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me and my best friend
OKAY THIS IS KINDA LONG SO ILL GIVE ANYBODY A 5 IF THEY READ IT...
me and this girl have been best friends for about a year...well we hung out everyday and talked about everything...she talks a lot about people behind there back and im the kinda person who doesn't say things about people behind there back...well she always says to me im not her true friend and everything and then when she wants something (like if i have money or my car or something like that) she's nice to me...we hang out everyday though and her parents love me...well she started going out with this kid and i mean he's cool and we all chill...well she talks shit about him behind his back all the time...she always says she just uses him for his money and other things...well about a night ago we were drinking and playing a game with her little brother...he won and i was really drunk and i said something mean about her little brother when he went upstairs...(now she talks about her family all the time and says stuff about them all the time) well she got mad and right after i said it i was like omg im sorry i didnt mean to say it it just came out and then she started going off about how im not her true friend and everything but i went to jail for her bc she got jumped and i jumped in and helped her...now i know i shouldnt of said the thing about her little brother and i was telling her im sorry and that i didnt mean to say it it just came out...and now were not friends anymore and its killing me inside...everyone says this girl is trouble and doesn't care about anybody but herself..and for the past year yea we've gotten along but she always bosses me around and yells at me but i love her like my sister so i need help on wut to do!! thanks!
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well, as hard as this may be for you, i think you should be happy that this happened and put the friendship behind you. from what you are saying it sounds like you are not happy being her friend, and that defeats the entire purpose of friendship. if someone treats me like crap but then acts nice when i have something that they want, i would ditch them without thinking twice about it. you should be proud of yourself for not talking sh*t about other people behind their backs... why would you want to be around her if she does that all the time? she probably talks about you too if she even talks bad about her own family! and her boyfriend... if she is openly telling you that she is USING him, then what's to stop her from using you and everyone else she is "friends" with. this girl sounds like trouble, especially because other people are warning you about her as well.
just be happy that you are no longer friends, and find some people that make you happy and you get along with. you want friends, not a boss! a friendship where one person thinks they are better than the other person and bossess them around is NOT a healthy friendship that will last forever... so why even waste time with it? your friends define who you are to other people. if everyone sees you hanging around this girl, they will assume that you share common interests and they will assume that you are a bad person just like she is. so don't even worry about it anymore, just put it behind you and move on. :) good luck!
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I think that people were right when they said that this girl only cares about herself. I think it's very true because she constantly talks about people and then when she wants something from them, she kisses up to them.
I think that you should be a little relieved that she was the one who ended the friendship. It may not be good news right now, but later on you'll be thankful that you aren't talking to someone who only would befriend someone by munipulating them into what they want.
Plus, don't think that just because she's always talking about everyone around her that she's not talking about you, because she is. The way someone acts around other people tells a lot about who they are and you don't want to be friends with someone who just acts all sweet and then right as you are turning around, she talks about you as if something were wrong.
Don't think that I don't understand that this girl was a great friend at one time and that you really love her. But, if you know for a fact that she's only acting like your friend to borrow money or use your car, then you know deep down that she's not being your friend. You're being used.
About this inccident with being drunk: I'm not sure how old you are, but maybe you shouldn't drink to the point of intoxication and things like that wouldn't happen. Now you know for a fact that drinking and using drugs can really hurt people around you.
-TheTeenGirl
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she is the one that isnt the true friend. try to let her go. it sounds like its for the best.
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