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what do I do?
this is long and I'm truely sorry but I really need help.
my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. a month later he moved in with me *we were friends in high school* so we knew each other. in the beginning his mother and I did not get a long at all, she assumed "I stole her son". While his mother called a good 25+ times a day I told her to stop calling so much *it was my phone line* and she called back leaving dirty messages, mainly harrassment ones. then she started texting our phones leaving more harrassment messages and we went to the cops. My boyfriend and his mother didn't speak after that for 5 months after that, then he called her again because family told us that she missed him..and she kept asking for us to visit her *she lives 2 hours away* and my boyfriend came up with an excuse saying how he was working..then he went another 5 months without talking to her...
during this time of not talking to her the relationship has been damaged with my boyfriend and his mother as well as his mom and I, She harrassed me and the fight was mainly towards me with threats, harrassment and name calling.
My bf wants to call his mom but at the same time we are set on not wanting her at our wedding nor in our future childs life, If he talks to her we dont know how to tell her that..and if we dont' talk to her she will find out the hard way...and if he talks to her and doesnt' say nothing then she will find out through someone eles...I don't know what the heck to do this is causing great stress on our relationship
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well ask yourself. was your relationship with your boyfriend better when she was around or now when shes not?i mean family is family you cant live without them. once she finds out about the wedding and the baby shes going to call and annoy you just like she use to but this time its going to hit her harder than ever because she found out from someone else. maybe if you tired to get to know the mother like call her once in awhile and get to know he that way she wont feel like shes being erased from her sons life and will eventually back off. she feels like shes loosing the boy shes had her whole life to a girl he met in high school so please try to understand where shes coming from. i mean you dont need to see her all the time, just give her closure that her son is going to be taken care of.
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That is some serious bull. I understand that his mother has been a bitch but, should always give her another chance.. he's her son, you both should just forgiver her, and try to make it work once more.. If it doesn't you could perhaps explain to her in the third chance if she does it again she will not be allowed to see future child, or go to the wedding.. o.O
I mean she's going to be a grandma? She's going to become a legal mother in-law?! Well then just try it one more time!!!
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