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Well, this guy and i have been messing around for about 3 years now. And hes 5 years older than me, but its become more intense. Like, now he wants me to sleep over and all that. But he has a girlfriend of two years, but he says he doesnt care about her. He basically just needs her for now because of work. Well, we are on the level of more than good friends and less than a couple, its confusing. I really have strong feelings about him, and i go over his house everynight and its not always about sex. I dont know if he is using me, and i really doubt it just because of how he acts towards me. I know he cares, but its like we cant be together right now because of our age difference and because i am 16. Am i a booty call? or is this all that can be at the moment? and until i become 18 this is all that can happen?
PLus, i stay over and we cuddle and all that.
idk, please any advice? (link)
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He's using you as a booty call and telling you anything you want to hear...like that he doesn't care about his gf....he wants to be with her but wants to fuck you, he wants the best of both worlds like most guys his age...most players, don't fall for him! even though it sounds like you already have, just know that he is using you and you are going to end up getting hurt if u continue to think of it as more than what it is...maybe you should talk to another guy or something because you are not respecting yourself by letting him use you as a peice of ass...you shouldn't be ok with that, he's messing with your heart
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad... (link)
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Oh yeah I def have dealt with guys like that before. I'm actually a blue belt in Karate and when I first started, I signed up with my bf and he wasn't really a jerk about getting beat sometimes. He knew what we were trained to do and he knew that he wasn't invincible and anyone who can take the fall is a true athlete. But I dealt with a lot of people who would under estimate me big time and thought I was this skinny little girl that was ditsy and couldn't take anyone down. Your bf sounds like he is a sore loser and if he can't take the fall once in a while, then he needs to grow some balls. I think it's awesome how you showed him! And I def want to try Judo sometime as well as Brazilian jujitsu. He's just in denial and saying you just got "lucky" is bs. If he was a good wrestler than he wouldn't have been struggling with taking you down. He sounds really immature and hopefully you can find someone in your judo class that respects the fact that your a women and that you can kick some ass!
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okay so ever since i was little i would get cold sores, herpes simplex 1. i learned in class that 80% of people get them. But, i was just wondering, if i were to perform oral sex (when i did not have an outbreak) could i still give it to the guy on his genitals? (link)
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Although the virus is most contagious when a sore is present, it can still be passed on even if you can't see a sore. HSV-1 can also be spread by sharing a cup or eating utensils with someone who has it.
In addition, if you or your partner gets cold sores on the mouth, the herpes simplex virus-1 can be transmitted during oral sex and cause herpes in the genital area.
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A couple of weeks ago I noticed a change in my bf's behavior... he started acting like my affection was bothering him, and it felt like he was avoiding me. When we were together he was silent or he would talk about stupid unimportant things, as if we couldn't have a meaningful conversation anymore. He was so distant, but every time I asked him what was wrong and why he was acting differently, he would go mad and say that I was creating problems when there were none. So I broke up with him, and it was a hard decision. I thought he lost interest in me and I didn't want to be a burden. But ever since he's been telling me that his feelings for me haven't changed. Actually that's what he says, but he's still acting weird. And when I told him that my decision was final, he didn't even seem to be mad or desperate or anything like that, he just said he didn't understand why and that he hoped I change my mind.
I don't know what happened between us... it was so sudden! I'm afraid that I pushed him away, because I wanted to be with him all the time, and that maybe he wanted a time out... but if he loved me as much as I loved him, wouldn't he want to be with me just as much as I wanted to be with him?! (link)
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I think that would bother any girl, so don't let him think you're overreacting or being too needy. And I agree with the other answers, it probably had nothing at all to do with you. He sounds like a guy that doesn't show emotion very well, like my boyfriend. He isn't very affectionite and when he says he loves me, it doesnt feel like he means it, because he just has that stoned-face look and its so hard to get any reaction out of him at all. Hes a very laid back person and thats his biggest quality. Alot of guys are like that and it's possible that your boyfriend is too. I think if hes wanting you back, he obviously didn't lose interest in you, he may just be an unaffectionate person. This doesn't mean that you made a mistake in calling it quits, because maybe you need a guy that is affectionate, makes you happy and shows interest in you. If a man doesnt treat a women like she's special she isnt going to feel special and therefore she'll be unhappy.
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Please help fast!
My husband and I are going through a divorce. He just called and said he wants to "hang out" after work..."somewhere private." I think he wants to sleep with me. Is that wrong? I'm too emotionally mixed up right now to know what I should do. Please give me advice. (link)
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If your emotionally mixed up than DONT DO IT, thats your intuition telling you it's bad, you'll only get hurt more and sex often confuses people with love. It's better to ignore those kind of feelings and move on! Be strong! Say no!
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ok! im moving at the end of the mounth and i really like this guy that i have been goin out with for 2 years off and on i want to get back together but im moveing and this could really be bad! i really like him alot but im afraid not to ask him b/c of the moveing thing and im afraid of him saying no b/c of the moving thing! any help will be greatfully appreciated. (link)
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well..you cant have sex in the bathrooms
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Lets say a guy is a virgin. && you let him feel you up and kiss your chest and everything. Does he keep wanting it? because i am seeing this guy and he is a virgin and he got mad at me because he didnt get what he wanted, and it wasnt sex. But, hes def not like that. He told me that he wasnt himself and he couldnt help it. Is this normal? i always thought it was. Like i thought when it comes to sex and messing around that all guys are the same.
Anything that can help me?
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he wants to have sex and he thinks your teasing him
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I'm 14 and I met a guy last summer when we worked together. We only saw each other a couple of days but we really hit it off and have been texting each other for six months now. Finally, last week we had our first real date. It has taken awhile because our parents have felt like we weren't right for each other because of age. We went to the movies. We did kiss, but that was all I was willing to do. He tried to do more and he was real nice about it when I said no. Everything seemed fine. I talked to him the next few days, but now it has been four days and he hasn't been in touch. I don't know what to think cause he kept saying, next time this, next time, Does this guy care or was he just wanting to get together to see what I would do? What should I do? (link)
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Most older guys that go for younger girls want to use them for sex. So he probably realized that you wont do that with him, so he'll move on to someone that will. Which is a good thing, because that shows you what kind of guy he is. If a guy sticks around and knows your not gonna do anything like that then he knows your a good girl, respects that and really likes you. I take it that you guys don't know each other too well, so he probably will move onto someone else. So it could be worse, I know girls that did take it too far and after the guy got what he wanted, he left her. Thats just in their nature and yes I know it sucks. But there are a few good ones out there and you'll find that special one someday. Your so young and you got so much life to live so don't go wasting it on worrying about this guy. And if theres one thing that Ive learned in my life is that you should live in the moment and live to have fun, not to look for love. Love will come when you least expect it and it will be some one that will keep in contact with you. Someone you can really trust.
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alright well i really like this kid "B". and i really thought he liked me too. we talked and everything and then we hooked up at a party. he always flirts with me and everything too. well last saturday he called and invited me and my friend to a party. we went. but he was being a real asshole to me. he was calling me a bitch and everything in the car. then we got to the party and he was like slapping my butt and tapping me on the shoulder and moving. then i was talking to this girl and she said that she just met him and she wanted to hook up with him. she said that he kissed her before he left to get us. that really made me mad. and THEN he started kissing me in front of her. and then they had sex. then he was kissing every girl BUT me. he even tried kissing my friend even though she has a b/f. she pushed him away of course. i was so mad i sat in the bathroom and i wanted to cry. but then i decided that i wouldnt let him ruin my night. so i went back to the party and i started talking to his best friend "E" that ive known since like 4th grade. he was really drunk but he kept hugging me and he told me that he's always thought i was cute but he doesnt know why he never talked to me. he said that he liked me. then i danced with him and after an hour of us talking he kissed me. he did tell me that he acts like a whore when he is drunk. he said he just wanted to stick with me. but i went upstairs and then came back down and the chick that had sex with "B" was flirting with "E". then she started making out with him. i got mad again and i just sat down. my friend went and called him a whore and said that he was an a-hole. i sat next to him and started talking to this guy about something and "E" was like "do you hate me" and i told him no but i thought that he was a whore. then he was like "im soo sorry i really like you" and the kid next to me was like if you really liked her you wouldnt be making out with the chick next to you. well by then the chick was making out with another guy. well "E" went upstairs and layed down and i had to go up there for a drink and me and him started talking and he said he was really sorry. but then "B" kept touching my shoulder and moving again. he kept asking if i was gonna have sex with "E" and i kept telling him no. he started being an a-hole again. well when everyone fell asleep, me and "E" went downstairs and hooked up. we didnt have sex though. well then that chick had sex with another guy. she was disgusting. but then the next morning "B" kept asking me if me and "E" had sex and i kept telling him no and he kept calling me a whore. "E" held my hand the whole way home and everything and gave me a kiss goodbye. the next day i got his number and i called him. then yesterday me, him, his sister and "B" hung out. and he was holding my hand and everything but "B" was again being mean to me. he kept calling me a bitch and we all went to mall. he was like "dont walk by me" and i was like "w/e" but then when we got into the car to go get something to eat he was like "why are you so mean to me" and i was like "are you kidding me? your mean to me" and he told me he was sorry and he kissed my hand right in front of "E". then when "E" was in his house to get something "B" was like this is my song to you and it the beginning went "i never knew how loved felt until i fell in love with you" and he kept flirting with me. we all went out to eat. and he kept staring at me even though i was sitting next to "E". idk what to do. there both a little "whorish" but i really do have feelings for them.
i get that weird feeling in my stomach when "B" touches me like i just want to be with him and when "E" touches me all i want do to is cuddle with him and be with him. their best friends and that makes this really hard. "E" has some flaws to though. he's always talken about hooking up with other girls in front of me. i try not to pay attention but it gets me mad. so does anyone know what i should do??? (link)
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Ok both these guys are screwed up. Find a great quality guy thats sweet and kind towards you that doesn't care about getting into your pants and that only wants YOU and just you! Forget these two guys, the world is full of a great selection to choose from so set standards dont go lower then them and don't settle for anthing less! It's good to be picky...besides guys like a challenge so ignore those urges of being a slut that everyone has.
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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you. (link)
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Wow...your an ***hole.
Hmm...this site was designed for people to give advice based on their own experiences. Oh and you obviously didn't just "stumble" across this site, you made your own account! You are obviously seeking some advice from 17 year olds as well I see. We arent brainwashing people or "poeple" as you obviously can't spell! Mr. I have a Ph.d. in advice!!
Everyone is their own individual and they can choose whether to follow the advice given or not to! It's as simple as that. I think you can take all your complaints and shove them strait up your ***! And if you wish to gain some more insight from me, leave your name and address so I can show you in person.
p.s. And in that apology note, realized is spelled with a Z not an S. It was bugging the crap out of me when I wrote it. I sure hope the creator of this site is much more simpithetic then I am.
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I like my best guy friend. He doesn't know it. But I get extremely jealous when he spends time with this one girl. I don't care if he spends time with girls, there's just this certain girl I'm worried about. I KNOW they're just friends, and that he for sure doesn't like her, but why do I get so jealous? I cry myself to sleep every night they hang out/talk. I know I can't control him, he's not mine. We've talked about it, he knows I don't like her, etc. Whenever they talk/hang out I never get mad I just get seriously depressed, I can cry for up to 2 hours. What is wrong with me? I think I just don't understand why he's spending time with her, and not me, but I'm not sure. Is there any tips you guys can give me about how to calm down when I get jealous? Thanks. (link)
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Oh honey, i know how you feel. We always find ourselves getting jealous over men, but what bothers me is that you two are just established as friends. Maybe your just jumping too far ahead and thinking of him as more than a friend. The best thing to do, is do things for yourself. Do things for you and try to forget all about him. Spend time with your girls and try not to babble on about him to them, but to focus on other men out there. :)
hope i helped
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So I love my boyfriend very much but sometimes he's just always there. Latched on to me like a leech. Don't get me wrong.. I do love it that he pays attention to me soo much, but I do want to have some space sometime. But he seems to always be there all the time trying to pull me so close that our skin could be melted together. Please help me. I don't know how to tell him that I want space, without hurting his feelings.Btw we've been going out for almost 11 months. (link)
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whys this in the sex category
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ok well i am going to have a bonfire around the 28th of october....and i was wondering if anybody had some fun games to play at the bonfire..games like truth or dare and stuff....and if you guys had any other ideas on what to do at a bonfire i already have
night swimming
roasting marsh mellows
and music
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bring a keg and make clothes optional.......
i dont understand why you didnt like my advice, and for your information your the one that needs to get a life. OMG like wat do pple do at bonfires like OMG do they roast marshmellows? uh...yea that was the gayiest question i've ever seen. Honey, if you dont know how to have fun then your the one that needs to GET A LIFE and stop asking for advice on how to lead an interesting one.
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I missed MADTV last night, and I was wondering is there a website that could tell me what went on it last night, like because then I could look the sketches up on youtube.com (link)
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probably madtv.com
dont ask questions on here that u can always google
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i've had my period a lot lately. like i'll have it all month, then have a couple days of not having it. so, my mom said she might put me on the pill.... what are the short term & long term side affects of the pill? do you have to go to a gynocologist to get this? =[ and what will it do for me (like, how often will i have my period & what will it be like, etc.) do you recomend this, or no? thanks. (link)
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I use Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo birth control pills and how it works is it has 21 blue and white pills that you take starting on the sunday after you start your period. And after taking those, there are 7 greenish looking pills and when you take those last, it makes you start your period. Thats why they say birthcontrol regulates your period because it controls when you start and you will know exactly when you will.
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is it worth going to a dermatologist for acne? i have little acne - but a lot of blackheads.should i get a facial for the black heads? i just dont know what to do with my face any more!!! what are some REALLY REALLY good brands to fight away acne and blackheads? any help is appreciated- thanks! (link)
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Use biore nose strips to yank out those blackheads and a bleakhead clearing astringent when your done. Dermatologists are too expensive. Just wash your face with a clearasil face wash or neutrogena kind. Use products labeled "oil free" or "sensitive skin". I would wash your face in the morning with a face wash after showering, and then using this product called "acne free" every night before you go to sleep. They sell it at walmart. I have used proactiv and it works if you use it regularly, but it is so expensive and you have to order it. Acne free I have used also and it is exactly like proactiv. It has the same purifying cleanser, the same renewing toner and the same repairing lotion. It also comes with an acne bleakhead terminator cream that you put on the troubled spots that i would use at night so it would work while Im asleep.
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I'm 13 and I'm skinny and I have chubby cheeks. Is it possible that I could still have baby fat on my cheeks even though I'm 13? When does baby fat go away? (link)
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You may have a family tendency to have chubby cheeks, or you may be going through a growth phase. There really isn't anything you can do about chubby cheeks if the rest of your body is at a healthy weight.
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I was having sex the othernight when the condom broke outside, because i didn't feel it pop or anything..should I go get the pill and if i do what are the side effects of taking it when not needed? (link)
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Go to a planned parenthood in your area. Its completely confidental. No parents need to know. You have to get the morning after pill at least up to 5 days after you had unprotected sex and you should be okay..however it is just 75% effective. I would suggest using condoms and birthcontrol. Birth control is 99% effective and condoms are 97% effective. This way you can feel more secure if it breaks again. I got birthcontrol, which is $20 a month in my local area and my mom doesnt know anything about it. I have it delivered to my boyfriends house every month and I feel more secure about being protected.
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Ive always heard about the 7 year itch in marriages. Now I believe it. After my husband and I have been married 7 years now it seems things are starting to go wrong. We had a great marriage untill about 6 or 7 months ago. Since then things have changed so much between us. Nothing in particular happened to change it so I have no idea what the problem is. We fight constantly and half the time we dont know what we are even mad at. Sometimes I feel like Im just going through the motions with him and acting and not really feeling.
Latley its been worse. And to make matters more complicated Ive meet a very nice man..no, nothing like that has happened, we just talk and etc when he comes in the where I work. But he hints that he would like more and the more I hear him talk the more things I notice my husband lacks. A year ago I would never have even thought about leaving my husband for someone else but now, with our marriage falling in at the seems its starting to look like a better idea. I have no idea what to do any more. I wake up in the mornings feeling confused and just walk about the house playing perfect wife and mom but I cant get this other guy out of my head no matter what I do.
My husband must not notice things are bothring me becaues he just lays on the couch barking out orders to me like Im a waitress.
What should I do?
Ive talked to family and friends but a majority of them are biased because they never liked my husband in the first place. (link)
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Talk to him. Have a serious conversation with him, not something you'd bring up to him during his favorite show or while hes reading the paper. Sit down with him and let him know your not happy with the way things are. Yes things will fall apart if he has no clue what you are actually considering. You treat your marriage so casually as if it isnt such a big deal. You've been married 7 years! Thats a long time with someone and it should mean something to you. I want you to sit back and recall all the amazing times you had with him. Your honeymoon, wedding, first time you met etc. Bring these things up to him, and not only that but you have children too. Adding in another guy into the mix is not the way to go. Now is not the time to make selfish decisions. Whatever you do will have an impact on others as well so you have to be careful. And as for this "nice guy" he may seem perfect right now, but I would choose my husband that Ive known over 7 years over a guy that you have no knowledge of anything in his background. Everyone seems great until you get to know them and find out something about them you don't like. Then you'll wish it never began in the first place! Lets say you and your husband do not work out and you start seeing this other guy. Maybe it will last a year or hell..maybe a week. Dont think about what your husband lacks, think about what good qualties he has. Theres no such thing as a perfect man. Its only an illusion.
hope i helped
Charlotte
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