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I kept telling him no but he wouldn't listen to me.
So me and this guy have only been dating for a little while and well me and him started to make-out last night and I told him I wanted to take things slow. I don't like to just jump into things you know? Thats not who I am. But he kept pushing and pushing to have sex and I kept telling him no. Well he just started kissing me again and I thought he understood that I wasn't going to have sex but then before I knew it he was pulling my pants off and started having sex with me even though I told him no. I didn't know what to do. I pretty much just shut down.... I feel completely horrible now. After that happened last night I can't stop thinking about what happened and I don't know what to think or what to do. I feel completely used and ashamed..... I don't know what to do now. I feel like it's my fault.
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im really sorry that all of that happened to you. But it is not your fault at all. He should of respected the fact that you didn't want to have sex right away. Also, forcing you to do that he might be controlling and possibly abusive. Do not let him make you feel like it is your fault though.Next time you have a boyfriend, make sure you know what kind of person he is before you agree to date him, and know what he's capable of.
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Firslty, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Secondly this guy needs to know that what he did was wrong. You said no and he should have respected that. What he did was rape. You can report him for it and he can be arrested and charged.
I feel for you. It hasn't happened to me but it has happened to friends of mine and i can only imagine!
I'd encourage you to go to the police. However if you decide not to, then you need to tell him that what he did was wrong. And let other people know what he did to you. Other girls need to be warned!!!
He's gonna tell you that you were into it or you asked for it... And he's going to make up lies about you and call you a slut and deny the accusation to the police but stick to your guns and know in yourself that you are a strong person and you know you're not a slut and dont believe his lies!
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Well wow I'm so sorry that happened.. Guys can be such animals and jerks sometimes =/ It's his fault he didn't take no for an answer... Did you speak in a loud tone? Without giggles or smiles... You MUST take charge and say NO even if you yell at him and seem like a b**ch... What he did can be considered rape if you press charges, It was against your will.. and if he's over 18 and you're under thats even worse.. =/ don't feel ashamed hun.. it isn't your fault. I totally understand where you;re coming from... But listen love... over time wounds heal... I promise you.. you will be strong... and although you might not forget it completely you will move on, and find a good man who can take care of you unlike this jerk.. Be careful who you're alone with =/ stay safe
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Its not your fault but he shouldve understood the word know i think u should talk to him about it and tell him how you feel and if he doesnt like it then you need to reevaluate your relationship with him and ask yourself if you wanna be with him.
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It is absolutely not your fault. You should be able to kiss a guy without worrying about being raped. I know that sounds like a harsh word, but you have been raped. You are feeling as if you somehow invited it by not punching him in the face and trying to fight him off. This is the same bull that has been haunting women forever and allowing men to take advantage of them. Women have a tendancy to blame themselves for everything. When I was a little girl, maybe five or so, I was molested by the old man who lved next door. It felt good, and after the first time, I would go over when I knew he was alone and encourage the sexual activity. I felt bad about it, and I felt really dirty so I never told anyone about what happened, because I felt like I asked for it. It broke my self esteem for a long time. But the truth is, I was only a little girl, and he was a perverted sexual preditor. The number one thing sexual preditors have going for them is our shame. They want us to feel disgusted in ourselves so we won't tell and they won't get into trouble.
You were faced with a situation that put you in shock. You still can't even believe it happened, so why are you now beating yourself up because you didn't handle it like Wonder Woman, and karate chop him, leaving him knocked out on the floor? You were caught off guard and totally by surprise. You were in the middle of a situation that you hear about all of the time, but you never thought it would happen to you. Please try not to beat yourself up about it, because if you do, you will score a point for their side.
There are a lot of things to think about. Do you want to report it-Is he bragging about it all over the place-Are you going to get pregnant-STD-all of these things and more are going through your head and you're overwhelmed. Rightfully so, you have just been through a terribly traumatic experience. I know it is good to talk about things, and this advice line is your first step, but I hope you find someone human to talk to. There are a lot of things to consider, too, because some people may be obligated to report the situation to the police and you may not be ready for it. But you may also want to report what happened because he will do this again to someone else. I just hope at the very least you don't blame yourself. It is not your fault.
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wow okay. See the thing is this boy probably always gets what he wants and when you said no it probably didnt process.Anyway its not your fault at all there are jerkish guys in this world and you found one.If your still with this guy leave him now befor things get worse.
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First you dump him, and if you really want turn him in. -shrugs- It's pretty much rape, because you said no, and he kept going and pretty much took charge.
Don't feel ashamed, feel stupid. You shouldn't have shut down, you should have pushed the bastard off of you and kicked his ass. I don't care how small or big you are. A man like that deserves to be fucked up (more then he already is ^.^). You should never let any man or anyone take advantage of you EVER.
Hear me WOMAN Hear me ROAR. Just beat the hell out of him, don't let him/them do it just because you feel it would be mean to stop them Or whatever. Don't be stupid, if you can't handle situations like that, don't even let the whole making out scene begin. I'm sorry to say feel stupid, but you don't seem stupid, be smart.
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girl its not your fault at all. obviously hes an immature boy if he couldnt just accept the fact that you didnt want to do it. you were pretty much pressured by him and you should NEVER have to feel like this. if he was a good/respectable boyfriend he wouldnt of kept pushing it.. you should talk to him about how you feel, or maybe break up with this guy because he doesnt sound like the type of guy you would want to be with anyway
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