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My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me anymore?
I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend's also 17.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months (4 when we first had sex). We were going to wait to have sex until we were 18 (for practicality but also for privacy reasons), but that didn't work out so well, lol. We had sex once (we were each other's firsts) and were completely safe about it. We both agreed it was amazing and a week later when we were alone again, we had sex for the second time and it was even better. I didn't see him the next week because he went on a family trip so, you know, I missed him a lot! When he got home this past weekend, we started getting really intimate. Right when we were about to have sex, he announced that he didn't want to have sex anymore and that he wanted to wait until we graduated. I thought this was really weird, but he wouldn't say anything more about it. The week has gone on and he's been the same old guy. He's sweet, and thoughtful, and amazing... and guys, I really love him. He just won't talk to me about it. To tell you the truth, I really like sex. I don't want to wait a year. However, he mans a lot to me and I don't want to ruin this. Any advice on why he's doing this or how to get him to talk? Thanks so much!
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mmmh actually that same thing happened to me just that i was like your guy lol maybe he does feel guilty about it or maybe he just really doesn't want things to go wrong and start with all those things sex brings to a relationship among them pregnancy scares lol! thats why i wanted to wait til graduating. but talk to him about it, try being comprehensive and not too pushy about wanting to have sex. good luck
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Honestly this is usually the opposite, the girl is usually doing this and the guy is asking this question. But he might feel guilty about it (most people do) and you said it happened after he went on his vacation with his family, maybe being around his family made him realise that he really did want to wait and he remembered what his values were. We all know that when your getting into the moment that pretty much nothing is going to stop you. Talk to him and ask him to tell you what he is thinking. And you might not want to wait a year but if you care about him it shouldnt be that hard! and who knows it might happen before then!
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I would actually be happy he wants to wait. A lot of guys run off after you have sex with them. He might have just thought that maybe it would be better for the both of you to not risk your futures by having sex. Of course you enjoy it (who doesn't?) but maybe it is better to wait.
If you really want to sit down and talk with him, your going to have to be completely honest with him. Tell him that you really enjoyed your time together and that you've noticed some things have changed. Ask him if there is a specific reason he does not want to continue having sex with you. He may not be willing to talk, but you have to try if you want to know whats going on. Don't pressure him into talking, be understanding. If he ignores the question, tell him you feel like there is something going on and you would like for him to talk to you about it. If he tells you he would rather not talk about it, be respectful and drop the subject for now. He will talk to you when he's ready
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Probably thinks you guys did it too soon and wants to back off. I'd respect his wishes and stick to oral.
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I think maybe he feels guilty about it, and though I'm sure he REALLY wants to, he wants to wait even more. I think you should just ask him flat out and ask him whether or not he's feeling guilty and why he suddenly had a change of heart. Though it is his choice, he does kind of owe you an explanation. After thinking about it, maybe he's afraid to get you pregnant, which is why he wants to wait till you guys have at least graduated to take the risk again. Things DO happen and you could end up pregnant, I'm sure he's just thinking about both of your futures and doesn't want a pregnancy to ruin your future.
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