Gender: Female
Age: 16
Member Since: March 7, 2007
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Last Update: August 26, 2007
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I am 16/m/uk..
Me and my girlfriend have been gong out for around 15 months now..
Recently, things seem different on her behalf.. As in things have suddenly beomce different between us.. I know this might be strange but sometimes i like to be made feel special.. Throughout most of our relationship we've sort of had an issue with that n some of the time ive felt like ive put in more effort than her..
Recently she started hanging around with a group of guys which i dont pertiularly like but i respect the fact that they are friends and so i do not try and create a wedge between them..
We also like quite far apart.. and this can make it difficult at times to see eachother.. This means when she does go out (which is almost eveyday) it is with these guys..
I think some of this may be jelousy that she spends alot more time with them than she does me..
Its hard to explain really what i feel but just something inside tells me she doesnt feel like she used to.. Maybe its cos she is not showing me that she loves me enough.. i honestly dont know..
Recently she does things like not reply to my txts straight away because she is around these guys.. Whenever we are on the phone all she seems to tell me about is what she did with them that day and it bugs me..
I wanna find sum mutual ground but i dont know how..
I guess i just want her to make me feel special at times.. i just dont know how to go about doing it..
Appreciate any help
Thanks
Sanj.. (link)
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Well firstly, it seems as if she DOES still love you, and even if she don't show it, she still does. She might just be hanging around with all gthe guys because they are her close friends. Would you like it if she stopped you hanging around with some of your closest friends?
Things might be diffrent on both your behalfs, and NOT just hers.
Its not really her fault that she lives far away, that was just 1 of the things that you had to get past, which you must have obviously, if you'd been going out for over 15 months.
If you dont want to hear about all of her friends, dont ask her about her day, because if you know it consists of them, you know she's goin to talk about them.
And at the end of the day, Rumours are just that, RUMOURS, and its up to you if you really want to believe the people who say them, no1 can stop you from the way your feeling, but them also maybe sometimes, you have to TRUST your other half, and maybe that way things would be alot smoother between the two of you.
Hope i helped.. AGEN..
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16/m/uk..
My girlfriend of 17months.. we sort of fell into a really really rough patch and we were both thinking of ending things.. i really dont wanna let her go.. i love her to much to do it..
but to me it seems like its wat she wants... i only want 4 her 2 b happy wether thats with or without me..
Basically we have decided to go on a break for around 2 months and act as just friends and see how we feel after the 2 months and decide wether to end it properly or get back together...
Its only been 2 days into this little break and already its killing me.. i cant stop thinkin about her.. shes all i eva think about.. the only person i wanna txt/see... im crazy in love with her!
Im so scared at the end of the 2 months she isnt gonna wanna get back with me..
When i talk 2 her now she seems so happy and fine without me.. and it kills me... i can barely hold a conversation with her anymore without feeling depressed..
I keep asking myself "why is she so happy without me yet im dying without her?"
Should i be cutting down on things i usually do 2 show her what she will be missing.. or show her what a great bf i can be so she will want to come back?
Is there anything i can do to help feeling how i feel - depressed all the time..
Appreciate any help..
Sanj (link)
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Well Firstly you shouldn't just ASSUME things because you never know, you might actually be WRONG, which you most probably are in your case. Maybe all she is doing is putting on a front to try and HIDE the way she's really feeling, because its hurting her aswell as its hurtin you, she just doesnt want to show it.
Hope i helped in some possiblleee wayy, to make you see clearer the way she's feeling INSIDE.
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Ok, well I'm kinda basically in love with my best friend. And he knows that. He said he liked me too, but chose someone else over me. So now he has a girlfriend. He's still my best friend but he confuses me a lot. I know that he loves his girlfriend and would never want to leave her. But like, since he's had his girlfriend, he's kissed me, held my hand, and the other night me, him and my other friend were just kinda hangin out in my room. We were all sitting on the bed & me & him were just like lying down. & he put his arm around me. He always tells me he loves me. But that's because he really does, but just as a friend, I think. This confuses me alot. I don't know if he really does like me, but less than his girlfriend. Or if he's trying to just be nice to me cuz he knows I like him. Can someone please help me understand this? Like what should i do? And what do you think is going on? (link)
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Its Natural to have feelings for your best friend, it always happenz at one point..
Maybe the way he felt about you before he had his girlfriend was different towards the way e sees you now..
You say he's kissed you while he was with his girlfriend, and you say you love him, but you gotta ask yourself, do you REAALLLYY want to be with a guy that cheats on him girlfriend.. As they say, once a playa, alwaiz a playa.. From the way he seems, he doesnt seem like much of a decent guy if hes flirting with you, and it isnt even subtle flirting.
And also, once a guy knows you like him, he starts doing things flirty because he likes the attention.
I dont think you should let anything happen..
1) becase your best friends, that rarely comes round agen..
2) He just cheated on his girlfriend, and youk never know, he mite do the same to you..
Hope i Helped..
Harmeet
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Alright, well it seems that my boyfriend has sort of mood swings and I am used to them. I mean, one day he will be all excited to talk to me and the next he basically doesn't he even wanna communicate at all. Even when he doesn't he still would contact me somehow during the day. Well anyway, so yesterday I was looking forward to talking to him near the end of the night and he had yet to come on/call me. So I waited and waited but still nothing. Now either he didn't want to talk to me or he was too busy playing with this one game .That game he started getting into online and it basically is slowly starting to take over his life. It's almost like he chooses that over everything else and makes me feel like some third wheel. And to a game, it's really unfair. I might be overreacting but I need to know. And should I call him or text him today? (link)
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Boys do tend to have mood swings sometimes even more often then gurlz do.. and also boyz LOVVEEEE their video games and stuff..
Ive been in your situation before with my boyfried.. id literaly be waitin for hourz on end, waitin 4 him 2 call or txt..and then wen he dint.. id eventually call him, only to find out he been playin his Xbox 4 all those hourz..
Unles you genuinly think he doesant to chat 2 you.. 4 sum certain reason..dnt assume it while he playin hiz games..
If it realli getz 2 you.. jus try and make him feel bad and very guilty.. that hez puttin you second 2 hiz game.. thats what i did.. trust me it works.. Call him up while he playin his game.. if he picks up..but doesnt tlk.. and them wantz you 2 tlk.. jus make him feel bad and b lyk " i ain gonna tlk 2 you till that game iz off".. Get the boy on LOKDOWN!!
Itz probli only a little phase anyway if he just discovered the game..eventually he'l get bored, and jus 4gt about itt, and then all hiz attention shud b on YOUUU!!
I hope in some way this advice workz...
Harmeet
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