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to get to the point i wanna have sex with this dude, itll be my first time im ready and all. i've thought it through but the only thing thats holding me back is i got these ugly stretch marks on my stomach and i guess im embarrassed by them i dont want him to see them. what can i do to get over this?
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if youre not comfortable with him then you probably arent ready to have sex. i understand what youre saying though. a lot of people would be embarrassed about that and if you still want to go through with it then you can..
- use cocoa butter.
- turn the lights off.. he probably wont see them then.
- theres nothing wrong with keeping a shirt on while youre having sex
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while all of these answers are great! i have input too.
i will tell you,
i have ugly streach marks on my inner thighs. i was certin that my boyfriend would see them, and to this day, i have no clue if he has because hes never said anything about it.
Coco butter *Original formula* is cheap, it smells delis. and is used especially for stretch marks and to keep the body soft.
you can buy it just about anywhere.
i but mine at Kroger and CVS.
CVS has a wider variety if you ask me.
coco butter is defentally the best way to go though. it wont get rid of them but it will make them look better.
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Don't have sex unless you are comfortable with him and yourself. if this "dude" really care about you he won't care. i have extremely bad stretch marks in my case but there's this stretch mark stuff you can buy that will get rid of them or at least make them less bad if you still aren't comfortable.
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So basically, he's just a "dude" & not a boyfriend or husband. (& if so, I'd hope you would call him something better than just "this dude.) To begin with, you are not ready to have sex. & yes, I am just that smart to come to that conclusion. You should never have sex with someone you aren't completely comfortable with. If you were truly comfortable with him, you would know your flaws mean nothing to him. By worrying about your flaws only shows that you can't trust him & you are worried about meeting his standards. Have more respect for yourself & wait to have sex with someone you care about & loves your every single flaw. It's so unattractive (not to mention idiotic & disgusting) when girls have casual sex with these "dudes." Who want's to be the easy, vulnerable girl? Why not be the one who is harder to get? I'm sure everything I said is nothing you want to hear, but if you don't want to make the wrong mistake, you'll listen to my advice.
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Believe me on this one he's just as nervous and scared as you are if not more. He's worried about his own body and how he looks all over incuding penis size etc to be worried about whether you have stretch marks or not. It's the last thing he would ever think of worrying about.
Trust me, I know as that's the last thing I as a guy was thinking about the first time out. Guys his age are just happy to be having the experience and are not thinking about anything other than them disappointing you etc.
It won't matter at all to him about the stretch marks. People get them and it's fine and normal. He obviously wants to be with you and the relationship is solid. A couple of marks on your stomach are not going to have him heading for the hills.
What you should do is talk to him about sex and his expectations and yours and plan the event straight down to condoms, a backup birthcontrol method and talk about each of your worries, hang ups etc and laugh about it as sex is pretty funny when you think about it.
Mention the stretch marks to him (do it, seriously) and you'll see it's not an issue as he'll likely bring up stuff about his own body that he's insecure over. Not every girl looks like a Playbody model and he knows that. A couple of stretch marks is a non-issue.
Like I said, he's going to feel pretty overwhelmed himself and like most guys his age happy for the experience and that any girl would want to do this with him.
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ok i got stetch marks on my side for some reason but go to the store and go get this streach mark stuff or tell him if he cares that you have streach marks on your stomach but most lickly he wont care you are ok
just do what you wanted to do with him and if he does care then he is a really picky boi but i promise he wont care about your sterchmarks most people did that with strech marks and they dont care or you can do it with your shirt on but you should let him know she you can feel better after you tell him
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