I agree with the person before me... communication is truly everything. If you can't feel comfortable to tell him the truth and if he is actin like a butthole gettin mad at you, then thats his problem. It's not about having an orgasm all the time. That does not in any way define sex. If you are satisifed in other aspects as well as your boyfriend, then that is what you need to rest assure in. Maybe you should change some positions or even go talk to the a doctor about it. But I know that there are some positions that cause the area around the bladder to be affected and can cause you to urinate. But if this is really something that you can't figure out on your own, then go to a doctor and talk to someone about it. Don't be ashamed because I'm sure it's not the first time they've heard it. But I really wouldn't be ashamed of it. If you are smelling urine, then that's what it is but sometimes you are having an orgasm that will result in that type of fluid. And sometimes the sex itself is very satisfying to the body that you lose control and because it's happening in the region, it could cause you to urinate. It has to do with nerves as well.... but I found an awesome site to help you out and explain all this to you... please check it out! :)

http://www.womenrepublic.co.uk/health/urinating/

Good luck and let me know how it goes! :)

all this is, is young lust honey!!! if you really liked somebody, then you would know. ya'll are tossin each other around like a box of assorted chocolates...they look on the outside but then you bite into it, its the nasty cream ones and you put it back and somebody else looks at and kinda wants it but not really cuz somebody else had it but then again because somebody else had it, you wanna see what was so good or nasty about it... yes... it is confusing but you have to realize that you can not stress over something that isn't really there. it sounds to me that you and your friends juss wanna be with somebody. you need to get out of that circle of people and quit all this sharing thats goin on. guys juss wanna have a cute girl on their arm... it sounds like you're young and that goes for a lot of young people. so they dont care who they're with, as long as they are with somebody. you deserve somebody that isn't gonna bounce from your friend to you and then set your friend up with one of his friends.... all this madness needs to stop! you need to focus on school or juss bein you and lovin yourself before you try and get into a relationship. you dont need one and you might be better off without one right now until you get your head straight. i've been where you've been more times than i can count and thats where my advice is comin from... my own experiences. you need to get over all of them and let them know that you dont have time for games. thats all thats happenin.. ya'll are playin games with each others mind and emotions and bodies and its not right. you need to distance yourself from the concept of being with one of them and im sure that in the midst of that, somebody will emerge and you'll see that this guy really wants me for him and he's not after my friends if i chose not to be with him or whatever.... you'll see.. work it out girl and juss pray about it! all your friends needs Jesus! :).... but you'll be fine. juss let it go for now and see what comes of it... surround yourself with other, better people and im sure that you'll find someone soon :) let me know how it goes! Good luck and God bless!

a little R&B is always nice... like "Come a little bit closer" by Brandy or something by NeYo.... "A moment like this" by Kelly Clarkson... "When I see you" by Fantasia.... "I just called to say I love you" by Stevie Wonder.... "Ain't no other man" by Christina Aguilera... "All my life" by K-Ci and JoJo... "If I could fall in love with you" by Selena.... "Anywhere for you" by the Backstreet Boys... "Because you loved me" by Celine Dion.... "Be without you" by Mary J. Blige... "On Bended Knee" by Boyz II Men.... "Back at One" by Brian McKnight.... "Spend my life with you" by Eric Benet and Tamia... "I miss you" by Aaliyah... "Fallin" by Alicia Keys...

Those of the ones I can think of off the top of my head... they are all beautiful songs that my boyfriend and I loved to listen to together and we make cds for each other all the time so I know the feeing! Take care and Good luck. Write me in my inbox if you need anything else :)

well you're not gonna stop it! overexercising and a lot of physical activity can cause it to be heavier than usual. you can exercise cuz it may help with cramps but being too active causing you to bleed more... so chill :).... more vitamin c will work. it firms up the blood vessels on the walls of the uterus and that decreases monthly blood flow. so drink more orange juice or take a vitamin. start a few days before and continue until it stops. good luck with that!

All that sounds extremely good! You can put broil the chicken (put it in a saucepan, which is a deep frying pan, put some water and butter in it... juss enough to almost cover the chicken and put it on medium low), if its chicken breast. And then boil your pasta until you can take a piece out and taste it and its soft like you would like it. Then put some chicken and the pasta and eat that together... season with salt and pepper and maybe some parsley... and sprinkle some cheese over the chicken as well.

Or you can just cook the pasta and then when its done, drain the water and put the gravy on that.

Or make a salad with the chicken after you broil it.

Good luck!

Well, the doctor usually doesn't give "the sex talk" unless they know you extremely well and even then, they don't ask certain things. You have to remember that they've seen it all! And you don't have to worry, a doctor isn't going to say anything because if you're a female (which I think you are), then the doctor will actually encourage you to shave "down there". Not completely bald but just enough because the hair actually allows more heat to settle in as well as sweat and bacteria and odor. So, they encourage you to maintain your lawn as much as you can. Your mom won't be in the room during a physical. That is usually something that is done with just you and that is between you and your doctor. You'll be fine!!!

juss allow it to grow out naturally. you have to keep managin your hair the best way you can cuz doin drastic things can really damage it in the long run! but when you cover the bleach, its not your real hair color, so it doesnt come back. you'll be fine hun! :)

First off, let me say that I've been where you've been. And using both the house phone and the cell (when my parents were over the bill), the numbers did show up on the phone bill. It's going to regardless.. every number, whether free or not, will show up. Now, I shouldn't be tellin you this but if he calls you from a private number, then thats what will show up (private number) but it will make things even more suspicious. The numbers you text don't show up but it will from the calls and in your case, I guess that's enough to get it seen by your parents. But if they don't have detailed billing, then it won't matter. That means that they don't get the sheets with all the numbers on, just how much the bill is.

DO NOT DO ANYTHING THAT BOTHERS YOU!!! Definitely, not for any BOY... notice I didn't say man. First of all, he would have cleared it with you when it came to the phone sex instead of giving you some half answer about how he has to do it cuz he's a guy. That's BS. And I know that you are young and you feel like if you don't give it to him, then someone else will for real. And it's better for you to be uncomfortable then that to happen. But it's really not. I have been in your shoes so many times. And at first, I did it because he wanted to but then it became something that I couldn't live with. And at the end of the phone conversation, if you are not satisified with yourself, then it wasn't worth it. If you can't have a relationship with you for other reasons and other reasons only, then you need to let him go. Sorry to say it but you don't want to get hurt later on and you have got to protect your heart and not leave it up to someone else. You are being used sweetheart! Not only are you lying to your parents by not telling them about him (which I'm sure they know, they're just waiting for you to say something), you are lyiing to yourself... and all for a guy that talks to you so late at night because he sees you as his booty call and not his girlfriend. I'm 21 years old and like I said, I've been there and I've done that and it ain't all that!

Think about yourself first. Talk to him and let him know that you do it because it means something to him. And if he starts acting like an ass, then drop him like last week's garbage honey because you are worth more than that and deserve more than that! Love has nothing to do it... because if it did, you wouldn't be asking this question or battling with anything in your mind when it comes to him. He's off at college doing his thang and bein with whoever (not sayin that he's cheating but throwing it out there because i'm sure you've thought about it).... so you need to give yourself a chance to grow up and experience your life and not be tied down to anybody that you have questions about... good luck babygirl and you can hit me up at anytime you need anything! let me know how it goes :)

Girl, a party bus does sound like a lot of fun! I wish I had one! But I guess it depends on where you live and if you live somewhere that you can show off... You could rent out the ballroom of a hotel (if you have the money like that) and make it like a prom type thing... I'm pretty sure you've seen the show on MTV and we all don't have lives like that! But you could kinda improvise off of what they did... have a theme to your party: white party (like P.Diddy), Luau with lai's and everything... stuff like that. Have one of your family members or friends that are older be a D.J... serve finger foods and plenty of punch (nothin alcoholic lol) and have an area where people can take pictures or have someone going around taking picture of the whole thing... have a guestbook made up where ppl can sign their names, that way you know who was there... even if its gonna be in your house, you can still make it turn out awesome! email me and let me know if you need anymore help: poetic_angel86@yahoo.com

Good luck and let me know how it goes! :)

Okay... first of all, let me be straight up with you and tell you this... if you can't spell Orgasm... then you dont need to be worried about getting one. And at your age, if you haven't had a period at all or for very long...then its somethin that may take a while for you to experience. You are only 14 years old! This is something that I promise you won't be the highlight of your life so I think that you should be switching your priorities somewhere else. Using food for one isn't healthy or sanitary and if something breaks off up in there, then you're screwed... try explaining that to your parents or the doctors (I've seen friends plenty of time in the hospital because of stuff like that). All you are going to get is a tingling feeling because you are not that mature yet in age or with the growth of your body (i'm sure of this), so give it a couple of more years. It does bother me when young girl talk about this and worry about it because I've been there and it's just something that you shouldn't be worried about so much right now. Because it's going to lead you to be sexually active and doing whatever you can to achieve it and then when you do, you're not gonna wanna stop and im sure you're a smart girl, so you know what can happened from there. I'm not your mother and I'm not here to tell you what to do. You can simply read my advice and take it... but you shouldn't be focused on this issue though sweetie. I'm 21 years old and I know what it's like but trust me!... you would be better off with your mind of school and friends and growing up to be something and somebody that you can be proud of.

Bottom Line: Let your body mature up and let your mind mature and grow up and let nature take it's course. Good luck and let me know if you need anything else and how it goes! :)

I agree with the other person who answered this. Doing exercise, not stuffing your face with ice cream and junk food all the time, and stay active will really help. I don't know how old you are but yes, as you grow and mature your stomach does become bulky. Don't freak out! It's life and it's hormones. As long as you are not having to go up three sizes every couple of months of years, than you're fine. Just go out and run around or walk and monitor what you are eating all the time. No, I'm not saying go on a diet. But a lot of people just eat up McDonalds everyday and then go home and watch TV. It's summer time, so go out swimming or walking or something to stay active and you'll be fine!

I waited until I was 20 before I lost it. And I did it then because I was with someone for a long time and we both found things to love about each other that were real first. You have to see what else is there. I know that the urges are strong and that your friends can influence you and that you want to fit in or have someone to like you. But guys at those ages are only looking to have sex. They don't want to be tied down in a relationship. TRUST ME!!! I've been there. I was almost at the point of giving it up plenty of times but I didn't want to feel empty and I didn't want to go around guessing whether the guy was gonna talk to me again or not or what he thought of me. And at the age, when you start, you will not stop. I am now 21 years old and I'm glad that I held out as longa s I could. It's hard work but you have to find other things about yourself to present to people and to let people see, then what's under your clothes. You need to find out who you are and go through life a little more before you make that decision. As females, we attach so much more than guys do. And after sleeping with them a couple of days, we wanna say they're our boyfriends or that we love them and they will never feel that way. They may tell you that but they don't. That's just how it works. That age is too young to be talking about anything besides school and friends. But I've been there and I know that it does get talked about and the feelings are there. But you gotta surround yourself with good positive friends that are thinking the same way and that want to wait so you can motivate each other. Get into some hobbies or sports or something. If you decide to do it, then okay. But it only takes a second for a condom to break. Or for the guy to never speak to you again. Or for everybody to find out and you get more offers than you know how to deal with. And then you're pregnant and not knowing who the father is. If you think trying to decide whether you want to lose your virginity, the essence of who you are inside as a young lady... then you are going to catch some serious pain and drama when you're 16 with a baby, parents hate you, boy nowhere to be found and maybe you caught a STD or something worse. That happens so much and I see it so many times. Find out the beauty within yourself so you can distract any guy from thinking about having sexy with you and getting him to see you as the beautiful girl you are. Just because they say they love you and they will be there for you. To them, all they have to do is lay there. But you are the one who will suffer later on. Sex can be a beautiful thing when you're older, between two people who have gotten to know just about everything about one another and have found something in each other that is worth holding on to. Good luck with that and let me know how it goes! :)

Sweetheart,

Nothing will make your boobs get any bigger than your genes will allow them to get. If the women in your family have smaller size breasts, then that will most likely be what you end up with. There are some cases, like mine, where nobody in my family had boobs has huge as I did but I started developing very young. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up and don't think that your boobs are going to make you or break you when it comes to growing up. Give them a couple of years. I have a lot of friends that didn't really get any until they were about 16 or 17. You have to give your body a chance to work and develop. Don't rush it! There isn't a quick fix or anything that you can do. Just make sure that you wear a comfortable bra that is the correct size and it actually a bra. Don't wear sports bra or things like that. Allow them to get their own shape and to grow on their own. Good luck! :)

I know how you're feeling and because it's nature, there isn't much that you can do to slow it down; especially since it just started yesterday. Now, may not be the time to spend the night over a guy's house because you don't want to feel awkward the whole time, ya know? But if it's something that you wanna do, then you can get some apple cider vingear (liquid or pill) and take that today and tomorrow and that has been known to help a lot. Try soakin in the tub for about 30 mins-1 hour really does work. Sounds weird but it does work! If you are stressin out or not gettin enough rest, then that can cause it to be really heavy as well. Let me know how it goes and if you need anymore help! Good luck! :)

If you don't want your hair to fall out, then I honestly suggest to quit the dying! Especially, if you are doing it yourself. You need to give your scalp time because off those chemicals can do some serious damage later on down the line. I have some family and friends that have a couple of salons and that they are constantly having to cut people's hair and spend hours and several treatments to fix the problems due to dying their hair too much. Dye washes out over time with regular shampoo and water. You need to try and use a very mild shampoo and wash your hair everyday until some of that color comes out on it's own. But with all that washing of your hair, you are gonna need to replenish your scalp with some hair treatments like hot oil or whatever you may already use to strengthen the hair (cuz it's not good to wash it everyday either). I know that you may want it to be one of those dramatic colors soon but I'm sure you don't want to risk losing some of your hair or the quality of it, later on... good luck and let me know how it goes! :)

When your body goes through any type of intercourse whether is by yourself or with someone, you can bleed from it. I have been exactly where you are. My periods have always been irregular. But excessive orgasms or intercourse basically turns your genitalia on and kinda jumpstarts things. And it may cause you to bleed early and temporarily. If your period is on the way and you do this, then it's like having sex. Sex will make your period come on a day or two early than it's suppose to. That's our body as a woman and one of the crazy ways that it works. But in your case, it could be several other things. You could have torn some tissue from manual stimulation, not enough lubrication (if you are not aroused enough, you can tear things easily because the vagina is so sensitive), inserting too many fingers or having a vibrator (or whatever else) that is too large, can also cause tears. It does sound like that is what's going on with you. Don't get so carried away and try just stimulatin the clitoris instead until you heal up. You have to give yourself a chance to heal so you don't tear any further or mess up anything else. I know it's hard to stop (God knows I do) but try it out for awhile so that you can enjoy yourself later on and not have to worry about bleeding from it later. And try not to do it if you know your period is comin on... if you feel your breasts gettin tender or random stomach, leg or back pains, then that's usually means that Aunt Flo is on her way! lol... let me know how it goes... keep in touch sweetie and good luck with everything! :)

The best thing to do, from my experience, is to just try and break the ice. Have some mutual friends over... if you don't know any of her friends, then tell her to bring a couple and you'll bring a couple. The easiet way to do that is to ask her what her favorite movie is. Get a few bucks to rent about two movies (that should hold ya'll for about 4 hours). Get some popcorn and drinks together (the dollar store is awesome for this when you're on a budget) and before the movie starts, strike up a conversation that everyone would have input on. Since it's the end of school, talk about finals. "Man, finals was crazy was for me. Did ya'll grades suck like mine did lol".... or you could even talk about a new song that was out. Turn the radio on and see what comes on and how people respond to do it. It's a comfortable yet intimate scene. She gets to see how you react with your friends and vice versa. Watch your movies, start some popcorn fights... things like that. As long as you're laughing, dancing, singing karaoke or whateva floats your boat lol... you can't help but break the ice. Good luck and let me know how it goes. :)

Apparently... Miss Thang has feelings for some of everybody!!! She is playin you and draggin you along from what I see. I hate to sound harsh but as a female, I know how wonderful we can be but I also know how triflin some of us can be too. You too seem young to me because that seems like a immature act on her part. You can't get her to break up with anybody. You seem like a nice guy and I know that you deserve better than that. I don't care how pretty she is. It's an ugly thing that she's doing and you shouldn't sit around waiting for somebody that is juss gonna be plotting to be someone else. Obviously, she can't make up her mind what she wants. So, let her play the field and do what she feels she has to do. But you need to get yourself together and move on with your own life because by her having you wrapped around her little finger, she is just draggin you right along with her games. You are wrong for wanting her to cheat on him with you. Don't you see that you cheated on you with someone else and then someone else and I'm sure that it'll keep going. Girls like that won't stop because they love the attention that they can. You don't want her per say... you just miss the feeling of being with someone that you can care about and that cares about you. And that's what you deserve. You may WANT her badly but what you NEED is someone that is gonna want and need you and only you. You need a girl that is gonna be hoenst and stay by your side no matter what you go through. I really hope that you don't fall for her games. Let me tell you somethin... my ex of almost 5 years did the same thing to me. I loved that man more than life itself but I had to let him go. I couldn't hold on to him forever but it was holding me back. But wheneva he came in my face tellin me he missed me and loved me, I fell right in his trap. Cuz as long as he had a good woman and his other females, he was already. But you can't have your cake and cookies with ice cream and expect not to get a stomach ache!!! You'll be fine on your own once you build yourself up to be somethin that any woman will be lucky enough to have! Good luck sweetie and let me know how it goes :)

Okay... first of all, take a deep breath and pull back. You are saying that you are having feelings for her and that she seems pretty cool but it seems to be that you only talked to this girl maybe once or twice. The feelings that you are having might be the need to be with someone that you find attractive; not necessarily the need to be with her because of the things that you like about her... you see what i'm saying? I don't know what has happened to you before in the relationship field or whatnot, that is causing you to have premature feelings for her and at the same time, not being able to approach her. Maybe it's the fear of rejection. Rejection sucks for everybody, I don't care who you are but it's one of those things in life that we must go through to make us who and what we truly are. You have to build yourself up so that she sees you as an attractive, confident guy that wants to be friends and then sees where things go later on. You don't want to scare her off by coming across as someone that is always around and "waiting". But by calling her and by im-ing her, you've already shown interest so you gotta let her take her time. Sometimes as females, we have to warm up to people and find things within ourselves to continue forward. She is probably wrestlin with some things just like you are. But you have to be confident in yourself and hold your head up high and just walk up to her and tell her who you are and ask how she's doin and let her know that you wanted to be cool with her and just allow things to be open. (that gives her a chance to respond and not feel cornered by you). You'll be fine... you're just nervous and like I said, she probably is to. If she didn't like you, then she would have told you by now and she wouldn't have taken your number. So you gotta just be patient. Start bringing out the qualities that you want her see and it'll make her feel more comfortable, ya know? It'll work out... just be patient, give her some space and time but keep in touch with her at the same time. Not everyday... but every once in awhile so she knows that you're around. Good luck!!! :)

It sounds to me that you are extremely thin. I'm not going to sit here and tell you that you're skinny so get over it... or anything like that. So, please don't any of what I say that way. But I wanna tell you something. I'm a plus size young woman. No, I'm not 3,000 pounds but I have battled with my weight and not liking how I looked for so long. I have went to extremes to get rid of the weight and to I have done things that I regret because I didn't like myself. But I got to the point where I told myself that if I can sit in a chair and get up without stickin to it... if I can fit in a doorway without knockin stuff over...that I was okay. You are developing problems that I can tell are very hurtful for you. You're on the opposite end of the spectrum compared to myself. But I can understand where you're coming. You have got to learn to find something in yourself that you love. Look in your mirror and see whats there... your smile, your eyes... and then take a look to what's inside like your personality of sense of style. take those things and grow on that. I know that it's hard; trust me. I've wanted to throw up so many times after I've eaten because I was made at myself for eating what I did. But you can't do that to yourself. You want to live long, I'm sure and you deserve that but you also deserve to be healthy. Good luck sweetie and just know that I'm here to help you if you need it.

I have always been the person that people have come to for advice or just some help with something. I'm not saying that I have all the answers because that's far from it. But I have been through so much hurt, pain, and bad times in my life as well as joyous ones to know how everyone feels. I am very understanding because I've been there and I know what it's like; I know what it feels like to be so much in love that you're on top of the world and nobody can touch you... and I know what it's like to hate everybody including yourself and every fiber of your being... I don't judge because that's not my place but you better believe that I tell it like it is! I love meeting new people and helping out however I can...its what I love to do. So, if you have any questions about love, pain, or why your dog won't listen (haha)... anything.. you just be sure to let me know and I'll help you and talk one on one with you the best I can. God Bless, take care, and just know... you can't just grow flowers with sun alone.... its gotta rain sometimes :)

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