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What To Do...
16/m/uk..
My girlfriend of 17months.. we sort of fell into a really really rough patch and we were both thinking of ending things.. i really dont wanna let her go.. i love her to much to do it..
but to me it seems like its wat she wants... i only want 4 her 2 b happy wether thats with or without me..
Basically we have decided to go on a break for around 2 months and act as just friends and see how we feel after the 2 months and decide wether to end it properly or get back together...
Its only been 2 days into this little break and already its killing me.. i cant stop thinkin about her.. shes all i eva think about.. the only person i wanna txt/see... im crazy in love with her!
Im so scared at the end of the 2 months she isnt gonna wanna get back with me..
When i talk 2 her now she seems so happy and fine without me.. and it kills me... i can barely hold a conversation with her anymore without feeling depressed..
I keep asking myself "why is she so happy without me yet im dying without her?"
Should i be cutting down on things i usually do 2 show her what she will be missing.. or show her what a great bf i can be so she will want to come back?
Is there anything i can do to help feeling how i feel - depressed all the time..
Appreciate any help..
Sanj
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Well Firstly you shouldn't just ASSUME things because you never know, you might actually be WRONG, which you most probably are in your case. Maybe all she is doing is putting on a front to try and HIDE the way she's really feeling, because its hurting her aswell as its hurtin you, she just doesnt want to show it.
Hope i helped in some possiblleee wayy, to make you see clearer the way she's feeling INSIDE.
x x
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As hard as it is, you need the break.
You are clingy. Its not neccesarily a horrible way to be...
I can relate to your girlfriend, and my girlfriend is very similar to you. She clings. Sometimes a little too hard. That makes me push her away.
Sometimes, I have to take a break. Not from the relationship, but sometimes I just have to tell her that I need a few hours away from her. Its just what I need as a more emotionally independent person to keep myself sane. And it hurts her sometimes when I have to do this, but if I didnt the relationship would fall apart on my end.
Give her her space, dont crowd her too much. But if you really dont want to let her go, tell her so. Tell her that you changed your mind, you dont think that you need a few months, but that shes welcome to take more time if she needs it.
In the future, when you get pissed at each other, you both just need to work on stopping yourselves earlier and not letting things devolve into a fight. My girl and I are past the 2.5 year mark and we had some problems with that earlier in the summer. We'd feed off each other's anger and fights about stupid shit would get blown way out of proportion.
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You have to live your own life.
Why are you going to wait around for her to decide if she wants to be with you?
Go out with your friends! Sitting around waiting for her to come back isnt going to help anything. In fact that will affect any chances you have with getting back together.
YOU are 16 ...trust me..you will meet many more girls...
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All I can say is prove it to her.
This is a tough situation.
But there is noway you can force her to love you.
Im sorry I can't help much.
But Your gf just probably wants to see what its like to not have a bf.
So she can talk to guys and not feel guity.
Good Luck:: Julie.
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