so what if i have this "friend" that i fight with all the time about stupid shit but i like being her "friend" or accuaintance because she is fun to talk to? then whenever i say we're fighting to people, i'm friends with her the next day and then people say "i thought you didn't like ______?" what should i do sam?
Well for 1 stop telling people you don't like her when your fighting. Because you obvoiusly are good friends who just fight, so just tell people your fighting and will probably be friends tomorrow, or my best advice would be just not to say shit at all. And when people ask just be straight with them and say we were fighting but we're cool now as usual. Whatever you do just don't talk shit because you know you'll end up friends and if that shit gets back to her I'm sure it won't make her feel good.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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Hey Sam,
I have this boyfriend and i can tell that he's like my soulmate.. yeah i know that sounds kind of cheesy but yeah.. i like have never felt that way for someone else before and i love him alot and i know he loves me but i still really think that he likes this girl who is his good friend and i asked him if he liked her and he said no and got kind of affended. What should i do? I mean i know i cant stop him from liking someone, but i just want to know the truth.
I don't know how many times I can say this to you girls. You've all gotta realize that your boyfriend will be like best friends with another girl, as hard as it is to deal with your boyfriend being so close to another girl, you have to realize hes choosing you over ANY other girl to be with so you must mean a lot to him weather he tells you or not. Also your not just his girl your probably one of him best friends too. Most guys tend to hide their emotions and keep them to theirself. But I'm sure that if he liked this girl he would be honest with you, at least if hes a decent guy. Signs you can look for is when your hanging out of hes kinda keeping his distance, If hes avioding you, or if your not in his info. I know that sounds stupid but if he didn't like you you definitely wouldn't be in his info. Because when your dating someone and your in their info its kinda like announcing to everyone that your his and that he likes you ya know? If this doesn't help and it gets really bad you should do this say to him that you want you two to have a no secret relationship where you tell eachother how you feel like if you do something wrong or hes getting annoying you tell eachother. This helps so you can talk things out instead of just breaking up. And also if he doesn't like you and he promises this he'll tell you how he feels more. Now since you asked him and he said no, this means he doesn't and he probably got offended because, you should have trust in him. Believe in him and have faith that if he likes another girl he'll tell you not you having to ask him. Theres no relationship without trust.
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Im still in love with my ex-boyfriend, he knows that im still in love with him, but he wants to be friends.Our perants are close friends and they want to go camping with me and my family, my ex is coming too. How can I show him that i still love him without scaring him away?
Honestly, I wouldn't show him you love him because he knows obvoiusly because you've told him. You need to realize that he doesn't feel the same way. Love isn't just how you feel, love is when the person you love feels exactly the way you do. Your both head over heels crazy for eachother. Honestly i wouldn't go camping with him because it'll make it that much harder for him and you. Don't try and pressure him or push him into anything. If he wants to be with you he'll let you know.
Sorry it's kinda short
But I hope I helped
*Samantha
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I know this boy Pete, and he wanted to date me up at the time I didn't wanna date him. And now he has a girlfriend, Kathy, and I want to date him. I really really like him, but it took him dating someone else for me to relize it. What should I do? this is killing me.
Well, it's kinda like that you don't realize what you have until its gone. You should just tell him exactly how you feel. Just be like I'm not trying to break you and your girl up because I want you to be happy but it's killing me... bla bla bla just tell him how you feel. See what his reaction is. If he really truely liked you a lot then he'll probably come back to you, unless he likes this girl more than he liked you. It'll show you a few things, for 1 how much he liked/likes you, 2 that you should be more careful with peoples emotions and figure yours out before you reject them, because I bet he has the impression that your playing games because you waited til he had a girlfriend and got happy to tell him this, and for 3 you should be careful on what he says to you because he he's still with this girl and is talking to you like your going out, If he'll do that to someone once, he'll most likely do it again, but to you this time. Lastly after you tell him how you feel, ask him how he feels about the situation and ask for him to please be honest.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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im realy ugly well thats what people say plus im on the basketball team and most of the people on the team got girls what should i do also they make fun of my fro they say its nappy
Whoaa okay, thats pretty fucked up if people say your really ugly how rude is that? and who are they to be judging someone, because they're not perfect. And not EVERYBODY thinks your ugly, everyone no matter what they look like someone likes them, weather they know it or not. And just because mostly everyone on the basketball has girls doesn't mean you have to. And not having one doesn't make you a loser either. Your waiting for the right person and all this will make your future relationship with someone that much better, because anything thats worth having is worth waiting for. Also people probably make fun of your fro as a joke just kidding around, they probably don't realize how much it bothers you, so just tell them you don't like when they do that and to stop, I'm sure if they're your friends they'll stop. If you like your fro thats all that should matter, who cares what people have to say or think. Nobody can make you feel bad without your consent. You have the power to just ignore peoples comments and not let it bother you, Because no matter where you go theres rude people all over.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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yo im to good at basketball i got all these little kids lookin up to me and everything what should i do
lmao, nice question. Teach them how to play good just practice with them, It'll give you more practice and they'll love it. Lol just be a good role model is all I can say
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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im fat how can i loose weight
This one really isn't that hard. Last year I used to be fat and since then I've lost 20 lbs. You just have to think, it's just food and what would you rather have a nice body or taste something good for a few minutes until you swallow it. Just don't eat when your bored, only eat when your really hungary. And what I do is take at least an hour walk a night.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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my mom told my sister she was virgin and now im not sure if hse is our real mom what should i do she beats me so i cant ask her and i cant tell anyone or she will beat me more HELP SAM
Okay, you MUST listen to everything I have to say because this is a SERIOUS matter. Theres two possabilities about your mom being a virgin. One is she could've just told you sister that to be a role model so your sister wouldn't do it. Two is you can be a virgin and get pregnant by messing around with someone and they cum on you it could end up getting into you and that way you'd get pregnant. Theres a way you can tell if shes been pregnant is if she has stretch marks on her stomach, because you get them from that, they might be faint though depending on your moms age. But what about your dad? talk to him about it, or talk to somebody you need to let this out. I know you say that you can't tell anyone but she'll beat you more but you HAVE to tell the cops or someone close to you thats a grown up because the right person will make sure your mom doesn't ever do that to you again. It's not your fault your moms like this because you did nothing wrong. Theres something wrong with her and she needs to get help, and in order to get help you HAVE to tell. If you don't you could wind up dead because your mom went too far without realizeing it. For your families safety you have to. It's so sad and makes me wanna cry but you have to. I read this book once the title was "A child called it" it was about this little boys journey on how his mother beat him and what she did to him, how he told on her, ect. Anyways you've gotta realize that no matter what evenutally someone WILL find out, because the little boy in the story they suspected it and the nurse checked him out and he admitted it was true. No matter how you try and hide it it will come out sometime, nobody can hide something forever. But you MUST tell someone!
Hope I helped and I'm sorry for what you have to go through.
*Samantha
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What if i want to have sex, but i feel selfconcious because i think my boobs are too small and i think my boyfriend will make fun of me. what should i do?
As long as you and your boyfriend love eachother and your ready, and by ready I mean it's not just some 3 month relationship, but I mean you too really love eachother, then it shouldn't matter how big your boobs are to him. I have small boobs too and one of my really close friends whos in her late 20's is gorgeous and has small boobs, and shes married with 2 kids and one on the way. If he really loves you then he won't care and most definitely will not make fun of your size. You've gotta realize nobodys perfect, everyone has their problem areas, and they cant control it. But anyone who loves you wouldn't ever make fun of you, he should just be happy that you love him enough to have sex because thats nothing small. And obvoiusly he knows your size because you can tell through clothes. Just don't worry about it because it's nothing you can control and he knows that.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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OK, so what if i did write how i feel about this person down .. lets say i have a whole notebook about him/her! i just can't get over this person. i know they are moving on, and i am too. i don't want to. what else should i do?
I know how you feel with this one, because I was going through it at the beginning of 8th grade. It's tough and probably won't get easier for awhile. But you have to realize that hes not comming back, its sad and it hurts but one day you will realize you can do so much better and be over him. One thing you definitely shouldn't do is constantly think of him, try and keep yourself busy, get your mind off of him. And even though its okay to cry, don't try and force yourself. Because the ending of a relationship is hard but you have to realize that you did nothing wrong, because its his loss and hes the one who changed his mind about you. One thing that I know for sure helps and makes it so much easier is not to talk to him, you don't have to do that it just helps you get over him faster. You might need to look at your other options. Such as meeting new people because a lot of times to get over someone is dating other people and when you find someone you really wanna be with you'll realize how much of an asshole this other guy was and how much better this guy treats you and how much happier you are. So just keep busy, try not to think about him that much, and get out there and meet new people. Oh I forgot one thing if your with someone else, and he wants you back whatever you do and as hard as it may be DO NOT go back to him, because then he knows he can do anything with you and your wrapped around his little finger, and obvoiusly hes just playing games and thats immature but through him a curve ball and prove him wrong, it'll feel good. Also you don't want the person your with to have to go through what you are now because you went back to your ex.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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What if i have an STD, lets say in this case Hep C, should i tell my boy/girlfriend about it or engage in sexual contact without telling him/her in hopes that he/she won't get the STD?
This is a seroius question, so don't take anything that I say lightly. First of all go to the clinque and get tested MAKE SURE you have it or you don't, that way if you have an STD you can get treated for it. You don't HAVE to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend but MAKE SURE you DO NOT have any sexual contact with them expectually without telling them about your situtation. In this matter you cannot be selfish and do something with them because you want to. Put yourself in their position. What if your boyfriend/girlfriend and you have sexual contact and they didn't tell you they thought they might have an STD, and you ended up getting it. Imagine how that would ruien your life, not to mention your trust in anyone. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is trusting you to be honest and not be selfish because in a relationship you can't be selfish because the relationship doesn't revolove around you, it revolves around you both. If you do something with them and they get what you think you might have that will destroy your trust with him because you weren't honest with him and did stuff with him. So get checked and DO NOT have any sexual contact with him until you know for sure weather you have Hep C. Because mostly everyone with an STD will pass it on when in sexual contact theres no "hoping" they might not get it because chances are they will. And if it shows up you do have it you shouldn't wanna do anything with him because you shouldn't want him to have to go through what you are with it.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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I know this person that never talks to me anymore. She never IM's me or nothing. What should I do?
Well it takes two people. It's not just her it's you too. If you don't talk anymore then it's you because you don't IM her either. Maybe she feels the exact same way as you. So IM her and ask her, just talk to her.
Hope I helped Erick lol
*Samantha
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i use to be best friends with this girl who i thought looked up to me well we stop being friends idk why but we dont hate eachother and she never talks to me and waht should i do shes turning bad
Wow, thats weird because the same thing is happening to me or already did lol. Well it depends on what kind of girl she is. Like if you can talk to her about it or if she'll just not listen. Because weather your friends anymore or not, you were at one time and those times you spent together, they'll make it so you'll always have love for the person just because of all you went through. So if you can try and talk to her about it, figure out why shes doing these "bad things" but if shes changed so much so probably won't care or realize that what your saying is right until it's too late. So this sounds harsh but if she doesn't listen to you, theres nothing you can really do, it's sad and it hurts so much to see someone you care about through their future anyway but really you have no control over it. They can say they know your right but still not even care and just blow what you have to say off. She obvoiusly either never saw you the way you thought she did or shes changed too much for anyone to save her. I wouldn't recommend this but it's your chioce. Its kind of ratting the person out which I'm not into and wouldn't do but if you talk to her and she doesn't listen you could call her parents and inform them on whats going on because they have a better chance of changing things than you. ONLY do that if you tried talking to her about whats going on first.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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What do you do if your ex girlfriend/boyfriend has moved on but you haven't?
Alright, this ones a tough one lol because I've been through it many times. I know it probably seems like you won't ever get over that fact that you two won't have anything, but trust me things get better and going through all the hard stuff just makes you that much stronger in the end. But as time goes on you'll realize that you deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them and just feels as strongly towards you that you feel towards them. If he doesn't see how great you are and all your good qualities then hes not worth your time. I know you might think well if I wait maybe he'll eventually see me the way I see him, unfortunetly thats not the case. The longer you hold on the harder its gunna be when you realize you have to move on. My advice would be to just live day by day, if you wanna cry then cry let it all out because thats good letting your feelings out rather than holding them in. But don't make crying all you do because the right guy wouldn't do that to you. What really helped me was writing out how I feel, it sounds stupid but it helps sooo much. Just know that you can't live you life in the past or wishing you've gotta move on and keep living your life because the right guy wouldn't let you stop living your life for him.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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What are you supposed to do when a bisexual friend girl likes another non-bisexual friend girl?
Well I dont know what the situation in your case is but if your the girl who likes another girl I'd have to say to not pressure her in anyway and you need to accept that her views on relationships aren't the same as yours, and just don't make her feel uncomfortable, because you can still have a friendship, it's better than nothing right? But definitely don't try and change a straight girl into a bi because you have baseically no chance. If shes not into it right away she probably won't ever be 100% confortable with it. But if your the girl thats straight then the best thing to do would be to just tell her your not into that, don't be mean about it just make it clear to her that your not trying to insult her in anyway because how she chooses to live her life isn't any of your business. But you don't want anything more than a friendship with her, and if she can't accept that than she wasn't ever a true friend to you because she has to accept that thats not your style and you don't feel comfortable with her hitting on you or trying to get with you.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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hey i have this bopyfriend and i think he likes his ex waht do i do,...i CANT ask him about it
Well for one, it depends on why you think he likes his ex, if hes chillen just them alone or something then you have a right to be concerned. But if its just a feeling you have i say ignore it until you find more of a reason. Yeah if they still talk they might just be like best friends, as hard as it is to deal with your boyfriend being so close to another girl, you have to realize hes choosing you over ANY other girl to be with so you must mean a lot to him weather he tells you or not. Most guys tend to hide their emotions and keep them to theirself. But I'm sure that if he liked his ex he would be honest with you, at least if hes a decent guy. Signs you can look for is when your hanging out of hes kinda keeping his distance, If hes avioding you, or if your not in his info. I know that sounds stupid but if he didn't like you you definitely wouldn't be in his info. Because when your dating someone and your in their info its kinda like announcing to everyone that your his and that he likes you ya know? If this doesn't help and it gets really bad you should do one of these two things 1 say to him that you want you two to have a no secret relationship where you tell eachother how you feel like if you do something wrong or hes getting annoying you tell eachother. This helps so you can talk things out instead of just breaking up. And also if he doesn't like you and he promises this he'll tell you how he feels more. Second just tell him be like im not trying to acuse you of anything but i kinda get the feeling that you sort of like your ex again do you? just be honest. Talkings the best thing you can do in a relationship, Also try and have more faith in him that he wouldn't do that to you, try and trust him more, because theres no relationship without trust.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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why are boys suchass holes .....and always have to hurt you for no good reason??
Well in some cases boys definitely are assholes, It just depends on they guy. For example if the guy hurts you you know he never cared about you or how you feel, or he just doesn't share the same feelings you have. It may not be a good reason to you on why he hurt you but with most people feelings fade and they change. I don't know if you two were dating or if he just rejected you, But you deserve a guy who will treat you good and always be there for you no matter what. All these heartbreaks will mend and being hurt all those times will make a future relationship feel that much better. Somewhere out there theres a guy waiting for you, someone thats not perfect, but perfect for you. You just have to be patient because things happen when you least expect them. But this guy, if he doesn't treat you good and hurts you the way you say, even though it may be hard you've gotta take control and realize theres better people out there and not to waste your time on someone who doesn't care.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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