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i dont know what to do...
hi im a 16 year old soph guy and i like this freshman girl,...shes been on my bus all year but i never really talked to her..i somehow got her screen name on aim the other week and started iming her she seems pretty cool..i dont know her that well but im starting to...i want to hang out with her sometime so i got her cell number and gave her mine...but now i want to go say hey on the bus but for some reason i cant pull myself to.. if i knew where her locker is i would go talk to her at her locker but i dont and none of my friends kno where it is...ive been imin her everyday but i dont want to seem annoying her and i dont wanna text her or call her and do both so i dont know i imed her today after school and she never answered me then went away and i dont know its weird im starting to have feelings for her even though we just met...so i dont know if i should hang out with her just me and her or me her and 1 of my friends and 1 of her friends...so should i hang out just us or 4 of us and should i try to get to know her better then try and ask her out? please help thanks in advance..
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First of all, after im'ing her and talking, you should sit by her now on the bus or talk to her and acknowledge you know each other...
Not to acknowledge her and not talk to her is sending a message that you don't want to be "seen" with her or "let anyone know you know her" now...
Get to know her better and hang out with friends and then sooner or later, ask her out.
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Okay... first of all, take a deep breath and pull back. You are saying that you are having feelings for her and that she seems pretty cool but it seems to be that you only talked to this girl maybe once or twice. The feelings that you are having might be the need to be with someone that you find attractive; not necessarily the need to be with her because of the things that you like about her... you see what i'm saying? I don't know what has happened to you before in the relationship field or whatnot, that is causing you to have premature feelings for her and at the same time, not being able to approach her. Maybe it's the fear of rejection. Rejection sucks for everybody, I don't care who you are but it's one of those things in life that we must go through to make us who and what we truly are. You have to build yourself up so that she sees you as an attractive, confident guy that wants to be friends and then sees where things go later on. You don't want to scare her off by coming across as someone that is always around and "waiting". But by calling her and by im-ing her, you've already shown interest so you gotta let her take her time. Sometimes as females, we have to warm up to people and find things within ourselves to continue forward. She is probably wrestlin with some things just like you are. But you have to be confident in yourself and hold your head up high and just walk up to her and tell her who you are and ask how she's doin and let her know that you wanted to be cool with her and just allow things to be open. (that gives her a chance to respond and not feel cornered by you). You'll be fine... you're just nervous and like I said, she probably is to. If she didn't like you, then she would have told you by now and she wouldn't have taken your number. So you gotta just be patient. Start bringing out the qualities that you want her see and it'll make her feel more comfortable, ya know? It'll work out... just be patient, give her some space and time but keep in touch with her at the same time. Not everyday... but every once in awhile so she knows that you're around. Good luck!!! :)
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well you've got to make her think you are better than the other guy. so be sweet but not too sweet because then she'll think you are creepy and desperate. most girls would rather you talk to them in person rather than just on instant messanger. it shows that you like them. so go up to her on the bus, don't act SUPER shy because then she'll be like..uh..ok. but don't act TOO tough and masculine. it really just depends on her. if she's shy or if she's not. you should have said that.. but um i think you should just go up to her on the bus and say "hey.. you wanna hang out sometime?" and then she'll answer, and it will slowly turn into a conversation. anymore questions, just ask. i'm a 15 year old girl..so yeah, i know.
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