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7 Year Itch?
Ive always heard about the 7 year itch in marriages. Now I believe it. After my husband and I have been married 7 years now it seems things are starting to go wrong. We had a great marriage untill about 6 or 7 months ago. Since then things have changed so much between us. Nothing in particular happened to change it so I have no idea what the problem is. We fight constantly and half the time we dont know what we are even mad at. Sometimes I feel like Im just going through the motions with him and acting and not really feeling.
Latley its been worse. And to make matters more complicated Ive meet a very nice man..no, nothing like that has happened, we just talk and etc when he comes in the where I work. But he hints that he would like more and the more I hear him talk the more things I notice my husband lacks. A year ago I would never have even thought about leaving my husband for someone else but now, with our marriage falling in at the seems its starting to look like a better idea. I have no idea what to do any more. I wake up in the mornings feeling confused and just walk about the house playing perfect wife and mom but I cant get this other guy out of my head no matter what I do.
My husband must not notice things are bothring me becaues he just lays on the couch barking out orders to me like Im a waitress.
What should I do?
Ive talked to family and friends but a majority of them are biased because they never liked my husband in the first place.
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Talk to him. Have a serious conversation with him, not something you'd bring up to him during his favorite show or while hes reading the paper. Sit down with him and let him know your not happy with the way things are. Yes things will fall apart if he has no clue what you are actually considering. You treat your marriage so casually as if it isnt such a big deal. You've been married 7 years! Thats a long time with someone and it should mean something to you. I want you to sit back and recall all the amazing times you had with him. Your honeymoon, wedding, first time you met etc. Bring these things up to him, and not only that but you have children too. Adding in another guy into the mix is not the way to go. Now is not the time to make selfish decisions. Whatever you do will have an impact on others as well so you have to be careful. And as for this "nice guy" he may seem perfect right now, but I would choose my husband that Ive known over 7 years over a guy that you have no knowledge of anything in his background. Everyone seems great until you get to know them and find out something about them you don't like. Then you'll wish it never began in the first place! Lets say you and your husband do not work out and you start seeing this other guy. Maybe it will last a year or hell..maybe a week. Dont think about what your husband lacks, think about what good qualties he has. Theres no such thing as a perfect man. Its only an illusion.
hope i helped
Charlotte
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this happens but ending it is almost never the right thing. just try to get this other guy out of your head. try talking to your husband and making him understand. the grass isnt greener on the other side. DONT fight anymore with your husband. he will stop fighting when he relizes that hes just fighting himself. you say you dont even know why you fight anymore... it seems like you are both stressed and taking it out on each other. stop going through the motions, change up what you do... do something different even if it makes it harder on you... that will make your husband have to sit up and take notice. i know its hard but you can make things change for the better. marriage is hard but why quit this far in... it can only get better from here. i hope i helped. -liz.
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You sounds like you need couples counseling...if your relationship was good until a few months ago then it may very well be fixable. Do not persure a relationship with another man while you are married. If you are truely unhappy then move out for awhile and then explore your options. There is no excuse for seeing someone behind your partners back, no matter how bad the state of your marriage is. If you are thinking of that, then leave first. If I were you, I would tell my husband my concerns and try counseling together, if he refuses to work on your marriage then that is your answer right there.
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