have ugly streach marks on my inner thighs. i was certin that my boyfriend would see them, and to this day, i have no clue if he has because hes never said anything about it.

Coco butter *Original formula* is cheap, it smells delis. and is used especially for stretch marks and to keep the body soft.

you can buy it just about anywhere.
i but mine at Kroger and CVS.

CVS has a wider variety if you ask me.
coco butter is defentally the best way to go though. it wont get rid of them but it will make them look better.
i promice.

any other questions you can message me on my page.

Okayy Okayy,

So i have this boyfriend.

We are thinking about sex.

I want to && everything but I herd that you bleed during it ..

I dont want to bc i think thats embarssing !!

What shuld i do ? Do you always bleed? (link)
okay well...
sex is a big dicision. i know everyone tells you this but im for real. im not saying dont do it but dont jump into it without knowing what your doing.

Enough lecturing,
its time for me to tell you all i know.
im still a kid and ill tell you what scared me.

Does it hurt? -it depends on how he is, but i thought it hurt like hell. Just tell him that your scared, and if you are embarrassed about telling him that then he may not be the right guy. He will most likley understand, and will try and be easy on you to make it more enjoyable.

Will i bleed? -most likley yes. but the best part is you wont feel it. You think that when you bleed its like getting stabbed but you dont feel it. i thought i didnt bleed untill i looked.

What will he say about me bleeding? -most likley nothing. he should know that most girls bleed so it wont come as a shock to him.

Should we use protection? -heack yes! please dont let him "pull out." thats so stupid. tell him you would feel so much better if he has a condom on. Dont give in.

websites also help. i found this one from my friend when i was super scared...

its great!
if you have any other questions or would like a person who has been through it, im your gal. just message my page!

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