15/f
my friends tell me when they notice that guys are hitting on me and flirting, personally i cant tell at all! how do i know! how do i know when i am!?
Yeah, me neither.
I can't exactly give you advice, but I can tell you this...you're not alone. I'm 18, and I can't tell either. Lol. I don't think it's going to get any better.
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So I've been dieting for about two weeks now after my doctor told me to lose 10 kilos (about 20 pounds)
I'm 5'3 and weigh 154 pounds.
I want to lose 10 kilos, so I want to get down to about 132 poiunds.
On her orders, I walk for an hour every day. I haven't eaten any white bread, white pasta, potatoes, etc. I haven't had any junk food of any kind. I haven't had any lollies, or chocolate. I refuse to eat anything with over 6 grams of fat in it. The only meat I've eaten is chicken and fish, and I've only eaten that grilled.
I've been eating lotsa fruit, and veggies now and then. I have salad for lunch often. Sometimes I don't eat dinner at all. I don't eat anywhere near as much as I did before I went on the diet.
And yet I haven't lost a single kilo. Not one. I'm meant to go back and see her this week, but I am ashamed because I haven't lost any weight.
What am I doing wrong? Should I be seeing results by now? It's really demotivating me...
This isn't a surprise. In order to effectively lose weight, you have to keep your body in balance. You have cut out many of the calories you used to intake abruptly. Basically, your body thinks it is starving.
The best advice that I can give you is to continue eating what you have listed here. Whole wheats and fruits and veggies, good proteins. However, you can't forget water. You would be surprised just how well it kick starts weight loss. You absolutely HAVE to eat dinner, though. No if ands or buts. If you don't eat when your body needs it, then it gets confused. Of course, make a point of eating something healthy and filling, but when push comes to shove, it's probably a better idea to eat what's available (even if it's a little less than healthy), than to not eat at all.
Also, eating less doesn't necessarily mean that you will lose weight. Generally you want to eat the recommended amount of proteins, dairy carbs and even oils then fill yourself up with water veggies and a somewhat limited amount of fruits. That way, your body wont think you're starving. Otherwise it goes a little loco and holds on to everything that you eat, just in case the food supply cuts off.
Don't be too discouraged now. Despite what you may think, you don't actually weigh that much, and it will be a slower loss than that of someone who is really obese. It's only been a few weeks, right? If you diet right, you will lose the weight steadily and keep it off for the rest of our life. Any other way is dangerous and usually doesn't stay off. Just be patient and keep positive.
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What does 'Let's Bone' mean? I assume it means let's f*ck? haha, i hear it in this one song all the time and i'm not entirely sure.
You got it. Like, from the word "boner", right? Got it? Enjoy your song, lol.
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i just got my haircut and i hate it. the bangs are too short and the length is shorter than i wanted it. how long will it take the bangs to grow out and how long will it take the length to grow out can you estimate?!! is there anything i can do to make it grow faster. im wearing my hair up until it grows out!!!!!!
Wait, if you can wear you hair up, then it can't be that short.
Your hair won't take that long to grow out to a more comfortable length. About an inch a month is the general trend, I believe.
They do cut bang shorter because they grow out a lot faster, keep in mind. Give it like 3 weeks, and they should be a little more to your liking. In the meantime, just go with it. It take time to get used to it, and learn how to do what works. I just got my hair cut too.
I'm talking boy short. It was below my shoulders before, so I know what you're getting at. I used to get it cut but I didn't know how to describe exactly what I wanted to the stylist, so I walked out going "Oh, god.This looks terrible"
There isn't really anything that you can do to make it grow faster. But you can keep it growing healthy by not over processing it. Stay away from dyes and over brushing, try not to use heated stuff so much (like straighteners or curling irons, and hairdryers) This will make what you do grow break and ge damaged so you wind up cutting off stuff that could have been alright.
So for a little while, just keep your head up high and just go with it. If you don't care about it, no one else will either.
Good luck, and I hope this helped a little!
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Hi Neener,
Thanks for responding. I was able to understand most of your answers, but some of them were a bit brief so I had difficulty imagining it. Of course, I"m not up to evil doings. I'm just a kid, but I love to write, thus the vivid imagination. I'm going to ask you more questions. Would you terribly mind being a bit more detailed so I can understand it?
Why will your hand begin to smell like spit as a result of the boys struggles?
Why is the boy specifically more likely to smell his own spit if he moves his head all around?
So after your palm smells like spit, if the dumb boy were to just keep his head still, he probably wouldn't have to smell his own spit because your spit smelling palm would only cover his mouth and he'd only have to smell the edge of your index finger. Am I right?
Now if he moves his head all around, what kind of contact might his nostrils make with your palm intermittently such that the boy would end up smelling his own spit at times?
Which specific direction of his head is most likely to result in the poor boy smelling his own spit?
If the boy forces his head down against your palm accidentally, can you describe what his nose would look like forced against your palm?
As you said, your hand may slip up and over his nose at times making him smell his own spit from all his head movement. If your hand slips up and over his nose for a moment and then returns back over his mouth, how long would the smell of his spit linger in his nostrils?
Knowing that the more the boy tries to scream and struggles to move his head all around, the more he'll end up smelling his own spit, would you use this to your advantage. Might you try to explain this to the boy? If the boy realizes this, perhaps he'll learn to keep his mouth shut and not struggle. How might you warn him of such?
Describe a chair you have in your home that you could tie the boy up to. What might you use to tie him to the chair? And how would you position his hands to the chair. Of course, you'll sit him in the chair and cover his mouth with your hand while standing behind the chair. You'll need both hands to tie him up. So before you remove your hand from his mouth, what would you say to him? What would you ask him? Would you warn him that if he tries to scream, that you'd smother him? Would you warn him that if he tries to scream, you'll force him to smell his own spit? Would you be explaining to him that you're going to tie him up and gag him because you can't let the neighbors hear him? Once the boy agrees to keep quiet, how slowly do you remove your hand? How close to his mouth/nose do you keep ur hand in case he tries to scream? How long do you keep your hand nearby before you begin to tie him up?
Thanks so much Neener. You seem never to get stumped. I'm hoping you can be very detailed with this so I can imagine what it is you're saying. You're teaching me alot:)
adam
Oh. OK, sorry.Of course I can try to get more detailed if you need it.
If the boy is stuck in one place with his mouth on your hand, and you're able to keep him very still, his mouth is going to be sealed shut, because no air can escape. He can't even open his mouth. Think of one of those sucker-fish that stick to the side of a fish tank. Your hand is smooshed so close to his face that there is a seal. Of course, this grip is pretty near impossible unless you have a lot of skin on your hand. Given that, the grip you have would be tight... so he could probably open his mouth a little bit, but not have it go anywhere. Then, when he is yelling, one little part of your hand gets spit on.
NOW: Here's a random piece of info for you: Dried spit stinks. Wet spit does too, but way, way less. This is because the bacteria that naturally lives in your mouth is being masked by water. That's why the best way to check if your breath offends is to lick your arm, and let it dry, then smell it. When the water is gone, nothing remains but the gross stuff.
So if this kid is moving around and smearing it on your hand, there are more particles available to evaporate, and it dries faster. (that is, if there is air exposed to it) So then, in order for there to be some hand smelling action. the boy needs to spit on your hand, move around enough to spread it, let it dry, then smell it.
For example: Come up behind boy, grab him, he tries to yell, gets spit on your hand, is able to wriggle around enough to spread it, manages to stomp on your foot, is free for a few seconds until you catch him again, letting it dry a little.
Yes, if he doesn't move around at all, he would this situation would not occur.
If he gets his head in a tilted down position, he would be able to smell his own spit, given that your hand position doesn't really change. So your hand would stay in the same place, but still holding him but his head would be tilted down, so you are now holding his nose.
If his nose is forced against your palm, the front fleshy part of the nose would go up (like a pig snout) or down (like squidward from spongebob) depending on which way your hand is forced onto him. If it it forced directly forward, or any other way with extra force, the nose will break, and this kid will be in some serious pain, and it will bleed.
I can't imagine that the smell would linger. It's more of a brief second, every once in a while, or when he breathes in. That's if he notices it, keep in mind. I think his mind would be on other things at this point.
I can't actually see how smelling his own spit would deter the boy, to be honest. But since you're the one who's working on this, I don't think I would actually say anything. If he's showing signs of pulling away because of it, I would just crush my hand into his face further, especially when he's resisting. Make sense?
I don't think that you exactly need to say anything, and you want to keep quiet anyway, right?
I have a lot of old wooden chairs in my house. There's an orange one I got from a garage sale a few years ago. Best seat ever, it's so comfy. I would tie him to that, because there are bars and stuff on it that I could secure him to. Just looking around my room, actually, I see a jumprope. Just a black plastic one, a little it more expensive. That or an extension cord. That's plastic and wouldn't come apart so easily. Not like some plastic rope that slides apart. Stuff something like a balled up sock in his mouth and secure if with something by tying it around his head. That'll shut him up. If he makes a noise smack him one. Before you do this just say something like "if you say nothing, you might be ok. " ask him if agrees, then stare him down. Put the fear of god into him. Remove it slowly, and maybe pretend to have you hand smack down if he makes a move. If he screams again, the hand goes back down. Careful of biting. I wouldn't threaten him with smothering, again. Something more intense, like pulling out his hair. I wouldn't threaten him with the spit thing, either, I just don't think that he would care as much as if he received five across the eyes. No need to explain, he can't be that stupid. Just gag him and let him wonder what you're going to do.
I hope this made more sense.
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Hey, so I'm a huge music freak. I'm eclectic, meaning I love all music. The only thing I've noticed is that I don't have a lot of jazz. I thought I did, but I sure don't. So does anyone know any really great (or not so great) jazz artists out there that they'd like to share?
Luis Lopes Quartet, Charles Mingus , Papa Mambo. That's what I can think of off the top of my head to get you started. Don't underestimate good old iTunes to give you good advice too.
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f/14
Okay so I decided to lose my virginity at a young age. I regret it some now. Well my mom and brother found out that I wasn't a virgin anymore at 13. My mother got over it and she understands, but my brother does'nt at all. Everytime i walk in the room he says go away you slut, whore. He will just not get it out of his head and get over it. He doesn't let a day go by without mentioning it. He says a lot of hurtful things and i try to ignore all the time. But i need some advice on what should do or say to him.Thankks:)
(...strap yourself in babe, this is a long one!)
Well, you don't need me to tell you that 13 really is a young age to be getting it on. You told me so yourself. One thing that they try to tell you when you're younger is not to have sex.
Yadda Yadda Yadda.
Without getting into the religious philosophy of the subject (because I cannot in my own moral code answer such a thing) I do not believe that there is a "right" time to lose your virginity. I think that it is a personal choice, and one that you have to make by listening to your heart. If it was the right choice, then you benefit. If not, you learn and grow from it.
So what happens? When we're about ten, they tell us the biological side of it. Sadly, some teachers don't spend enough time discussing the mental part of it. The thing is, there aren't warning signs on our genitalia that say "WARNING....USE WITH CAUTION". Although you are arguably able to have sex at your age, the emotional baggage that comes with it is just the pits. This includes the treatment you get from people like your friends, family and those you aren't on such great terms with.
I think that it's great that you were able to share with your mother your activities. And please! Keep on talking to her! It's just going to keep getting more and more rocky, and you will need her support and advice.
That being said, I think that your brother is being a total dillhole.
Now I'm not sure how old he is. It sounds like he's older, but I could be wrong.
If he is younger, then he's just in that stage where boys are totally immature and have a tendency to want to push everyone's buttons and don't really stop to think about how it can hurt. I know this because I have a brother who is turning 14 in about a week. He is the biggest pain in the ass ever. He is arrogant, foul-mouthed and can't handle critisism. This also kind of applies to boys that aren't that much younger. Truth be told, it kind of applies to boys aged 9 to about 19. More or less. He's not old enough to understand how the world works quite yet, either. No one at you age really is. Right around then, they aren't seeing the big picture. They understand and are interested in how everything works, and (much like girls for the most part) subconsciously "race" to see who knows the most, and who can do the most. Right now, his mind is focused on the really ugly side of sex. You know, like the abuse, and name calling. Girls really have the shit end of the stick in this sense, because they are the most susceptible to the abuse, whether it be physical or mental. Think about it: if it were the other way around, would you be calling him names like that? Well, you might. But he probably wouldn't be so upset about it.
I don't know what kind of relationship you to have or have had, but I'm sure that deep down inside he does care about you, as little as he seems to be showing it.
That being said, he might be a little miffed with you, and this is his way of showing it. It could be about the fact that you decided to have sex at such a young age. Maybe his friends are teasing him about it. I know that if my little sister did what you did I would totally be on her case about saftey, about the rumours that can spread etc. Maybe it's for something totally different, if at all. (what he thinks is a joke? I know I've heard it from my brother. ) In any case, he is trying to get a reaction out of you. You need to understand that what he is saying is empty and shallow. A big part of just growing up is learning the meaning of what you are saying. Resorting to petty insults and cheap shots is the mark of someone who is NOT using their head. It shows cowardice and stupidity, but don't worry, he might grow out of it .
That being said... don't simply dismiss what he is saying. He needs to learn that what he is saying is NOT RIGHT, and is really hurting your feelings. And you don't deserve that. I hope that you have told your mother what he is saying. (don't tattle or anything, that doesn't exactly help) You need to approach him yourself. You need to tell him exactly what you feel. He needs to know that you understand what you did, and what it means. Also he needs to understand that you are sensitive about the subject and are really hurt by it. Hopefully your parents can have a talk with him. Stay strong and don't let him control you. That's what he wants. Give him time, and eventually he will figure out that that's not going to happen.
I hope that this helped!! And good luck!
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hey i was wondering if singing loses some calories
cause when i went to japan and went to a kareoke place, i started singing some songs like mariah carey. and if showed me how many calories i lost.
Can you really lose calories by singing?
Yes, yes it does. But how many and at what rate really depends on what you're singing (and how you sing it).
I'm an Operatic Soprano, and let me tell you...
This stuff isn't for kids, Lol.
Classical singing especially the rehearsal portion of it, can leave you pretty winded. Because it's all in the breath and muscle control, right?
Of course, the same applies to all kinds of singing. As long as you are using proper technique (and you'll know, because you'll feel it) you will burn some calories. Of course, not that many or anything. If you really want to bump it up, get that body moving while you sing.
Now THAT stuff will get you into shape. ( I do a lot of musical theatre as well...can you tell?)
And PS, I don't know if this will help you or anyone out there, but I've done the math, and one hour of intense rehearsal can get you 2 points in the weight watchers program. This is around the same caliber as an hour of walking briskly. But as I said, it has to be the kind of singing that leaves you slightly winded. Don't try it out on your own if you haven't received some training in it, I don't want anyone here hurting themselves!!
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i've heard that when you have a nightmare its because there's a spirit sitting on top of your chest, and thats why you get up feeling like you cant breathe.. is that true? i've also heard that if you put a cup of water under your bed in the center, it'll drown all the nightmares.
While I cannot prove that what you have said is in fact, wrong... there is also staggering proof that your nightmares are formulated in you brain like all your other thoughts, emotions, dreams and nightmares. You may wake up scared and out of breath, because your heart is beating rapidly.
I think that what you may have heard is folklore, kind of like superstition or old wives tales.
Don't underestimate the power of the human mind. It's very possible for us to make things seem very real. If you tell yourself something enough, you will come to believe it. This could be why when people put a cup of water under their bed, or put a dreamcatcher up, or whatever, you believe that it will work and you can kind of "make" yourself follow it.
That said, I have always had a firm belief in my life.
I don't ever rule out what I cannot prove to be wrong. Yes, we have studied how humans work, and how we have things like nightmares.
But the fact of the matter is, although it seems unlikely that "spirits sit on your chest", I cannot prove that it is wrong.
So the short answer? It's probably not true. It's all a matter of what YOU believe to be true, and I can't have a say in that. I can only give you outside information and advice.
Hope this helped a little.
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*17 female
prom is in a month and i am soo pale. its disgusting. well i want a tan and spray tans don't work for me. they make me look orange and it smells and the tan washes onto my clothes. i know fake baking is bad but i would only be doing it for a month. once a week. sometimes maybe 2. thats it...
can someone please give me a good argument i can use against my mom so that maybe she will let me?
I cannot. There is no (good) argument here. I'm sure you have heard all of the negative effects of normal tanning, so I won't get into it, because that's not what you asked for. Your mother probably understands this, and (yes, I know you DON'T want to hear this) and is the reason that she won't let you. She just wants what's best for you.
But I do understand what you mean. In some cases, a darker complexion compliments a prom dress nicely. In others, not so much.
A girl I knew in high school comes to mind. She was addicted to it. There was actually a Facebook group formed entitled "KEEP (NAME) AWAY FROM THE TANNING BEDS". It just didn't suit her, and quite frankly it was the stuff that sitcoms are made of.
Not that I believe you will become addicted to it. But don't rule it out.
The best I can give you is to work on an incentive option. If you can prove to your mother that you will work for it, and can handle it responsibly (and not wind up like my old friend leather-face...) then you will have a better shot. Feeding her a line will not help, and might not have the desired effect.
But anyway, I hope this helped a little. I'm not one to stop you from trying something new. Maybe one day you will come to appreciate what nature gave you. :)
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(19 yr old f)
i've been having my period for like 5 years, and this year it started the first of january. and I got it again the 31st of january. So i should be having it like every 30 days. But (there were 28 days this february, right?...)...and it's march 11th and I havent had it again yyyet. Sometimes I can estimate when i will be getting it but sometimes i am not sure when its going to come. I have nnever been sexually active, so being pregnant is out of the question.... but is it ok...or not if i dont know when its going to start and it very rarely has a predictable pattern....?
More often than not, it can take upwards from 6 or so years for women to actually get a regular period. It's not uncommon to get it in weird intervals of time... like maybe after a month, then two, then a month and a half. A predictable pattern may not establish itself until you are in your twenties. Keep in mind all of the other factors that come into play here: stress, a new environment, poor nutrition etc.
It's not likely that there is something medically wrong with you. Of course, if you feel the need to, make an appointment!
Until then, there's not a whole lot you can do to see it coming. All you can do is be prepared.
Hope this helped!
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I was sleeping over a friends house over the weekend for her birthday. There were a five of us altogether. I've known these girls for a long time, some of them for liek 10 years already. Anyway, after we all changed for bed, we were sitting around and making girl talk and gossipping about stuff in school. during a lull in the conversation, one hte girls reached into her bag and pulled out a porn video. We all laughed. I didn't think things would go farhter, but before I knew it the video was in the dvd player and the fve of us were watching it. That's not all the happened. The movie was hot and we got super turned on. three of the girls there were openly playing with themselves, and one went so far as to take her panties off to do it. Another one moved them aside. I know everyone masturbates I do too. But what does it mean that they did it so openly and didn't care that we all saw them doing it? I had a hard time not watching them and eventually stopped watching the movie and concentrated on what was going on around me and I think I got more turned on by my friends than by the movie. After the movie the three of them kept at it till they "finished" and then we went to sleep. No one said anything the next morning. Does this mean I'm a lesbian? Does it mean anything that I really want to do this again, except I also want to be watched and not just watch?
Does this mean you're a lesbian? Not necessarily. Girls tend to have an easier time relating to girls and the way they feel. It's a comfort sort of thing, and obviously all of you felt comfortable with each other at that point.
That said, it may have just been the right place at the right time, and may never happen again.
There's something so be said about the sexual thrill that comes with something new and "dirty". Everyone has different things that turn them on. Sometimes it manifests itself in ways that surprise... and in settings that you may not have thought of before.
That being said, don't rule out the possibility that you could be, in fact, a lesbian. You could also be bisexual, or just open to experimentation. It's not unheard of.
The answer is to just look into your heart, and listen to what you're telling yourself. Try new things, and hopefully, you'll come to a conclusion. Keep in mind that some people take years to really find what makes them who they are. Sometimes, sooner. Don't jump to conclusions.
Above all, just do what you think is right. I can't tell you whether or not it is wrong to be a lesbian, nor do I know what your stands are. Personally, I believe that love is a gift, no matter how you wrap it. If this makes you happy, then continue!
Hope this helped!
(Also, PS... This is quite the story you have here. Like, Penthouse Forum-esque. You may consider sending that one in. I wish my life was exciting. )
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16/f
well my boyfriend has eaten me out a few times n it was great haha duh. but now i want to give him a blow job. the only problem is.. i dont know how to be smooth about it. i mean i dont just want to take it out of his pants because im kind of scared to do that. and im not the type of person to just ask if he wants a blow job. hes had sex before. alot actually. but im still a virgin and have only given 1 handjob when a guy basically put his thing in my hand and i was drunk. so i am kind of nervous that i wont do it that great because he has had alot of blowjobs so i want mine to be better. any advice? thanks!
Haha. Bad news, I cannot teach you how to be "smooth". Just follow his non-verbal clues (or hell, even the verbal ones). Basically....just start with what you'd usually do, then make your way down. Chances are that if he doesn't want it (unlikely, but it does happen) he will simply move away and try to do something else.
Once you've established that you would like to ... ahem..."smoke the flesh pipe", the floor may be open to questions. As in "Where should I ____?", and "Do you like that?" If he likes it, he will show the classic signs like changed breathing, maybe grabbing you by the hair (or something) ,moaning. Don't worry. If he likes it, you'll know. If he's not into it, he may be too polite to say anything (or move) if there aren't any reactions, it may be time to switch it up.
Now, sadly I am NOT ALLOWED to actually describe what to do on here, anyway. If you really want me to get into detail, I have no problem e-mailing something of a "how-to" guide.
But, to wrap it up: Just dive in (so to speak) and give it a go. Ditch what doesn't work, and try again until sparks fly.
...And keep in mind, it's supposed to be a little awkward. That's all just part of the experience.
Hope this helped a little
Happy Landings.
FYI: my email is askneener@live.com
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I am a singer, but if I am not playing the part acting like someone else on stage, it is hard for me. I have to go on stage showing who I really am, and show my emotions through my music, but I get terrified because its like being naked in front of the world, and they can see my soul. Im the kind of person who generally keeps to myself, but my passion is to sing. I dont cry in front of people either, and singing for me is like that, because I am exposed. I dont have anything to hide, I am just causeous. Can anyone knock some sense into me per say, or knows of a way I can come out of this?
Yes, you're right. Singing with emotion and passion and making people feel your song IS hard. It's also arguably the most important part of singing.
Instead of seeing singing singing and emoting as two separate things, try to consider them as one and the same. Music making is essentially just another way to communicate and express your emotion, right? When there is no love behind it, the song is empty and useless. If you're not used to emoting on any other level, this can be your outlet.
There is no real trick to this. All you can do is start by easing yourself into it. Begin with practicing all alone in front of a mirror. If it helps, develop a stage persona, after all you said that you can play the part on stage when necessary. It's not really acting, your stage persona is just an extension of yourself. If you can separate what you would normally do from what you know you want to do, you can isolate it and concentrate your true feelings in a performance.
My band teacher always told us to "reinvent" our fear. If you can visualize this:
Take all of the fear you feel throughout your body. Imagine that you are taking the power of this anxiety and compacting it into a manageable form that you can hold, like a ball of light. Keep this "light ball" in your very core. This is now the energy that you will use on stage. You are no longer scared of anything, because all of the fear you had is now raw power that you will use to perform your heart out.
I've always thought it helpful to imagine that I'm by myself, especially when I first started singing.
It's scary, and hard to do at first. But when it gets right down to it, that's why we sing. We want everyone to know who we are, that we can be vulnerable and unstoppable at the same time. Everyone is supposed to get a good look at our souls. We connect that way.
Above all, take a chance, and never, EVER give up because you stumble. Work hard and try new things.
Good luck, and I hope this helped a little.
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Why do you have to go to the gynecologist once you've become sexually active?
I'm very curious. I've read everywhere online about the gynecologist and when you should go, and it says once you become sexually active you should go see the doctor each year (even if you're under 18). Why? I thought you only have to go if you're having problems or something.
Please help! I'm getting confused.
Well, you don't go to the dentist only when your tooth turns black, do you?
At least, I hope not.
You know that every girl is different and enters different stages at different times, right? Well, because of this, there is no real cut-and-dry answer to when you should start going. My friend, for example, started going routinely when she was 12. I am 18, and have yet to go. It's really up to you, your parents and doctor. There is no crucial need for most younger girls to go, (although it couldn't hurt). It's once you hit adulthood that it should become a regular thing, because thats when problems usually start to show up. By about 18 or so (even if you're still a virgin) it's just a part of your overall health and hygiene to see a doctor. One thing is for certain, however...when you DO become sexually active, you really should go, regardless of age.
That way, in the unlikely event of a problem developing, your doctor can spot it fast, and fix it.
And FYI, you have to think about what's best for you. If you are sexually active, it's best for you to go. This can be a touchy subject with your parents, I know.
Also, your doctor cannot tell anyone anything that you don't want them to know, save for child abuse. Anything else is completely confidential, even to your parents, as long as you want it to be.
Make sense? Hope this helped.
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I need to lose 40+ pounds by the middle of may. I know some of you will say its not healthy but I need to I have already been taking tha acia berry pills what else can I do to make this goal happen?
Well, detoxing is an option, if you`re careful not to over-do it. There are meals plans out there for people that are required to lose weight for things like heart surgery. They do work, but you have to make sure that you are still getting what you need, especially if you're younger, and more active. The more working out you do, the more your body needs, and sticking to a set amount of food from start to finish won't get you the results you want.
But I just HAVE to ask, what could possibly be so important in May that you need to drop 40 pounds for???
And you're right, it's not healthy. I hope you understand that dropping that much weight with get-thin-quick tactics aren't everything they're cracked up to be. Ever see a really really sick person that dropped weight rapidly? That's about it. They're pale, sickly, and their skin tends to hand off of them. It's not attractive.
I hope that this goes well for you of course, but be careful!
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okay, so yesterday i was giving my boyfriend mine and his first hand job, and he said i was doing great, but he never cummed. he said it wasn't my fault and that he was really close but it never happened becaue my hands got tired.
why didn't he cum? and what can i do next time to make sure he cums?
Hey now, Amber. They have every right to ask that question here, and it's classified under the right area.
And besides, I know that *I* wouldn't like to discuss this with my mother.
Anyway. The last piece of advice is a good way to go, hun. Switch it up, or your arms get all cramped and tired. And you don't have to limit yourself, either. Use both hands. If you're up to it, oral could be the way to go. There's really no wrong way to do it, (although at some point it kind of takes a step away from the term "handjob", but whatever) just do whatever you are comfortable with. Try new things and figure out what works.
It might be your boyfriend as well, keep in mind. Being nervous, or having too much on your mind can keep an orgasm at bay pretty easily.
I hope this helped.....uh..have fun. XD
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I was out with some of my best friends yesterday. Some of my friends are black and others are Mexican (yes, from Mexico) and I am white. I'm the only white girl of the group.
Anyway, we were walking and talking and the racial subjects came up because I said this guy that passed us was really hot (and he was white). They were like, "Ewww...gross!" and so I asked them why they thought he was not hot.
All of them agreed that "my" race was nasty. They said that white people are dirty. I shrugged it off (though I was offended) in the end but then I got to thinking...
Do you think my friends think I'm dirty?
Why would they think that Caucasians are dirty people anyway?
Should I tell them that I was offended? And, if so, how do I do that?
I love my friends to death but I don't want them to see me as a dirty person just because I'm white. If they DO view me as nasty simply because of my race then I'd like to know anyway so I know that my friends really aren't my friends, you know?
Help?
I believe yes, you need to tell them that that hurt you. Don't be over-dramatic, or anything. Just be very clear and concise and tell them what you think. Racism is racism whatever way you cut it, and what they did was insensitive.
You ask "Why would they think that Caucasians are dirty people anyway?". Who knows. This statement is the same as any other generalization you can come up with, it's not founded in good taste, and is ignorant. It's just meant to hurt, and they just didn't think to question whether it would hit close to home, like it did in this situation. I'm sure they didn't mean to hurt you. It may have been a peer-pressure sort of deal as well.
Lastly, it may have just been a misunderstanding. For some reason, humans tend to go for a mate that shares the same kind of lifestyle and values that they do. This usually means that they will go for someone with the same background. In this case, mexican or black guys. They may have been just talking about white guys that could potentially be attracted to them.
..Not a great choice of speaking, I will admit, but it's a possibility.
Hope this helps!
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I'm 16 years old and I have a boyfriend. We have been going out for 7 months. I also have a best guy friend. He doesn't live near me anymore because he moved. But he recently told me he loves me and has always wanted to go out with me but couldn't. He has also told me that he is very depressed because a lot of bad things has happened to him. He is suicidal. I have been trying so hard to help him get better but he still cuts himself and suicidal... One time I was really desperate to help him, so I flirted back with him and told him I loved him. I don't know if that was a good idea because I'm not sure it's love but I didn't want to see him get hurt. Now when I'm flirting with him, he seems happier. But I don't know what to do. I haven't told my boyfriend that he is suicidal and that I'm telling him I love him. Should I continue to flirt with him?? Or should I stop? I don't want him to get hurt. Please help me! Thank you!!
Ok, this needs to stop. You have doubts, and are doing this mainly to make him feel better. What's going to happen is that it will get to the point where this other boy wholeheartedly believes that you are madly in love with him, and may leave you boyfriend. (And you've been keeping the truth from him too, so watch that.)
What this guy needs is to sort himself out. Right now, he needs friends and family to be there for him...he does NOT need, however, a relationship. Not right now, at least. If he's depressed enough to be hurting himself, and then gets with someone else, it's just not a good situation to start a successful bond. A messy breakup or rejection would do him no good.
If that is not the case, and you intend to remain with your boyfriend, he will be left in a much worse state, because he'll have been lied to, and given how unstable you say he is, that's something he doesn't need. I know that you meant well, but it was a bad move. The thing to do now, is to STOP flirting, or letting him on in any way (don't cut him off, or anything, just make sure there is no way that he might think you are interested.) You need then, to have a heart to heart and make it clear that you didn't mean to hurt him, and will remain his friend.
In the meantime, make sure that you can get the proper help for him. There are pros out there whose job is to help people that are depressed. It's not enough to keep it to yourself and assume that you can handle it. You wouldn't be the first to not recognize the signs that he's really over the deep end. I would suggest asking a counsellor or doctor about resources or phone lines to call about this.
I hope this helps, and gets cleared up.
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Ok. I have been struggling with my weight and self-image for almost 6 years now. I am going to college in the August (FALL 2009) and want to know if anyone knows of a good diet/workout regimen(sp) that seems to be working or that has worked for them. Im trying to lose about 50 pounds... and FAST. So any good ideas is appreciated. =]
THANKS!
p.s. i rate high for good answers!
Well, congrats! I'm glad that you are so keen on taking charge and helping yourself. College is a GREAT time to start over. You can be whoever you want to now, and re-invent yourself.
However, I have to say that I' m a little worried with your preoccupation with "fast". I'm sure that you've heard this before, but it still rings true. It does not, theoretically, take very long to lose weight. However, it DOES take time to lose it, improve yourself, feel better and keep that weight off. There aren't any shortcuts to this.
Granted, you may be saying at this point "What the hell are you talking about? My friend took some kind of pills/detoxed/joined yoga and lost ______ pounds!"
To this I say: What's your point? Yes, it is completely correct that these things do make you lose weight. But time and time again, (and I know, because I have done it before myself) the folks who take the fast method gain it back, and wind up in a worse state than they were in before. Also, losing a bunch of weight really fast isn't always what people expect. Especially something like 50 pounds. Over time, this is a very reasonable goal...if given enough time. You ever see what a person who has lost a pile of weight really rapidly? It's not pretty.
The answer here is to find some kind of regimen or plan that focuses on everything, you said yourself that you want to work on self-image. Just keep in mind that happiness and a good image of yourself does not come from being thinner. Weight loss is instead, a byproduct of improved outlook. (that and increased energy, nicer skin, less mood-swings, etc...I'm sure you've heard them all)
Now, one that has worked for me and others that I know is good old fashioned weight-watchers. I know that I've had god results, and it's always worth a try. You do lost weight faster at first but you do plateau, it's just natural. I think that if you start now, and make some positive changes in your life, you can be very well on your way to a new you by fall of this year.
So yeah! I realize that this may not be exactly what you had in mind, but I hope it helps. I applaud you on your decision, and I really hope you find success in whatever plan you take on!
Good luck!
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