Hmm.. I decided to give a bit more detail. I live in the usa, and enjoy having fun. Swimming, dancing, shopping, working.. It's all good fun.. My mother says I have probablems, because I want to save the world.. Now I know, I can't.. But I do know us people who at least put some effort into help someone, makes some what a difference. It may not seem like it, but if you've seen Police Academy, with the apple that was thrown out the window, and started the riot!! Well then, no one knows how these things get started!
WE ARE ALL SUPER HEROS IN OUR OWN WAY.
Don't forget that! It's what we all are, and can be!
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this is long and I'm truely sorry but I really need help.
my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. a month later he moved in with me *we were friends in high school* so we knew each other. in the beginning his mother and I did not get a long at all, she assumed "I stole her son". While his mother called a good 25+ times a day I told her to stop calling so much *it was my phone line* and she called back leaving dirty messages, mainly harrassment ones. then she started texting our phones leaving more harrassment messages and we went to the cops. My boyfriend and his mother didn't speak after that for 5 months after that, then he called her again because family told us that she missed him..and she kept asking for us to visit her *she lives 2 hours away* and my boyfriend came up with an excuse saying how he was working..then he went another 5 months without talking to her...
during this time of not talking to her the relationship has been damaged with my boyfriend and his mother as well as his mom and I, She harrassed me and the fight was mainly towards me with threats, harrassment and name calling.
My bf wants to call his mom but at the same time we are set on not wanting her at our wedding nor in our future childs life, If he talks to her we dont know how to tell her that..and if we dont' talk to her she will find out the hard way...and if he talks to her and doesnt' say nothing then she will find out through someone eles...I don't know what the heck to do this is causing great stress on our relationship (link)
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That is some serious bull. I understand that his mother has been a bitch but, should always give her another chance.. he's her son, you both should just forgiver her, and try to make it work once more.. If it doesn't you could perhaps explain to her in the third chance if she does it again she will not be allowed to see future child, or go to the wedding.. o.O
I mean she's going to be a grandma? She's going to become a legal mother in-law?! Well then just try it one more time!!!
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thing is that i like this guy who recently told me he still has feelings for his ex. yet he always seems to act like he likes me? i mean he told me that yesterday he looked for me during the whole break (which is 30 minutes long), he always aks me where i am and talks to me whenever he sees me. he often asks me where i am in the break and looks for me. and when we walk together he always touches my arm etc. and when he sits next to me he always sits as close to me as he can. i mean i was convinced that he likes me until he told me he likes is ex. i dont want to be his second choice but i reeaally like him sooo much (link)
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Maybe he is scared to get into a relationship with you. Or perhaps he does have feelings for his ex but, as the feelings for his ex grow weaker the feelings he has for you grow stronger. So, if you give it sometime and hang out with him and do what you're already doing maybe he'll realize your a munch better choice!
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Okay. 21/f, he's 24/m, we've been together for, like, 4 years.
What's changed recently is that I'm in the throes of a massive pain problem. No doctor has found a correct diagnosis, and the painkillers I've been taking for it have recently stopped keeping the pain at bay.
A little background on me: I'm an extremely independent person, unused to leaning on anyone, let alone having anyone to lean on. This guy used to be like, the epitome of a bad boyfriend, and now all of a sudden, he's kinda perfect. I know I haven't adjusted to the change in him yet.
Problem: Every time I see him, having opened up to him more at this point, I feel the desire to just hug him and cry because I hurt so much. It happened ONCE that I actually did that, and I don't remember any of it. I kinda broke down, and I think it scared me a lot. I'm aware of this, and I'm aware that it won't happen every time I see him, but it's making me reluctant to hang out with him. Every time we're supposed to see each other, I cancel, and I hate myself for it. What's worse is that I'll cancel with him and go hang out with someone else. I know I can't isolate myself, so I try to surround myself with people. But I can keep up my front around people I'm not close with. I can't around him.
Logically, I know I should just suck it up and talk to him about this, but I don't feel like I can, and if I do, I don't know what'll happen to us. I feel like if I'm that open with him, he'll just run away. 'Cause really...would you want a depressed girl around after you just came out of depression yourself?
I've been his rock for, like, a year. I don't know how to switch roles like that.
Any advice? All suggestions are welcome here. (link)
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He's went from bad boyfriend to perfect boyfriend for you, you were his rock. If this is the relationship you will end up with in the end, it's his turn to be your rock. You can't just be his rock and not have a rock. It doesn't work that way, this man sounds like he loves you.. I'd talk to him about it, don't worry about him running away from you.. He loves you and you know this deep down, and know he won't leave you. Just try to explain to him how you feel, maybe you two can discuss how to handle all of this together.
And for gods sakes stop blowing him off, thats what will push him away the most, cause he doesn't realize why you're doing it.. He has no idea why you would throw away time you could be spending with him to go spend with someone else.
You're probable scarying him with the way you're acting, he probable feels like he's losing you..
Give him a chance to try and help you, don't just assum he's going to disappear on you. He's been around this long, he's going to stay.
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(this might be long sorry)
so the title pretty much says it..
my bestfriend who ive litteraly been friends with since I was a baby is moving school.
we go to an all girls school in the city (we live about 20-30minutes outside it) there is a mixed school about 5minutes away from where we live but its not considered to be one of the best if you know what I mean like its pretty much a bunch of wasters out there if im to be blunt heh,
anyway so were going into our 5th year of school (Im not sure what that is in schools elsewhere but its our second last year of school and were 16.)
so she was in out present school up until now so 4years but she always talked about wanting to go to the mixed school but she was never allowed,none of us really knew why she wanted to move because she was happy in our school and its not like we dont have any guy friends theres guys schools right around the corner from us and we know alot of guys out where we live,but her mum and dad eventually gave in and so shes moving. school starts back this thursday and I honestly dont know what im going to do,i mean dont get me wrong ive got alot of other friends too but its not the same if you know what i mean.
like id come into school and wed rush to find each other to tell each other something,wed always go in to school on the first day with each other,i guess im just going to feel lost i dont know how to describe it,everyone always has say their group of friends right and everyone gets on,but like each person has a best friend that they pair up with for stuff if you get me?
its just going to be weird without her.
im also worried were going to drift apart,like we live 10minutes apart but its different when were not in school together we will be doing our own thing we talked and we both promised not to let anything come between us but i cant help feeling that we will drift and become per ocupied with other friends,im worried she will change too because she takes on a different personality around certain people that go to her new school its not good for her,everyones saying it she knows herself she wont work out there either guys there and theese next 2years in school are really important (lol sorry i dont mean to come across as a nerd or anything but you know)
were texting now at the moment and she was sayin how shes depressed,and I said why she said its just starting a new school and end of summer and that.
I asked her was she nervous about school cos thats normal(even though we know alota people who go there) and that i feel the same about summer..
she text back no "its u im gonna miss u :("
so im in tears now..I dont know how to handle this? anyone been in a similar situation?school actually wont be the same we had such a laugh together,lately shes been having second thoughts and whenever people ask her why she wanted to move she hasnt got an answer..ugh I just dont know. I dont even know what im asking at this stage think im just venting... has anyone any advice?ever been in this type of a situation..if so how did you cope and like what happend
so sorry this is so long too
Thanks in advance.
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Your friend decided to go to the other school to get a different feel for the world. Not to only be in an all girls school, but to be in a boys/girls school. To see what real life is all about.
I don't think she'll drift, but she may change. A public school will change someone and there is no doubt about that.
But, I moved away from my main school to another state and my bestfriend and I are still really good friends. Just for the fact that she got pregnant and ended up moving in with me.. Ha!
I'd suggest don't worry about it, just try to talk alot, and get together as much as possible.
She'll change but so with you. You want to stay friends it's like a relationship, have to make time for each other, other wise.. You're going to fall apart..
so just keep in mind friendship is like a relationship.. got to make time for one another.
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so the last time i 'touched' a guy, was like.. a year ago.
if i do it again, will it all come back to me? (knowing what to do)
i've only done it like.. three times (link)
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I would say it'll all come back, because touching a man is like riding a bike. So I think you're safe with it all coming back, especially if its with someone you're comfortable with.
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so there is this guy josh c that i met at my overnight camp and i really liked him and i just recently saw him when i was visiting in oakville and now he knows my feelings about him but i dont think he feels the same way .. and he lives 45 minutes away so it would be hard to see him . what do i do ? (link)
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You don't fully know he doesn't like you. You should try and date him, hang out even... Got to give love a chance... You should always give it a chance, it may bloom into somthing amazing.
I'd really suggest trying to get to know him, and hang out and stuff.
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This might seem silly but just bare with me. I was good friends with this girl for like 10 months. We've known each other for a really long time but we had just lately become like best friends. Well a few days ago we got in a huge fight for the first time and we're seriously over. This isn't just a fight, we're through. So my question is...do I take down all the pictures of her that I have on my "summer 09" album on myspace? I don't like her anymore, but I can't change my past, you know? I don't know what to do. I have pictures of other people too but mostly of me and her, since we were like best friends. If I leave them she'll probably be annoyed or something. And I really just never wanna see her face again..so should I take them down or not? (link)
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I would suggest leaving them there, especially if you had a great summer.. You need to cherish the moments you spent with her, even if you feel you don't like her anymore.. As you said we can't change our past. Why would we want to though? Live and learn! Life is a journey!! Let it flurish! :) Okay hope this helps in some way.
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i had already asked you the question of if i should move or not and you have good advice but my friend and i are not gay and you seem to have mistaken us for that. this is strictly a friend who has a girlfriend and so do i which would be moving with us but i just didnt know weather or not i should uproot everthing that i had here and take off to a place where all i have is a couple of cousins but thanks for the advice (link)
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Ahh! My Mistake I do appologize. I tend to have blonde moments, As I said though it's good to experience as much as humanly possible. So I would uproot everything just to go ahead and try something new! Make sure you've cleared this whole moving trip with the ladies, maybe he has, but maybe you havent... Because you've been so unsure, but then you'll make the choice to go, and she won't be able too.. then you'll be at another fork in the road.. sorry just thinking if you hadn't told her yet.. or what not.. okay then I'm off..
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hi, i am a girl and i was with my friend / gf today. we are lesbians i guess. her parents know but mine didnt. and then my idiot asshole friend, who is a boy, sent me a txt msg talkin about me and my gf. my dad decided to read my txts. he saw it. now im flippin out and so r my parents!!!! my gf and i fear we will never be able to see each other again. MY FUCKING FRIENDS SUCK!!!! what do i do? my gf and i are hysterical and idk wat to do. plz help me :(!!!! (link)
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fuck your parents. If they can't except you for who you are... Do it behind there backs. I don't understand why parents can't except there children for whom they are.. You should tell your parents straight up if they can't except you for who you are, they don't really love you. Because I believe they wouldn't...
It's just a theory.. I'm bisexual, my mother could careless. We're all human, and there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, especially in this day and age!
Just sit and explain to them, this is who you are.. If they think it's a phase, tell them good let me live this phase if I come out of it so be it, and if I don't you'll just have to live with it..
Parents don't understand us till we can really become an adult, talk like an adult, and go through everything they've been through..
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His name is jason and he's like my drug. Sometimes he makes me happy but in the long run he is hurting me. When Im with him I want to be by him forever. And when we're apart I cant stop thinking about him. The absolute best night of my life! When he told everyone that he liked me so much he thought he was in love. But he's naturally a player and I know he cares about me but Its like he is trying so hard to be "unattatched" but he is slowly showin me and everyone else how important I really am to him. My problem though is that I feel like it could take litterally years before he will completely commit to me. I dont know if I can wait that long. He is hurting me so much with his games. but like I said he is like a drug that I am sompletely addicted to. (link)
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ugh! I hate men that are like drugs to us females.. It will literally tear us apart and kill us from outside in! I went through the same thing sorta kinda.. except mine is still my drug, I just don't have him.. Techniqually I don't want him. We're always important to them, but when they finally realize we're the one.. that she is the one.. we're already married and on our way to having a life.. We can't backtrack boys.. I mean come on.. But if you want him, and you really think he's going to be the answer to all your prays, the one to father your children, the one to support you when you're old and on your way to death.. so be it, if you think he's not going to play his part well enough you need to find another someone.. another man to play the role of your drug, one who thinks your as much his drug as he is yours.. This may never happen, but if you are waiting what does it hurt to look? Especially if you're not dating your drug, if you are.. you'll have to really consider if you want to wait around forever, or go out and explore what the rest of the world has to offer!
Good Luck
-Ash♥
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My best friend came to me the other day and told me that he is supposed to be moving to Texas in about a year from now. He asked me to move with him cause he dosent know anyone from Texas and would feel more comfortable with the move if i went to. I have some cousins in texas in the area where i would be moving to if i were to move with him, But most of my family are here in good ol WV and i dont know what to do. I would like to go to TX for a fresh start but then again but like i said before all my family and other friends are here. What should i do? (link)
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I'd really suggest making the move. If it doesn't work out you can always explain to your boyfriend that you'd like to go home. Your friends and family are only a phone call or computer screen away. There not going anywhere, and it's always good to try and experience moving a little.. :) It'll be an adventure, and one with the love of your life. So I'd suggest making it. :)
I hope you understand that life isn't always about being in one spot, you have to live a litte.. so take a chance and step out of your save zone! :) live a little..
Hope I could help
-ash♥
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Hi I'm hopeing you can help me, my name is Sam and I live in a house full of crazy people. Well let me tell you the story and maybe you can help out in some way.
On one day my husband ran off w/another woman and left me w/2 teenagers lets call them Dawn and Shawn not twins. Ok well, any who. My Daughter Dawn gets this call from her SO CALLED BEST FRIEND! that her mom kicks her out. But, get this she has a baby and the baby daddy w/her. Now she has one more year of school and then she is graduated. But, also baby daddy is a fruitloop. Thats a whole different story. Then Dawn gets a call from another SO CALLED FRIEND and he 2 is being kicked out. So now i have no husband,a young unwed mother w/a baby and a 21yr old that no place else 2 go and my 2 kids. Oh, and did i add i'm moveing out of state. Woo Hoo!!! Ok so now the the baby daddy is out of the picture as of right now and i don't ever want 2 see him back again. And the baby mama needs 2 go back 2 school and the 21yr. needs 2 get a JOB. The 21yr was dateing Dawn and then dateing baby mama, but they all broke up and stayed friends. Baby mama wants 21 back and 21 wants baby mama back. But, Dawn is slipping into depession over it. "cuz she to wants 21yr. So what do you think I should do tell dawn I'm tired of supporting her loser friends and tell them 2 walk? Baby mama is 18 and bi-poler and 21 is the same. So do you think that they are capable of raiseing a baby alone. I don't!!! So i put up w/it 'cuz of the baby. But if anyone has advice i'm willing 2 hear all.
Thank you, crazy and undecided (link)
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Hi...
Not sure thats a tough one. I'd suggest just taking it day at a time. Hopefully everything will boil down and be fine. Other wise you can decide what you want on your own. I'm pretty sure they'll probable be leaving soon anyways though...
"But I'm not taking them with me!"
They can leave when I do, but I won't take them with me.. and I'll come back.. someday..
You can decide for yourself what to do with the baby. Your daughter will survive one way or another..
She probable just wants him cause her friend wants him.
She probable doesn't even care anymore.. She's probable so fed up with them.. she probable considers them more your kids then friends to her..
She's probable going to make her own descions.. and leave them all in the dust though.. But she'll come back, they always come back home.
P.s Remember your children love you.
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I'm writing a horror story. I normally write romances so blood and guts is a little new to me. So far the only thing I have is the setting which is an old abandoned town near where I live but I need some really good plot ideas. I don't want ghosts or monsters or 'the thing in the closet' or anything like that. Somewhere along the lines of a murder mystery. I'm really interested in the Black Daliah murder even though its so sick and twisted I want a story thats unexpected.
I got onto this idea because yesterday I was walking with my boyfriend down a trail that used to be a railroad that was closed down after too many accidents and it runs behind this abandoned town and while we were walking, besides the fact that I was already creeped out, we found a bunch of bones, that I'm pretty sure were from a deer..but still...Creepyyyy.
So..any ideas?
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I love to write as well so let me see if I can help you out some.
You want something like in real life.. AS the Black Daliah murder, which was amazing..
Something like It's a small most likely abandoned town near you..
Perhaps it was abandond because many years ago... A man went crazy... He found his wife cheating on him, and his children hated him.. He hated his job 5 miles from his home.. The people in town just seemed to drive this man insane, and his wife was a complete bitch to him, so he started with the kids and his wife and he murdered everyone intown and everyone who entered the town from that day forward.. Reasontly he's brought people in and made some what of a cult, and rule this town, so that it lives on. ... . Then if you want you can go into maybe a team of whatever doing an investigation on it... involve some kind of demon into it all or something...
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SO im basically with this girl. We kiss and shit and I just want to hang out with her more. Shes extremely busy everyday but she loves hangin with me. I just want some ideas of what we would do when we hang out besides watching a movie and walks. Something fun and something cool. Any ideas? (link)
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You wish to hang out more with this girl... Someone you feel you want a relationship with or someone you want to sleep with? If you want to spend more time to work into a relationship to sleep with her.. So be it, try a romantic evening, plan around her schedual, and make it a beautiful night. Make her dinner maybe, and set up some candle light.
If you can flowers for her... You know, make it something special...
Or maybe a picnic, it's decent weather.. Take her to maybe an out doors place, maybe you like.. Somewhere you think is beautiful. Show her what you find interesting... : )
I hope you come up with something.. Or maybe this will help, but good luck on persuing her!
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me and my boyfriend (well ex) we've known each other since we were 12 and started goin out when we were 13, (were now 18) but we broke up because we were little and stuff but after 2 years not seeing each other he moved to Pennsylvania, and we contacted each other again because we went there to see them (my parents and his parents are best friends) ok well we started talking again, he has a daughter.. which is no problem for me she's so cute her name is jazmyn she's one and javier is sucha an amazing dad, but the baby mom is crazy and stuff, my boyfriends name is javier.. and javiers parents don't like her because she treated him bad but he stayed with her for 2 years just for the baby, and they broke up because he wasn't happy, and we started going out because we were our first love, and who would of thought we would go out again, we were so happy!!. He's such a good person, the problem is that saturday we were suppose to go to a party and he was coming home to pick me up (oh yeah me and my family moved to PA) and he didn't come home he went straight to the party I was like what the hell, then his mom tells me because his dad got mad cause it was 10pm and still wasn't home so he told javier not to come home, and he gets mad very easily so he went straight there and of course the baby mom was there and he had no place to go and went with her... after that day he contacted me saying babe I'm so sorry is that a situation happened with my dad and stuff but please don't think anything is happening with her, I love u so much and remember that, but how am I not suppose to think anything you know, and he doesn't tell me what happened with his dad, I'm a very understanding person.. anyways its been a week and he's telling me that he's saving money to go get an apartment. but if you were me in this situation, like he's telling me nothings happening and believe me he's a brutally honest person so he wouldn't lie to me.. should I believe him? should I wait for him? i don't know what to do or think, because there's so many reasons why he's staying there (well for now he says) because of his daughter, his dad kicked him out but his mom is so nice and was like come home don't listen to your dad, but his dad is so strict... I just don't know what to do in a situaton like this, I love him so much and I know he loves me too...
I don't know what to do please help!!!
and I apologize that its so long. (link)
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If you believe in true love, and you want to wait for him.. Wait for him. If you don't want to wait, maybe see what else the world has to offer you, go out and see what else there is. You're so young, and there is no reason to want to be tied down. If he loves you and is an honest person, he's probable not sleeping with the babys mama, he's probable just staying there,because it's a place to stay with out listening to his dad yell, and that way he's there for his little girl. Children are very important to a good man. So just give it time, and maybe it'll all work out for the best... But if you two arn't together, why not see what else is out there?
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Hello! I am Lidia Cadison, and I recently moved to California, (I used to live in Mexico) ,I have 15 years old and my problem is the next:
The thing is that I really like a guy that lives in Mexico, he is my friend and we sometimes talk via MSN, although we are far away my feelings towards him had not changed at all but today I started thinking in telling him how I felt I know he only likes me as a friend and nothing more, cause the way he behaves around me is the way he behaves with his male friends. But I want to do it cause I think I need to move on with my life and stop daudreaming in him and stuffs that may never going to happen...do you think I should tell him? or just continue the way we are now...I dont want to lost his friendship in the process. Thanks you =)
and see ya latera. (link)
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It's true, it's hard to hold onto a crush for so long. You should tell him, but you don't techniqually know he doesn't like you more then a friend. Maybe he treats you like one of his male friends, because he feels close to you. Friendships can normally start out as friendships, and lead into soooo much more. You should tell him how you feel and explain to him that no matter how he feels towards you, that you want and need to still have his friendship!
Shouldnt hide so much from people, it's better to speak your mind, and throw everything you have out on the table. A good quote. "You make choices, and never look back!"
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ok well...well i moved here last year...im kinda shy and alot of the girls dont like me cause they dont want to get to know me...and they say they hate me and they have no reason to. well one of my friends said that one girl said that i was ugly..and that the guy that i was going out w/ could do so much better than me...and im just tired of them saying stuff about me...and im like kinda scared to be myself around them cause they might say something about me and i really hate it when people talk about me... so what sould i do or what would u do?? (link)
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I know how hard it is to show your true colors to people you don't know, don't trust.. Etc.. But You have to come out of your shell and be yourself. If you're not yourself, you're not even giving the people around you a chance to know you, to see you for who you really are. If people can't except the way that you are so be them. There probable missing out on a great person. You shouldn't care what people think of who you really are anyways.. The only person who needs to care who you are is yourself! If you don't like being shy and not showing your true colors you need to open yourself up, and forget about the teenagers that say stupid stuff, and don't even know you for who you really are. Also, the stuff they say about your boyfriend, or whatever doens't mean anything to you, especially if it doesn't effect the guy you're with. You shouldn't be scared of them, there just saying that stuff, cause they wish they were more like you. That is the gods honest truth too!
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So there is this guy right and well we have been go out for 7 months now and well I fell in love with him and I don't know if he loves me back...and I like him and all I just don't know if I want to love him because I really don't want to get hurt...so what do I do? (link)
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Alright, you're inlove with a guy who you're not sure is in love with you, and you want to not love him, so you don't get hurt. Well emotions have alot to do with this, you have to control them, and if you're scared of getting hurt, stop spending alot of time with him, brake it down. Keep more time to yourself and friends, find other things to do other then to think about him, talk to him, or hang out with him.
It's hard to not love the people we fall inlove with, and trust me I know how hard it is. You just have to try and get over him before he does something that could penetrate your heart.
If he loves you back though, perhaps the time apart and away from him.. He'll realiz he loves you and he'll maybe come out and tell you, and you can just return to that emotional state called "Like/Love/Lust"
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okay theres this guy that wants to have sex with me and i want to have sex with him too but im a lil scared cuz it will be my first time and everything will be new to me and im not sure on what to do, but i dont want him to "pop my cherry" and then its like all messy. . .so what do i do if he does and i start bleeding, how do i act calm about it and juss clean up so we can keep on with the sex?. . .and how much blood comes out? can you pop your own cherry by sticking sumthing in ur vagina? (link)
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Well if you want him to be your first time that is completely up to you. It doesn't hurt too bad if the guy knows what he's doing, considering you're a virgin. You can actually pop your own cherrie, it's none to be done. With dildos, even riding a bicycle can pop your cherrie depending on what happens. When your cherrie pops, it doesn't bleed to much, it's not like a massive bloody mess, just like if you were spotting during a period.. If you're worried about there being any sort of mess, explain to him about it. If you don't want him to pop it, you'd probable be better to not have sex, but that is my own opinion.
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theres this boy at college and i like him but him and his friends have been staring at me for the last 8 months. does he like me or arethese games? also we heard that he has a girl.
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Well it depends, maybe he does like you. Or maybe he's heard you like him, and he's curious about you. If you're interested in him, you should deffently approach him. You only have one life, live on the edge and take chances! Also it's fun to see if he does, and if he doesn't so friggen what that is his loss! : ) Go Do it Honey!
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