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never getting an orgasm
My boyfriend has fingered me nearly 15 times now and I've not once reached an orgasm yet. I get to the point where my heart is beating very fast, I have some small muscle spasms, and little things like that. However, I've never had a full out orgasm and I was wondering why I'm having a hard time reaching it?
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- maybe hes not doing it right
- maybe hes not doing it fast enough
- maybe hes not hitting the right spot
tell him what to do and what feels good while hes doing it. try to relax.
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he just probably isnt doing it good enough .tell him where to touch and when to go fast or slower
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You have had an orgasm if your heart raced and it was combined by little ripples and muscle spasms. That's more or less a conventional orgasm. It can sometimes feel more intense than that depending on how your gentials are being stimulated with.
I'm reading between the lines but I have a feeling you're striving for something earth shattering here. It doesn't always happen like it does in certain movies etc. In real life the G-Spot orgasm is extremely elusive for women and usually only occurs if it's accidentally hit during intercourse, fingering, masturbation.
In that case the orgasm fluid squirts etc. and in some cases a litre of fluid is released. If you read this clincial/medical article with a medical book diagram on the G-Spot you might find yourself having more luck. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
The key with any kind of orgasm is to relax, do what you like and is normal for you and stop putting pressure on yourself to have one as that will hinder not help you.
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If he is actually entering your vaginal hole then he may not be reaching your G-Spot yet. If he is touching your clitoral area then you may not be so sensitive there. Also with some women they prefer the actual penis to fingering or oral because its.. well... larger! Try breathing very slower and not try to keep your legs as spread as possible. Then when you feel so good you can't hold on any longer just let it out with an orgasm.
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