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fear of wetting during sex.
i'm 25 have a problem with letting go as i'm scared of pissing the bed when having intercourse with partner. i've never had the experience of a orgasam as my ex used to blow all the time. my new partner is getting upset with me cause i wont let go and he think's he is the problem and i tell him that it's me not him which is true. i go to the bathroom before intercourse and even when i first used a vb, and i get the smell of urine [after i think is a orgasam],using the vb when i'm home by myself. if anyone can help me with my fear that will make my realationship better, or if i'm doing it properly.
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you really should just tell your partner why you're nervous about having sex.
don't be embarrassed.
i doubt he'd ever laugh @ you or make you feel bad in any way :)
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if you're embarrassed of anything during sex, than you shouldn't be having sex. also, if you're nervous to tell your partner anything, or aren't completely open with them, then you definitely shouldn't be having sex
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I agree with the person before me... communication is truly everything. If you can't feel comfortable to tell him the truth and if he is actin like a butthole gettin mad at you, then thats his problem. It's not about having an orgasm all the time. That does not in any way define sex. If you are satisifed in other aspects as well as your boyfriend, then that is what you need to rest assure in. Maybe you should change some positions or even go talk to the a doctor about it. But I know that there are some positions that cause the area around the bladder to be affected and can cause you to urinate. But if this is really something that you can't figure out on your own, then go to a doctor and talk to someone about it. Don't be ashamed because I'm sure it's not the first time they've heard it. But I really wouldn't be ashamed of it. If you are smelling urine, then that's what it is but sometimes you are having an orgasm that will result in that type of fluid. And sometimes the sex itself is very satisfying to the body that you lose control and because it's happening in the region, it could cause you to urinate. It has to do with nerves as well.... but I found an awesome site to help you out and explain all this to you... please check it out! :)
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Good luck and let me know how it goes! :)
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Hey, well this guy is your boyfriend/partner. You should have no problem telling him what your fear is (if you havent already, cause im not sure if you just said that the problem was you and then didnt go into detail from there). Communication is important in any and every relationship. If he really loves you, what you tell him shouldnt change anything. I would try letting go with him, if he agrees to try. If you try, and something bad happens (if you know what i mean with the urine thing), you need to see a doctor about it. Again, you might feel embarassed to tell a doctor, but its better than having the fear of letting go in bed with all of your future boyfriends/partners.
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