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Okay. So I have this friend, well we're not really friends anymore, but I guess you could still say we are civil. We used to be best friends until we got in this big fight. Her birthday is coming up...Do I get her a present or no? (link)
the nice thing to do would be yes. me and my exbestfriend went through that fight. i plan on getting her a present. so it just depends on what you feel is the right thing to do. but id say that getting her one is good.


what exatally is the etiquette on mosh pit and also what is the etiquette on thrash pits like what do you do and what do you do on the edge any answere would be awesome (link)
in the mosh general rules
1- if you get pushed dont push back. they didnt mean to push you.
2- in the pit you dance/mosh!


on the edge you basicly keep people in the pit... like dont let them fall out just sorta push them back in.

in a thrash pit.. you thrash around.


There is this tea that helps you lose weight very fast. But you have to order it. Does anyone know of a drink that I could drink instead of meals that would help me lose weight? Preferablly one that I could buy at a grocery store! Please don't say water! (link)
any drink works best with exercise. something like Redline would work good with exercise.


Ive always heard about the 7 year itch in marriages. Now I believe it. After my husband and I have been married 7 years now it seems things are starting to go wrong. We had a great marriage untill about 6 or 7 months ago. Since then things have changed so much between us. Nothing in particular happened to change it so I have no idea what the problem is. We fight constantly and half the time we dont know what we are even mad at. Sometimes I feel like Im just going through the motions with him and acting and not really feeling.
Latley its been worse. And to make matters more complicated Ive meet a very nice man..no, nothing like that has happened, we just talk and etc when he comes in the where I work. But he hints that he would like more and the more I hear him talk the more things I notice my husband lacks. A year ago I would never have even thought about leaving my husband for someone else but now, with our marriage falling in at the seems its starting to look like a better idea. I have no idea what to do any more. I wake up in the mornings feeling confused and just walk about the house playing perfect wife and mom but I cant get this other guy out of my head no matter what I do.
My husband must not notice things are bothring me becaues he just lays on the couch barking out orders to me like Im a waitress.
What should I do?
Ive talked to family and friends but a majority of them are biased because they never liked my husband in the first place. (link)
this happens but ending it is almost never the right thing. just try to get this other guy out of your head. try talking to your husband and making him understand. the grass isnt greener on the other side. DONT fight anymore with your husband. he will stop fighting when he relizes that hes just fighting himself. you say you dont even know why you fight anymore... it seems like you are both stressed and taking it out on each other. stop going through the motions, change up what you do... do something different even if it makes it harder on you... that will make your husband have to sit up and take notice. i know its hard but you can make things change for the better. marriage is hard but why quit this far in... it can only get better from here. i hope i helped. -liz.


Let me start by saying that I am a huge music fan, I like most types of music and I think you can express yourself through music. I am in a situation where I need songs that are about missing someone that you love but is far away from you. Does anyone have any suggestions? (link)
uhmm you could try some simple plan or hawthorne heights.


Is making out with another guy cheating????????? (link)
yes. no doubt.


OKAY THIS IS KINDA LONG SO ILL GIVE ANYBODY A 5 IF THEY READ IT...

me and this girl have been best friends for about a year...well we hung out everyday and talked about everything...she talks a lot about people behind there back and im the kinda person who doesn't say things about people behind there back...well she always says to me im not her true friend and everything and then when she wants something (like if i have money or my car or something like that) she's nice to me...we hang out everyday though and her parents love me...well she started going out with this kid and i mean he's cool and we all chill...well she talks shit about him behind his back all the time...she always says she just uses him for his money and other things...well about a night ago we were drinking and playing a game with her little brother...he won and i was really drunk and i said something mean about her little brother when he went upstairs...(now she talks about her family all the time and says stuff about them all the time) well she got mad and right after i said it i was like omg im sorry i didnt mean to say it it just came out and then she started going off about how im not her true friend and everything but i went to jail for her bc she got jumped and i jumped in and helped her...now i know i shouldnt of said the thing about her little brother and i was telling her im sorry and that i didnt mean to say it it just came out...and now were not friends anymore and its killing me inside...everyone says this girl is trouble and doesn't care about anybody but herself..and for the past year yea we've gotten along but she always bosses me around and yells at me but i love her like my sister so i need help on wut to do!! thanks! (link)
she is the one that isnt the true friend. try to let her go. it sounds like its for the best.


I'm a Christian. Lately, I've been worried about something. I've been thinking things like "What if Christianity isn't the true religion and Islam/Buddhism is?" Basically I'm scared that Christianity may not be the true religion. I believe in Jesus, but what if Islam is the true religion? Then I would go to Hell forever because of one decision, you know? It makes me scared =(. What do you think..? (link)
ive been there. its scary thinking about it all. it still always leaves me awe of the mysteries of life. you just have to believe. it gets hard. i know it does but for me just the things i have seen with my own eyes i cant say that God isnt real. ive seen people healed of anything you can think of. the only advice i can give you is to give it time. read your bible and pray.... listen for the voice of God. when God becomes your everything you cant ignore that its real. you just have to open yourself up to it and really make a relationship with him, pray and when you pray ask him to speak to you. once you have heard his voice... you will be sure about the whole thing. (btw Christianity has been around a whole lot longer than any other religion.... so wouldnt it make sense that its the true one?)


My husband and I have been married almost 2 years.(A shotgun wedding) After relocating to his hometown, faraway from my own, he recently told me that he is not ready to be a "family". He takes care of our 1 year old son, but he doesn't want to be a husband anymore. He really did try for a long time. We were supposed to buy a house and I was going to take care of our baby and go to school part time. He said he will still support us financially and get a house for us to live in, which he will not stay at. What should I do?
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first of all you should relize how awesome your husband is being. you have to know that he is trying to do the right thing. you are luck y that he is being as nice as he is it could be alot worse. talk to him about it tell him how much you love him and compromise with him and see what you can get him to agree to.


okay so you told me i could talk to you about the shaving thing.. will you tell me what i can do so i dont get razor burn or cut myself?! (link)
aright. heres some general rules:
1-dont use a bar of soap when you do it always use shaving cream preferably something for senstive skin since that area is.
2- dont ever hurry. take it slow.
3- dont shave everyday. every 2 days is best.
4- a razor with 2-3 blades works best. a one blade razor is easier to cut yourself with.

other than that it should be pretty easy for you. IM me on aim if you have any more questions. i can answer any question you may have about this or anythinig else. -liz


Here is my sad and sorry deal. My best friend in the whole world just moved here to america about 2 years ago, in which the two years have been the best of my life. We go on vacations together, do homework and talk about everything and anything and understand each other perfectly.
Now he's moving back to Japan. He says he will call me, and write me, and talk to me online but i think he will forget me:(
Anyways, i am thinking of putting together a basket of things of our memories so he will always remember me and vice versa.
I know some things, like pictures and postcards from our vacations. But i can't think of anything else and he's leaving in one week!
Can you give me some ideas, like movie tickets or some food that won't go bad on his trip back from america?

ps: his name is Yoshirama Hawsiwiki..which i think is just really cool:) (link)
hmm what about:
notes?
drawings?
stuffed animal?
a blanket with iron on words on it that you can put on it... like a phrase or something... or print out pictures on iron on paper... something he can look at...?
get him a cell cover so that whenever he looks at his cell he thinks of you?
make him a binder and write on it and draw on it and write a note and put it in it...?
change shoelaces with him before he leaves... so that you have a peice of each other?
a pair of sunglasses and take a pic in them before you put them in the basket?
a hoodie that has memories?
have fun. get creative. and im so sorry.


there is this boy that i like...and he likes me...but he isnt looking for a girlfriend right now...he just wants me and him to be "friends with benifits"......what does that mean?...... but it seems like i want more than that....when we are alone he acts like we are boyfriend and girlfriend...but we arent......but when we are at school he doesnt really talk to me that much anymore.......and i want him to........he doesnt give me little sweet kisses, or hugs, or anything like that... someone told me that he is emaressed to be around me and that he doesnt want others to know......but he doesnt seem like that kind of guy...and others are saying that he just wants sex out of me (RUMERS)...i guess i just want to be more than just friends but i dont know how to tell him......because he isnt looking for a girlfriend right know.............
thanks for your helping hands!!!!!!!

baby (link)
alright well friends with benifits means that he wants to do things with you (e.g. kissing... other things) but not call you his gf and stuff that way if he does something with someone else its not cheating. basicly its him using you for those things. hunnie he just doesnt want to commit to you. he doesnt give you kisses and hugs since he doesnt want other girls to see that and think hes taken when he just wants to be friends with benifits with you. see?


Ok so My school canceled my 8th grade dance this year we've always had one and now they took it way and everyone is pissed! including me and everyone has thought about doing something about the dance like making our own. like everyone paying a little money to rent a place, get a DJ, etc. but we dont know i was thinking about telling everyone to just sit in the gym and NOT MOVE untill they give us our dance back i mean they cant suspend us all lol but i was wondering if anyone else had any good ideas and dont say talk to your principal because we already tried that and she doesnt care. and we already tried getting everyone to sign a thing to get our dance back and she just threw it away please help al 8 graders in my school! (link)
they did that to the dance at my old school so what we did was got our princ. to agree that if we had the WHOLE 8th grade or the ones that are wanting to come to the dance to come to a school clean up day and when you came to school clean up you got a special ticket and you paid there... that way no one that didnt come clean could get in and we got the dance back. it shows how bad you want it and that your willing to earn it.


16/f and I'm just very self concsious about my..ears. Theyre really..too big. People even tell me. I think I get them from my dad. I dont know. But its not like they stick out, the whole entire thing is just..big. Theyre about a centimetre away from being..3 inches. I used to be called dumbo when i was little and earrings always took bad on me. I dont want to get plastic surgery haha. But i just dont know what to do about me feeling so embarassed about them. I know that they are big becase people tell me..and pretty much the fact that theyre almost 3 inches long. What should i do? (link)
your so not alone. the woman known as the first international super model has large ears and she is beautiful as im sure you are! its not a flaw like you think it is.. it just adds to who you are and your specialness. her site is www.twiggylawson.co.uk if you want to see her pictures and how she makes large ears look good. she was recently on a season of america's next top model with tyra banks. your so not alone.'


13/f. I have an incredibly embarassing first/full name. The girls and boys in school laugh when the teacher calls it out (I DEF. go by a nick name) and then they always call me by it, even though i have a nick name, to make me mad. and so they laugh even more. i know not to let them see that it bothers me, but it does so much. and its not just a simple long name, its so long and stupid and i dont know ANYONE else with it. I just feel so different becuase its always on my records and whatnot so i'm forced to use it when i dont want to, and of course poeple hear. what do i do?! im so upset and tired of it. (link)
talk to your teachers and ask them to just call you by your nickname. if you talk to your counseler and ask them to have a chat with the teachers or something and im sure when they see how it upsets you they wont anymore. i know it seems like teachers hate you but yeah. you can also talk to your parents about changing it... you can legally.


okay.. so me and my boyfriend were talking about eating me out. I want to but theres a problem.. is it okay to have hair down there?! Like every girl in my school said that you have to shave. But idk... help me please

thank you
Confused (link)
omg this is such a big debate. its a really hard question to answer. id say shave no guy is ever dissapointed to see that theres no hair to some guys it doesnt matter but id say shave it. i know thats what i do. but a tip shaving 2 days in a row is normally bad it can cause razor burn and cuts. so be careful about shaving and id say do it. if you want any more advice on how to go about it or just any weird questions on this topic or anything else sorta like it... im your girl. so drop it in my inbox.


I have very oily hair. Thing is I wash it everyday, so I don't know why this is happening. Anybody have any ideas or ideas of products I can use to reduce the grease. Thx in advance & I promise to rate. (link)
i have the same problem. i use head & shoulders shampoo for fine/oily hair. it gets rid of it completely!


Does anybody know where to get free plans for a 3 or 4 foot half pipe at? How much would it cost to? (link)
alright my brothers and i made a ramp like that in our back yard but that was 3-4 years ago so i dont think those plans are still on the net. it cost us about i think 600$. it was easy to make. so search for the plans on google.


Well my hair is extremely curly and frizzy. I want to know what I can do with it to make it less frizzy/curly without any products. I use heat styling (straightning irons, hair curlers) all the time but my ends are getting really split so i need a new way. I tried sleeping with my hair in pigtails and then hairties down the whole thing, it takes the frizz away but it looks bad. I also tried rag curlers and that didnt turn out the best does anyone have any other ideas?

Thanks much =) (link)
try the shampoo/conditioner called infusiom 23. its the best. it takes away all my frizz and spilt ends. i also use a straightner and curler at times.


hey! so my and my boyfriend are going to a school dance this weekend and i have two questions. so i heard from my friend that my boyfriend is gonna wanna grind with me and is gonna wanna french kiss me, and i wanna do that with him too, however i need some tips on how to do these two things, cuz otherwise i won't know how! i rate 5's! THANX IN ADVANCE! (link)
grinding is easy.... you just move your hips alot and sometimes go up and down. kissing... just follow him.




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