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stepmom.
i hate my stepmom. i kno hate is a strong word and well, my feelings are strong. she is sooo mean to me!! she doesnt like abuse me but the things she says really hurt. she always calls me fat (im 14 5'2 and 97 lbs.) and maybe thats fat but i dont think she needs to remind me of it every single day. i cant have friends over because she is sooo rude to everyone. i cant talk to my dad about it because he doesnt want to deal with it and i cant talk to her because she doesnt care. how can i ignore it? and pleaseeee dont say to talk to my dad. i really dont know what to do anymore.
thanks
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First of all, you're NOT fat. You should be around 110 lbs, actually.So disregard what she says because she's having some insecurity problems of her own.
I'm kind of in the same situation everyday as you are. My dad is basically submissive to my mom who is not understanding, narrow minded, stubborn, and just a paranoid control freak. I can barely say what I believe in or my ideas, even if it's ajoke, because I'll get yelled at. So I can't talk to my dad because he'll say my mom's right, or else he'd get yelled at by my mom, I know. Screwed up. I can't talk to her because she' the "supreme ruler of the world that is always right and shouldn't be questioned."
I'm not going to tell you to sit down with your stepmom and discuss this because I would hate to get that advice. And not trying to bring your hopes down, but it's probably not going to work. What I am going to tell you to do is completely ignore every rude remarks she says to you. Consider it as her way of showing how inexperienced she is with the world and how insecure she is in herself. Other than that, there are two ways you can go from there:
1)Suck up to her and be a little angel so you won't be grounded and what not. Or
2)Ignore her, blow her off, and just majorly disrespect her. But, I must warn you that this choice will get you grounded and when I did, I regretted it.
So I suggest you suck up to her and pretend like everything is fine. But have someone random to talk it about to, like me =) Because what you say to your friends, will get to your stepmom. And you rebeling against her will get you no where but house arrest by your dad/stepmom.
Sorry the reply was so long but if you ever need to vent, I'm here to read =) Contact info is on my page if you need to just cuss about her.
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You're SO not fat. 97 pounds? I'd kill to be that weight, lol. You're beautiful no matter what size or shape you are.
i have a situation similar to this... make as little contact as possible. Be civil and polite, so she can't complain, but attempt to keep the well-deserved snide remarks and rude comments to yourself. Stay over people's houses as often as possible, and do stuff with your friends. When you can't, lock yourself in your room and find things to do, like going on the computer, watching TV, listening to your iPod, or (when school starts) doing homework. It sounds like a lonely life (and it can be sometimes) but it will keep you sane and away from your stepmom.
Good luck and God bless.
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Like someone else said, agree with her. It was completely throw her off. Or say something completely random, and she'll probably be so confuesed that she won't want to make fun of you anymore. People who so ignorant to the point that they think 97 lbs is fat, are probably pretty easy to throw off.
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First off, I totally know how it feels. I had that at one point in my life. And I know it's extremely tough on you. For me the situation got resolved because my dad divored her, so that's a possibility at one point down the road.
For now though ignore her. She's trying to break you down by mentally abusing you not physically, which is just as bad. Try ignoring her comments, she'll probably pry a response out of you but stay strong. At one point, hopefully, she'll realize how petty she's being and might come around and stop.
If your dad doesn't want to deal with it than it seems like there might be trouble in paradise, or he's just going to brush it off, but at one point later one try speaking to him about your feelings and how you're trying to cope with what she's saying to you, so he'll understand your position. But I mean talk to him down the road.
For now rely on friends and talk to them about your situation if you can, and if you can't which I understand write down your feelings in a journal or book. It'll be a lifesaver since you won't store up all your hurt in you and you'll be able to express how you feel.
Stay strong, you'll be able to, and don't listen to what she says. Good luck too.
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5'2" and 97 pounds?
That is UNDERWEIGHT.
Don't listen to her, you should be at least 110 lbs. for your height.
To ignore her, whatever she says "agree" with her, it will throw her off.
Or don't reply at all.
Whatever she says you can't let it get to you because that's obviously what she wants. Try to stay out of your house as often as possible so you don't have to be around her. Try talking to your friends or a school counselor [if you're still in school]
If all else fails, you're going to have to talk to your dad, sorry. Wait until your stepmom is gone and your dad isn't doing anything. Say something like "Dad listen to me, [STEPMOM] is really getting to me. She's rude to all of my friends and me as well and I shouldn't have to be treated like this. She insults me on a daily basis and I don't deserve it because I've done nothing to her. I know you don't want to deal with it but I'm your kid and she's YOUR wife so you have to. Would you please talk to her and tell her to at least tone it down? I've tried but she won't even let me get a chance to talk"
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Simply, ignore her.
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