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My best friend
Ever since 7th grade ,I've had a best friend ..Carly. We're in 11th grade now ,so we've come a long way.We both have never really had serious relationships or boys that have caused us to not be close until just recently. A few months ago,she got a boyfriend .Im actually really good friends with him and he's a good guy and he's definitely the one who i'd want carly to be with. Lately,everytime i hangout with her she either talks about him or is with him ,so i can never spend any time alone with her.I used to be okay with hanging out with them together and we all got along good until the last couple of weeks ,shes been different and seems to only pay attention to him and not me..even when we are together.She still tries to talk to me and hangout,but HE'S ALWAYS THERE or shes texting him or talking about him if he's not there.As of the last couple of days,i've been acting a little different toward her and not paying as much attention to her so she can realize what shes doing. She really has been a wonderful friend and I don't want our friendship to die out because of this guy. I've also been talking to a guy too,as of the last 2 weeks so i'm gonna make sure i don't blow my friends off since it's happening to me.Any suggestions on what i should do?
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Ahh.. the honeymoon stage can suck for the best friend.
It sounds to me like you are above else trying to be the bigger person by not displaying how she is hurting you. This is both good and bad. You obviously respect her, and cherish her friendship, but you also shouldn't be neglected, especially after all the year you've shared as best friends.
You need to talk to her. Ask her as casually as possibly for a girl's night in. Also, make a point that you're seeing someone, but that you would never drop a friendship or ignore someone because he is in your life.
There's no reason why you guys shouldn't be able to work this out. Wanting a friend to be a friend is a simple request. She can't however read your mind, and you need to tell her in a calm, comforting way that while you love the friendship you have with her, you're missing all the pieces that have gone missing since the new guy.
I think everything will be fine, but good luck!
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I don't think you have too much to worry about. It is pretty normal for this to happen with a new bf and it will blow over eventualy. Give Carly a little time, perhaps a month or two, and she will gradualy begin to think about other things again.
Until that time, use this pause to be happy for her and build relationships with your other friends. As long as this does not become a source of bad feelings between you your relationship will endure and grow stronger.
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