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So there's this guy in my class who I really like. I started texting him since last saturday. I asked him a question if he would go out with me, and he said sure. BUT when i told him if he WILL go out with me, he said he likes someone else, and yeah i'm confused...
Guys often do that. I think sometimes, since they are communicating over text messages, they feel cool enough to tell you whatever. But once they are face to face or even on the phone, they will whimp out. It's like this with more than guys too, a lot of people feel "safe" with text messages. He's probbably just being a jerk. You can always ask him what the heck is his problem or just forget it. If you like him a lot a lot, maybe try asking him why he ddi what he did- on the other hand, if he is really close with the other person he likes, you may just want it forget it and move on because there is less of a chance then. I hope this helped-
Katie
hey katie!
do you know some excercizes to
help get rid of the pouch over
your lower stomach? thanks so much :)
Well, sad sad thing for us girls.. or atleast the majority of girls who have normal abs with a little bump.. that is for child birth. ATLEAST, that what i've heard .. we need that for kids. Damn, right? Haha, but if theres a little flab, work it off with cardio. To shape your abs..
http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
I really like doing planks, or just going into push up position and holding it because I feel the muscles being worked in not only my abs but my arms and shoulders. Remember, give your body a break. Don't do like 1000 abs every day, your muscles won't have time to rebuild (or whatever it is considered they do). Hope this helped!!!
Okay so im 5'2 120 and i only seem to gain weight in my love handles, and lower stomach. I was wondering what would be the fastest and healthiest to lose that
In order to get rid of fat you can't do specific workouts like, if you want to loose stomach fat you can't do crunches. You have to burn it off with cardio. So, if you eat healthy and do cardio maybe 4 times a week, or every other day with strenght workouts on the non cardio days, you should see results. But, if you eat like out every night or have a lot of sweets, don't expect any quick results. If you want to loose weight best and most efficently, eat healthy. Heres an easy way to see what to eat.. courtsey of a true dietitian.
www.self.com/health/blogs/eatlikeme
Hope this helped!!!!
hey, im 15 and i realllly like this guy .. and he's told me he's liked me before. We hang out all the time and talk all the time, but i guess he just stopped liking me and i dont know why and now hes going out with someone else. I cant get over it and im really sad about it. Have any advice on what I should do?
Ah, get over the guy! He is obviously not great if he talks and talks to you then goes out with someone else. But, if I'm going to stick up for him.. he may have not ment to lead you on or get you to like him. So it can go either way. But really, he's not worth feeling like crap over. I know its hard but you have to try. I don't think anyone else in the world can give you a trick to geting over someone besides trying and hang out wth other guys/people and just do stuff to get your mind off of him. I hope this helped
hey, im 15 and i realllly like this guy .. and he's told me he's liked me before. We hang out all the time and talk all the time, but i guess he just stopped liking me and i dont know why and now hes going out with someone else. I cant get over it and im really sad about it. Have any advice on what I should do?
Ah, get over the guy! He is obviously not great if he talks and talks to you then goes out with someone else. But, if I'm going to stick up for him.. he may have not ment to lead you on or get you to like him. So it can go either way. But really, he's not worth feeling like crap over. I know its hard but you have to try. I don't think anyone else in the world can give you a trick to geting over someone besides trying and hang out wth other guys/people and just do stuff to get your mind off of him. I hope this helped
is there a dance to the song barbie girl by aqua?? becuase i really want to learn a dance to it, and im not very coordinated lol...its just fun to dance to! thanks
I don't think their is. Sorry, but its always fun to make up your own dances instead.
Okay so I am confident in myself, but i am really bad at talking with people and i always feel stupid when im talking with someone. Like especially the past year i dont even want to talk to people other than my close friends and i dont know why cause i have never been like that!
Your not depressed, if you were you probably wouldn't even have the motivation to write a quetion and you'd feel like crying ever second or something. So you don't have to worry about it. You just started your problem.. your just bad at talking with people. So.. you most likely have little confidence with social interaction with others and just feel comfortable around friends. I don't think its a huge problem if you don't like talking a lot with people your not friends with cause it can be weird at times. But, at a point it might affect you for school or something where you're forced to be with other people. I would suggest hanging out with people your not familar with whileee your with close friends. So, if your friends talk to people then maybe you'll join in the conversation and get to talking to them. Hope this helped!!
Hey Katie,
ok well idk how but i seen two girls kissing,(oh yeah it was on youtube and i accidentally got on it long story) but like i have no clue y but it made me horny. like i dont think i like girls like i dont a crushes on them but like y is that. jsut so you no i dont no if it could be y but i am 13 and dont have my period. yeha and for your fyi i am a girl lol.
thanks.
I don't think your gay? I mean, your only 13 and you haven't got a good look at anything completely sexual yet have you? You might just get honry because its the only thing youve seen and your full of hormores. I don't think you have to worry about anything. Hope this helped
my names paige & im 13 (:
okay well i havent had my
period yet. like what are some
of the signs that mean you might
be getting your period soon?
also sometimes the guys in my grade
make fun of me because i dont have
big boobs or im (flat) but i do have
something! there are girls in my grade
that are flatter then me! it just makes
me mad how they always say that stuff. ha
but is it normal to have small boobs
when you dont have your period?
PLEASE HELP ME! thankyou.
Totally. People don't even have boobs when do have their periods. Boobs are overrated, so you don't need them hah. Who cares what those guys say, they might make fun of your becasue you don't have a C Cup bra, but their dicks are probably small so screw them! Theyre ass holes.
Before you get your period you may get this dischange and its like gunkey clean stuff and it may feel like you peed your pants but it's not pee. Also, you may feel cramps or uncomfortable around your lower stomach (which is cramps).
Heres more information-
http://www.girlshealth.gov/body/period.htm
Hope this helped
Hey kate..
its lanie, your neighbor.
umm well i was wondering if you could help me think of a new screename i am getting sick of mine..
ha well anyway i dont care what it says i just really need a new..
thankss katie, ily
hey lane, just i.m me so I can tellwhat kind of sn you want. k =)
hi katie =] okay so im 5'2 and 135. theres times when i feel that my body is huge but then other times when i'm happy with my body. i'm currently doing 100 sittups a day. 25 normal, 25 to the left, 25 to the righht, ad 25 with legs crossed. what are other ways of toning my stomach? also my thighs.. i was a softball catcher for about two months for my school and that helped me gain muscle in my thighs, but now that muscle is much less. how can i gain that muscle back? is it possible to loose 15-20 lbs by may? and how can i do that? thanks
You have to eat healthy and get regular activity. First, I am not 100% sure that ab workouts everyday is good, becasue your muscle needs rest to build up and get stronger/toned. So, for when you do strength or core, skip a day, try strength/core one day then cardio another. Plus, if you want abs, you first need to loose fat (not saying you have any just talking ingeneral) around your stomach so your abs can show. If you have a little pouch covering your abs, you won't ever get a six pack. If you want to loose weight, try running, bike riding, or doing cardio workout videos (i like all of them). There are always cardio things to do, whatever gets your heart rate up. I know that riding bikes is cardio and when I ride I feel a big burn in my legs, and I think that when you ride a bike it will bring back leg muscles, and make your legs toned, so bike riding is my FAVORITEEE exercise. Here is some healthy stuff that I like and told people before (it will help you get healthy and loose some extra lbs)..
My top picks:
anything whole wheat- breads, bagels, english muffins, cereal, wraps, buns, granola bars, oatmeal, etc. you'll have to start looking at ingredients and if it says, "whole wheat" first on the list then thats good.
personal favorites- crispix, wheaties, flat out wraps, any Kashi
fruits/veggies- self explanitory.. the more color the better (dark red, orange, yellow, purple, blue, dark greens)
personal favorites- all fruit, carrots, cucumber, spinich (easily can sneek into sandwhiches without tasting, romaine lettuce, tomatoes, peppers
lean meats/fish (good source of protein)- skinless boneless chicken breast, turkey breast, lean steak, fish
personal favorites- fresh salmon, tuna, grilled chicken, deli turkey, ground turkey burgers
TIP- substituting turkey or chicken in a beef recipe is healthier and can taste just as good
WATERRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! not like vitaim water, just normal water. the best thing for a healthy meal
skim dairy- low fat cheese, skim milk, no/low fat yogurt, show churned icecream(for a treat)
personal favorites- Lite and Fit yogurt 60 calories, skim milk
my heath/PE teacher told us that if you eat less that 1600 calories a day you'll loose muscle instead of fat, so keep that inmind! Ummm.. theres a bunch of tips that can help.. like writing down what you eat. if you ever get tempted pop in some gum to keep your mouth busy.
heres sites with alot of good tips..
http://body.aol.com/diet-fitness
Hopefully thats enough to get you started! If you need more, come to me and I can talk to you about weight loss and stuff! If not, there are always a bunch of sites that can help!
PS- sites for abs:
http://exercise.about.com/od/abs/ss/abexercises.htm
HOPE THIS HELPED!!
hey. when do you know when to stop giving a handjob? and when to stop fingering yourself? and how long do you think a guy will do it to you for?
thanks
You can give a guy a handjob for as long as you two are going at it. Its known to stop after they exploded or whatnot, but if he wants you can keep going. It really just depends on how long you want to keep going. You can stop at your climax, or his, depeding on what you want. A guy may stop when he thinks you want him to stop or you like move away or something. Hope this helped!
im nearly 16 and my penis is just over 4 inches long im a bit worried im not sure if that average for my age im wondering if thats small or not?
I think hat is normal size. I'm not an expert on guy parts, but according to a few sites I searched..
http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/a/average_penis.htm -
"Average penis length (not erect): from 3.4 inches to 3.7 inches
Average penis length (erect): from 5.1 inches to 5.7 inches"
http://www.average-penis-size-chart.com/
If your feeling insecure.. everyones different! Hope this helped
do you know what you need to have in order to make the JV team at lockport?
i have my jumps ( double toe touch, pike, etc.)
im able to be a flyer or a base which ever one is needed.
but i dont have my flip flop, i only have my cartwheel, roundoff, backwalkover.
is that basically it?
If you don't have a flipflop, theres a 99% chance you won't make it. You can make freshman without a flipflop, but Jv you do need one. Freshman, for the tryout sheet, you don't need any tumbling. For Jv, it says should have standing and running tumbling on a matt. Sorry, you atleast need a flipflop to make JV
is there a way you can lose like 10 or 5 pounds in a week?
No, not a healthy way. You would pretty much have to starve yourself, work out all the time and you would just loose muscle. Your body would eat your muscles instead of fat. So, I don't think its a good idea at all. Sorry.
female, 16/f 5'5" 130 lbs.
alright, so im in sports and i have muscle,
but i have like fat still. and i try and try
and try to workout and eat healthy but nothing
seems to be working, i do tons of sit ups every
night and i run almost every day. i always feel
so big compared to my friends because they are
all so skinny and tiny. i just wanna like not
eat at all because im feeling so self-conscious
around everybody. evertime i go to the doctor,
im getting heavier and heavier. i dont want to
end up being that fat girl that stands out.
thanks so much katie :) your awesomeee!
You won't be! Your 130 which is great for a 5'5 girl in sports. Muscle is great! the more you have the more fast your metabolism is. Who knows, maybe your still growing, if not then maybe you are putting on a little.. A LITTLE! No need to freak, maybe its just water weight. Your true weight is when you wake up in the morning, pee, and stand like naked on a scale. And i doubt you just woke up after a dr appointment? Right? If your truely concerned, look at the last few questions i answered. I pretty much gave all the good foods you can eat. And AOLbody.com and self.com and anything that you can type in google.. there is a site for.
About feeling big, everyone has insecurities. Your friends may be skinny, but think, can they lift as much as you? Can they run as fast? Do they eat crappy foods? Hahah. When im feeling down, I just think.. "well i eat healthy alot and they might be skinner but when their metabolism slows down they will be fat". I know its not completely true or anything but It makes me laugh inside and feel better hahah.
For a conclusion, I dont think you should worry about your weight becasue 130, all muscle, 5'5 is good! If you go to the doctor and see your weight creeping up by the 5's (5 lbs, 10 lbs, etc) then you can start to eat healtier and do more cardio to burn fat. When you get to that point that you decide for sure you want to loose weight, then I can help you. And its not a diet, its a healthy life! diets arent good for younger girls.. it tends to lead to disorders.. so consider yourself healthy.
Ps- everyone feels bad, im sure your skinny friends have insecurities too!
Hope this helped!
-Kate
HEy Katie this is Amanduhh, i was just wondering, but where did you get your layout for your advicenator?? Thanks.
I just found a background pattern i liked then went to tinypic and uploaded it, then inserted the code into the HTML or whatever that is on your column settings. Its easy, you'll understand
13/f
i've always been like small & skinny. but now i feel like im getting fatter + kinda lazy. i've never needed to watch what i eat, i was always just naturally skinny & could pig out without getting fat. but now it seems like im not that active because all my sports are in the off season and i'm not doing much. i prbly should be eating healthier, but i'm not used to do that. i want to lose weight and i want to lose it on my thighs and stomach. what can i do to get my muscles back and lose the fat? thanks so much, haha ur the bestttt! [;
I just used this for someone elses question and it related to healthy eating- i advise that this will get you back on track. also, you need to exercise atleast 3 times a week? if your sports are in off season dont think of this as a time to relax, you should be just taking your body easy, keep up exercising so you wont be out of shape, and get some "you" time in. To get back muscle you have to lift weights, not like 30 lb bench pressing, but 5 lb weights/8lb.. stuff to get indurence.
If you want to get stronger- High weights low reps (like on a machine, your highest level with reps of 8 then 6 then 4)
If you want to have endurence/toned- low weights hight reps (20 then 22 then 24 of a light weight you can handle, but should be hard at the last rep)
Plus, with more muscle you burn more calories!
You need to do cardio to burn calories, then end up burning fat, and lift/do weights/strenght for muscle!
My top picks:
anything whole wheat- breads, bagels, english muffins, cereal, wraps, buns, granola bars, oatmeal, etc. you'll have to start looking at ingredients and if it says, "whole wheat" first on the list then thats good.
personal favorites- crispix, wheaties, flat out wraps, any Kashi
fruits/veggies- self explanitory.. the more color the better (dark red, orange, yellow, purple, blue, dark greens)
personal favorites- all fruit, carrots, cucumber, spinich (easily can sneek into sandwhiches without tasting, romaine lettuce, tomatoes, peppers
lean meats/fish (good source of protein)- skinless boneless chicken breast, turkey breast, lean steak, fish
personal favorites- fresh salmon, tuna, grilled chicken, deli turkey, ground turkey burgers
TIP- substituting turkey or chicken in a beef recipe is healthier and can taste just as good
WATERRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! not like vitaim water, just normal water. the best thing for a healthy meal
skim dairy- low fat cheese, skim milk, no/low fat yogurt, show churned icecream(for a treat)
personal favorites- Lite and Fit yogurt 60 calories, skim milk
my heath/PE teacher told us that if you eat less that 1600 calories a day you'll loose muscle instead of fat, so keep that inmind! Ummm.. theres a bunch of tips that can help.. like writing down what you eat. if you ever get tempted pop in some gum to keep your mouth busy.
heres sites with alot of good tips..
http://body.aol.com/diet-fitness
Hope this helped
Hello!
I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm looking to lose weight. I'm trying to eat healthier, but I need some help. Any foods you'd reccommend?
And what are some other things I can do to help me lose weight?
Thanks! :)
My top picks:
anything whole wheat- breads, bagels, english muffins, cereal, wraps, buns, granola bars, oatmeal, etc. you'll have to start looking at ingredients and if it says, "whole wheat" first on the list then thats good.
personal favorites- crispix, wheaties, flat out wraps, any Kashi
fruits/veggies- self explanitory.. the more color the better (dark red, orange, yellow, purple, blue, dark greens)
personal favorites- all fruit, carrots, cucumber, spinich (easily can sneek into sandwhiches without tasting, romaine lettuce, tomatoes, peppers
lean meats/fish (good source of protein)- skinless boneless chicken breast, turkey breast, lean steak, fish
personal favorites- fresh salmon, tuna, grilled chicken, deli turkey, ground turkey burgers
TIP- substituting turkey or chicken in a beef recipe is healthier and can taste just as good
WATERRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! not like vitaim water, just normal water. the best thing for a healthy meal
skim dairy- low fat cheese, skim milk, no/low fat yogurt, show churned icecream(for a treat)
personal favorites- Lite and Fit yogurt 60 calories, skim milk
my heath/PE teacher told us that if you eat less that 1600 calories a day you'll loose muscle instead of fat, so keep that inmind! Ummm.. theres a bunch of tips that can help.. like writing down what you eat. if you ever get tempted pop in some gum to keep your mouth busy.
heres sites with alot of good tips..
http://body.aol.com/diet-fitness
http://www.self.com/health/blogs/eatlikeme
Hope this helped! sorry it took so long for me to respond. good luck, if you need anything else you can ask again
My gf and i are thinking about having sex were both 16 our first time im a bit nervous about if i will be able to please her my penis is almost 5 inches long is that about normal?
I am pretty sure that is a good average length. If your worried, just remember its your first time and you shouldnt have to be amazing if your new at it. Hope this helped