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What to do about my husband
My husband and I have been married almost 2 years.(A shotgun wedding) After relocating to his hometown, faraway from my own, he recently told me that he is not ready to be a "family". He takes care of our 1 year old son, but he doesn't want to be a husband anymore. He really did try for a long time. We were supposed to buy a house and I was going to take care of our baby and go to school part time. He said he will still support us financially and get a house for us to live in, which he will not stay at. What should I do?
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I'm not sure why your husband isn't ready to actually be a husband, but no matter what, you all are family.
He can deny this all he wants, but he has you as his wife, and a one year old son. That's a family.
But I am glad to hear that he will still support you with money, but is he still going to be a father for your son? I hope he will.
This really has to be hard considering the way you feel about this. But, I have to wonder why he started having these feelings after he went to his hometown. I think that there is still a lot you need to ask him about. Like, does he want to divorce with you and be with someone else? Does he just want to divorce you and your son and just abandon the two of you? Unless you havn't already, figure out what exactly it is that he wants.
Maybe he got homesick. Starting a family and keeping it taken care of takes a lot of work and maybe your husband believes that he can't do it.
As for going to school part time, if your husband isn't willing or can't take care of your son while you are in school, maybe you should consider day-care. My worry would be is that he's probably never been in day-care so he probably wouldn't adjust to it very quickly which is a really common problem.
For all of this, I would suggest counseling. To cope with your feelings about your husband not wanting to be in a family anymore. To raise your son alone if you need some help with it. But I think you have a lot of unanswered questions with your husband that you should try getting answers to.
-TheTeenGirl
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first of all you should relize how awesome your husband is being. you have to know that he is trying to do the right thing. you are luck y that he is being as nice as he is it could be alot worse. talk to him about it tell him how much you love him and compromise with him and see what you can get him to agree to.
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Hi
I think you should realize that you need and deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you!
Life is far too short to settle for someone who doesn't make you happy.
You have a son that you need to take care of (as does your husband), but that doesn't mean that the two of you have to be husband and wife.
Honestly, I think that you need to support yourself and your son (with the aid of child support of course), and move on.
I can pretty much guarantee you that if you stay with your husband "just because" then you will be lonely, hurt, and miserable. That's not good for you, or your son.
Good luck, and take care.
Brenda
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Do you really want to be married to a man who isn't happy? You didn't say if you were happy, if you love him or not. He is being honest with you, and he can't go on like this. You deserve better too, you deserve to be with someone who loves you and wants to be with you. You won't find it if you are stuck with a man that is wrong for you. I don't think that he is doing the wrong thing here, it sounds like he really tried and wants to take care of his child as a first priority. My advice to you is to talk to a good lawyer and start looking at your financial situation. If you don't already have a job, then get one. You might still be able to go to school part time, but get on your feet first. Don't rely on him to give you money or take care of you unless it is established by the courts. Good luck honey, remember that it is for the best.
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