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Jealousy.
I like my best guy friend. He doesn't know it. But I get extremely jealous when he spends time with this one girl. I don't care if he spends time with girls, there's just this certain girl I'm worried about. I KNOW they're just friends, and that he for sure doesn't like her, but why do I get so jealous? I cry myself to sleep every night they hang out/talk. I know I can't control him, he's not mine. We've talked about it, he knows I don't like her, etc. Whenever they talk/hang out I never get mad I just get seriously depressed, I can cry for up to 2 hours. What is wrong with me? I think I just don't understand why he's spending time with her, and not me, but I'm not sure. Is there any tips you guys can give me about how to calm down when I get jealous? Thanks.
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firsty, dont try to yell or start anything with that girl because she has probably has no idea that it makes you jealous. you could tell him how you feel and all that stuff ..you could also use a stress ball or something. maybe even getting over him and going on to a new guy is a better thing to do then cry about it. also, dont cry about it! or try not to. hes just a guy and i bet that yo'll get over him eventaully and like someone else.
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It seems to me that you need to tell him that you have feelings for him. You know they are just friends, but you are also just friends with him. So, since you like him, you worry that she does too. And you think that if she does like him, she could take him away from you. But if you get to him first, she won't. So, just tell him.
If you are worried that telling him will hurt your friendship, you need to know that it won't. If it does, then your friendship wasn't as strong as you thought. But it seems it is, so if you tell him and he doesn't feel the same, just accept it and you can continue to be friends.
I know this because I am now married to my best guy friend from high school. I am also still friends with my ex-fiance. A strong friendship can withstand anything, and can also turn into a strong and wonderful relationship. But someone has to speak up. In this case, you need to speak up before she has a chance. If nothing else, it will help him understand why you get jealous and he may tone things down with her or give his point of view a little better.
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Oh honey, i know how you feel. We always find ourselves getting jealous over men, but what bothers me is that you two are just established as friends. Maybe your just jumping too far ahead and thinking of him as more than a friend. The best thing to do, is do things for yourself. Do things for you and try to forget all about him. Spend time with your girls and try not to babble on about him to them, but to focus on other men out there. :)
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mmk, i've been in your situation andthere is nothgin "wrong with you" you simply get jealous because like you've already saidd... you like him. Its completely normal. and I know it won't be easy but you should probabbly tell him you like him even if its harddd.... just be like look, i know we're really close but i've got feelings for you and i thought i should let you knoww. If i were able to guess, he probabbly likes you too. it isn't often that best friends of the oposite sex don't at least have a little bit of feelings you knoww?
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just tell yourself that he doesnt like her you know that FOR A FACT. that you two are good friends .. maybe you should tell him you have feelings for him. although theire are consequences to that but you have to fight for the ones you love/like =]
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write about it.. or just tell him how u feel.. i mean he IS ur b/f n he should understand.
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