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How do i get rid of a stalker?
Hey! I have this really weird problem. Okay well there's this guy that sits at my lunch table with me and my friends and nobody really likes him but were nice to him because we really don't want to hurt his feelings. Well he knows the subdivision that I live in so he found my house last night and came over. Since then he's been ringing the doorbell non-stop and wont leave me alone. I already came out once to talk to him but I've been having my sister answer the door for the past 5 times he's comes over. I feel like he's stalking me because he's been giving me his phone number, address, and wont stop coming over when I'm 'gone'. I just want him to leave me alone, but I don't have the heart to tell him 'to go away'. I'm a nice person and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I'm really scared! If I tell my dad what he's doing then somehow my dad will blame it all on ME! Do you know a way to make him stop coming over without being mean? Please help!
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No. You need to be mean.
What he is doing doesn't require a nice response. It needs a firm, clear, mean, response.
"You are not welcome at my home. I didn't give you my address. Go away now. You are upsetting me. Leave now and don't come back."
Get the heart to tell this guy the truth. You aren't doing yourself, or him, any favours by being a pussy about it. What he is doing is not okay and you need to tell him that. Find your inner bitch, and let her out.
EDIT IN RESPONSE TO FEEDBACK
I'm very sorry you were hurt. You are right, I should have at least made a mention of getting the police involved due to the trespassing. I'm glad you all right and back on Advicenators.
I have, in fact, been stalked and struck by a boy before. Releasing my inner bitch was the exact thing that got me out of the situation when calling security, and the cops, didn't seem to stop the behaviour.
Please do get some counselling for what you've gone through, so you can decrease the negative effect of your experience on the rest of your life.
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there reason he is most likely doing this is because he is lonely if he has no other friends and you are being nice to him it most likely his way of reaching out and trying to be your friend and he dose not see that he is coming on to strong the next time he comes over go outside and and talk to him and say "hey i no you wanna be my friend and that's fine we can be friends but you have got to stop coming over all the time because you are making your self look like a crazy person and am sorry to sound so harsh but you are" and see what he says sometime all it take is for someone to tell you how your acting for you to see it a lot of the time people are just blinded to that kinda stuff. now if you don't want to be friends with him then you need to tell him that as well, but you hiding from him is not gonna do anything he will keep coming around because in his eyes he is not doing anything wrong. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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