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Melt Me
So I love my boyfriend very much but sometimes he's just always there. Latched on to me like a leech. Don't get me wrong.. I do love it that he pays attention to me soo much, but I do want to have some space sometime. But he seems to always be there all the time trying to pull me so close that our skin could be melted together. Please help me. I don't know how to tell him that I want space, without hurting his feelings.Btw we've been going out for almost 11 months.
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hm,
well maybe thats another way of telling you that hes inlove with you,
on the other hand,
you guys have been going out for 11 months.
thats really good.
but i think you need to be the bigger person and talk to him,
RELATIONSHIP ALWAYS NEEDS COMMUNICATION.
you could tell him that we simply need a break.
NOT A BREAK-UP: but a [break.]
so worry about it.
if he really loves you,
he would understand.
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I really think you should confront him and let him know that you feel its really important that you get some "me-time." Also recomend that he spends time with his friends as well as his family!
Samx
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I would just sit down and talk about it with him. If you guys have been dating for 11 months, you guys should be able to be truthful towards one another and understanding. Just tell him sometimes you need a little "me" time, and you need to hang out with the girls ; just like he probably wants to hang out with his guy friends every now and then. And let him know you're not saying you DON'T want to spend time with him, you love spending time with him and everything, it's just sometimes you want to kick back by yourself in your room, read a book or listen to music and just relax. His feelings might get a little hurt, but like I said, if you guys have been together for 11 months, I'm sure he'll understand and be fine. I hope I helped.
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This may not be the answer you are looking for, but bear with me.
Just tell him straight up that you need a little "Me" time.
Of course, be sure to tell him that this isn't a case of "I need my space, therefore we are breaking up". Be sure you get this point across (and I know we men can be thick-headed), that needing a little space does not always equate a break-up...as this may be the first conclusion he jumps to.
Remember also that the more you stress over this, the more he will too, when you tell him. Just be nonchalant, shrug and say "I love/like/cherish/whatever you but sometimes I just need to be alone". Then follow up with possibly some plan, like in a few days, to assure that he really doesnt think you are playing him. Give him a kiss, look him in the eyes, hold him, give him the physical reassurance that you are still into him and like him, but try to be firm that you need time, you need space. Use your feminine wiles. If you just go in and demand space, and he'll draw his own conclusions and possibly get mad and bolt. This has been done to me personally, and I have to say its better than having someone stop answering your phone calls or giving no explanation just because you were a bit too cloying. In fact clearing the air like this can be a good thing. Communication, and reassurance, is key.
I've been on both sides of this too - so yeah, I feel your pain.
Practice now because odds are he won't be the last guy you find yourself in this position with /shrug (thats possibly a cynical thought, I know, but hey many will back me on that I'm sure). Heck, married couples sometimes go through this. Its normal.
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i know just what you mean. my bf drives here everyday to see me weve been going out for almost 10 months. sometimes i kinda dont want to make it obv that i want time for myself so i ask him "if you dont want to come over its alright ill understand if you just want time to yourself" haha but most of the time hes just like no no its alright haha so if that happens just talk to him.. be like hey im a girl and sometimes i just need some time for myself. im sure he will understand.
goodluck!
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Make some plans with your girl pals and when he finds out that you are going out with them and wants to tag along, tell him you need some girl time and he is definately your man, not your girl. He can't take offense to that, unless he is really a baby. Everyone needs and deserves time to themselves. Start making dates with him again, and tell him you think it would be romantic to have him pick you up and take you out a few times with space inbetween, so you can pine over each other. Good luck!
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Sounds to me like he really enjoys being with you. There really isnt anything wrong with that. Just tell him the truth. If he gets angry then there is something wrong and you should consider taking a break.
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