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i need advice!
Iam 16 years old and I want to have sex so I could get pregnant becouse I feel like nobody loves me and if I have a baby iam sure my baby will love me is this normal?
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if you want my advice dont have a baby. it may feel like a baby will sort all your problems out now but it WONT feel like that later!! i can understand but 4 1 thing you probably want your child 2 be proud of his/her father and this way (no offence) you might just have sex with any1 who'll most likely walk out on you! babies take up so much of your time you really will regret it!!
i hope this helped!
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Sure. God loves you. And, I'm not saying babies are life-ruiners, but don't just go for a one-night stand and get preganant. Duh. That's stupid. Wait till your married. You will find that special someone, but, just be patient, and wait.
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im going to be brutally honest with you. im sorry but you definitly need it. having a baby because nobody loves you has got to be the STUPIDEST thing i have EVER heard in my entire life. you are only 16 years old. your still in highschool. how the hell would you be able to raise && care for a baby the right way and still manage to have time for school. if you want something to love you get a frekin` puppy.
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haha and if NO ONE LOVES YOU NOW then why would your BABY LOVE YOU? are you emo?
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ok... first of all.. it will make you feel worese...i have sister hoo did that at your age... and she hated it.. she had to saty up all night with the baby.. got no sleep.. dropped out of skewl... your boyfriend will dump you.... you will become poor....
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See a therepist.
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No. NO. You're just a total idiot. If you can't see the problems with this situation, you deserve to get screwed like this.
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this is not normal. your parents love you dont they? your best friend loves you dont they? young moms like your age can die in labor because they are not strong enoug yet. wait until you absolutely KNOW you are ready. and, the person you want to have sex with must love you! but if you get pregnant, i dont know how well your parents are going to feel.
please think!
kathryn
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if you think that having sex to get pregnant is going to help your situation you are totally wrong! having a baby takes so much out of you. you will need a job just to have $$$ to support you baby as in buying him-her clothes& diapers babies need more than you think. its not just love that they need. believe me i've been in this situation and its really not a smart thing to do. you are only 16 you have you entire life to find the greatest guy get married, buy a house and then have kids dont rush things be sure to take things slow and enjoy your life! hope this helps.
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Yes!! this can be normal since you don`t feel loved.. But NOPE its not smart and babies take more love then they give trust me..
♥Dez
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hahaa no. duh
lovelovee<3
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Are you kidding me? The baby won't love you. It'll take so much time, and stuff. It's a bunch of shit to have a baby at 16. And who do you plan on having the baby with? Just any old guy who doesn't mean anything to you? Or millions of guys so when you get pregnant, you end up going on Maury because you don't know who the father is? Rethink this over. I'm sure your family, friends, and parents love you.
I love how older kids than me think. Some of you think like you're 10.
&TiNA;
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I know this is harsh and I'm sorry, but the baby isn't going to love you. The baby is going to take so much out of you and you're in no way ready for it. First there is childbirth. It hurts. A lot. Then you will have to get a job to pay for food, diapers, daycare, clothes, etc. Then the baby won't even give you the fullfilment you want. All it wants is to eat and sleep. I'm sure there are people who love you. Your parents or guardians, your friends. From time to time, everybody feels like they are unwanted. But you can't be the center of attention all the time. Talk to your parents, say you want to spend more time with them, or see a guidance counselor. Getting pregnant isn't going to solve any problems, it's just going to create more.
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you should talk to someone about it like a guidance counselor. you definitly dont want to get pregnant
at 16 because then you wont be able to finnish school cause u have to take care of the baby.
im sure some people love you and if they dont then
you should try to smile more and be friendly.
then people will like you more then if your just
depressed all the time.
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no
a kid is not the way to go!
be a loner.
There is peace in solitude.
and it is not normal thinking but then again,
what is normal?
why don't you just listen to some good music (killswitch, disturbed, linkin park), or maybe some KoRn to match the mood.
But that is one of the dumber things i have heard. and i have heard a lot of dumb things.
a kid will just F*** up your life more.
Find something alse to do.
Cj
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It's normal to want someone to love you yes. However, having a baby won't "fix" how you are feeling. In order to be the best parent possible you need to be able to provide for everything the baby needs. The baby won't automatically love you--babies are born with that emotion. It's more that they need you and are dependent upon you. While you may think that you can fill each and every need that a baby has, it is not likely that you can. Parenthood is also about dissapointment and hurt...to be blunt, a child can break your heart quicker than anyone else in your life.
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yea but you think you want to ruin your whole life for a kid?? i hope not.
*~Stephanie~*
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yes but for the first year of the babys life it wont love you.. dont do it! youll regret it!
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That feeling is completely normal and i understand where your coming from.
Personally i think that have a baby at 16 may cause more porblems for you. Babies need a lot of attention and love. Yes i understad a baby will love you but it will also need. If you can't provide for the child i recomment not having one, it could actually make you feel worse. Also i understand a lot of people have sex at a young age and if your ready then you can...(im not saying to do it, but its up to u) but dont do it because you want a baby, do it because it feels right, and use a condom. Be safe and think about it, you'll find love eventually. Another thing is, you haveing sex should be with someone who u love, and who loves you back..not because you want a baby. I hope that helps you a little bit, but things will soon get better, so dont do soemthing you will regret? good luck!
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Look at the websites that come up once you search it.
Having a baby is a big responsibility.
You are 16!
You're thinking about making a very irresponsible decision.
Be smart!
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YES. that is normal. i felt the exact same way. but its not the best idea. its not a good life for the baby and it will put alot of stress on you trying to make enough money to pay for the baby's needs. then theres what will you do with it during school. in the end its your choice. if your parents wouldnt hate you for that, you have enough income to pay for your baby's needs and a place to send it during school (dropping out isnt good. what guy wants to marry a girl who dropped out AND has a baby?). then id say if you want its an OK disition. ive been there. i wanted the same thing. i still want a baby. but i decided that its not a good choice in the long run. sure its ok now...but in the long run now isnt a good time. THINK about it and see what you come up with. hope that helped
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im not sure whether that would be considered abnromal or not, but it is probaply just maternal. I understadn when you say you dont feel loved, im sure that there are people who do love you. but if you feel that you need love from some one or something maybe get a bf or go get a pet, not a fish or anythin but like a cat or dog or even a guinea pig. something that stills needs you and will lvoe you, but dont bring another human into the world for such a selfish reason
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