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Heeey, im Amber.
Im 15, and im a Therepist, btw ;]

Gender: Female
Member Since: March 10, 2009
Answers: 17
Last Update: March 31, 2009
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15/f
i was on google searching for ways for bigger boobs and stuff and now all that history is in google. how do i get rid of it so my parents dont see!
i already clicked the link under the URL(the arrow) and i clicked clear history, but when im still on the website and type it "boob" all my searchings come up!
does anyone know how to get rid of it!?
PLEASE AND THANK YOU! (link)
Well just delete it on google.
But what did it say about that?
hahaa.


where can i buy caution tape? (link)
Well, you could go to any store that sells like Halloween decorations and stuff. But you could also go to a hospital and go to the emergency room cause my mom works in that part of a hospital + i had a halloween party and she got e caution tape for it there. But yeah, look there. Then you might find some :]


i know this might sound a little weird but do the shorts that cheerleaders wear under their skirts ride up? (link)
Well coming from a former cheerleader, me, they dont really ride up. But if your in a competition or something and your moving around a lot, then yes. They do tend to ride up a little. But not that much :]


Could someone PLEASE make me a myspace layout that is EXACTLY like this one

http://www.freecodesource.com/myspace-layouts/view.php?id=L282181118

Ecept it has my;;
URL
Blogs
Comments
Details
Contact box
Who I'd like to meet
&
Friends
HIDDEN

So basically all that shows is About me, music, and the picture

The layout in the link I gave wont let me hide that stuff I NEED hidden. So could someone PLEASE make me one with it hidden?
It NEEDS to look EXACTLY like that (link)
I'll make it for yaa ;]


this is mostly meant for those who have been in a relationship for a while, but anyone can answer. when(how many months) did you first tell your boyfriend/girlfriend you love him/her? thanks in advance. (link)
Well i agree with this other girl that answered this, but i told my boyfriend after a month that i loved him cause i always used to say it to my other boyfriends just to say it, but when i said it for the first time to my boyfriend this time, I realllllly meant it & i just got this feeling and i know it was love. But i have been with him for almost 5 months now, and its been amazing! But yeah, theres really no certain time and place to say it, but just do it when your ready to ;]


im in love with my boyfriend. i am 16 he is 15. we have been best friends for a year and dating for 6 months. i KNOW i am in love with him. its just that feeling you get. unmistakeable. however no one believes me. he doesnt even believe me! he thinks it is infatuation. he says he is in love with me but everyone always tells us its only highschool and teens cant fall in love. so then he starts thinking that maybe its just infatuation or lust. my parents say i am too young for love and my friends say they dont believe in love. even the ones with boyfriends say things like they love their boyfriends but just in the highschool love way. but i am absolutely positive that i am in love with my boyfriend. he means absolutely everything to me and we have gone through alot together. how can i get him to believe this? do you think teen love is real? is it just infatuation? why does everyone say this? (link)
Well, id have to say im in the same boat as you. At least the whole in-love with my boyfriend part. Me and my boyfriend (husband as we say ;]) have been going out for about 5 months noww & we are IN LOVE. Theres ALOT of people that are so jealous of being in love like us, and we are like the couple of the school ;] But believe me hun, dont listen to um. If you KNOW your in love, thats all you need to know is how you feel. So just dont listen to them :]



okay so about 6 or 7 months ago i broke up with this guy jeremy for a multiple number of reasons. during that 6 and 7 month period he has been harassing the hell out of me!
he's sending me messages on facebook that say 'your a dirty whore go f*** yourself'
i got phone calls from restricted that had his voice on the other end saying creepy things.
i got strange screen names iming me saying they were one of my friends and when i asked my friends about it they had no idea what i was talking about.
so now me and this guy kevin are talking and were kind of going out... but not really. weve been on dates and were talking constantly and we've admitted to liking eachother... the typical.
so i get an inbox from my crazy ex boyfriend saying 'your a f****n bitch cuz you like kevin!' and hes making fun of him saying all these bad things.
he is in the same network as me on facebook so he can look at everything i do. and i talk to kevin a lot on facebook... and kevin is in the same network.
hes also been telling me that hes put a knife to his throat cause of me and crap like that. i know he's lying but he just won't admit it. half of the reason i broke up with him was cause of his lying.
i removed him as a friend on facebook, myspace, blocked him on aim, and blocked his youtube account!
he still finds ways to send me annoying and creepishly harrassing messages.
he wont leave me alone! i never respond to these messages cause i assume it will just be feeding the monster. but this has really got to stop before he gets carried away. hes coming to my school next year because of me and i feel as if hes stalking me!
i told my parents and theyre thinking of calling his parents and telling them everything thats happened. but i dont know if that will make things worse or not.
i honestly dont know what to do and hes scaring me.
help? (link)
Oh my goodness, tell your parents to talk to his parents..DEFINATLY!



What is the best heavy metal album of all time? (link)
Look on Google.


ok im not going to sugar coat this or anything im just gonna straight up tell you how it is. i need to get something off my chest and i want to hear what you have to say about it. im putting myself out there so, try not to be too harsh :/ i really appreciate you taking the time to read this and help me out.

16/f
been going out with my bf for 1 year and 6 months. let me just tell you for sure we definitely are in love, no questions asked. we go to different schools but only live 15 minutes away from each other and we make it work. even though i truly do love him, i have mildly [nothing horrible] cheated on him on several occasions.

okay, back last year when we were going out for about 4 or 5 months, i started to talk to this guy, G. he was blatantly flirty with me all the time and i guess sweet talked me into a situation i did not want to be in. one day in school he texted me saying to 'go to the bathroom' and meet him outside in the hall. so i did, and we were just walking around the school talking. we sorta got slower at the staircase and he turned around and kissed me. i kissed him back but it was just 2 short pecks held out for 2 seconds each id say. it felt like the WEIRDEST THING ever, i didnt like it. but it was almost like he had me brainwashed because i kept talking to the guy. over a break like the easter break or something when no one was home he snuck over to my house and i let him in... i kept him in my room because my brother was home and if he saw some guy in our house he would get me in trouble. so he almost forcefully laid me down and started kissing me. no tongue or anything, just kissing, like long pecks i suppose? so i felt sort of violated because i was very hesitant and it made me feel uncomfortable. right after i got up and didnt let him push me down anymore and told him he had to leave and i made him leave my house. i only told my boyfriend about the kiss in the hallway and i twisted the story and said that the guy kissed me but i did not kiss him back. eventually i realized talking to this kid got me nowhere but into trouble so i ended all contacts with him. so that was over. my boyfriend was upset of course but forgave me because he still doesnt even know the whole story.

next incident came in the summer, we were going out for 8 months. i went on vacation with my family to the bahamas at a resort. i made out with/kissed 3 boys within the vacation. nothing was passionate it was just regular kisses. out of curiosity i suppose? spur of the moment? the feeling of carelessness that the summer gives you? i was on vacation and i would never have to see these people again? im not sure why i did it but these reasons seem logical. right after every time i told the boys that i had a boyfriend and that i felt horrible that i did that. the first guy, B, it was his last night. we were walking on the beach at night after a teen activity that the resort had, and it was my first night there so i was naive. he said that he had never slow danced on the beach before and he asked me to. i thought it was the sweetest thing ever so i did as we listened to a song on his ipod. he kissed me 2 or 3 times that night, nothing passionate, just kisses. and he was really shy and inexperienced and would ask me if i was bad and stuff. i told him i had a bf and we both felt really bad and he understood because he had been cheated on before. the next guy was a total jerk, i was going back to the hotel room to get ready for dinner and before that i was with a group of my friends. he said he would walk me back and i thought that he was just being a gentleman, the naive person i am. little did i know he had other intentions. when we got to my door he leaned in fast and kissed me and grabbed my ass. i was insulted by this so i pulled away after a second once i realized what was happening. then i left him and went into my room. he later told my friends from the resort that he made out with me 3 times and that i let him grab my ass a lot, which was obviously a lie. the next time was with a boy, N. my group of friends was in the poolside hot tub one night. he put his hand on my leg and eventually i sat on his lap playfully because we were all friendly like that i didnt see harm in it at the time, but now i realize that is completely leading on. my friends ditched us thinking we wanted to hookup. once they left we started making out, i did think he was attractive but his personality was a jerk and he just wanted to get with girls, but anyway, after 7 seconds or so he started to go into my pants [ i was wearing full tank top and jeans bc i got pushed into the pool with my clothes on before] and i stopped him right there. i realized then that it was wrong and definetly did not want to go any farther. we met back up with my friends. later on a friend told me that he had said that 'he wanted to f*** me before i left" and that insulted me. it made me realize he wasnt a good guy. so then i went home. i told my boyfriend i didnt do anything and that one guy B tried to kiss me but didnt and lied about it and the last guy tried to get in my pants but i didnt let him. thats all i told him, basically a half lie. still bad i know.

the last incident occured around christmas time, we were going out for 1 year and 2 months. this time i didnt do anything physically, but emotionally. my bf and i were fighting a lot, had a rough patch if you will. i just felt unhappy a lot of the time so i turned to another boy. we had just met and just started talking through insignificant means, like facebook, IM, and texting. he started to tell me that he liked me and would also sweet talk me as the first guy did. it sort of persuaded me into liking him. i did find him attractive and i did like his personality. but i learned from the past mistakes and knew i would not kiss him. we wanted to hangout one time to get to know each other, as friends of course, even though we had little crushes on each other, but he respected that i had a bf and didnt want to mess it up'. i felt my bf couldnt know about it because he would feel jealous or start worrying, couldnt blame him though. so it was originally set up that we would hangout at the mall with other people. he would bring some friends and i would bring some. i was supposed to bring my friend jenny but at the last minute she couldnt go so it was just me. he had 2 of his friends with him, and we saw other friends while we were there too so it wasnt any sort of a date. my bf thought i was just at the mall with jenny though, bc that was the original plan. but thats all he knew. anyway, this guy and i never kissed or did anything innappropriate. i did later admit to my boyfriend that this kid and i were talking and that i had developed a crush on him. my bf and i had a long talk and i eventually ended contacts with this kid and stopped liking him, and things between me and my bf got better. i am completely over that guy. but i can tell my bf is still hurt that i could like another guy so easily and he probably feels insecure, which is understandable, i would too.

so there it is. he really only knows half or even 1/3 of all of that. i have a terrible conscience inside that reminds me of this stuff constantly. i was in denial with my self for a while and would refuse to think that i did any of that stuff, i just couldnt deal with it, i was so upset with myself and still am. i know i should tell him one day... sooner is probably better. but i am SO scared. he told me a few times that if i ever cheat on me he would be so devastated and heartbroken and it would show that 'i never loved him'. but that is not true at all. i KNOW i love him with all my heart, i dont know what i would do if he broke up with me, i would be so incredibly upset. i dont want to lose him but i know that what i did was very wrong and i am truly sorry for it. it was a mistake and i meant nothing by it, i never loved anyone at any point in my life but my bf. i used to be so naive and curious and just stupid and i see that now, ...i know i will never do those things again. i am just so afraid that if i tell him everything that he will just start thinking... and it will end up with us breaking up or something to that horrible effect. i really need advice on this. thanks so much for your time. (link)
I agree with this other girl above me;

The best thing to do is tell him. Really, just do it. And yes, i understand how hard it is to just tell him. But ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months almost & we are SO in love with each other and always talk about getting married and everything. And we've even talked to each other about cheating on each other. and We both know thats NEVER gonna happen; that we will NEVER do that to each other. No matter what. But what you just need to do is talk to him, and bring up that stuff again, but tell him that you were hiding a few things from him cause you made mistakes and you never even wanted to do what you did. But you were just simply curious & stupid for doing all the things that you did. But thats all you gotta do, just tell him as easily as you can. But make sure you dont leave ANYTHING out cause once you tell him everything, then believe me, you will feel SO much better. And believe me, cause i tell my boyfriend ABSOLUTELY everything, but just random stuff thats on my mind. Cause ive never done anything bad to him. And we are both the 'jealous' type & we dont even have any boys/girls on our myspaces :] So we are in a pretty serious/commited relationship. So again, just tell him, its best for you and him cause again, it will show him that your truly sorry and that you didnt really ever wanna hurt him, but that you want his forgiveness. Just please go with my advice..and this girl above me. Just tell him :] And i wish you two good luck!


alright so my friend Melinda is kind of prude i mean she has hooked up with one guy almost one year ago. we are sophomores now. but she does socialize and flirt. i recently found out that she has been talking to this freshman in college, James, that she has known for over a year. they honestly talk everyday about everything, the problem is, he has a girlfriend. Melinda and James dont discuss anything about being together- but i found it a little shady that yesterday James and his gf were in his room and the gf was on his bed and that Melinda and him were videochatting but he couldnt say anything to her so the girlfriend wouldnt hear. he had earphones in so he could listen to Melinda. anyways i feel like he likes her- he asks her to hang out and stuff and she is always always talking to him. what should she do? i know she likes James, but doesnt want to bc she doesnt want to be the other girl (link)
Oh my goodness, thats kind of a bad thing to be doing. If i were her, id definatly stop talking to someone else when for one, she has a boyfriend & two, that kid has a girlfriend. If i was the girlfriend of that boy, i would definatly be making sure that hes not talking to someone else. And i would also kill him if he did that. But again, im not her. But all i have to say is that that kid needs to wake up & GROW UP and stick to his girlfriend that he already has. And to stop taling to your friend.
:]


ok i like this guy and he is a year older(i am 14) than i am but in the same grade. he walks me to class every day and i get hugs from him all the time. i feel like he is leading me on but he has a girlfriend. he is like perfect and i always smile when i see him. and when he comes to give me a hug and he is far away he runs and hugs me and pics me up like two feet off the ground. he is wicked cute and like idk what i should think becaus i really like him and i dont want ot get heartbroken. should i like ask him to hang out (just me and him) or just leave it alone and move on with my life????? please help... P.S you might know him (link)
Hi, well i would talk to him. Ask him if he wants to hang out just you and him. Cause then if you guys start talking then something else could happen..maybe going out? ;]
But yeah, talk to him. Then see what happens.
But how might i know him? Who are you.
:]


Alot of my friends are virgins, but I'm not. I've had a few sexual relations actually. I don't feel the need to defend myself or feel bad about it because I'm 21 and on the right path in life. Now, my best friend is becoming good friends with one girl who hates me and is also a virgin! For the first time in my life, I feel slutty. They basically advertise to everyone how "good" they are and I know this other girl will talk bad about me to my best friend. My best friend has never judged me, but I feel like she will now. It's my life and I feel like they have this virgin club going on, and I'll just be left out. What should I do? Let this all go or salvage my friendship? (link)
Well i know what your feeling. Cause im only 15 and im in the exact same boat as you. I have done EVERYTHING and people in my school think its such a big deal, but i have a commited relationship that i have been in for about 4 and a half months now, and we are planning on getting married when we're older ;] So its not like im a 'slut' or whatever. But your older and thats a lot more normal for you to be like that, so i dont know what those people's problems are. Especially since you said one or two of them are your friends? Well i think you should just say something to them, say how you feel about how they pretty much shun you out. But really, say something to them about it. Cause i dont think thats too fair for them to be doing. What you should say to get back at them is " Well at least ive got experience, and im not prude like you!"
;]


I feel like I constantly eat. All day everyday. and I always feel hungry or when im bored Ill eat. I can see the how much my body has changed in the last couple months, and my body discusts me! I want to stop eating so much. I dont eat breakfast (no time to) at lunch i always get nachos a milk and a cookie. Then when I get home from track practice i eat like a ham sandwhich, usually a poptart and lately Ive been drinking diet soda instead of my usual water. How do I get that feeling or always being hungry to go away, I just eat way too much. Thanks (link)
Well i have the same problem actually, and i went to a doctor and they told me that you shouldn't drink any sodas, drink more water. Because the sodas make you more hungrier and added to that they are not as good for you. So just try to stay away from fattening foood :]


okay, so yesterday i was giving my boyfriend mine and his first hand job, and he said i was doing great, but he never cummed. he said it wasn't my fault and that he was really close but it never happened becaue my hands got tired.

why didn't he cum? and what can i do next time to make sure he cums? (link)
Well, i dont know why you would be asking that kind of question on here. Why dont you go ask your mother or something. Cause thats DISGUSTING and no one wants to talk about your boyfriends private area!


ok so if someone has the lg shine and u call that person, what does it mean when a robotic voice says: the person you are try to contact is not accepting calls at this time, please try again late.
well its been like that for two weeks that i know of
it doesnt ring or go to voicemail just that.
help? (link)
Well usually when someones cellular device does that, its not in service or they just changed the number. Cause im a AT&T service provider and thats usually why people's cellular devices have that type of message on them. So just ask that person about it, if theres any way around that.


do braces hurt lots of people said they had no problem but the other like die of pain. i'm getting braces so help plz. - livi (link)
Well, ive had braces and belive me, they arent that bad. They dont hurt AT ALL! :]


What do you think is an appropriate age limit for dating? Like how many years older should it be and how many years younger. I am 18 years old and I have come to the realization that I need to set a date age limit... so any ideas would be lovely. Thanks. =]
P.S. I rate high for good advice ;) (link)
Well, seeing that your 18 years old, you should probably date only guys that are either 18 or just a couple years older if they are older than you. No older than 21 ;]




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