Hello. I don't claim to be a specialist and I don't claim to know what I'm talking about--unless I do. I'm not going to fill your head with a bunch of bull just becuase I don't know what I'm talking about, I will refer you to someone else. Feel free to contact me by messenger, i'm usually logged onto them via cell phone but will hop on a computer if possible. Anything else, ask
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is there a way i can look up concerts on a certain day? I'm looking for concerts on may 14th (in new york, conn., or rhode island). i know some people might not have announced their tour dates yet, but is there a way i can look up a date and get a list of shows that day? (link)
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If the Venue uses it, www.ticketmaster.com sells tickets and you can search their listings a number of ways.
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I need some tips from the girls. Are there any special techniques that you use when you're making out with a guy? ILL RATE (link)
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Everyone is different but I would say running your fingers through his hair usually helps. I've never found a guy that did not enjoy that. There really isn't too much you need to do when making out with him. Maybe stroke the side of his cheeks at times or wrap your arms around his neck.
Other than that, experiment some. You will find what he likes. Every guy is different
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I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.
I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.
He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!
Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!! (link)
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First of all.. long distance relationships are HARD! I tried dating a guy that lived just a few hours away and it didn't work out.
Second, a relationship with someone you don't know can be scary. If he is acting obsessive and you are scared to break up with him, let someone know. It sounds like he has gone beyond obsessive. It is going to be hard, most definitely, but it needs to be done if you want to be freed.
You need to tell him that your feelings just aren't the same and you need your freedom. He probably will cry and you are just going to have to be strong. It isn't heartless to leave someone like that when it is in your best interest. Just be strong and explain to him what you just told me and if he cares at all about you then he will understand. Don't let him pressure you into anything! If you are truly scared he will come to your house, MAKE SURE SOMEONE KNOWS what is going on. Keep your house locked up when you are not there and maybe even when you are. It wouldn't really hurt to have some pepper spray JUST IN CASE.
Also don't give him excuses just the truth. If you need any other advice, please feel free to ask me. I hope this all helped you out and if there is anything I did not cover, please, ask me specifically so I can try to help you out.
Best of luck! Be strong!
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Is suicide the only way out? Please, no one word answers. (link)
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I'll be honest with you and say yes and no. Suicide may be the immediate end to your life but it is not the way out. If there is something troubling you that greatly then you need to seek help. Suicide is the end to it all and is completely unnecessary. People think that their life is so bad the only way to fix their problems is to kill themselves and that is the selfish way out. They don't think of those around them who will continue to suffer because they chose to take their own lives. Their family is left with the guilt of thinking they could have possibly prevented it if ... (fill in the blanks with what if questions)
Like I said, Suicide definitely is the ultimate way out. You will no longer exist on earth and depending on what you believe, will go on to whatever step is next.
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This really isn't about getting advice. It's just some things i've wondered about girls.
1) Why do girls always go to the bathroom in groups? What do you guys do in there besides pee?
2)why are girls embarrassed to be seen in their bra and panties but not in a bikini.
3) Do girls notice when guys get boners?
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1. Girls tend to go to the bathroom in groups to socialize. It gives them a bit more privacy and the chance to exclude whoever they may be talking about. They also discuss stuff like boys, hair, make-up etc.
2. A bra and panties are the same as a bikini in a sense but girls are taught that their bra and panties are to be intimate and a bikini is meant for wearing in public. Yes it is the same thing but it is just the way society looks at the two.
3. Not really. Sometimes girls may notice things like that but usually the only way we do is when you make it obvious by trying to hide it. Most of the time a girl won't notice for the simple fact they aren't focusing on that part of you.
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Ok, this is terrible but I need HELP!
I've been shoplifting for a little over two years now. I've taken A LOT of stuff. I take little things or big things--it doesn't really matter as long as I leave with something I should have purchased! It's pathetic sometimes because I'll steal something I really don't need or end up not even using. I don't know why I just keep doing it. It feels like I'm compelled to when I'm inside a store. I'll check the entire store out like I'm really shopping (I'll even try clothes on that I'm not even interested in) but the truth is that I'm scouting out my next steal and finding the "easy target" and/or "easy location" in the store.
I don't want to steal from stores though. I know it's against the law and I can get in a lot of trouble. I've tried to stop doing it or cut-back even from it almost feels like I NEED to when I'm in that moment?
I use to feel like I had butterflies in my stomach when I stole something and when I used it the first time. I even stole a jacket once and felt almost PROUD to be wearing it since I wasn't caught. See...it's gone too far and I'm scared of myself now. The butterfly feeling has long gone and I feel pathetic when I take things without paying but I just can't stop doing it.
What do I do so I can stop this? I don't want to be a criminal. I don't want to get arrested or go to jail. I don't want that embarrassment either! Sad to say, I don't want this useless JUNK setting around my room! Please give me some advice here because I'm completely lost! (link)
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It definitely sounds like you need to get some help. There is something called Kleptomania, basically an addiction to theft.
You need to talk to someone you can trust so they can help you. Therapy can help or maybe an adult you know will be able to help you without having to send you to a specialist.
I'm glad you know what your doing is wrong and are willing to admit you need help. That is ALWAYS the first step to fixing a problem like that.
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My nose bleeds seeing as my house is dry including
my room too it bleeds often and i was just wondering if there was anything i could do to stop it from bleeding as much as it does and is there a way to make my room less dry?
Thank you(: Also is it bad that it's
bleeding alot? Should i see a doctor? (link)
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An easy way to make the air less dry is get a humidifier. They sell them at places like Wal*Mart and Walgreens. They usually range from $15 and up.
There are warm air humidifiers and cold air humidifiers. The only real difference is the warm air humidifiers produce a steam that is released into the air so the air can take in the water particles. I actually own both kinds and find that both work very well. If you have allergies I also recommend getting one with a filter since it will filter the water and the air that is passing through it.
Another way you can make the air more humid is to take an open container, like a bucket, and fill it with water and place it near your heat vent in your room. It works the best in a place where it will be heated to evaporation. As the water in the bucket evaporates it will put more moisture into the air. It works really well if you put the bucket right on top of your heat vent but some people don't like to do that since it does block some of the warm air that comes from the vent.
I hope these suggestions help!
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what is the best treatment for chronic cervicitis? (link)
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The best thing to do is go to the doctor. Here is a website that has some useful information that might help you out.
http://www.healthsquare.com/fgwh/wh1ch05.htm
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so last week my boyfriend was fingering me and afterwards i realized i was bleeding. this was not the first time he had fingered me and im not a virgin either. however this is the first time i bled during it. this past weekend though, we had sex and everything was fine i didnt bleed or anything. later in the night though he fingered me, and i did start to bleed, kind of alot. is this normal?? someone please help me im not sure if something is wrong or not.. (link)
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Make sure he is being gentle. If he has longer nails then it is possible he is being too rough and it is scratching you causing the bleeding. Make sure his nails are clean and trimmed before he decides to finger you again.
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so my boyfriend and i were laying down and i was laying ontop of him, and we were making out and we both had jeans on.. i had underwear on too (so i was fully clothed and so was he) i think he cummed, and there was a wet spot on his pants, it was little i think. but the very next day, i had my period.. could i be AT ALL anyway pregnant????! (im not going to a doctor or getting a pregnancy test or the morning after pill.) im just kind of freaking out since im literally a really good girl. pregnancy can NOT be an option.
thank you in advance!! (link)
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There is no way you are pregnant. You have nothing to fret about. As long as you had on clothing then there is no way for the sperm to impregnate you.
Just remember, the only way to get pregnant is for the sperm to fertilize the egg. In order for that to happen, he has to come inside you. I guess its possible for you to get pregnant if he cums on you (near your area), but its not that likely.
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I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend's also 17.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months (4 when we first had sex). We were going to wait to have sex until we were 18 (for practicality but also for privacy reasons), but that didn't work out so well, lol. We had sex once (we were each other's firsts) and were completely safe about it. We both agreed it was amazing and a week later when we were alone again, we had sex for the second time and it was even better. I didn't see him the next week because he went on a family trip so, you know, I missed him a lot! When he got home this past weekend, we started getting really intimate. Right when we were about to have sex, he announced that he didn't want to have sex anymore and that he wanted to wait until we graduated. I thought this was really weird, but he wouldn't say anything more about it. The week has gone on and he's been the same old guy. He's sweet, and thoughtful, and amazing... and guys, I really love him. He just won't talk to me about it. To tell you the truth, I really like sex. I don't want to wait a year. However, he mans a lot to me and I don't want to ruin this. Any advice on why he's doing this or how to get him to talk? Thanks so much! (link)
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I would actually be happy he wants to wait. A lot of guys run off after you have sex with them. He might have just thought that maybe it would be better for the both of you to not risk your futures by having sex. Of course you enjoy it (who doesn't?) but maybe it is better to wait.
If you really want to sit down and talk with him, your going to have to be completely honest with him. Tell him that you really enjoyed your time together and that you've noticed some things have changed. Ask him if there is a specific reason he does not want to continue having sex with you. He may not be willing to talk, but you have to try if you want to know whats going on. Don't pressure him into talking, be understanding. If he ignores the question, tell him you feel like there is something going on and you would like for him to talk to you about it. If he tells you he would rather not talk about it, be respectful and drop the subject for now. He will talk to you when he's ready
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I just had my period and I know I should tell my mom but I don't want to be embarrassed. I cannot find the right words to tell her that I've started. It wouldn't be a problem but my mom doesn't have periods right now and doesn't keep any pads or tampons in the house because of that. I can't just stuff toilet paper in my panties. My friend gave me a few pads but I can't keep asking her for them. How do I tell my mom about my period and not feel stupid? I don't want her to make this into a big deal... (link)
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If your worried about telling your mom, ask her if you can have some money to buy some tampons/pads for yourself. You don't have to tell her what you need the money for, just tell her you need some money to pick up a few items. She may not be okay with that but it's worth a try.
It really isn't hard to tell your mom. She was in your place once and will be completely understanding. Parents know they have to deal with stuff like that when they have children, especially girls. Just tell her you need to talk to her and sit her down and just be like "mom, i got my period for the first time, would you please buy me some tampons/pads?" it really is that easy. There is no need for it to be an awkward situation. My best friend was raised by only her father so when she got hers for the first time, she had to ask her dad to buy her products. Things could be a lot worse than having to talk to your mom. I promise, she will understand without a problem. :)
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so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. Our relationship has been really great and I love him so much.... But I seem to have lost interest. I never feel like having sex anymore and find my self feeling jealous of single people. What's wrong with me, or is it just something I'll get over. (link)
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I don't believe that five months is really enough to say you are actually in love with someone. It sounds to me like you were in love with the idea of being with him and its more of a friendship type of love than a romantic love. Try taking a break from each other and see how you feel about things then. You might feel better single or you might realize that you do want to stay with him. Be honest with him and let him know how you are feeling; he could feel the same way. I have been with my boyfriend four years now and I still envy my single friends even though I have never been happier with someone else. You just need to get settled into your life and remember that you are still young (as am i) and there are many options out there and you may come to realize he isn't the one for you (or at least not right now anyways) you never know what the future can bring to you
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hiya i am having trouble understanding my menstrual cycle and my head is a bit baffled as i think i could be pregnant...my period started approx 10th december....and lasted for apporx five days..when it had finished 2 days later i had sex ...i am just wondering when should i take a test ? (link)
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I recommend waiting until about a week or so after your period last ended. A pregnancy test is most effective in the morning and if you wait until your period is actually late then it will save you the money of not having to buy a pregnancy test. Sometimes your period just has a mind of its own and it comes a little off schedule. Don't stress about it yet, that can make it come even later or not at all. If your period is usually regular then wait until you are supposed to have it to worry much. A lot of girls get worked up over thinking they are pregnant when in fact they have nothing at all to worry about (i've been there)
Best of luck to you!
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16/f
the top of the vaginal lips itches, it's not internal or anything it's not RIGHT on the lips either. it's somewhat above it, where the hair kind of is.. where sometimes girls shave and leave a line.. it's around that area. i don't have any white discharge or anything, it just itches at times. and when i look at it, sometimes my vaginal lips look dry. why is that? is it from the sex or from sweating because of sex? or could it from shaving? but even when i have hair down there, it still itches. (link)
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I could be dry skin actually. It may be odd, but I always put lotion all over my body after showering, including in those personal spaces. You may also just have some irritation from shaving. When the hair is starting to grow back it may be somewhat itchy or the shaving itself may just irritate your skin kind of like razor. burn does to your legs. Try putting some neosporin or hydrocortizone cream on the area to see if it does any good for you
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i just got my belly button pierced on wednesday and it didnt hurt at all. later that night it was a little sore. when i woke up the next morning i had the worst abdominal pains ever. its not infected but it is red and extremely sore but thats how it should be. its now saturday and my stomach pains keep getting worse and no matter what type of medicine i take it makes no difference. can anyone tell me how long my stomach is goin to hurt for? not my belly button my actual stomach. (link)
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I don't think an external piercing would actually infect you in such a manner. I have had my naval pierced for almost two years now and I never had that problem. Mine actually did get infected after getting it pierced because I was allergic to the metal the ring was made of but it did not cause internal stomach pains.
The pain is probably not actually related to the piercing itself. I recommend going to a doctor just in case there is something wrong.
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what are the possible things i can expect to happen the first time i have sex, as far as physical feelings and emotional ? i mostly want to know how it will feel physically. or the things i can do so it will feel better. (link)
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Males and females tend to respond to things like this differently than each other so a clarification of your gender would be helpful but I will still do my best to give you some guidance.
There are a lot of physical and emotional risks you are taking by having sex. I would first like to say that if you are questioning yourself then DO NOT go through with it. I know it is overrated to say that it is best to wait until your wedding night but I wish that I had at least waited until I found the guy I wanted to be with. He saved himself for the girl of his dreams and I wish I would have done the same for him.
Physically sex is going to be pleasureful and possibly painful. If you are a female and this is your first time, expect some pain. It shouldn't be unbearable pain but it will be somewhat painful. Men, well I am not completely sure about that. I am not a male so I really could not tell you what sex feels like physically for a male.
Emotionally, there are a lot of things. You could be happy it happened but then later on regret the decision you made (very common) or you may not even care that it happened and go on with your life like it was nothing. Everyone reacts differently to losing their virginity. Just remember that with every pleasure there is a pain. You may not think about it now, but there is a good chance you will regret it later in life if you jump into it too fast.
Please be sure you are ready to handle the physical and emotional consequences that may come with having sex. Be safe and use protection. There is nothing worse for a young teen than to have one night of fun (sex, partying etc.) and then to find out 6 weeks later they are expecting a child; or to find out they have contracted something from their partner that may or may not be curable.
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What is a good dietary supliment that is SAFE to use, will help curb appatite and help with the burning of fat and calories that I can add to my nutrition and exercise. Thank you. (link)
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There really is no miracle supplement you can take to help with weight loss. I am not familiar with what is currently on the market but I do know that the best way to lose weight is to maintain healthy eating habits along with a regular exercise routine. A higher protein diet will help with strength building if that is what you are looking for. If you need something to supplement what you are already eating, take a regular multivitamin to ensure you are getting adequate nutrition. It is very stressful on your body to be lacking important nutrients and you to be exercising heavily on top of that malnourishment.
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I'm 18, and I'm pregnant. My fiance, he's happy I just told him not to long ago and he went from being a total creep to me, to being the perfect guy. Why? I don't know. He's just amazing. My Dad on the other hand..... Not so much, remember that saying your dad always told you when you were little. "I'll always have your back not matter what." Well what the heck happened to that? Me and my dad used to be really close. But now it seems that he can't stand to be around me. He keeps dropping hints that he wants me out, but for right now I don't have any where to go, or I would get out. I wish I knew what to do, I guess that is why I'm resulting to this. And not I'm not asking if I should keep my baby, I'm going to keep my baby. Deffinately. I love my child already. And so does the father of my child. My question is what the hell do I do about my dad? (link)
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Let me start off with a congrats! Being that young and pregnant is going to be a tough road though. Your father is probably worried about you and your future. A baby changes a lot of things and its even worse when you don't already have a plan. I do not have any children yet but am looking forward to the day that I do.
You need to sit down with your dad and discuss what he is feeling and what you are feeling. He is probably worried that his baby girl is growing up too fast and isn't ready for what the world has to offer. Pick a day he seems to be in a decent mood and relaxed and tell him you would like to talk to him about your situation. Let him explain what his concerns are. DO NOT ARGUE with him. That is the last thing that you want. You want to maintain a calm adult conversation so you can both get your feelings out without anger arising. He may say some stuff that you don't like but that's to expected.
If talking to him doesn't seem to work, you need to make sure you have a back-up plan as to how you are going to raise a child on your own.
As for the former creep fiance, he is going to go back to him old self eventually. He is excited about your news and wants to be there but as soon as you give him the chance he will be back to his old creep-ish self. If hes really a creep then maybe you need to reconsider the engagement. You can always have a baby and not be with a guy that is not going to treat you right.. You deserve the best for you and your baby
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Does anyone know some good Dental college school in Oregon?
also, how much they cost? How long the program is? and what classes are needed for the program?
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I am not sure of a school in the area but a lot of community colleges do offer the program around here (Illinois) try going to www.fastweb.com
They can help to match you with the right school.
I am not sure of the complete requirements, but i know it usually includes science: biology and anatomy, math: depends on the schools requirements, english: basic research writing and letter writing, and then all the other gen-eds the school requires.
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