Hi everyone!My name is Haley.I have been through a lot of crap and I know from my own experience how to help you. I love giving advice on friends and love life. I'm a cheerleader, dancer and I play field hockey. ask away!!! much
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I'm 13/f and I'm generally really thin. I weight 90lbs. My arms and legs are really long and skinny. But the problem is that my stomache bothers me soooo much. I realized yesturday when I was bending over that I have like three rolls. And I have one permanent crease! Is this normal? How can I get it to go away before summer? Am I fat? Any ideas or anyone who says anything that helps will really help me. I rate 5's to all. Thanks. (link)
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yes its normal. everyone has that. your probably the only one who notices it.
or just dont bend over
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Hey im 13f and it seems everyone has a boyfriend of girlfriend but me. It's really starting to bother me lately because ive liked this guy for over a year and he's known about it but doesnt do anything. I want to get over him and try and move on and meet a new guy, but its kind of hard because i get really shy and are extremely afraid of rejection. So really my questions are how to get over this guy and how to get to know new ones
thanks i rate 5's for good advice =) (link)
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you have to make yourself stop liking the other guy. just erase him from your life. yea im serious.
new guys come in when you make friendships with them and that can lead to boyfriend and girlfriend. so you wanna have guyfriends. just start talking to guys more.
also a great place to meet and hang out with guys is at sports and clubs. so like join track or a youth group. boys might seem a little intimidating to just go up and start talking to them but they are just as nervous about talking to girls as you. and if you act like your intrested in what they have to say and smile they will have all the more reason to like you.
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This Friday is this HUGE dance... everyone goes and I am getting tickets from this guy I know. So, he's going to be there and somtimes I get tongue-tied and say stupid things around guys. How can I not get tongue tied? Also, what are some cute,hot,sexy,etc. things to say to him that will make him like me more? I'll rate 5s! (link)
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omg! some guys do that to me! but its easy to fix.
you have to relax around him. let him talk more
that way the pressure isnt all on you to keep the
conversation going. like ask him a guestion about something he can go on and on about maybe sports
or if he is gonna play lacrosse in the spring whatever. or about the dance. think before you speak and remember its just a guy. he already likes you enough to get tickets for you so really you cant do anything that will make him think your weird.
cause he already likes you and probably thinks ur hott. just be chill and have fun. you can be like
maybe if your lucky ill save a dance for you.
or hit him playfully or touch his arm. you have
to like play a game with him. thts really sexy.
have fun at ur dance! and if he dances with another girl than you should ask another boy!
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I have this friend, known her forever. Shes turning out to be really mean, and its gettin me down.
This summer, we spent EVERY DAY together. Never ever missed a day. When we got back to school, she paid no attention to me. I talk to her on the computer these days and she tells me im fat, ugly, slutty, fat,fat,fat,fat,fat!!
And it gets me down, because im not fat. she gets others to hate me
But then.. Im so nice I go back to forgiving her!!
I cant stop myself!! What do I do!?!!? (link)
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girls can be such bitches! ugh it makes me sooo mad.
this chick is not your friend anymore. she was but lets just say she has gone to the dark side. you need to tell her that you dont care what she thinks
cause she obviously doesnt like you anymore and your
NOT going to be her friend if she is saying all these nasty things to your face! DO NOT forgive her beacause then she thinks its ok to treat you like this and its not. and you dont deserve to hear this
crap from your so called "friend". ditch her like she ditched you. start hanging out with some nicer girls. trust me there out there!
and if you need any more help leave one in my inbox!
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So there's this guy that I'm best friends with. And we've been friends since 4th grade, so we know each other really well. Well, I like him. A lot. I really want to go out with him. Last night at the school dance we slow danced together and now everyone thinks we're going out. And I could tell he enjoyed dancing with me. I mean I would just ask him out but there's more. Two of my other friends like him. One likes him a lot and I'm afarid to tell her I like him (even though she was one of the people that got us to dance). The other one only likes him a little and knows I like him, and, frankly, doesn't care (as in she wouldn't be mad if we went out). But I still don't want anyone to be mad at me. What do I do? Thanks. (link)
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well i think your other two friends can tell that since he danced with you he likes you and not them. that can be really depressing to see the guy you like dancing with another girl. so think about how they must feel. but be happy cause you know the guy likes you the best! but dont take advantage of it.
if your one friend really likes him and would be hurt if you two went out then no i dont think you should go out. because it will ruin your friendship.
remember boys are whatever friends are forever.
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oakyy whats better tell me in your own expernice what is better reading the note or give it to the guy? Because the guy that iam going to see in a couple of weeks i wrote him a letter and i like him and we have known eother long enough so . So i was wondering maybe you can give me ideas what should i do because first of all the place we are going to be at is going to be alot of people there and plus i don't know should i read it or not because i don't want other people hearing it you know? So i want ideas how do it so i won't have to feel like an idot. If you mind giving your ideas or thinking that would be great..Thanks for your help!!
Lauren (link)
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awww thts soo cute! i think you should put the note somewhere only he will find it not read it out loud.
or if thts too hard you can just give it to him smile, wink and walk away. you dont want to be there
while he is reading it cause that would ruin the moment plus it would be awkward for you.
hope i helped!
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I just realized that I have this weird binging habit. When nobody's home, or when I'm at a friend's house, I find myself eating insane amounts of food.
Is there a way that I can force myself to control it? (link)
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whenever you feel hungry do something else instead
of eating like listen to music or take a bath or something. if you need to eat then have an apple
or something healthy! then stop. no more food!
walk away from the junk food so your not near it.
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I started going out with this guy that I really like and he's turning 17 real soon and I'm his 1st gf. Well he sweet and nice and everything I like but he's missing one thing he needs to intimacy just like a LITTLE freak to him he's so shy and stuff and I want to just get something I mean he hugs me but I need MORE!!! How can I get that to him without me saying it .... HELP! (link)
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if he is too shy to make a move on you. then you have to do it! go girl! grab his hand and put it down your shirt. or on your butt. then he will know its ok to touch you.
or get him alone and go in for the kiss!
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ok so anyway, i was going out with this guy, and i thought he really cared about me, like everything was going good, and then we broke up cus it was a difficult time in my life and i didnt want a b/f, so we just cooled it and we started talking instantly after the break up and we gained a really close relationship, like a brother-sister one, and then everything in my life was going good and he loved me, and he proved it too, and it was so real,i could just tell that it was real, so anyway we started going out, and then he broke up with me because he said he liked us better as friends because we talked more. but then he started going out with this other girl, and i was reading some questions on here and i found one that he asked not to long before we went out, and it said that he really like this otehr girl and that she was the one for him and he thought he had liked me, and now i dont know what to do, because he could have been lying about ever loving me at all or he could of been telling the truth, but how can i make him see that i really love him, and that i want him back without sounding like some weirdo creep?...
13/f..i'll rate huge (link)
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he does care about you. but it sounds like another girl has come into the picture. if he picks her
then im sorry but you cant really break them up or anything.
you could tell him that you still love him if your
together or not. then go off and have some fun.
let him think that one over. if he decides he wants
you to then great if not then go find another guy.
if he likes another girl you cant dwell on him cause you'll be hurting yourself more. this happened to me
to. i feel your pain! but u might have to move on.
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ok well there where these two boys in my gym class and they where cute but i never thought anything of it, until they where being stupid and started screaming (talking loudly) saying ohhh he thinks your cute and stuff so i;m like whatever.. then one of the kids nick ended up being in my cooking class and i thought hey hes cute and stuff. so i told my friend who knows him to tell him that i thought he was cute and she did today.. he turned to his friend matt and started to like snicker not rudly i guess but like oh we knew she thought i was cute already. i want to die (not literally). he mad me so mad so i told my friend kiki that i was going to give him dirty looks in cooking and shes like no you should'nt do that cuzz he was'nt being mean bout it. i dont know what to do. should i ignore he exists and start to like someone else, give him dirry looks?? i have no idea what to do but he mad me fell like crap..
thanxxx for reading this loooooong thing i appreciate ANY answers!! :) (link)
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he sounds like a jerk. he is probably just full of himself. he doesnt need any more compliments.
i'd say dont worry about him. forget him he's a jerk.
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ok, i really need a strapless bra but i cant find one anywhere. and i dont mean the kind thats just like, a strip of spandex. i need one that actually works! my sister got a good one from limited too, but they sont have them anymore. does anyone know where i could find one?
thanks (link)
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you can try strawbridges, jcpenny or macy's junior's
department. any department store has bras in the
juniors department.
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Iam 16 years old and I want to have sex so I could get pregnant becouse I feel like nobody loves me and if I have a baby iam sure my baby will love me is this normal? (link)
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you should talk to someone about it like a guidance counselor. you definitly dont want to get pregnant
at 16 because then you wont be able to finnish school cause u have to take care of the baby.
im sure some people love you and if they dont then
you should try to smile more and be friendly.
then people will like you more then if your just
depressed all the time.
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O.K., I am suposed to be seeing this boy who is my mom's boyfriend's son. he is cute. I am going to be really shy than the first time I saw him since we started talking.I want to go with him, but I hate long distance relationships. What do I do? (link)
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umm cant u just have like a little fling? flirt and
stuff but u dont have to go out with him!
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i didnt know what to put this under so oh well lol.
ok, i have acne, but its not bad. its mostly near my eyebrows and nose and stuff. but i can't find any makeup that works. i have the true blend pressed powder, and that doesnt seem to really work at all. my skin is always blotchy, and its really dry now because of the cold. i was wondering that there was any makeup that would work. i cant stand liquid foundation though, because it feels like im putting paint on my face. i hate it. any suggestions?
thanks (link)
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how do you not like liquid? just dont use too much.
powder looks chalky and cakey. but ok w/e.
powder is pretty much all the same! so get a concealer tht covers up blemishs. or one one of those cover up pencils. good brands are neutrogena
and clinique.
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hey, i was wondering if there was anywhere you could get that bare mineral makeup, or something like it for relatively cheap. i went to sephora.com and it was wiked expensive.
thanks (link)
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oh yeah i saw tht on tv! but sorry i dont know where
u can get it at a cheap price. u probably cant its like proactiv its really good so it costs more.
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hey! i am 13 years old/female and i am 65 pounds and 4 feet 6 inches tall. i am really short. i am very small for my age, and i have trouble finding jeans that will fit me. can anyone tell me some stores where jeans might fit a body type like mine? thanks in advance!
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cant u just get them hemmed? and trust me hollister and aeropostale have sizes for skinny people.
if not then abecrombie kids is good. justice. (made by limited too)
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Hey! Well i have this problem..i LOVE hanging out with my cousin--we are the same age . both 15 and she is pretty much awesome lol we are really close! The only thing is when we hang out we dont really go anywhere..she is a computer (AIM , MYSPACE) addict..im serious. We were suppose to hangout this weekend and at my house we are having this party but like ALL OLD PEOPLE are going to be there..and its boring..and my cousin told me that me her and the kid she liked (mike) and his friend (zack) and this girl brittany were all going to go to a movie so i could meet the guys she likes. Well now i just talked to her a little bit ago shes like GUESS WHAT? i get to drive to your house on saturday because she got her permitt..and i was like ohhh coool..and shes like but yeah i dont think zack has even talked to mike yet ..so im not sure what we are doing this weekend..and it seems like she is coming over here for the boring party where we will just sit here with all the adults and do nothing..she will probably go on the computer. She wants me to sleepover but the problem is since she is grounded from the computer at her house..we dont do anything besides sit there and watch tv the whole time..this is not how i want to spend my weekend! i look forward to my weekends and i dont want to waste it by sitting on my butt. We never go anywhere..sometimes its boring but like there is never anything to do and it seems like she never wants to do anything! we both dont really hangout with guys..even tho i would want to but we are more quieter so we dont have many guy friends..and yeahh. SO any suggestions on what we could do? Or anything that would help with my situation on how to spice things up..and just have fun!!
i will rate 5 for anyone who answers!
thanks :) (link)
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go to the mall!!! or go iceskating. (iceline)
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I have a friend who's family is a friend of my family and they lost their dad today. The doctors gave him 2 hours-2 days on Monday. He died this afternoon.
My parents are over at their house right now and they told me to come when they call. That sould be in like an hour or so.
Well, I'm not sure what I should talk to my friend about. Should I talk about her dad or not? (link)
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this happened to me to. you need to comfort your friend. say im sorry. it doesnt seem like a lot but it is. avoid awkward silences. talking is better. also you can hug your friend a lot.
its going to take a little while but time heals this kind of sadness. dont act like your friend is doomed for life. she will be ok. but now she/he needs you the most. you can help just by being with him/her.
she/he might feel alone and more sad if they are by themself.
watch movies (not sad ones) at the funeral dont be afraid to cry with your friend. let him/her use your shoulder to cry on.
right now is the hardest part but your friend
will work through it. it will get easier.
just comfort them.
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Hey i just recently got myspace. And im not sure how to work it. I got all my general information i dont know how to choose backgrounds or write anything. All i see is the box that says my name shows a picture and thats about it. What else can i do? What about music please help!!! (link)
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for music go to the top right corner where it says home browse...etc. click on music and then search for your song. for backgrounds go to www.whateverlife.com and for other stuff go to
www.myspacetweaks.com then go to code generators and you can get icons and all this other cool stuff. also if you want quizzes on your myspace go to
http://memegen.net/mainpage.pl
or
http://ynr.blogthings.com/howdomenseeyouquiz/
also if you like glitter graphics go to
www.toxxic.net
or
http://www.glittergraphics.us/
tht should help lol!
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Hey, Im 13 and a female. I would like to start tanning because I am very white/pale. She says that 13 is too young to start tanning and that I should wait until I am 16. I really dont think that I would be willing to wait until I am 16. I mean come on that is 3 years! Is there anything that I can say or do to make her agree. Please dont say you should wait till your 16. Ill rate high. Molly ♥ (link)
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you shud get self tanner. it works really good but you have to be careful not to use too much. u dont want to be orange.
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