My boyfriend and his ex girlfriend are always fighting. They fight about their past relationship and what went wrong. They fight because one of them will bring up their current love life and the other doesn't want to hear about it. I'm pretty sure this means that they aren't over each other, but don't really know it themselves and/or won't admit it. Does anyone know if this is like...a psychology term that happens a lot? What should I do? Please, any advice will help.
Thanks.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? AdviceMistress answered Tuesday January 12 2010, 10:35 am: Honestly I'm not a psychology major but why are they even talking to each other still? Once a relationship is over, its over unless there is a possibility of the two people getting back together. Have you confronted him about this? Seems to me that there might still be feelings and right now their competing to make one another feel bad. You know when you get out of a relationship and apart of you is mad at the person so you want some sort of revenge on the other person it seems to me its something like that. Talk to him about it! Good luck! :) [ AdviceMistress's advice column | Ask AdviceMistress A Question ]
adviced0rk answered Monday January 11 2010, 8:43 pm: it seems like theres still something there. honestly a guy wudnt fight wit his ex if he didnt still have feelings for her. if it bothers yu yu need to sit him down an talk about it. maybe shes really where he wants to be an thats why they always argue about there love life. just talk to him about it. dont make it an arguement tho. as his gf yu need to be vey understandin at a time like this. goin about the conversation the wrong way cud cause him to get really mad. [ adviced0rk's advice column | Ask adviced0rk A Question ]
TLBSANDIEGO answered Monday January 11 2010, 7:34 pm: Ok so I don’t think they still like each other sometimes when couples get together and break up sometimes there is some bitterness it doesn’t have anything to do with them still liking each other, you need to give it time let them work out there issues if they ever do. One thing you should ask your self is how is your relationship with him and is it strong if it is then you have nothing to worry about. I hope this helped feel free to send me a message if you have any other questions.
Hitoast answered Monday January 11 2010, 6:26 pm: Yeah, it sounds to me like he's still hung up over her. I guarantee that if you two break up, him and his ex will get back together. If I were you, I would talk to him about it. Really try to get to the bottom of things because he might know the truth himself or he might just be in denial. And you shouldn't feel bad at all if you two do decide to end your relationship. It's not your fault that he might still have some feelings for her. Shit happens, ya know? Goodluck :)
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