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Im Not Over Him.
Hi, Im 13 And I Have Found Love... I Had A Boyfriend For 9 Months And We Really Loved Eachover Buh We Split Up For A Reason i Cannot Say, I Still Love Him Buh He Has Moved Way On... I Feel Im Forgotten Even Though We R Still Such Close Mates... Im In A Mess And Need A Way To Get Over Him, Please Help ME fIND a wAY, He Likes This Girl Buh They Arnt Goin Out Even Though They Like Eachother. I Dont Know Y Buh I Would Be So Heartbroken If He Was happy With Someone Else. He Was So Nice Buh Now We Are Just friends And My Heart Is Hurting . HELP! x
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I'm not going to tell you that it was not love because you are so young because it could have been. I found my first real love at the age of 13 and get this: we were together for 9 months too. So I feel your pain believe me, I know it hurts so bad now but you will get over him. There is no secret remedy to get magically get over someone over night. But there are things to help smooth the path you have to follow to get over him. I believe this can help...
Realize that part of what hurts is not reality. It's the pain of losing the picture you've kept creating in your own mind of how wonderful things would be if he/she'd just get over that other woman/man, be ready for commitment, get a job, quit the bottle, or whatever. CHOOSE to create different pictures. All of us find certain types of people, certain behaviors, and certain looks repulsive. Each of us has our own, personal list. Put yours down on paper. Then, every time you miss him/her, and every time you go to the bathroom... picture the one you miss so terribly and whom you've already figured out isn't coming back with a row of festering zits all around their __________ (insert their feature you love best here). Picture them with a greasy, sleazy personality, hawking lugies at your mother's church. Picture it in full color, include sound, odors, details. You own your brain. It believes whatever pictures you create regularly. Create pictures that help you get over rather than pictures that prevent getting over. And, by all means... stop listening to tear jerking, obsessive songs. You know the ones... "I can't live without you, breathe without you, dance without you. I can't get over you, stop loving you, etc." That's bull! That's the way the songwriter felt the day he wrote that song. For all you know, he got over it the next day, and here you are, clinging to the words like they're going to help! Maybe you feel like your love wasn't real if you don't hurt really, really bad for a long, long time. Or, just possibly, all those obsessive songs have convinced you that unrequited love is romantic. BULL! <---Lollie.com
I thought the paragraph above is pretty useful. Although I do not believe you have to necessarily hate or dislike this guy.
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